| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 4:52:09 PM | Everyone should like how they look... or atleast be used to it by this point.
I don't like people telling me what my opinion should be, though. "I'm funny. I'm smart. I'm attractive. I'm down-to-earth..."
I promise you, I can figure this out on my own. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 5:08:30 PM | Jack,
Fine and dandy, and entirely beside the point, which was the ridiculous suggestion (and then assertion, and then accusation) that saying "I'm attractive" in a personal advertisement is in any way vain or boastful. It ain't. That dog is dead, and I snuffed it.
As far as you object to slack in a profile, that's about you, and that's fine. Me, I save my objections for ferrets with laser-beam eyes, monkeys in suits pretending to be President, and any other real abominations. Life's too short to pick other people's lint.
Cheers!
Vulf  | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 5:25:10 PM | I don't quite understand the word "attractive" ... because everyone has a different perception of what attractive is ... so how can you use it in your profile? What does attractive mean to the average person, anyway? I find many people attractive to myself, but not always in the physical sense? I think that everyone has a beauty in them that is unlike any other, and that to have to outright state that they are 'attractive' shows a level of insecurity that I don't quite understand. There are many people that I find the most beautiful because of how their beauty shines through in ways other than in a physical sense. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder .. in a big way, and I see attractiveness all around me in everyone, and in different forms.
The one thing that angers me is when people who tell others that they are attractive have the nerve to dismiss others looks as NOT attractive and actually will have super high credentials in their profile that say .. 'not interested in average looking people', or something to that tune. My, my. On any given day your 'attractive' looks may be taken from you by way of disease, fire or car accident ... and then you will have to look at yourself in the mirror and hope that you have something deep within you that continues to be known to you and everyone else as "attractive". There is no need to tell others you are attractive .. not if your inner beauty shines through. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 5:38:16 PM | shield,
My only objection is to your suggestion that someone who doesn't have a way with words has no other option than to merely call themselves attractive. People can write whatever they want in their profile. I won't object. If it does not tell me much, I just may not get anything out of it.
Fine and dandy, and entirely beside the point, which was the ridiculous suggestion (and then assertion, and then accusation) that saying "I'm attractive" in a personal advertisement is in any way vain or boastful. It ain't. That dog is dead, and I snuffed it.
That dog has been beaten badly, and it may look dead to you. I think I have taken my last swat it... but there are obviously many here who disagree entirely, or at least think it is much less 'black and white' than you do.
cheers :) | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 5:53:58 PM | | It has been my observaion that women who say they are beautiful are fishing for a "FINE" looking man . I never respond to any profile thus stating as I could not live up to their "shallow" expectations . | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 6:15:21 PM | ^^^ hahaha! Good one Janet!!!
I don't include attractive in my profile because I want people to decide for themselves. I don't think I am particularly difficult to look at but I know I "ain't all that and a bag of chips" for everyone.
Beauty is in the eye of the beerholder or was that beholder?
No one is ugly after 2 a.m???
 WD | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 6:54:24 PM | I said, implied, suggested no such thing, Jack. Not even close, and there's no way you got such a suggestion from what I actually said. You interpolated that mess all on your own.
I wouldn't have bothered to correct you - what do I care? - but you perfectly illustrate what I had the discretion only to imply: that these sillies who see one, ordinary word and call it "insecurity" and "bragging" and dog-knows-what are also just making things up for which they have no basis. I don't know if their's is an issue of reading comprehension or kneejerk fault-finding, or simple, mush-headed pettiness. But it is all on them.
Timberrrrr!
Vulf
And hey! WD up there wasn't fishing for compliments, but ain't she gorgeous? Who needs chips? | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 6:59:13 PM |
CheezWhiz on a Jeezit, people! Saying "I'm attractive" is no more bragging than to say "I'm not repulsive." Get a grip on your pi55y, whining, lizard brains and try to find something you like in other people. It's harder to do than finding petty fault, but it won't make you look so mean and pathetic.
And unattractive.
Ha! CheezWhiz on a Jeezit! Great line!
I didn't have to go back to my profile to check if I said those words - "I'm attractive" - because it would never occur to me. I post photos. Those who find me attractive will do so. Those who don't, won't. And I'm old and smart enough to know the difference between "beautiful/handsome" and "attractive." And I hope to "attract" the kind of person who also understands this.
I figure I'm "attractive" in my own, odd way, despite the fact that I'm kind of old and kind of unsual looking. I've had enough positive reinforcement to substantuate this. And enough negative to keep me grounded.
But still, I've never been offended by someone who says that in their profile. It doesn't seem like overt bragging unless there are other things in the profile to point in that direction. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 7:37:14 PM | vulf,
my apologies for the misinterpretation...This is your quote where I thought you were suggesting that someone who doesn't have a way with words has no other option but to merely call themselves attractive.
