| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/29/2007 5:29:43 AM | What is so wrong?
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I have a shirtless pic on here but i'm an intellectual man, just because there's a shirtless pic, that doesn't mean that i'm not actually who I say I am or what my look say!!!! I'd like women to be interested in me for me as a whole and not just because of my intellect !!!!! | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/29/2007 6:08:28 AM | If you are just looking for friends or chat buddy, it is irrelevant. I think a RECENT picture is imperative for dating, long term, marriage etc. My time is just as valuable as anybody's & if there is no attraction, I need to bless them on their way. I have had men send a picture later & then you are stuck with how to gracefully tell them they are a troll & to stay under the bridge. Probably a major factor in why they didn't post a pic in the first place. It's extremely awkward & I hate being less than truthful.
In no way is this being superficial for men or women. It is superficial to pretend that "looks don't matter."
If that's your ONLY criteria, then you are terribly shallow. | |
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sc29
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Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 53 | |
| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/29/2007 7:04:04 AM | | I've never really gone for a person just because of their looks I like to be able to 'click' and have a laugh with someone,looks aren't that important to me but saying that I do draw the line at trolls! | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/29/2007 10:06:56 AM |
I think a RECENT picture is imperative for dating, long term, marriage etc.
I couldn't agree more. Physical attraction is the number one reason for someone to go out with another person. For those who are saying that looks don't matter, I say you are full of shit. It is true for animals as it is for humans so please stop kidding yourselves. If there's no physical attraction, all that you will have is friendship.
A RECENT picture is very important for online dating. You might not want to post it on a permanent base but if you contact someone, sending a picture is a must.
I've never really gone for a person just because of their looks I like to be able to 'click' and have a laugh with someone Sure, if you are looking for friendship.
looks aren't that important to me but saying that I do draw the line at trolls! Hmmm...funny. A troll to you could be a good looking person for another. Are you sure that looks are not that important to you? Sure sounds like it is quite important if you ask me.
No picture...no answer? I agree 100%. | |
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Game0n
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Joined: 2/23/2007
Msg: 56 | |
| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/29/2007 12:34:34 PM |
It's true what u said not everyone has something to hide just because they don't have a picture.Looks aren't everything but i notice on this website a lot of the guys won't reply until they see a picture.Most of the guys that r asking4 a picture should take a good look at their own picture before judging someone else!!!!:
Wooh... back up just a tad newfiegirl... who's judging?? OP asked the guys a honest
question and the guys gave a honest answer. Are you now saying you would rather
us tell you a lie and say "No no... it's okay... no picture is okay."
If you don't think you'll like the answer... why ask the question!!
"Does these pants make my but look big..." yikes!! Another loaded question!!
Let's just be friends here eh!
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Game0n
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Joined: 2/23/2007
Msg: 57 | |
| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/29/2007 12:49:44 PM | my girlfriend and I were at a bar and this guy came up and said "hey I
saw you on the dating site!!" That was pretty embarassing as I did not want the
world to know I was searching on a dating site.
I'm just curious... why would that be embarassing? The guy in the bar seen you on
an online dating site... what the heck do you think he was doing there?
The whole idea of going on an online dating site is to let people know you are
actually available... unless of course you are a what... a closet dater?
Everyone has their own reasons for keeping private but this... whatever.
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/29/2007 6:13:35 PM | | I agree macky...if I am going to date the cat..then it's ok cause he was cute lol...Looks are important...he only has to be attractive to me though. A friend I wouldn't need a picture because they don't have to be attractive. | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/29/2007 7:08:06 PM | | Of course a pic is important if one is on this site looking for a date! I wouldn't walk around a singles bar with a blindfold on, why am I going to do it here? | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/29/2007 7:44:11 PM | Okay, right in the first lline I am going to say that
THIS IS ONLY MY OPINION AND HOW I SEE IT,
so before I hear all the angry crap from the women who have every excuse for not posting a photo tattooed on their arm for easy reference..... this is just the way I see it.
I believe if you don't post a photo it indicates a lack of confidence in your appearance. I see self esteem issues and prefer not to get into that.
Also, it's about a level playing field. You see me, I see you.
I have heard them all.
*I live in a smalll town and people will recognize me. - Then stay off of here. If you don't want to be recognized, you shouldn't be on a dating system. The idea of being on here IS to be recognized.
*I don't have any recent photos. - Take one. Kinko's will do it.
*I have pictures but no scanner. - Wal-Mart will scan your photo to a CD.
*I am in the public eye. - That means "I am embarassed that being in the public eye I still need to grovel on the internet for dates."
I will always believe that it's mainly a lack of pride and confidence in yourself. Why do I say that? Look at my profile. Someone that looks like ME posts photos.... everybody should!!!
And whatever you do, make it an HONEST picture. Recent, and NOT your Glamour Shot. You will never again look like you did when the professional makeup and lighting guy took those photos. Show us what you look like every day.
I actually went to Glamour Shots. They told me that they couldn't help me because I had so little to work with....
(rimshot)
And make sure the photo reflects what you are looking for. If you post 8 photos of your tits, ass, thighs and general crotch area, the message you are sending is that you are looking for a guy that wants to play hide the salami. If that isn't what you are looking for, post photos where you are dressed like a classy, mature woman and not a hooker. That may set the 22 year old guys into a drooling frenzy, but those of us with some mileage on us have long since grown out of that phase. | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/29/2007 9:30:59 PM | Even with a picture, it's often difficult to tell what the lady looks like. I've met some who must've posted a picture of their younger sister or one taken during the Carter administration.
