| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/25/2007 7:07:32 PM |
I can think of, off the top of my head, MANY gorgeous women who are highly respected on the forums.
I can too. One is from Arkansas.
If you think you are being treated ill on the forums, perhaps it is due to an abrasive personality rather than your good looks
You mean good looking people with abrasive personalities are abrasive? Who'd have thunk? | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/25/2007 7:18:28 PM | They're a bit full of themselves, aren't they? 
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/26/2007 5:53:10 PM | i follow DANCING QUEEN"S and other people's forums who i find interesting.
she's treated poorly at times by people who don't want to hear the truth about themselves or their environs.
truth, even subtley applied can be deemed "ABRASIVE". personally i find it refreshing. tom  | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/26/2007 6:30:50 PM | One can be honest without being cruel. A difference of opinion can be quite refreshing. Honesty most certainly is. Baseless cruelty is not refreshing, it is disgusting.
Once I have seen someone rip to shreds a hard working single mother for no other reason than the fact they are not wealthy, they could cure cancer and still get no respect from me. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/27/2007 2:28:10 PM | I have learned to be less concerned with the fact that they say they are indeed attractive on their profile, and more concerned with whether or not they can spell attractive on their profile. And yes, I know this is the internet, and we are "chatting", however, that does not mean that we are all hip to the groovy text/chat lingo (which I liken to lazyness) of abbreviations, deletions of key and critical letters to save time.
I do feel better now, and with that am going to crack open a beer.....cheers! | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/27/2007 5:23:20 PM | when they state that they are attractive on their profile,
do you think they mean physically attractive or personality attractive?
i generally take it as they think they are physically attractive.
anybody disagree??? tom | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/27/2007 5:59:31 PM | I personally have issues with it. For me to say that about my self seems really weird.....like I am trying to convince you. Post decent pics. as beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
It seems like sales pitch.............. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/27/2007 8:48:58 PM | | Women who have to say they are attractive have self confidence issues and you should just stay away from them. Saying "i'm attractive" is like saying, "I'm not a creepy guy and I won't try to have sex with you, I promise ;)" But come on... seriously now. Maybe the girl really is attractive, but if that's her main selling point, then she doesn't have much else to offer. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/27/2007 8:53:30 PM |
I have learned to be less concerned with the fact that they say they are indeed attractive on their profile, and more concerned with whether or not they can spell attractive on their profile. And yes, I know this is the internet, and we are "chatting", however, that does not mean that we are all hip to the groovy text/chat lingo (which I liken to lazyness) of abbreviations, deletions of key and critical letters to save time.
I do feel better now, and with that am going to crack open a beer.....cheers!
If you're going to make fun of people who do not spell correctly on this site, then you should at least make sure you spell correctly in your rant against those people! I'll just leave it up to the intelligent people to figure out exactly what I am talking about.
So I don't get booted for posting off topic, sometimes people have to talk themselves into feeling worthy. "I"m attractive" is like saying, "look at me, look at me!" | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/27/2007 9:17:19 PM |
If you're going to make fun of people who do not spell correctly on this site, then you should at least make sure you spell correctly in your rant against those people! I'll just leave it up to the intelligent people to figure out exactly what I am talking about.
It's not all that hard to figure out. But what you are failing to take into account is the difference between a forum post and a profile. The latter should be proofed and corrected while the former has a limit on corrections. We all make typing errors from time to time; using chat abbreviations on one's profile is laziness. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/27/2007 9:38:01 PM | | Yes, eeek, that is true, but I see his point. I consider myself the queen of typos when IMing, texting, and such. However, on the rare occasion I choose to criticize someone for their spelling, I try to make darn sure mine is PERFECT. And we all know THAT was not a typo. :) | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/27/2007 9:53:01 PM | Yes, eeek, that is true, but I see his point. I consider myself the queen of typos when IMing, texting, and such. However, on the rare occasion I choose to criticize someone for their spelling, I try to make darn sure mine is PERFECT. And we all know THAT was not a typo. :)
(Leave it to a sweet but smart fishy to noice it wasn't a typing issue)
I have to admit that I've made the same criticism from time to time myself. But at least it was only one word and wasn't cellphone text'ing (when did text become a verb?) lingo. (And before anybody says anything, my profile is read so seldomly I don't see much reason to put much effort into it.)
"I don't give a damn for a man that can only spell a word one way." --Mark Twain | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/28/2007 3:02:45 AM | Personally I dont think being attractive is all about looks, however agree it can be a bit forward but then arent we always been told to be confident?? so Im going to sit on the fence on this one
Saying you think your self is attractive isnt that c----ky. Saying Im sh--t red hot and you're gonna drool over me would be ..
