| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/14/2007 6:07:55 PM | | ^ My logical thought was no.... but I don't pretend to be an expert on women. Some women don't like to be complimented... I was just making sure that this mentality hadn't swung into the majority. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/14/2007 6:38:38 PM |
Why would any girl, as you said, have a problem with guys writing in to say how beautiful she is?
Most don't have a problem with that. What many do have a problem with is email that says nothing else. The good ol' "ur hot wanna do it" emails just aren't very flattering no matter how many nice things they say about her looks. | |
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remo54
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Joined: 1/26/2007
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remo54
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Joined: 1/26/2007
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/14/2007 8:31:23 PM | Intelligence can be measured. Up to a point and even then there are flaws to that. A person can be a complete genius (like Einstein) and be a complete idiot at the same time (like Einstein).
Beauty is in the eye of the "beerholder" so to say. If a person can prove direct descendancy from Narcissus then let them romp and play and look in the water and talk about how lovely they are. Otherwise, let them go post a picture on a website like hotornot and see what their rating is. It might humble them. With the same main pic in my profile I rate a 6.9. Does it bother me? Nope, I am happy with myself and if someone is going to base me on looks alone, well remember what that song by Johnny Rivers said.
"Beware of pretty faces that you find
A pretty face can hide an evil mind".
There ain't a guy around today that could look at the Mona Lisa sober and go...oh yeah I'd hit that. Hair is the wrong color, wrong ethnicity, can't really see her "lungs", must have had some dental issues with that weird a*** smile, doesn't party with Paris or Britney, or Lindsey. However, to DaVinci, since he worked on that painting for so long...he saw something. Something that deserved his work over all those years. And so with age comes wisdom.
Mona Lisa? Oh yeah, I'd hit that...curves in all the right places, and that smile meant she was up to something...SNAP! | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/14/2007 11:11:32 PM |
In fact, my profile states that I am a basic (i.e., average) looking woman.
After looking at the pictures on your profile (and reading the text too, damn it!) I really think you need to take that out. It isn't true and you shouldn't lie on your profile.
I do realize, however, there are some who would look at a man I find to be highly attractive and think he is ugly and vice versa
You been talking to my mirror? | |
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Spica
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Joined: 9/3/2006
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/15/2007 10:17:22 AM | | ^ That's the funny part. Some of these people have photos. Some ARE in fact attractive. (Some of them even have attractive underpants, but that's a symptom of something else.) | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/15/2007 10:38:32 AM | i think everyone is attractive in their own way
and everyone appeals to someone
although sometimes someone appeals to everyone 
in my mind...only mean people are unattractive
and downright ugly
no matter how attractive they are. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/15/2007 10:54:34 AM | We all have fans and critics...and to assume anyone who sees you here is going to think you're attractive is egocentric. To me an attractive person who states they are attractive cancels themselves out. I like modesty and humility in people...I know I'd feel like an idiot if I went around announcing how hot I was, because I know not everyone would agree with that. And I am a realist. I know some do and some don't find me attractive. As it should be.
It's not up to me to decide whether or not someone else will find me attractive. It's not my choice nor is it their choice. It's either there or it's not. My personal favorite is the person with no pictures who says "you won't be dissapointed" to me when I ask for em. I mean, how do they know that? Right there I assume I will be let down when I hear that one. LOL
You can hope to be attractive, intelligent, nice, etc. But to flat out say you are and you know it is a total turn off. Bleck. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/15/2007 10:58:38 AM | I find it funny when someone states the following in their profile:
-Attractive: Because beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
-Intelligence: And yet their profile is littered with typos, misspellings, use of "u r", etc.
-Funny: But either their profile is dull as all heck or they try a joke and it's terrible.
There's probably a couple of other ones, but those three jump out at me the most. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/15/2007 1:00:34 PM | The statement "I'm attractive" is very subjective as what I may deem attractive the woman coming along behind me may think I need glasses. I do think that it shows a sign of insecurity and the need for a lot of ego stroking............jmo
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/15/2007 2:51:28 PM | I think some of the disagreement here is because there are two issues here. In everyday life, thinking yourself to be attractive is a healthy thing... taken too far it can become arrogance, but I think everyone should love themselves and find themselves "attractive".
... but the whole purpose of a POF profile is to give the reader something to use to come up with their opinion on you. The key part of this is that in this case it is the readers opinion that is important. So when you state in a profile that you are attractive, it is similar to walking up to someone on the street and saying... "Hi my name is_________. I am attractive." Is that arrogant? This example is a bit more extreme because you are meeting face to face, so it is easier to show your attractive qualities rather than just state it, but in both a profile and meeting in person, it is the other person's opinion that matters, not your own.