However, a picture is important, at least if you're searching for a relationship. Guys are visual creatures and there has to be some physical attraction and you are fooling yourself if you think otherwise.
And while I'm at it, a few pointers might be helpful.
 Unless you wear a hat fairly often, don't wear one in your only picture. They usually aren't flattering.
If you want to post a picture from a studio, don't use the one where they've had you tugging on your collar. I have never seen a women actually do that and it looks silly.
I'm not interested in your cat.
If there is another guy in the picture, crop him out or explain that he's your brother or whatever. We aren't secure enough to think anything else but "Is that her last boyfriend?"
 Cleavage still works. | |
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sc29
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Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 64 | |
| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/30/2007 7:22:49 AM | | Hey gentalltheway, think you're right on that one,i've been single for far too long now and my mates say it's all my fault cos i'm a nice looking lass and just far too picky, will go in search of a few trolls, lol!!! | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 3/30/2007 7:32:24 AM | I'm not interested in your cat. 
...or dog ....or neices/nephews .... or yer fave painting/pic... or the Cyclops pic... or yer living room... or blurry pics of yer european vacation, ANY blurry pics for that matter... or the *Hiding behind a pillow, flower vase, kids, tree, chair* ...or lets not forget the *Laying on the floor/bed* straight-on shot.... cuz yer self conscious about certain body parts.
Personally... If I wanted to see what ya look like, how about a pic of first thing in the morning before the paint goes on... what you look like when ya go grocery shopping. Something real.... no surprises.
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 4/13/2007 2:57:52 PM | | Just like when you are not online and meeting new people, the first thing that attracts you to that person is the way they look and then the way they carry themselves. More than one pic can give you some idea about that. Different poses in different situations can give you some idea of their lifestyle and sense of humor (which is extremely important to me). Whenever I log on to this site after checking emails, I see who viewed me and always look at the profiles with pics before looking at the ones without. If that makes me seem shallow, so be it. I am human and its human nature to want to know who you are talking to. | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 4/13/2007 5:23:50 PM | Personally, it depends on the picture.
I'd rather not see a pic than a huge chunk of what's been posted. At least with the ones that turn up without pics on *Searches*, I'll take a read and see if anything jumps out. However even *Searched* profiles with crappy pics generally get a pass. I'm talking about the quality of the picture taking, not just *how good* you look. Jessica Biel is a hottie, but out of focus with glaring lights, she's nothing special. Make sure you're visible - far to many *action* shots don't seem to have any people in them until you squint.
My preference:
One good head shot (six to ten slightly different poses are wasted, don't do it)
One good body shot of just you or it's obvious (to someone who doesn't know you!) who you are
the rest - action/lifestyle shots to express your personality
(yes, yes I'm working on mine  )
The engagement of the profile is part of it, as is the picture. If part of that mix is missing, then the ones with pictures are ahead.
My ranking:
A great picture and a great profile
No picture and a great (searched) profile
A picture and a profile
A bad picture and any profile
If you don't have a picture and you didn't come up in a search it's unlikely I'll ever see your profile to read it, no matter how good it is. | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 4/13/2007 5:37:20 PM | | when i am searching through the men in my area i tend to just skip over the ones with no pictures . there has to be something there to draw you in . if someone contacted me and had no picture though i would chat with them so long as when we talked for a little bit they would show me a picture. i would afterall like to see who i am talking too. a picture though only can give you an idea what someone looks like. you wont know 100%what they look like until you meet. | |
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dpd22
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Joined: 11/9/2006
Msg: 70 | |
| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 4/14/2007 4:24:32 PM | | I don't have a problem with a woman contacting me without a pic on her profile, but they should have a pic of themselves available to email me. Looks are a factor, but not the only factor. I wouldn't date someone who I think is unattractive, but I would rather date an okay looking woman with a great personality and has some common interests with me over an atrractive woman that I'm not compatible with. | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 4/14/2007 4:40:02 PM | | pics are nice but I seriously doubt the ages of some of the ladies on here. Not that they are unatractive but I have seen some twenty somethings whose pics look closer to the 35-40 range and some who post high school pics. | |
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| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 4/14/2007 4:57:14 PM | | I figure it this way.....We are all attracted to a certain type of person. Some like em big, some like em small, others like it in between, and if the attraction isn't there.... nothing is going to happen. I think everyone should be proud of who they are and let everybody know what they look like, I'm not just talking about a head shot, or as I've seen the tits and up. That just makes me think your embarrassed about who you are and if you dont love yourself you probably shouldn't be here until you do | |
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dpd22
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Joined: 11/9/2006
Msg: 73 | |
| How important is a pic for the profile?
Posted: 4/14/2007 6:39:13 PM | | Another thing I have noticed. Some women will have 2 or more pics and look completely different. She could look 25 in pic and 40 in another pic. I have nothing against 40 yr old women. I think some women in their 40s are attractive. Just pointing out the age difference. Some women can look great in one pic and below average in another pic. In some cases, a woman can look different because of legit reasons. Hairstyle, camera focus and/or brightness etc. I'm sure these things also apply to some men as well. | |
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