| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 7/11/2007 8:38:04 AM | | it is truly a great loss when you lose a child noone can tell you how to feel or that it will be easy..but you have to think of it like this... God wanted that child it was gods time with the child and that child is in a better place than any of us... no crime..no prejudice..no murder just blissful times... not an easy thing at all i lost a grandchild but i look at it as I now have my own personal guardian angel looking over me and he who was sick is not suffereing anymore... my prayers go out to anyone who has lost a child or has a sick child now... may god bless you and keep you | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 8/12/2007 6:18:04 PM | I am not real familiar with this site, so had no idea you had all this going on. I just ran into your profile once and read that you had lost your son. My heart goes out to you and the pain and suffering your little boy went through is just not fair. I had no clue. I apologize now for not knowing this was here and actually reading what you lived through. I hope all is going well for you. My prayers are with you. Take care of yourself and Luke, hold him tight! :)
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 8/21/2007 12:16:37 AM | | thank you for people that keep reading for post...im trying to raise awareness for childhood cancer and its not the easiest thing but i like doing it...i wear a bracelet for my son and also try to remember him one way or another everyday...alot as changed in my life...for those who know me they know what it is...if you want to know just message me and ask and ill tell you..i dont mind...i hope everything is going good with you and your families whoever you might be reading this...i want everyone to know that im doing alittle bit better but im still learning cope it isnt easy i know that...again tough thank you everyone *hugs* | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 8/21/2007 6:05:11 AM | oh my that is literally the hardest question i have come across so far....i just thought about that for 20 mins...and all that happened was my heart fell to my stomach and i felt sick.....i dont know what i would say....i hope your son pulls through, jsut hearing about it and putting myslef in your shoes made my head spin, i dont know how you are coping, but god you are probably doing it better than i would be.....
i pray everything goes well for you.... | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 8/21/2007 6:27:44 AM | covering my ears: I'm not listening, I'm not listening!
I nearly die when I listen to the St. Judes radio-thon when they do that in my town. I can't even think about it. I listened to that thing all the way home from Marietta GA to Newnan GA one day, and got to the school to pick up my daughter from "After School" and had to sit down in a chair and hold her for a minute.
This is not something I can even conceive of. | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 8/29/2007 12:53:42 AM | | again its me writing in the middle of the night becuz i cant sleep..i dont think ill ever be able to sleep like i use to again...then again it is again feeling like yesterday since he died...why cant this just all go away...why cant i just changed what happened?...i dont think there was a reason to lose him..again i just want to lay in bed and do nothing...im sorry im sure you all are tired of hearing from me and all about this...i got some news the other day and im still in shock...i hope everyone who reads this is doing ok | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 8/29/2007 1:28:34 AM | take from me yes that is the hardest thing in the world to do...age yes plays a very large part in it. on may 18th, 2006 after many months of suffering and on her death bed my daughter was diagnosed with high risk acute lymphoblastic leukemia. my daughter is now 13. she had already been through a lot so i was straight up with her and never ever hid anything from her. we cried omg did we cry...she begged not to die... and thanks to a very special and wonderful set of doctors, she is doing very good today. she has just started the 8th grade. so again be honest with them if they are at an age to understand. listen listen listen to your doctors they are very very helpful, do not hide things from them trust me they pick up things quick. and do not pity them..they do not like that. this has made my daughter a very strong and courageous and faithful person, that will carry her into a very strong adulthood, yes it robbed her of a lot of her childhood, but she is picking up where she left off. if any one out there ever wants to talk or hear more just contact me. and to those that are going throught this god bless!!! | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 9/2/2007 7:45:51 AM | | that is a hard one i would probaly sit them down at home and explain to them why they dont feel good and what is going t obe done to help them feel better | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 9/2/2007 8:03:23 AM | See me for who I am,
I believe the best way to handle this situation is to do research on the type of cancer the child has, which in most cases for children is leukemia, and the treatments or centers available... the best is ST. Judes Children's Hospital. Then, you sit down with your child and gently explain to them what cancer is, that it can be treated, and that you are always there for them to hold their hand and uplift their heart. If you are a christian family then you should let your child know that God is with him/her at all times and that He loves them. The child is going to have to deal with the situation regardless of what you tell them... I think that if they don't go into it all blindly then things will be a little less threatening for them. You should always educate yourself and your child on any type of illness that may come along.
