| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/8/2007 10:43:53 PM | my son is back in the hospital..as always im scared and havent slept or ate alot...everytime i eat i throw up and i just dont sleep...but why im sitting here i listen to the tv and this song came on and i like but its hard to listen to...i thought i would share the lyrics with you all...take care everyone
Artist/Band: Austin Sherrie
Lyrics for Song: Streets Of Heaven
(Sherrie Austin/Paul Duncan/Al Kasha)
Hello God, it's me again. 2:00 a.m., Room 304.
Visiting hours are over, time for our bedside tug of war.
This sleeping child between us may not make it through the night.
I'm fighting back the tears as she fights for her life.
Well, it must be kind of crowded,
On the streets of Heaven.
So tell me: what do you need her for?
Don't you know one day she'll be your little girl forever.
But right now I need her so much more.
She's much too young to be on her own:
Barely just turned seven.
So who will hold her hand when she crosses the streets of Heaven?
Tell me God, do you remember the wishes that she made,
As she blew out the candles on her last birthday cake?
She wants to ride a pony when she'd big enough.
She wants to marry her Daddy when she's all grown up.
Well, it must be kind of crowded,
On the streets of Heaven.
So tell me: what do you need her for?
Don't you know one day she'll be your little girl forever.
But right now I need her so much more.
She's much too young to be on her own:
Barely just turned seven.
So who will hold her hand when she crosses the streets of Heaven?
Lord, don't you know she's my angel
You got plenty of your own
And I know you hold a place for her
But she's already got a home
Well I don't know if you're listenin'
But praying is all that's left to do
So I ask you Lord have mercy, you lost a son once too
And it must be kind of crowded,
On the streets of Heaven.
So tell me: what do you need her for?
Don't you know one day she'll be your little girl forever.
But right now I need her so much more.
Lord, I know once you've made up your mind,
There's no use in beggin'.
So if you take her with you today, will you make sure she looks both ways,
And would you hold her hand when she crosses the streets of Heaven.
The streets of Heaven. | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/8/2007 10:59:53 PM | All I can really say to this is be honest and direct with him. Kids are alot more resiliant then we think they are. There really is no easy way but to try and simplify what the doctor told you so he understands. As an educator, I really think this particular subject would leave me speechless for words and I've been in my field for 10 yrs now.
Take care of yourself too, he needs you strong. His strength to get through this will largely come from you. | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/8/2007 11:49:22 PM | | honeslty i wouldnt know what to say to my son if something like that happened but if do it before he found out and then hed be mad at u cause u didnt wanna tell him when u found out and i feel for u and anyone that would have to go throw that | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/9/2007 4:42:59 AM | Deepak Chopra, check out his stuff!! Science has proved that every cell in our body replaces and regenerates every 12 months(faster for some organs and body parts, slower for others)so why do people have tumours cancers for years? Because we need to identify the beliefs and patterns we hold that support the growths of tumours and cancers in our bodies, tis only then that the tissue structure will change. children even young ones, are influenced by beliefs, attitudes to life, etc that their parents hold, children are very susceptible to feeling and feelings, if we hold resentment to former partners or family members(even dead ones like mine who i resent for leaving!)this can manifest in our bodies as physical disease, change the patterns, change th out come, how does any g.p, when telling someone who has lung cancer that 90% of people with the disease die, how do they know that this person in front of them isnt in the 10% of survivors??how much damage is done by giving th impression of little help?? Anyway, blessed be to you n ur child, check out deepras stuff if you have time,tis truly life physically changing
love n light 2 u
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/9/2007 3:34:33 PM | Dealing with sickness is not easy, especially cancer. I had never had to tell a child that he/she had cancer but I had to tell my children about their father. The first thing I did was prayed. I asked God to show me the best way to explain the situation to my children. Because they were older, they paid attention to his physical well-being. Therefore, they had some idea of what was going. Their common knowledge made it possible for me to discuss their father's health problems with ease.
