| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/12/2007 8:43:51 AM |
When you're looking at profiles, how important is it that there is a picture available? Do you only talk to woman who have pics? And if you don't talk to women without pics, why? Just curious as I've never posted a pic.
Its a deal breaker. Lets be honest for a minute - we are visual creatures and for many of us, we require some level of attraction to elevate someone from "friend status" to "lover status".
While many of us on here are open to making more friends, we -are- on a dating site so we would like to meet people with the potential of having a relationship. This therefore requires at least some level of attraction which is easily assessed when a picture is available.
It is 2007 for god's sake - you can have photos developed and scanned on to CD for very cheap. There is -no- reasonable excuse not to have a picture in your profile.
_james_
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/12/2007 12:39:11 PM | If you contact me, I expect a pic. Even if it is not public, I expect one.
Why? Because I'm willing to bet that if you contacted me you did so (most likely) because of my pic. Yeah, you like what I say, but at the end of the day, you liked my pic. And guess what? If you've gotten an e-mail from me, I likely sent it because I think you're attractive first and then I liked what your profile said. | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/23/2007 1:07:18 PM | It's true what u said not everyone has something to hide just because they don't have a picture.Looks aren't everything but i notice on this website a lot of the guys won't reply until they see a picture.Most of the guys that r asking4 a picture should take a good look at their own picture before judging someone else!!!!: | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/23/2007 1:59:40 PM | If there is no pic, then you need to have one avail. that is current.
I have had many disappointments w/ 5-10 yr. old pics and for some ungodly reason women think BBW size (size 16+) is considered "average". | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/23/2007 5:46:43 PM | | I don't waste much time talking to someone who isn't willing to put a pick up. Some women are more comfortable e-mailing a pick and not posting it, which is fine, but their profile doesn't stick out and I don't go on easter egg hunts. | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/23/2007 6:18:56 PM | | I think pics are very important. I wont reply to an e-mail if they don't have a pic, I prefer to see who it is I am talking to and hope that it's really them and not their neighbor. | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/27/2007 11:51:45 PM | I only chatt with those that have a picture. Ever go thru and look at the long list of Profiles? Numerous. So to read every single one gets to be a lot of work.
Not to mention, what if your not attracted to them?
For instance I don't go for black ladies, or BBW types. With a picture I can weed those out quicker.
Now on a web site where a picture search doesn't turn up many Profiles... Like Plentyfish.com for instance. LOL... I might take time to read the individual profiles that have no pictures. But I don't click interest on them as quick. Its like blind dating. Your always nervous about that blind date until you see them.
So a picture is very important. | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/28/2007 12:02:41 AM |  Kasplash...She tricked me into buying her probably her "third" dinner for the night.
I do agree have to have a picture...like to see the eyes. | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/28/2007 12:19:50 AM | | No pic = 0 responses. Everyone's about the pic. Here's my experience: Now that I don't have a "dating" pic (or profile), 0 contact. A year ago with a prior profile, I had pictures, and had multiple contacts per week. Without a pic, they expect the worst, and you should too. | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/28/2007 3:08:40 AM | I struggled with the decision whether to post a pic or not. I live in a small town and the general opinion here is that people at online dating sites are pathetic losers. The reason I am online is because some of the local men I have been out with are pathetic losers I didn't want to have to defend the fact that I am not settling for that and am looking for more in a relationship, no matter what means I have to use to find it. In the end I decided that it is my life and if I expect an honest, open conversation with someone I am talking to online, they deserve to have a visual of who they are talking to. I just wish some of the men I have met in person would have been more honest in their profiles and pictures. Its not just the ladies who fool ya.  | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/28/2007 3:50:49 AM | Having a pic on site is important. I too, do not wish to look at a blank square. Updating pic's though is just as important. Would I chat to someone without a pic? Sure, but I would tell them they have seen me, it's only fair I see them.
If a person describes themselves as something they are not, then how bad would they feel if they 'fell' for someone who wants to meet them in person? | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/28/2007 7:41:45 AM | A picture is important but not first in my priority list... more like 3rd or 4th. I prefer to read the profile first (pic or no pic) to look for qualities I find attractive such as maturity and intelligence. Then I will look for red flags. If I'm still interested i'd like to chat for a bit to see if there is any spark of interest on either side.
Profiles with 8 or more pictures of different poses turns me off right away and i won't even read what's written. It give me the sense the person is self-centered and puts too much weight on looks.
No picture on my profile because I find it eliminates the window shoppers. Will gladly give up a photo if asked. | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/28/2007 7:44:34 AM |
If a person describes themselves as something they are not, then how bad would they feel if they 'fell' for someone who wants to meet them in person?
The problem with that statement is that the people who do misrepresent themselves in here couldn't care less about you. They just don't care about wasting your time. I have personally been tricked 4 times in here so I can tell you right now that pictures don't mean anything at all...Trust me on that one
A 10 year old picture of a person that is not even remotely close to who they are today…How about one from her much younger sister as she didn’t think it would matter as she believes that they look the same or even one that was obviously altered to make them look much slimmer...better?
When you meet someone from in here, it’s a gamble until you see her or him in front of you. If you do meet someone who misrepresented who they truly are, there’s absolutely no need whatsoever to be polite. Tell them what you truly think of them and leave immediately. Perhaps it will make a difference when they will attempt the same game with another person.  | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/28/2007 4:13:41 PM | | A pic of the person is important. I have a hard time replying to a pic of a pet cat as their only image or cropped pic of a pair of eyes <<W T F? | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/28/2007 10:38:37 PM | A pic is crucial cause you wanna know who you are "talking too". Not a matter of "looks" per se. I almost never send mail or reply to a picless profile, unless there something in that profile which really strikes me as super duper!
"Profiles with 8 or more pictures of different poses turns me off right away and i won't even read what's written. It give me the sense the person is self-centered and puts too much weight on looks".
More than 8? Not possible! More than one pics is preferable cause they give a better idea of the person "in front" of you. Only one pic is "poor". Even 8 is OK. Do not see it as "self centered" (some people....)!!!
2 cents
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/28/2007 10:42:13 PM | KUDOS to Rustoleusmaximus, 
I agree 100% ! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Also, know this..... Sometimes, people do not want others to be interested
& make contact, based solely on the way one looks. I have learned in the life.... How
one Looks, does not speak for their character in the slightest.
Thanks :) | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/28/2007 10:55:23 PM | | Correct me if I am wrong but the following rationale does not justify absence of pic in a profile: "...Sometimes, people do not want others to be interested & make contact, based solely on the way one looks". Not "base solely", right, but no pic means not based AT ALL on the way one looks! | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/29/2007 5:21:31 AM | | That's so wrong, I haven't got a pic on here but i'm a pretty girl, just because there's no pic doesn't mean that i'm not actually who I say I am or a huge, ugly monster!!!! I'd like men to be interested in me for me and not just because of my looks!!!!! | |
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