mare29
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Joined: 12/16/2006
Msg: 126 | |
| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/27/2007 6:55:22 AM | "Death of a Child"
Sorry I didn't get to stay.
To laugh and run and play.
To be there by your side.
I'm sorry that I had to die.
God sent me down to be with you,
to make your loving heart anew.
To help you look up and see
Both God and little me.
Daddy, I wish I could stay.
Just like I heard you pray.
But, all the angels did cry
when they told little me goodbye.
God didn't take me cause He's mad.
He didn't send me to make you sad.
But to give us both a chance to be
a love so precious .. don't you see?
Up here no trouble do I see
and the pretty angels sing to me.
The streets of gold is where I play
you'll come here too, daddy, someday.
Until the day you join me here,
I'll love you daddy, dear.
Each breeze you feel and see,
brings love and a kiss from me.
By Sandy Eakle
My thoughts and prayers are with you
Mare 29 | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/27/2007 7:12:15 AM | | good luck with your son i dont know how i would feel if it was my son......................just make sure you ask for people to help you threw this as well as your son because you will need as much support as him xxxxx good luck i hope things are better soon | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/27/2007 3:05:25 PM | thank you everyone for your thoughts...this week as been hard for me but i think of everyone that is thinking about me and praying thanks...im sorry some of you cant contact me...ill try to fix...i want to say thanks to mare29 for the poem it was a good one thank you *hugs*
thank you everyone *hugs* | |
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darzz
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Joined: 4/5/2007
Msg: 129 | |
| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/27/2007 4:49:00 PM | | Hi, i can only imagine how hard your week has been which makes me pray for you for next week cause i fear thats when your really going to need support, the actuality that your son is with God. I just know with deaths for me it never really hit me till it was the funeral. I wish i could help you but all i can do is pray for you so thats what ill do. GOD BLESS YOU. | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/27/2007 5:02:19 PM | | I have never commented on one of these forums before but reading you post made my heart jump and made me want to contact you, firstly i am without words to express how sad and sorry i feel for you and your family, there is no way anyone can imagine how hard life must be for you all, xx secondly there are i am sure you know lots of wonderfull charaties that can help with all kinds of stuff, from how to explain stuff to your child, to what help you can get. I can not begin to put my self in your place and offer advice, i have four kids of my own, and since reading your post, i have tried to imagine how i would explain to one of them, that they were very ill. i cant find the words. Please know that i for one will be thinking of you and your family and i wish you the best of hope and luck | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 4/27/2007 5:47:37 PM | oh no....I was scrolling and reading through this.. Im so terribly sorry for your loss.
I often ask myself why does god take such precious innocent children away from us??
I never get a good enough answer. I cant begin to tell you how sad it makes me feel to know that a child has passed on. Please take comfort in knowing we are all thinking of you in your time of pain...offering our prayers to you and your family.
take care of yourself and hugs | |
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Aronel
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Joined: 1/18/2007
Msg: 132 | |
| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 5/1/2007 12:09:55 PM | I know it may take some time for you to see, but maybe God brought you and your friends son together for a purpose...
Maybe in his infinite wisdom he brought you two together to be a comfort to one another...You both have seen tragedy
You see... he lost his Dad and you have lost your son...even though there is no replacement for either... it is something miraculous that you have each other...
A very special bond is there...
I am too emotional to elaborate more but I see a work of compassion...
With all my heart I pray for you,
Loni | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 5/1/2007 3:16:49 PM | | I have cried so hard reading your plight and I hope the Angels that are holding your little boy are also giving you the strengh to keep going. God bless you and you are in my thoughts. XXX | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 5/1/2007 3:41:23 PM | | well i think you'd need to explain what death is and were good ppl go depending on your views. secondly you'd have to tell them that they were sick and that we are going to do all that is possible to make you better. you'd have to be honest and tell them that it was going to hurt and that you'd be herting right along with them. you'd also need to tell them that you'll be there with them and that you do your best to help the doctors get them well. cause we all know our small children think we can do it all. i do belive that would be the hardest thing that i would ever have to face. damn that shit would be hard... | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 5/2/2007 2:46:02 PM | *gulps* I've had too, and it's not easy. Trust me. I was lucky to have the support system, books, and resources, and tell him what was happening, what would happen, and give him some positives to focus on. He cried, I cried, we all cried.
