| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 10:31:53 AM | | too many people feel bad about themselves so it is great that others have a bit of self confidence to look in the mirror and say "yeah, im a good person, and attractive person" after all, if we cant compliment ourselves we might have to wait a long time for soemone else to do it. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 10:46:34 AM | It's good to have confidence and feel good about yourself. But, announcing that you are attractive isn't confident , it's conceited.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Let US decide whether or not you're attractive.
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 10:57:05 AM | | This seems to me to be another reason you should have to post a pic on here. Most ppl who claim to be attractive, don't have a picture posted. Isn't attractiveness in the eye of the beholder? I may be attractive to one person and a troll to another, I have problems making such claims......it's just not me. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 10:59:28 AM | Well its much better to display your pics and let others decide for themselves than to say "I'm attractive"
But I suspect that when people say this that looks are important to them. They only want messages from good-looking people. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:00:49 AM | | I'd say very insecure who are they trying to convince themselves? I have my own criteria for beauty and it's not at all fixed in stone, so I'm the only judge of that. Out of 20 people I may be beautiful to a small % so I can't really state that as fact. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:03:13 AM | People who state that they are attractive are either one out of two different things:
1) they are insecure about themselves and their looks and need to reaffirm to themselves that they do look ok
2) they are arrogant, usually stuck up, and are never as attractive as they think they are.
I've had girls tell me they are quite attractive, and when I saw them in person that was not the impression that I got at all. It's alright if we all don't look like Greek gods/goddesses, but we at least have to have an accurate impression of our physical looks. But everyone is beautiful in their own way, so even if (you feel) you aren't that attractive, don't worry about it, cause to a certain someone, you will become the most beautiful thing in the world. Just don't go bragging about your looks, it's a turnoff (especially if it isn't true)! | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:05:30 AM | Why brag about being attractive in the first place? Unless they had plastic surgery, they had nothing to do about it. It was God's, or nature's if you prefer, handiwork, not their's.
One woman, not on this site, told me, 'Your eyes are pretty.' I deflected the compliment, as I usually do, with, 'You need to have your eyes examined.' Then I thought, 'Wait a minute. My eyes are God's creation, or DNA if you rather, not mine. Who am I to judge?'
Same goes for guys with big ones. What did they have to do with it? Nothing, yet they take credit for having a big one. | |
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Sirris
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Joined: 7/21/2006
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:14:41 AM | | Boy, I never thought about this topic in that way before. It sure makes one sit and think about a little. I'm very much inclined to agree, and add it has gotten to the point where what a person truly is takes a back seat to how they look. It's rather pathetic, but, unfortunately, a sign of the times. Of what value are tremendous good looks with a mind void of knowledge? | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:17:34 AM | | I had to re-read my profile...nope...no overly shameless self promotion happening there...well, at least in a way that immediatly relates to the thread title. That said i have days where i get dressed and go out or go to work and think "GODDAM!!! Whodat sexeh biatch"...other days where I wipe the conjunctivitus from my eyes, blink the tomatoes afew times before shambling up the mirror and just think...ye gods of all that is holy, get behind me..get behind me! | |
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a1na2
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Joined: 10/3/2006
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:18:35 AM | Don't talk about your looks in your profile PERIOD.
Your pic will speak for itself.
If you don't have a pic in your profile GET ONE.
If you don't want to, for whatever reason, QUIT WASTING OUR TIME !!!
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:19:55 AM | I so agree tinydancer
I usually don't bother with people who state how attractive they are in their profile. And most of the time they don't have a picture posted, which always makes me wonder. Til I meet them in person only to confirm they're delusional about their appearance
I think a lot of this is in their head,, too much bragging for me. if they are told they are attractive, beautiful or such by another person that is a little different.
I met a guy who thought he was good looking,, that to me was only in his mind..
What is considered complimenting yourself and what is just stating fact? If I say that I am intelligent, that is not bragging, it is a fact. Intelligence can be measured, though, and attractiveness is sometimes in the eye of the beholder (but there are standard features that societies deem attractive-and they change).
I also agree that intelligence is much different, it is a state of the mind and can be measured, Attractiveness is in the eyes of the beholder, which can also mean many things, some one could be very good looking to make them attractive but could have many things about them, such as dress, caring them selves, attitude etc. to make them very unattractive... | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:22:51 AM | Webster's definition of attractive "having or relating to the power to attract".
If we want to assume that people who use the word "attractive" in regards to themselves are concieted, self centered egotists than I think it may be fair to assume that the recipients suffer from the same malady. After all, to think that someone thinks so highly of themselves as to think that the word attractive actually means "beautiful/handsome" is beyond my comprehension.
