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Algy
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Joined: 11/3/2006
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/12/2007 12:15:06 PM | Even if someone is attractive then there is no need for them to state it on their profiles. I think it is up to the person viewing it to decide what they think. You may think you are attractive but not everyone is gonna think you are.  | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/12/2007 12:18:22 PM | I am really hot but my profile requires a bit of scrolling. I like to add a reminder at the end just in case they were distracted from my stunning pictures after reading all my brilliant comments and testimonials.
Cheers!
The Bum | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/12/2007 12:59:53 PM | Confidence GOOD, arrogance BAD !!!!
If someone's handle on here is something like " HOT STUFF " or " DROP DEAD GORGEOUS " I will automatically assume they're full of themself and write them off. Sometimes, though, they might have a normal pof name but then you read the profile and can tell they're full of themself. NEXT !!! NO SOUP FOR YOU !!!
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/12/2007 8:56:41 PM | | Never go by someone's word...that they are attractive and not seeing their picture first! This happened many years ago.....I took this guys word that he was very attractive, I met him at a restaurant and not knowing what he looked like....I walked right passed him....he approached me and when I looked at him I almost DIED!!! I did end up having a very quick lunch with him (trying to be polite) and got the heck out of there! I did end up telling this guy exactly what I thought of him.....lesson learned big time!! lol Make sure you see at least 2-3 pictures of the person or seeing them on a webcam first! | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 12:48:46 AM | | when i put up my first profile on here, i said i didnt want to talk about myself, and i got no responses. i posted in the profile review forum, and was told that i had to sell myself. so maybe thats what they are trying to do? so in my revised profile ( the one i have now) i put up some good things about me, and a couple of negatives. when i did the profile review thing again, people picked on me for saying anything negative. now, i just dont go to profile reviews anymore, i figure that responses i get will be review enough. oh, but i did notice that when i took down my pics of my cars, the responses slowed considerably LOL | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 4:58:18 AM | I hate the whole "Sell yourself" thing.
It really irritates me that people try to turn the relationship search into a job interview. It isn't a position to be filled... it's a lot more complicated than that.
Hell, maybe I've been looking at it the wrong way.
If I ever have another date, sorry low self esteem today, I might have to open with, "So, where do you see yourself in 10 years?" | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 7:07:16 AM | To me, it reminds me of used car ads, where if a car was in an accident, the euthemism "Fresh body paint" or something to that effect is written. I have seen lots of "attractive" people, but was very turned off by their personalities and behavior. While I was told I was very attractive by some men  , others said I looked quite the opposite  , so it is all in the eye of the beholder. As for physical appearance, hell, anyone can have that kind of surgery done over the weekend; with all the stuff and procedures on the market, it can be bought. As for personal behaviors and hangups, that is another story entirely. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 7:14:33 AM | I enjoyed reading your post...especially the "3-5 pictures of them self sitting (or even laying) about looking attractive". Made me chuckle--thanks!
I'm not able to answer your question as to 'why' they feel the need to state what to you is the obvious, unless they've discovered through living life that beauty is indeed sometimes in the eye of the beholder and therefore subjective. Maybe they want to educate people like me who might not know they're attractive unless they tell me so. My ideas of attractive often don't coincide with what most people think of as attractive. An example, people-wise: I don't find Sean Connery attractive. I love his accent and think he's a fine actor, but I don't 'just melt' when he comes on the screen. I don't think he's particularly unattractive, but he does 'nothing' for me.
Should you, as a man, feel uncomfortable in your desire to tell a woman that she's beautiful if she isn't clearly interested? Nope, don't feel uncomfortable about how you feel. I wouldn't tell someone they're attractive if I felt they clearly weren't interested in hearing it. Personally, I'd really enjoy being called "neato"...the thought of that makes me smile! | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 8:05:43 AM | I am mostly incredulous. That most seem to get all worked up, take offense and pass strong judgement on someone because they happen to state that they are attractive in their profiles. Since we[ve had no actual pastes of these (alleged) perpetrators.... everything is pretty much left to assumption and supposition!
I aggree that there are certain ways in which this might be stated that would be a red flag to me. But merely the fact that a person thinks they are attractive and not afraid to state it is not it! I would tend to see this as an indicater of confidence and not arrogance. Perhaps it is this mass rush to terminal judgements that I see so rampant on things like this forum that accounts for the pathetic lack of success I also read about every day???
As for the OP's ideas? I think you are just one of those pot shoter's who like to hide up in the rocks along the trail and shoot at travelers. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 8:16:37 AM | okay, perhaps not arrogant, but most definitely conceited, in that I mean pointing out the fact that you are handsome/beautiful/attractive is having a particularly high opinion of one's self looks when it may not be warranted, and shouldn't be pointed out to others. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder - let the other people doing the perusing judge for themselves.
I never discuss my looks and when people ask for photos I always state, "doesn't matter what I think of myself, that's a moot point. You have to decide about whether or not you find me appealing. " I refuse to toot my own horn or do a hard sell on my looks. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 8:20:01 AM | | I have stated in my profile that "I'm told I'm attractive " and I have put it there because my pic isn't very clear,close and you can't see my eyes!! I haven't put it because I was bragging I actually thought it might be helpful .Silly Me! | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 8:50:24 AM | | How about all you Oprah watchers who believe "we are all attractive in our own way"? I personally find the statement "i'm attractive" overused and in many cases ...simply not true - at least to me. The only way to get a sense of someone in this medium is to analyze the profile (pictures and words)....and use the process of elimination, like women who complain about the pictures of guys cars (he's in love with his toys), profile pics with a woman cut out, (he's a player), shirtless pics (he's in love with himself), no pictures at all (he's a gargoyle), holding a drink in every picture (an alcoholic fratboy). It's something we ALL do to some degree....make assumptions that may or may not be true. I avoid most profiles where the woman makes any statement about how attractive, intelligent, educated, or how she enjoys the finer things in life. Don't we all believe this about ourselves? | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 9:17:49 AM | | I think the women, who state that they are (attractive),are simply very confident and secure women. On the other hand they are telling the ugly people to stay away .they are saying,(I want an attractive male),and wont settle for less . Thanks | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 9:37:36 AM | Many of the Personal services ASK and then give us a choice of several answers. Surely those of us who think we are attractive are not going to lie and say we are not just to satisfy others people.
That would be just as silly as saying "few extra pounds" when a person is clearly slim as a reed in his/her very recent pic. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 9:50:05 AM |
those of us who think we are attractive are not going to lie and say we are not just to satisfy others people. The key word there is "think". I see profiles where women describe themself as "average' and they are clearly a "few extra pounds". Women who describe themself as "a few extra pounds" and they are clearly "Big/Tall BBW". My point? Just thinking something doesnt make it true. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 10:17:51 AM | | I would much rather go out with someone that is secure and confident about their looks than be with someone that constantly needs validation to feel good about themselves. If you want to tell someone they are beautiful, go for it. I've never met anyone that doesn't like to hear a compliment. I think as a whole society is much more healthy when it comes to self-esteem. Bottom line - we all need to love ourselves before we can effectively love someone else. Why dis someone because they feel good about themselves? | |
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