.....To the OP..I can only imagine what you have been going through....I'm sat here with tears running down my cheeks..Your strength is giving me the courage...thank you..and bless your little angel. | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 5/3/2007 9:00:47 PM | | so thursday was the funeral and i thought that i had it together finally...i finally didnt think i could cry at all...i finally could keep food down or even stand to look at it or smell it even...i finally could see a picture of my son with out crying...i finally thought that i could have cried all my tears....i finally thought i had the strenght to cry on...well i was wrong...i cried alot looking through the pics people had shared and put in the book...i threw up before the funeral i cant tell you how many times...and in my head i cursed at God so much...we had a dinner thing after it at my house and i couldnt stand the sight,smell or taste of food...i tried to eat so many times and it didnt work...i just want to lay in bed and do nothing...i dont have the strength for anything...i wish that i could be with my family that got taken away from me...how could of this happened...i feel like screaming and im sure ive done it at least once out loud...i just dont know how to go on | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 5/3/2007 9:07:02 PM | I won't even pretend to know what you're going through...I can't imagine what it must feel like.
The only "advice" I can give you is to give it time, focus on how much he meant to you, the good memories, and just let yourself grieve.
Just remember, there are a lot of us out there who are thinking about you and your son. | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 5/4/2007 6:14:23 AM | | I really wish I could hold you right now and let you sob til you slept with exhaustion. I can imagine you cant breath and feel like your world has ended. The pain of losing a child is the worst pain anyone could feel and I am so sorry. Dont hold in your emotions, it will make you ill, if you cant to cry, cry. If you want to scream, scream. Take every day as it comes and I pray you keep the strenght to keep going and start to heal. XXX | |
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mare29
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Joined: 12/16/2006
Msg: 139 | |
| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 5/6/2007 8:27:44 PM | I wish we had the answers to why this happens,why all the pain,why a little boy's life would be cut short ,why you would lose your wife and both your children.
Your family has the answers and they are all together watching over you with love.
Cry and scream do whatever you have to do to survive ,you have the right don't hold it back. Then when your ready do things that will keep the memory of your son and wife and baby girl alive. Your family can live through you .
Just remember there are many people who are thinking about you and praying for you.
Beyond The Rainbow's End
Beyond the rainbow's end, there lies
The land of love and light.
Where shadows never dim the skies,
For there ~ there is no night.
And though the loss is hard to bear,
of loved one, or of friend,
We know that we shall find them there ~
Beyond the rainbow's end.
~ Katherine Nelson Davis
God Bless
Mare29 | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 5/6/2007 9:09:56 PM | | It is so tragic to lose a child at such a young age, and from reading your profile that other little boy needs you. So don't give up. Both you and that boy have lost so much, but you two was brought together to be there for each other in difficult times, such as this. I am praying for you right now, that you can have the strength to get through this. I wish I could find more words to comfort you, but it is difficult when you don't understand why some people have so much loss in their lives. From what have read on here you have had alot of loss. *big hugs* God bless you and keep you near. Take care, Amanda | |
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mare29
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Joined: 12/16/2006
Msg: 141 | |
| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 5/12/2007 6:25:42 AM | Hi,
You haven't been on the forum since your son's funeral and of course I understand but I want you to know that I am thinking about you and praying for you..I hope you have lots of support from your family and friends to help you cope with the loss of your son.Know that you and your son have touched many hearts by reaching out to us all .Hold onto your friends son he will need you and you will need him. Never give up you have so much life left to live and you can do so much with it. Cherish your life as your son would want you to,remember your family can live through you.