I use the word attractive to mean " well...they didn't run screaming from the room and actually spoke and smiled at me so I'm obviously not repelling them". Sure, Webster's might have a problem with my defininition but I think it's rather accurate.
The most physically beautiful person is not necessarily "attractive" so maybe we can be less judgemental to those that want to let you know what they think are their best qualites.
Just my opinion... Pip
PS Im guilty of using that word...for those who care, please forgive me. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 12:51:13 PM | I get the same feeling pippin222....
If we want to assume that people who use the word "attractive" in regards to themselves are concieted, self centered egotists than I think it may be fair to assume that the recipients suffer from the same malady. After all, to think that someone thinks so highly of themselves as to think that the word attractive actually means "beautiful/handsome" is beyond my comprehension.
To define attractive ,,,,
.Something or someone that is very appealing, nice to look at, and you wish you could have it.
Linda is so attractive, I want to marry her.
2. attractive
Something that just pulls you in by how it looks, smells, sounds, etc. People are often attractive, but things can be too. Attractive things are often hard to define, particularly in how they attract you. But, they sure do. And, what attracts one person doesn't always attract another.
Gosh, she's attractive.
One should feel good about them selves and love them selves,, when they come to bragging about them selves,, it gives me the impression they are too much into them selves,,, it is good to feel attractive,,, that is a state of mind,,, | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 1:41:25 PM | I agree Pippin, that someboody stating that they are attractive does not necessarily mean that they are arrogant, but another part of your posting confuses me
After all, to think that someone thinks so highly of themselves as to think that the word attractive actually means "beautiful/handsome" is beyond my comprehension.
How does somone thinking that attractive means "beautiful/handsome" correlate with that person being arrogant themselves? Ignorant of the webster definition maybe. There are many words in the english language that are used enough out of context of their "true" definition... attractive being one of them. Rather that "having or relating to the power to attract", I think that for all intents and purposes of describing a person, most people assume the word "often" goes in front of the rest of the Webster definition. (The webster definition is perfect for a magnet).
... and isn't it perhaps a bit hypoctitcal of you to condem those who use the non "webster version" and then come up with a different one yourself?
The most physically beautiful person is not necessarily "attractive" so maybe we can be less judgemental to those that want to let you know what they think are their best qualites.
If you want to stick to the Webster definition(as you suggest others should) this statement is surely wrong. In fact just about everything and everyone has the ability to attract someone in some way shape or form... in which case using the word is redundant . | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 1:53:32 PM | Reenie999,
To message 52:
W-H--A-A-T?????
Are you suggesting that people should allow others to define them????
I don't think this message meant that at all. I think almost everyone will agree that it is a healthy thing to believe in one's ability to be attractive. The issue is the best way to state that in a profile. If you are talking strictly about physical attraction, a photo is the best way to do that. If you are talking about any other form of attractiveness, saying that you are attractive is just not very convincing. As in a picture, it is best to show how and why you are attractive, rather than use the word itself. Another example is to say that you are honest. Would a dishonest person say anything different in a profile? The bottom line is that many qualities are very subjective, and you are much better to in some way, shape or form allow those qualities to show through in your profile that to simply state them. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 2:09:42 PM | To lumberjack Msg 67:
What I'm talking about is online Personal services!!
If a particular service gives one 4-5 choices, either we pick one or leave "Prefer not to say".....period!!
Seems as if everyone is getting awfully philosophical about a simple matter and straying away big time from the OPs intent. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 2:17:19 PM | Frankly looks and intelligence is subjective. I post my pics, I write my intentions. If you think I'm pretty, great, but obviously I won't appeal to everyone. I have never believed in marketing myself that way and anyone who states that they are intelligent, laid back, humourous and attractive wind up in the ever-growing pile of deleted profiles. I have the same issue with men searching for "beautiful, intelligent, sporty yet lady-like women who looks great in jeans as much as an evening gown."
Oh really? You don't say!!
I'm average looking and full of flaws that likely most people would not be able to live with. All I know is that I'm looking for someone who wouldn't be attracted to those kinds of profiles. If they are, they are the same people who rate a grainy-ass webcam shot set of tits with no face as a 10, right? We're all sort of holding out for intelligent attractive mates, aren't we? | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 2:29:54 PM | My two cents:
Girls on here who need to state how attractive they are in general (and I mean in general) don't have that much going for them.
