| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:54:29 AM | Hittman... you hit the nail on the head in this argument... I delete an email from someone who says "Nice Azz," generally ignore the "You're hot" emails (don't always believe your own press), and am at least polite enuf to send a "thank you for the lovely compliment" to those who tell me "you're beautiful, or "I love your smile," even if I am not interested at first glance. Do the math -- doesn't that indicate more chance for success with the final approach than the other two? Does that provide some percentages for you men who like to average odds? | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/13/2007 12:37:20 PM |
I don't think there is a pat answer here... everyone is different. When in doubt, don't. If the only reason you're emailing is on looks, then don't email. If you have something to say, go ahead
Disclaimer; If the following scenario seems creepy, then it's only hypothetical.
OK Janet, I READ your profile, and found you to be WAY sexy. But it goes far beyond your looks. Your attitude and your outlook on life are refreshing and very attractive, and yes, you're a looker. The kind of person I could envision being close to.
Now, I am cognisant of the fact that you live 400 miles away, it negates the likelihood of any [normal or healthy] interpersonal relationship between us. But reading your profile gave me a warm fuzzy and I felt a desire to reciprocate. My choice of words apparrently [out of the martian 'dating for dummies'] does not mesh with your [venutian ' what to expect from martian dummies for dummies]. I guess what would be a proper email would be something to the order of, "Hi Janet, I find your profile refreshing. I got a good feeling reading it and just thought I would let you know."
It just seems kinda bland. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/13/2007 2:56:08 PM |
I expect you are no different than anyone else on the planet that wants to be thought of as having a brain, can communicate and carry on an intelligent conversation. However you didnt leave me much room to be witty this time or let the Devils Advocate get in two words edge wise
I didn't realize you expected some type of motivational room and inspiration -- nor that you require this -- to be witty or advisorial in your responses... pity... here I was thinking you were quite self-sufficient. :) | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/13/2007 3:01:21 PM |
innuendos are best expressed with a straight face
I know. But some times it is really hard to keep a straight face. Some people (and some posts) just make me have to smile. And as someone once said, smiling too much can hurt after a while. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/13/2007 4:34:59 PM | itsakelticthing: I don't get creeped out easily. If someone sends me a short, slut-scoping email, I would either respond back inviting him to church, ignore it completely and hope that bugs them, send a thanks but no thanks, or scold them like hell... depending on my hormone levels at that particular moment.
No matter what, I always look at profiles... if only for ammunition. In your case, I would then see your FIRST DATE description:
We would leave my mom's house on my bicycle (you on the handlebars), Go to Wienerschnitzel and share some chili fries, then off to the bargain theater and see Tron. And if you still have money left, we could stop off afterwards and get a yoo-hoo at the local liquor store. After that we could go for a walk on the beach and poke stuff with sticks. Then we'll go make-out, and I'll blow in your ear to make you hot.....
and forgive whatever is it you said, tried to say, or tried not to say... | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/13/2007 5:10:01 PM |
After that we could go for a walk on the beach and poke stuff with sticks.
Hey Janet! Never knock poking things with sticks! It's a lot more fun than you might think it would be...
So I went to far on the phone with you? Damn. And as for you Eeek, since most women are not as free thinking as I am, I suggest the next time you call a woman for the first time, you might try to avoid using the following terms:
"Bootylicious"
"Moist"
"Sponge bath"
"Sticky Bottom"
"Do you want to dance on my pole baby?"
"Vast Tracts of Land"
"Cuffs"
"Would you consider forcing lactation?"
and finally
"No one expects the Spanish Inquisition, in my pants."
All the girls love Eeek, because he is a silver tongued devil. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/13/2007 5:25:07 PM |
All the girls love Eeek, because he is a silver tongued devil.
Yes, but it isn't because of what I say.
MOMINATRIX... I thought he only did this with me... what a player. I am taking him OFF my speed dial right now...
Noooooooo!!! I'm so ashamed. Please forgive me. I promise to be good from now on... | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/13/2007 5:34:04 PM | I can't believe some of the responses from the men on this. Maybe it's just me...but I think that word 'sexy' is better reserved for someone that you know on a more intimate level...not some random person trying to initiate contact or cultivate a new relationship.