Sending you my strength .
take care
Mare 29
Life is a journey,
Death is the continuation of the journey,
Heaven is a temporary rest,
For the commencement and fullfillment,
Of a new life, a new hope
And a new promise.
Sri Chinmoy | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 5/12/2007 3:44:23 PM | | My husband died of cancer when both of my kids were very young. They were 5 and 2.. My 5 year old son .. watched what happened everyday.. went to the appts with us.. sat in the medical day unit every couple weeks for treatments.. Witnessed all the other chemo patients first hand. My son didnt have to be told.. cause we didnt hide anything from him. My daughter was only two .. and she didnt know what was going on.. and certainly didnt understand the entire "death" situation. Today they are 14 and 11. and for the most part.. have grown into decent human beings. | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 5/12/2007 7:17:12 PM | | I Am very sorry to hear that u are going through this urself hope u and ur son the very best and hope he gets better very soon and will keep him in our prayers | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 5/22/2007 12:10:52 AM | | well it has been almost a month and still feels like yesterday...but i think that it will even years from now...i want to thank everyone for the thoughts and prayers and trying to keep my spirit up right now...its hard to do...if anyone knows any good ways to get to sleep please let me know...im still not sleep well these days but i eat alittle more...i still dont know how it feels to smile or laugh...right now im battling the flu and i think im losing i dont know...this just started yesterday and i didnt think that it would be the flu..well i dont have much to say right now but i might later...for now though everyone take care and have a good night | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 5/22/2007 1:21:35 PM | I've been following the progress of you both, and am so so sorry to read that he has now passed away, there is rarely anything anyone can say in these situations that make it right, however, know that thoughts from England are with you!
Time is the biggest healer. You'll cope in the resilliant way that you have so far and eventually you'll find a peaceful place to hold him for ever. If there is nothing else that i can say, i will say this, you are allowed to feel the way you do right now, it's all part of the process and you are doing just fine x | |
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mare29
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Joined: 12/16/2006
Msg: 147 | |
| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 7/7/2007 11:09:44 PM | Hi,
I continue to think and pray for you and your adopted son , and hope that you will both find peace within. Your son is in a safe place free from pain being held by his mother and watching over your both. One day you shall be together again.That belief will help you to survive and live your life the best you can for your family.
Take care
Mare | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 7/10/2007 2:52:22 PM | | I really really feel i've been sat here reading through it and it brought back memories of a friend who lost her child i can't say anything that will make u feel better but i can send u my love xxxxxxxx | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 7/10/2007 5:37:36 PM | I can kinds relate to how you are feeling. Little girl was diagnosed with Autism and seizures at the age of 19 1/2 months. Now at the age of 6 she was diagnosed with a rare neurological disorder called Rett Syndrome. After all the lies and Meds that the doctors have put her on nothing has helped her until now. Only one problem. She more than likely won't live until adulthood. I have had a feeling that something more was wrong with her, but never could get a straight answer out of the doctors. She doesn't speak, her legs are stiffining up, and she will spend the majority of her life in a wheelchair. She has 4 other siblings that seem to reject her. However, she is my lifeline. I don't know what I would do when it came to her time. But I do know that it scares me to live without her. She has taught me more than anyone in my life. As long as you know in your heart that you will be with Luke again in time everything will be ok. Just remember that he will be watching over you. I tried to send you a message but it wouldn't let me. It takes time to heal. That is all you can do is give it time. It will hurt alot, but mine isn't gone yet but it still hurts me that one day she will be. So I deal with it in my own way by myself. I don't have much support, so that is why I do it by myself. | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 7/10/2007 9:45:55 PM | | the sadest thing for any parent is to see thier children suffer or to out live them . the truth always first of all. next let the child know regardless you'll be there for them next above all give more love the child who as undying love will under stand and have peace of mind and heart children are not stupid they make mistakes and learn from them so how you approach them will determine the initial and final out come trials of the heart and soul | |
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