As parents, we must realize that our children are loaned to us for a little while. When it comes to sickness (cancer), it is will never be easy to tell him/her. We must realize that God will help us bear the burden of explaining cancer to the child. It is very important for parents to be strong for the child. If I am ever in a position where I had to make that decision, I would ask God to direct my path. I know that God will never lead one in the wrong direction and he will never put more on you that you can bear. I would explain cancer to my child and help him/her to realize that all sickness is not death. At the same time, he or she would be receiving the best health care . | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/9/2007 6:29:34 PM | | I think with your sons age it is best to relate the cancer as a villian that needs him to be the super hero to fight it, it will be hard but you will be his sidekick there with him every step of the way. Be upfront and honest but stay positive that you will beat the villian ( the cancer) studies have shown that with children if you relate to whats in their age level they will understand, of course make sure and use the correct medical terms first and then let your son know its like the villina and super hero type thing , this puts it in perspective for him to understand. Remember always stay positive cancer is beatable and studies have further shown that if you think you are beating the cancer you will or atleast slow it down. Stay strong this will be a tough time and a hard fight but one that will no doubt bring you and your family vcloser and stronger. Ask questions and talk about how your feeling to someone of confidence and stay positive for your sons sake. You will be in my prays | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/13/2007 11:56:49 PM | Hi,
I've been reading about your son and I'm so sorry you both have to go through this. My neice who is sixteen was diagnosed with ALL -Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia when she was 14. She will be done her treatments in September of this year. There are unfortunately many families dealing with this horrible illness .There is a program where families can set up there own website to inform friends and family and to receive encouragement from loved ones and also from other families . You will be able to read journals of many families facing the same journey as your son and you and I believe this will help you to cope it has helped my neice and her family tremendously. Here is the link and my heart and prayers go out to both of you. Good Luck with your journey.
http://www.caringbridge.org/ | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/14/2007 9:55:21 AM | | My heart definitely goes out to you...I also have a son 9, about to turn 10 and he is quite mature for his age...we have been on our own together since his birth, so I have always been open and honest with him...I would suggest buying a new teddy bear and taking it and him for a trip to your local library...there are books out there and a good librarian can recommend and help you locate them...I cannot think of the one title off the top of my head, but there are good resources out there. Hope this helps, if only a little. | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/14/2007 11:05:28 AM | The most amazing thing about children is how well they can handle a difficult situation. I would have a harder time telling that kind of news to an adult than I would a child.
I lost a son many years ago. He was special in many ways but the thing that amazed me the most was his ability to handle the worst of all possible news. I think he was more concerned with how I was handling it than he was. There was a level of peace he had that I could only have hoped to find.
Best advice is just tell them and prepare to be amazed. | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/16/2007 4:40:25 AM |
The most amazing thing about children is how well they can handle a difficult situation. I would have a harder time telling that kind of news to an adult than I would a child.
I lost a son many years ago. He was special in many ways but the thing that amazed me the most was his ability to handle the worst of all possible news. I think he was more concerned with how I was handling it than he was. There was a level of peace he had that I could only have hoped to find.
Best advice is just tell them and prepare to be amazed.
I totally agree with your post. I have a friend who lost a child to adrenoleukodystrophy (ALD) and he was amazing. I also have friends and family who have been diagnosed and given terrible news... and as you said, they found a level of peace I only hoped to have found! Amazing! | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/16/2007 10:39:48 AM | | i really hope all is well and ur son is ok. i had a good cry reading this, i have a son whos 6 and couldnt imagine going through this. i hope u can stay strong and take care of yourself as your son needs you very much xx | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/16/2007 11:44:34 AM | The best when it comes to children is pure honesty. I had to tell my daughter she was adopted and I feared it so bad and kept putting it off until finally I prayed about it and it fell into place; Being honest with her was the best way to handle the situation and I think the same applies to illness. Let the child know that sometimes things happen and that they are sick, but that you love them and will be there with them each and every step of the way. If you are religious you can let them know that God will watch over them and if they call on him he will hold their hand through the thick of it.
Bob
Jonesport, Me
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/16/2007 4:40:16 PM | | Always be honest! As a mom i had to tell my daughter and my nephew that i had cancer and the only way i could think of to tell them that they would understand was to just say the truth. Children are smart and lying to them and them seeing the heartbreak on your face will make the child act up because they don't know what else to do! They get confused and scared and watching a parent cry is more confusing than anything. I took each child into a different room and told them in terms that each one would understand, you don't need to go into depth with the conversation but enough for them to understand that there is something going on. I try my hardest never to cry about anything wrong with me in front of my child, i wait till shes in bed to have my cry. Thankfully i'm still here to see my child grow up. It's been 5 years and i'm considered cancer free but just last june i had a stroke and that equally was hard to explain to my child. I'm still recovering from that but am almost normal again, will never be 100% again but thats life deal with it as it comes and never dwell on it cause if you think about it what can you really do about it! Just live life one day at a time! | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/16/2007 8:36:00 PM |
I try my hardest never to cry about anything wrong with me in front of my child, i wait till shes in bed to have my cry.