Now to be fair, I think many people use this in their profile because they have not thought this through...Many of them probably cringe at the thought of calling themselve attractive, but simply to not realize putting up pictures or talking about your interests, goals and dreams etc. can reveal things about yourself and let the reader decide whether or not you are attractive. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/15/2007 6:01:37 PM | | Well I don't state I'm attractive in my profile. In my opinion, that is for other people to decide, not me. I think it's sweet when a guy takes time to tell me I'm attractive and I DO respond even to non-pic profiles if it seems I might have something to talk about with the guy... or if he was just nice enough to stick out his neck and say hi. I don't think it's wrong to tell someone they're attractive. I'm not too keen on people who toot their own horns though lol. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/15/2007 6:11:56 PM |
I think it's really arrogant to put that in your profile. I'll let the men tell me I'm attractive if they want, but I'm not so conceited that I'd put it in there.
Sometimes it probably is due to arrogance. But I think the reason it's put there most of the time is just to fill space. Coming up with something to say in your profile isn't always easy and being attractive is likely put in there only because imagination has failed.
It may not be a good thing to have in one's profile. But don't read more into it than is really there. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/15/2007 6:16:12 PM | Hmm. I couldn't imagine putting that in my profile. Realistically, and because I have mirrors, I understand I have slightly unusual features which don't fall into the "pretty" sphere. But I also know I'm attractive to some people. Very attractive to a few, not so much, to others. Except for the rare, classically beautiful/handsome people out there, I think most of us fall into this category.
I also wouldn't immediately assume a person who wrote that in their profile was insecure, or vain, or anything else. I'd decide from the other things they had in their profile. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/25/2007 4:34:08 PM | Came across a girls profile the other day that went something like this:
"I'm tall thin and incredibly attractive. I demand the best and will put up with nothing less. If I don't answer your email it's because I simply don't have time since I get so many and I'm just not interested in you."
Pretty damn arrogant... Anyway for me, the ideal girl has a few curves, natural looking skin and doesn't rely on makeup. This girl on the other hand looked like she was 5'7 and maybe 90 pounds at best, hair bleached to hell and back, ridiculous pink lipstick and makeup that made her face looked painted on. In short, she looks like "anorexic Barbie" would if she were auditioning to replace "the Crypt Keeper".
Now no doubt there are guys out there who just LOVE a girl with the body of a prepubescent boy who LIVES in a makeup store but to me, this girl was about as attractive as death itself.
So her putting "I'm incredibly attractive" just added to the "LOL" factor of the profile. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/25/2007 5:23:49 PM | Unless it's the general hate mail I get or something related to the forums, if I get an email, I'll assume the person was attracted to me in one form or another. I mean there really aren't very many reasons otherwise why people get emails on this site unless it's about basic attraction.
As for what's in a profile, it's all about context. Not every profile is the same, I'll take them as they come as I see them. I don't think everyone who uses one particular word is good, I don't think everyone who doesn't is bad. I will agree with the point made above in that a profile is designed to give a favorable impression of you and a way to market yourself and your best qualities to a prospective date. All you can do is make the best profile you can and hope for the best.
I will say this though, if you are attractive, and if people want to have a problem with you, they will pick a word or anything they can to have a problem with you. They want to pick and you and hope to see your insecurity because it makes them feel better about their own.
Do I think I'm attractive? Yes. Do I think other people find me attractive? I don't know, that's up to each person, I don't generally worry about it. If people do, I appreciate it, if they don't, then I wish them well finding whatever they are looking for out there. Do I state in my profile that I'm attractive? No, I just make the best profile I can and let people make their own choices about how they feel. Do people treat me better here for the way I look? Some do, some don't. Do people treat me worse here for the way I look? Some do, some don't. Although I find a disproportional number of people on the forums do.
Do I care?
Not really. If people like me or my profile, that's great. If not, that's ok too. You aren't going to be a great match for everyone, and everyone isn't going to be a great match for you. I'd rather spend my time looking for the things I want versus harping on the things that I know I don't want and wasting my time. Life is short, there are times when you just have to cut your losses and move on. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/25/2007 5:52:08 PM | When I see a atatement on a profile that says "I am attractive" I think it says more about their personality than it does their looks .... by far. I personally think to myself either this person is arrogant or insecure rarely does confident come to mind.
AND dont ever stop telling a woman she is "beautiful "
If you are sincere how could that ever be wrong | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/25/2007 7:04:40 PM |
Do people treat me worse here for the way I look? Some do, some don't. Although I find a disproportional number of people on the forums do.
I can think of, off the top of my head, MANY gorgeous women who are highly respected on the forums. If you think you are being treated ill on the forums, perhaps it is due to an abrasive personality rather than your good looks. :) | |
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