There are connotations that go with that word that are just downright uncomfortable...and trust me...I am NOT a prude by any means. It's just a tacky overused phrase and to me personally...I get the mental image of a man that watches "Dukes Of Hazzard" re-runs and flexes in front of his bathroom mirror while ANY SONG from Loverboy blares in the background.
In my mind...the woman that WOULD want to hear that is a bleach blonde with mall bangs, filing her nails, lipstick smeared on her teeth and a David Coverdale thong on...waiting for her leg warmers to dry. Notsomuch.
A man can easily tell a woman that he thinks she's pretty or whatever...and that's fine. Nothing wrong with that at all...nothing out of the way or weird.
Pretty= You're pretty and I find you attractive.
Sexy=You're pretty and I'd like to bend you over a table and bang your brains out until you can't see straight...or until my Viagra wears off...or whichever comes first.... | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/13/2007 5:34:10 PM |
I don't get creeped out easily. If someone sends me a short, slut-scoping email, I would respond back inviting him to church
Yeah, Janet...that looks good on the surface of things. But you must think this through. What if this guy goes to church, "gets saved" and then goes to tele-evangelical school...THEN --he gets hooked on drugs--flunks out
(but he is very smart and devious) --so he has a little following that moves around the country...raising money by selling mood rings at airports all over the country...
A few years later...he forms this Church Of The Bleeding Hearted Jesus Boys ...that hold regular meetings at a super-secret location in an industrial warehouse somewhere in Vernon ...slowly building their membership –UNTIL –he’s caught by the authorities for tax evasion...and the entire group takes off to Barbados and end up getting cornered...
no where to go...they (as pre-arranged) drink kool-aid lased with cyanide...and another secret ingredient...
...causing them all to run like crazed banshees enmasse into the west
Atlantic Ocean,...while drowning –their crimson coloured water-based ink leeching out of their togas ...this as swarms of government helicopters with cameras and a live feed broadcast to television satellites and internet substations...all over the universe...is displayed... live... scarring little children’s memories forever...and ever and ever.
No, this is not a good idea Janet. You really need to think these things through. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/14/2007 2:50:25 PM | "or ladies and gentleman is that another catch 22 in our supposed world of equality between the sexes or has the saying "whats good for the goose is good for the gander," gone to the birds..."
i dont know what the hell you are talking about
but if YOU dont think sexy is an insult then that just means youre as desperate as the person calling you that. it has nothing to do with gender. my guy friend is on a different dating site and he gets emails from girls who want to jump his bones all the time. he doesnt respond to them, he thinks they are CREEPY. so no, its not a double standard. a girl saying a guy is sexy who she doesnt even know is just as creepy as a guy doing so. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/14/2007 2:54:50 PM | "In my mind...the woman that WOULD want to hear that is a bleach blonde with mall bangs, filing her nails, lipstick smeared on her teeth and a David Coverdale thong on...waiting for her leg warmers to dry. Notsomuch."
not even. the only women who want to hear that are fat ugly women who never get hit on and so appreciate ANY compliment that comes their way, even obscene ones...that or 13 year olds who havent learned that sluttiness isnt cool yet. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/14/2007 3:38:42 PM |
or 13 year olds who havent learned that sluttiness isnt cool yet.
Well stickgirl®™, if I were feeling peckish, I could say something about anorexic 21 year olds that post one their backs with their feet in the air as a way to attract men on a dating site. But I won't do that since I'm in a good mood today.
stickgirl®™ is a trade mark of Bill Butler, ninc. No rights reserved. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/14/2007 4:54:55 PM | lolnothnx,
Perhaps ranting is the best thing you know how to do, perhaps the rhetorical thought is beyond you. Oh wait you are probably way to young to understand what a "Catch 22" is.
But it would be best if you quoted the entire section of a statement and or read the whole thing prior to starting a rant. Oh and one other thing generalizations and attacking a group of people or supposing you know what or who they are is not always a good thing
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/14/2007 4:58:20 PM | Janet,
MMMMM, is there a cell or handcuffs that could contain you, lol I think the person that would attempt that better come prepared, so for the moment you may ELUDE ,
But only for the briefest of moments mind you. | |
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