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 9/2/2007 9:27:04 AM | Sorry about your child. My son when he was about 9 asked me about death but I was the one ill. He was so mature and asked "Momma if one of us dies how can I contact you?" He asked, "Does God allow long distance calls?' I realized he knew the concept of the conversation. I told him when your body dies, your soul goes to God and you are then an angel. It is such a beautiful place where his grandmother would be there with him and anytime he talked to me I would hear everything he said. Take this time to spend as much time with him as possible. He probably already senses a change taking place.
With well wishes & prayers,
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mare29
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Joined: 12/16/2006
Msg: 161 | |
| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 9/2/2007 9:18:24 PM | I for one am not tired of hearing from you about this.My sweet great neice has been dealing with Leukemia for two years now,she is surviving but she has lost many little friends to this horrible monster of a disease.
This disease is so unfair, snatching beautiful little lives and causing so much pain and grief. Life will not be easy for you, but you are going in the right direction by trying to make people aware of this horrible disease. Keeping your son's memory alive is so important, no one should ever forget what he went through ,it's the only way to find a cure . Please go to this link , these people lost their beautiful little 3 year old daughter to cancer. I believe they can help you ,they are doing so much to keep Shelby's memory alive.
http://caringbridge.org/visit/shelbygagne
I will continue to pray for you.
Mare29 | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 9/5/2007 11:48:44 PM | | tonight of all nights im having the worse time just dealing...i sat here and do things but then i stop and start to cry for no reason...i wish there was a reason and then that would be easier to understand...i hurt so badly and i dont know how to make it stop...should i just hurt or hold it in or find a way to make it stop?...i go and visit my son at least 5 days a wk and just sit there...i sit there with them all and i will not lie becuz im sure you all will know it but i wish to be with them...i dont see a reason her for me anymore but to hurt becuz ive lost my family...i cant really do everyday things and if i do then im a zombie...im one at work,in the store and even at home sometimes...ive yet put away things that ive got left of his...i hold one of his stuff animals he loved to sleep with...the one he just had to have to sleep with or he wouldnt sleep got buried with him...ive got this one and i just cry when i hold it...all i can think sometimes is whats wrong with me...sometimes i just cry in the middle of the store...the other day i did becuz i seen something he use to want to try so badly and i told him no and now i wish i would have let him try it...then theres other things he love to eat and i seen them and i start to tear up..i wish there was just some one out there i could talk to late at night at this time when i cant sleep and all i do is just think becuz of it being quiet...but then i wonder if they would understand me at all?...would they understand the things i do?...would they really want to hear about it all?...im sure they wouldnt even if they said they do...i just dont know what to do anymore...i wish it could have been me and not him or maybe both of us | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 9/6/2007 1:34:53 AM | Most children sense there's something wrong without us telling them. Depending on their age, I'd tell only as much as they need to know to try to get better without scaring the pants off them.
My first born had cancer. Even as a baby - she died at 20 months - she knew she was sick. She was wise way beyond her years which showed in her behaviors toward others and how she conducted herself over all. | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 9/6/2007 4:24:56 AM | Very hard question to answer.....I guess it would depend on many factors...such as the the age of the child and the personality.
I have had a few experiences of losing family members as children and it is never easy to deal with. As human beings we always question ourselves and our actions....but we can only do what we think is right. | |
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| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 9/6/2007 8:31:37 AM | | This is very heartbreaking for you and my heart goes out to you. I wish I knew the answer to your question but I myself would have no idea how to explain that to my son who is 14 now. Maybe you should ask your doctor on advice how to talk to him about this and maybe the doctor will be there with you to help you explain this. Im so sorry to hear this news and I hope you keeps us updated as time goes on. | |
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mare29
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Joined: 12/16/2006
Msg: 166 | |
| i got question for all the parents out there
Posted: 9/11/2007 7:49:12 AM | Have you contacted your primary care physician ,he may be able to direct you to maybe a 24 hour hotline or a therapist to help you cope.
Or contact the American Cancer Society in Topeka ,Kansas -785-273-4422
Continuing to pray for you.
Mare29 | |
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