I think they are better off saying "Ive been told I am attractive..." that way projects a positive self image not just induced by your own reflection, | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/28/2007 6:33:30 AM | One can be honest without being cruel. A difference of opinion can be quite refreshing. Honesty most certainly is. Baseless cruelty is not refreshing, it is disgusting.
i see neither honesy nor cruelty in the behaviors described.
i see only self-absorption and attention-seeking. no one finds either particularly attractive, however much the individual stamps their feet and insists on positive reinforcement (or any attention, for that matter) from others.
i suggest allowing the photos and text in the profile to speak for themselves. long ago, a writer friend advised me 'don't state. create.' in other words, show me your beauty, show me your loyalty, show me your sense of humor, show me your adventurous nature. avoid blanket modifiers such as 'attractive,' 'exciting,' 'sweet' etc. give me concrete images and allow me to draw my own conclusions. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/28/2007 6:38:23 AM | Looks are subjective, so even though it's nice that you might feel you're attractive, that doesn't mean everyone does. So you should let everyone make their own opinions instead of saying in a definitive way that "I'm attractive". Whenever I see that I always think, well she loves herself enough for both of us!
In my opinion, the "I'm attractive" statements are decidedly unattractive. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/28/2007 6:40:15 AM | I have no problems with anyone who states "I'm attractive" in their profile (by which I mean they are referring to themselves, not me. But if they do say 'SlyKnight is attractive', then that's good too)
I don't think it necessarily denotes insecurity. Some might argue that saying it means they believe it, some might say they're insecure and seeking external validation to confirm their beliefs. Either one is a judgement that you simply aren't qualified to make until you know that person better. If you go around labelling everyone who says they are attractive as being insecure, or being overly confident, or shallow, or whatever else - you are going to be wrong a large percentage of the time and miss out on communicating with people you might otherwise have gotten on very well with.
Unless you have a huge amount of contextual information to go along with it, you can't really say that it means anything at all. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/28/2007 9:41:34 AM | | I have dated and lived with "attractive" guys--they're always looking and secretly dating other women! So, I stay away from them--so superficial, bragging about the hot girls he's had (and DOES have at the time!)--the "I can get anyone I want" syndrome. Give me average any day. No ego trips. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/28/2007 12:55:34 PM | I find the "ive been told im attractive" posts interesting really.
at different times "ive been told" im an ahole, anal rententive, and a jerk too, but I wouldn't post that on my profile.
although i might consider it...if it will score me points! | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/28/2007 2:51:09 PM | Marc (OP),
Now then... we can all see, theoretically anyhow, so what is the fuss? Why the definitive statement?
(1) You have the whole stigma of people not REALLY looking like their pictures. Additionally, they may find their pictures so-so. I agree with ya more if the guy or girl has modelesque photos, but when it comes to regular photos, people can take them different ways as the angles and lighting play a HUGE role in turning someone so-so into beautiful and vice versa.
(2) They may have written the profile, then uploaded their photos later on. Saying it also lets the reader know that they are confident in how they look (a plus for women to say so instead of 'Do I look fat?').
(3) It's not a big deal. If someone writes that they're intelligent in the profile when they demonstrate that with what and how they've written the profile, you could say that is laying it on a little thick, too, right? Writing your profile means summarizing who you are and what you're about. You'll find that it will overlap their pictures ("I have kids", "I love boats", etc).
I think there'd be a beef if a guy or girl had modelesque photos, and/or someone who was going on about how good they look with clear pictures staring ya in the face. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/28/2007 7:34:15 PM | It's not really a big deal, but it kinda shows that they have a big ego about themselves & that kind of turns me off. It's like you're saying yeah "I'm the sh!t!" or something.Maybe you are the sexiest person in the world, but I don't have to hear it from your mouth to make it true. Not everyone will think you're hot too.
I agree, it's like they're trying to convince you that they're attractive, let me be the judge.. | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 3/28/2007 11:10:04 PM | I have just finished reading the preceding posts . Some of them are confusing. The
word attractive...To me it means, "worthy of attention". It doesn't necessarily mean
beautiful. I use the word in my profile....I use it on purpose. Many people have told
me I am attractive... I didn't think it up myself. But, now I've come to believe it. I
take great pride in making myself attractive to others.
However, I have some thoughts on attractiveness that you might want to ponder. I
believe people can create or add to their attractiveness in many ways...the way they
carry themselves, the way in which they speak...their tone of voice....their
attitude....their mannerisms....how comfortable they make others around them feel,
how open they are to others thoughts, feelings and ideas. What about that warm smile,
the feeling of being welcome in their presence., their outlook on life., even the way in
which they dress.
Most importantly, when I read profiles, I look for the upbeat person, the one who
walks with their head held high , the one who starts each day with an attitude that the
day will go just fine...and if they are handed a lemon...they'll just make lemonade. The
person I'm looking for does have high self-esteem...if you don't have it for yourself,
who's going to have it for you. We all have our low points...sometimes more than we
think we can bear, but this high self-esteem can go a long way in assisting us to jump
those hurdles and continue to stroll along life's bumpy path.
Next time you wonder about the person who feels attractive, take a good look at
them,...look right into their heart and mind.....I'll bet that you, too will see the
attractiveness and realize that it doesn't necessarily mean "physical beauty."
I think I LIKE that word..maybe even more than "beautiful". | |
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| People who state I'm attractive in their profile.
Posted: 1/16/2008 5:11:30 PM | | It's not just "attractive" - I've seen guys' profiles who bluntly state that they are good looking men. When a guy says "I'm an attractive man"...I figure he must be pretty attracted to himself - and since he's found someone so attractive, perhaps he should just date himself. | |
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