Is anything positive our schmo/ette says some kind of boasting? Yeah? So, what is s/he supposed to put in there? "Hi! I'm a bipedal carbon based organism subject to the limitations of space-time! I will die someday! Would you like to keep me company until then? No pressure!"
After reading it again, I still interperet it that way, so I must be taking it out of context or just misundertanding your point entirely. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 7:51:45 PM | Fair enuf, Jack.
I meant that, if saying anything at all even mildly positive about oneself is boasting and, so, a bad thing, that leaves only neutral and negative things to say about oneself, so then what does one write? My attempt at a humorous example is hyperbole, an exaggeration of the consequences of such a rule.
It's always a pleasure to type with a gentleman.
Cheers!
Vulf  | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 8:15:48 PM |
I mean, how many average looking people say, "I am an average looking guy".?
Actually, this statement is not entirely accurate. I have seen several people admit to being average. In fact, my profile states that I am a basic (i.e., average) looking woman. I think we can generally KNOW where we rate. I do realize, however, there are some who would look at a man I find to be highly attractive and think he is ugly and vice versa. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 10:00:29 PM | | maybe they would say something like that in their profiles....cuz this is a site , that they are supposed to be selling you (the reader) the finer qualities of themselves......jsut like you would talk yourself up in a resume...... | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/13/2007 10:47:28 PM | I so agree with many of the above posts and especially msg. 83. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder or beerholder! You may think you're attractive, I may not. It takes more than an outward appearance for one to be truly attractive. We look at the pics and read the profile and make our own conclusions of whether one is attractive to us, don't we?  | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/14/2007 4:35:44 AM | | I have actually MET people that have had that, "I'm attractive" in their profile and a few times have quite honestly found myself thinking, "wow - you really are not all that atttactive and should take that out"...lol...... | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 6:35:14 AM | | lol, people who say im attractive are quite shalow, what if ur not attractive to some? its like ther're telling you what ur mind should think!? madness, people of this world are becoming sooooo....fat-headed! | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/14/2007 8:09:32 AM | A "disclaimer" first LOL.... I do not, nor never have written "attractive" in my
profile when I was on the site for dating (just forums now) - so not a "defensive" reply...
That said-- I think people can get *way* to nitpicky & judgmental...
I think a lot of the times it is no more than that people just aren't sure what to write in their profile. How many times I've heard people say they don't know what to write or are uncomfortable/ don't like writing about themselves. They end up going with what they've seen before, or what a friend might suggest they say. I think we can read too much into a profile & make all these neg. judgments.... All of the assumptions that could be totally off the mark regarding the truth of that person are surprising to read... Then, there are posts wondering why "I can't find anyone"? Being less assuming can help. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/14/2007 11:19:09 AM | Personally, I don't get all of that. I would never put "I'm attractive" in my profile....
I prefer the more honest and accurate "I'M DAMN HOT SEXY LORDY LORDY ALL THE MEN WANT ME".....
But that's just me.... | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/14/2007 11:36:14 AM | Yes we do, gonz. You have no idea! (Well, apparently some idea...)
And geordie? I promise I will not say you are attractive. I don't want to be shalow, let alone fat-headed!
Cheers!
Vulf
VVVVV FUNNY! funnyfunnyfunnyfunnyfunnyfunny Waaay FUNNY! VVVVV | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/14/2007 11:51:04 AM | I just stumbled upon this conversation, and was amused by it. Here's my 2 cents.....
I have always written "I'm Attractive" on my profile...maybe even "very attractive"
Maybe what I'm really trying to say is I'm attractive (for 59)? and I was really, really attractive at 40.
Or...maybe "I'm attractive compared to the average 59 year old at Jenny Craig?
Or....I used to think I was attractive, but I can't find anyone, so maybe I was mistaken?
How 'bout this? I used to be very attractive, but now that I'm 59, I'm working on my personality which I never bothered to develop because I didn't think I needed to?
At any rate....anything remotely related to my attactiveness or lack thereof is coming off my profile immediately!
I know this is the right thing to do 'cause I'm WAY smart.  | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/14/2007 1:33:13 PM |
only a 58 year old man with no photo would consider wanting a fine looking man shallow.
Give him a break, Janet. If he put a photo up, his wife might see it and give him another kind of break. You know how touchy wives can be about their husbands fishing on dating sites.  | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/14/2007 2:45:01 PM | | Not everyone who states they're good looking are. Who told them they were, they're mother. Please don't state you're good looking if you're not. If does make you wonder. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/14/2007 2:48:07 PM |
Not everyone who states they're good looking are.
Perhaps that should be not everyone who states they're good looking are good looking to you. There isn't some basic law of the universe that determines what looks good or does. It's the brain of the person doing the looking that counts and last time I look we only get one brain each. | |
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