I have mixed emotions about this... I know I have felt the same way and have tried to remain positive (for their sake.) But, I have also seen where it isn't always a bad thing to shed tears in front of others and let them see you are hurting, etc. My friend tried to remain positive in front of her child... but he knew without being told what was going to happen. He told her one day he knew he was going to die and he actually helped her through everything. So when she talked to me I said of course it is ok to cry in front of him... he knows you are hurting and love him... it's ok to share a good cry. I would assume, it could be more confusing to know you are sick or dying and everyone being "positive" all the time... | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/17/2007 1:21:25 PM | | would depend on the age, maturity of the kid and if the relationship is good between them. little kids, under 8, I see no reason to tell them too many details as they may not understand what cancer is anyway and be best to keep things simple. Older kids, would depend on the kid | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/18/2007 5:51:10 AM | I have a son who is 10, and you and yours will be in our prayers. You are a good dad no doubt. Tell him what you feel you need to, all children are different just like us. I would say daddy knows him pretty well, so follow your best judgement.
Take care of your sons' dad the best you can, eat smaller amounts to keep it down and take naps wherever you can. I truelly do no think I could live without my son, I would give you a hug if I could. May God bless you both. Good luck to you and your Son. | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/18/2007 5:33:45 PM | I just want to say that i am truely sorry that you and your son had to have this happen to you! Ive been reading all through the post and everything u have posted and i really cant lie, i sitting here with tears in my eyes as im typing i guess im just emotionial. I dont know what else to say but do the best you can to keep your sons activities normal as they were before. You also need to take care of yourself, if you dont make sure your doing ok then you may not be ok enough to care for him!
Good luck and stay strong, not too strong though, let your emotions out! | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/19/2007 12:47:32 AM | i said that i would keep everyone who reads this regually updated on how my son is doing...the cancer is only getting worse...so now they are trying other things but hes just getting more sick...ive brought him home...the drs told me that i should....i dont know what to do anymore hes just getting more and more sick...i think i brought him home for good pretty much if you know what i mean...i dont sleep becuz i want to be there for him when it happens...i bought a baby monitor to put in his room so i can hear him at all times...his cancer keeps getting worse and moving up in the stages...i spend as much time as i can with him now even if its hard for me...for him being more mature then he should we have talked about certain things that might be the outcome to this...like death being one...it was hard but we got through it...i understand what he wants more and he understands what i want...we are getting more close...also he is getting more close to the other boy im rasing...i dont know if thats a good thing or not but they are happy so thats what matters i think
ive been reading this thread and the post that people make on it...i want to say again thank you for your words it means alot to me...also ive been getting emails that have helped me too...if you ever want to send me an email on here please do...if you got some words for me that you think might help or just want to tell me something please send me an email on here...trust me your words help me alot when i start to think im losing it
thank you and take care *hugs* | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/19/2007 7:00:31 PM | Hi,
I'm sorry to hear your son is not doing well, has your doctor contacted St. Jude Hospital maybe they could help your son. Here is the info:
St. Jude Children's Research Hospital
332 N. Lauderdale
Memphis, TN 38105
Contact phone:
General information (901) 495-3300
I will pray for the both of you | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/19/2007 7:06:23 PM | Well...I guess it's different for me...I've been in remission for cervical cancer for 6 months (and counting!) But could I imagine having to tell my son he had cancer? It'd kill me. When I was diagnosed my son was only 4 months old, so telling him Mommy was sick really wasn't an issue...
It'd depend on how old the kid is...if he's younger, I'd go with "The doctors say you have a boo-boo on *body part* and they're gonna give you medicine that's gonna fix you, but it's gonna make you tired and it might make your hair fall out." And naturally, all the kisses in the world!
An older child...I'd say sit them down and tell them, go over the options with them, and give them all the love and support you possibly can. | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/19/2007 7:07:56 PM | And if you ever need to vent to someone, I'm always here...even if it is just to cry to. I've been through it, not with my son, but with myself, so I know how emotionally exhausting it is...
I'll say an extra prayer for your little guy tonight! | |
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