I meet a lot of the "I"m an independent, attractive woman who knows what she wants in life." When I ask "Okay so what do you do for a living? or So what are your plans?" I get
"Well right now I work at a bar... and I PLAN on going to college..."
I'm a tall skinny white guy with no "ink" on his skin. A lot of girls find that a big turnoff... hey if you're into juice monkeys that's your thing. I know to those girls, I'm not attractive so stating it to them on my profile is like telling Will Smith that he's just a white guy.
So yeah... we know you're all "smart determined, independent, intelligent attractive ladies" who post pictures of themselves surrounded by fifty rippers at a strip club or can only talk about how they like shopping and being taken out to fancy restaurants. ;) | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 2:44:04 PM | What bloviated crapola!
People do the best they can in profiles to present themselves in a good light. Not everybody is a verbal magician. And average writers tend to lean on adjectives, where better writers know the verb is the crux of the biscuit.
So you've got some lonely schmo (or schmoette) trying to list some qualities to attract attention from somebody nice enough and not too crazee. S/he happens to include the mild and vague adjective 'attractive,' and you patoots want to call that bragging!?! Are you attempting to kid me?
Is anything positive our schmo/ette says some kind of boasting? Yeah? So, what is s/he supposed to put in there? "Hi! I'm a bipedal carbon based organism subject to the limitations of space-time! I will die someday! Would you like to keep me company until then? No pressure!"
You chumps apparently don't know what bragging is. Here's a sample, just as a point of reference:
I will kick your a55 to the moon, I am so ripped! Horses piss themselves hoping I'll ride them! When I stomp through the woods, bears 5hit themselves and run away crying! If I spit on ugly, it gets beautiful! If I smack twisted, it straightens out! When I'm late, time stops and waits for me! Your sister is my drooling love slave, and she doesn't even know it yet! My pants are smarter than your librarian!
And so forth.
CheezWhiz on a Jeezit, people! Saying "I'm attractive" is no more bragging than to say "I'm not repulsive." Get a grip on your pi55y, whining, lizard brains and try to find something you like in other people. It's harder to do than finding petty fault, but it won't make you look so mean and pathetic.
And unattractive.
Cheers (anyway!)
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 2:47:17 PM | I've taken one of those online survey forms.
I get nervous when they ask me how attractive I am. I know how attractive I am to myself... that's about it. In the end I usually ask a woman.
Just like I ask my best friend to complete any form that says "How would a friend describe you?" | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 4:40:50 PM | pixiepower...your pics and profile are awsome....im going to shamelessly ask you add me to your friends list because theres nothing more cool than cool chicks for friends lists...
you keep it coming girl...ps...im not into girls...just hot girls...lol jk jk | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 4:45:30 PM |
To lumberjack Msg 67:
What I'm talking about is online Personal services!!
If a particular service gives one 4-5 choices, either we pick one or leave "Prefer not to say".....period!!
Seems as if everyone is getting awfully philosophical about a simple matter and straying away big time from the OPs intent.
I am sorry, but I am not following how your posting relates to mine at all. The OP brings up several points, and some have just been focused on more than others. I did not realize what you bring up here was one of them. Maybe I am misinterepreting?
shieldvulf,
So you've got some lonely schmo (or schmoette) trying to list some qualities to attract attention from somebody nice enough and not too crazee. S/he happens to include the mild and vague adjective 'attractive,' and you patoots want to call that bragging!?! Are you attempting to kid me?
Is anything positive our schmo/ette says some kind of boasting? Yeah? So, what is s/he supposed to put in there? "Hi! I'm a bipedal carbon based organism subject to the limitations of space-time! I will die someday! Would you like to keep me company until then? No pressure!"
First lets agree that we don't all have a way with words. I also agree that when someone states that they are attractive (or itelligent, or anything else for that matter) it is not necessarily and indication of arrogance, and it is not very open-minded to make that assuption. ..but it is a useless thing to say in a profile. Your profile is not to make you feel good about yourself. It is to show as much as you can of yourself to the reader so they can decide if they think you might be compatitble. Just because someone is lonely does not mean they can not put up good pictures of themself, or describe their interests, what kinds of things make them want to get up in the morning etc. Then someone out there is much more likely to think that the "lonely schmo" has attractive qualities, than if they simply state it.
Personally when I read a profile and the person says they are attractive, it usually makes very little difference as to whether or not I would make contact... the rest of the profile will make or break it. But seriously...without supporting statements, what could you say in a profile that is less useful? Until other people start saying they are ugly, you are not putting yourself ahead of anyone. | |
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