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| Questions that are sexually related. How long should you wait to ask them?
Posted: 3/12/2007 12:45:37 AM | Yes, I agree, that asking is over and above very disrespectful. It's not about going into a relationship with only sex on one's mind. That's ridiculous!!!! And that is what it sounds like: how long should someone wait to ask... As time progresses and folks get to know one another, there will be signs and moments of romantic overtures if the relationship moves that way at all... | |
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| Questions that are sexually related. How long should you wait to ask them?
Posted: 3/12/2007 3:20:43 AM | I totally agree with BBBashful...
No OP, as many guys that have wrttten to me, I've NEVER had one of them ask me sexual questions within the first few minutes of conversation. I've had every age group write a few times , from 20 to 60 and I have to say, all have been respectful. I have been asked if I would like to meet with them in person after a consider amount of email time, but none have ever asked sexual questions to me even after having met a few in person.
I have my Messenger turned off because it doesn't work properly, so maybe if I were chatting for awhile with one, the questions might come up...but I' have to say that I have been very lucky so far.
If one did ask ridiculous sexual questions in an email, I would delete their email immediately and "Block" them from being able to send anymore. | |
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| Questions that are sexually related. How long should you wait to ask them?
Posted: 3/12/2007 7:06:59 AM | | I've yet to be asked for the size of my boobs, nor am I about to ask this question ...ever. I'm a seeing-is-believing sort of man, and not into what may be projected on-line or shared at a distance for a woman's physical attributes. I need to know more for what may go on inside her possibly pretty head before I might let my smaller head get the better of me again. 'His vote counts', but it doesn't sway me. | |
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| Questions that are sexually related. How long should you wait to ask them?
Posted: 3/12/2007 8:19:44 AM | see that is one thing that bugs me... guys can see that we have tits and an ass and legs and all the "ìmportant" stuff even when we are fully dresses...
we have the dissadavantage of not even getting a hint as to what we might be getting into "endowment"-wise...
we should be the ones asking: "how is your penis? any problems with it lately?" within the first few emails...
only fair...
~A | |
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| Questions that are sexually related. How long should you wait to ask them?
Posted: 3/12/2007 9:03:25 AM | Ambrosia, There's something to be said w/o the saying for men who "walk softly and carry a big stick". The men who don't have a good head on their shoulders for the 'finer lines' of communication either are who the OP was referring, and there's enough of them, no?
As for women in dresses being disadvantaged, I'm not 'buying into this line'. Not sure how I'd personally answer your hypothetical question, even if you make a good point for having to trust your luck to find a bigger worm to keep you happy for your fishin'. | |
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| Questions that are sexually related. How long should you wait to ask them?
Posted: 3/12/2007 9:44:15 AM | ultimately attractions in this medium are visual at first. c'mon, what's do you think is the first thing that makes someone click on a profile? the pic. to deny that initial aesthetic orientation is bs. sure personality has gotta be there, but it's not the first thing that turns our heads...lets be honest about it at least.
i have no issue with sexual inuendos, questions, or dirty talk. okay sure, no need to get right into cyber sex the second you log into IM, but i like to see a healthy sexual flirt going at some point in that first chat. if a guy's gonna be too timid to play, he and i wouldn't be a good match anyways ; ) | |
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| Questions that are sexually related. How long should you wait to ask them?
Posted: 3/12/2007 3:25:29 PM | I'm not saying that the questions shouldn't be asked eventually, at least the ones that pertain to possibly entering that particular phase of a relationship. But they don't have to be questions that would be seen as rude or disrespectful and shouldn't be asked until after talking to the person for a long amount of time or possibly after meeting at least once. I understand that guys will eventually want to have sex and need to know if you like it or not so as not to waste time, but have some respect for the opposite sex. Not all of us think with our  | |
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| Questions that are sexually related. How long should you wait to ask them?
Posted: 3/12/2007 9:07:39 PM | I think there are some men (thank goodness, not all!) who think that any woman who is "not getting laid" on a regular basis (and they would I assume that if we are "looking" here on Pof) would be desperate (like they apparently are) so they are going to "do us a favor" right from the start and be a good friend and take care of our needs. 
I end the conversation quickly and block them on P0f. | |
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| Questions that are sexually related. How long should you wait to ask them?
Posted: 3/25/2007 4:20:27 PM | | Sexual compatability is very important in a relationship. These questions need to be asked - but you need to ask them at the appropriate time. I would be upset if a woman started asking me about sex in the first few minutes of conversation! If, it stretched out for hours and you were really connecting, then sure, ask away, but gently... | |
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| Questions that are sexually related. How long should you wait to ask them?
Posted: 3/25/2007 5:03:59 PM | | As long as it takes to feel comfortable asking them. Or when i feel the other party will be comfortable answering them. Whjich these days seems to be very fast... I thknk its great that so many nice people are sexually open to taling about sexuality... Some even shock me ..... | |
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| Questions that are sexually related. How long should you wait to ask them?
Posted: 3/25/2007 5:50:01 PM | Certainly before you become intimate! To me that makes good sense.
I think, though, that the guys who "get right to the point" from the first and start talking about sex early on in the first or second phone conversation are making it pretty clear from the start that SEX is THE most important thing that they are looking for in a "relationship"-- Actually, it saves me time, because though I have a very healthy libido, sex is NOT the FIRST thing I look at in a "relationship"-- and I want the relationship that will lead to the sex, not just hope that the sex will lead to a relationship.
I know some people that have had sexual intimacy on the first or second date and still have ended up with a successful and long term relationship and/or marriage, but to me, and my way of thinking anyway, I bet there have been a LOT more "one night stands" that have been just that, and a lot more "relationships" that led up to sexual intimacy that were much more successful than the "just have sex with everyone and eventually you'll get a relationship." I'm just not into sex with strangers, if that makes me a "prude" --okay, I'm a prude. The kind of man I am looking for a relationship with would be pleased that I hadn't slept with 1,000 other guys . | |
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| Questions that are sexually related. How long should you wait to ask them?
Posted: 11/11/2007 11:26:30 PM | I agree. Men are too sensitive on this issue. If you don't mind not having an IQ over 170 or a billion$ in the bank why get all jittery on this?
There's 6 billion people in the world and more than half are women !! Respect someones honesty and upfront attitude and move on. Time is precious !! | |
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