| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/16/2007 11:37:14 AM | BILLBUTLER!!!!!
Wipe off that nose of yours!!! Its brown, stinky, and unnattractive!
Please tell me that you did NOT spend all that time writing that! No, I would never correct you grammatically- that would be a joke and people that do that have WAAAY too much time on their hands as do you apparently. Sorry but I stopped reading your rambling halfway down cause you are putting WAY too much energy into what I wrote.
Let me repeat what i posted-
"She is the neighborhood antagonist."
Gee, what a title. Must have a pretty boring life to have to be labeled like that. She must be oh-so-very proud. Some people just tend not to think before they speak / type. I love people that are impressed with other's sense of "humor" after obviously offending or annoying so many others.
This place is a trip!!!"
You said yourself - "She is the neighborhood antagonist." I didn't. Did you take a look at what some people said in response to what was written? PEOPLE WERE OFFENDED AND / OR PUT OFF!! Shall I quote them too? Hmmmm....and actually they were offended mainly by the fat girl comment which (and see, I have NO idea) I dont even know was made by your "Stick Girl" but was OFFENSIVE
"This cutting remark is unwarranted and offensive. “StickGirl®™” did absolutely nothing to offend you yet, you burst in here and blast her! Ppfftt!! ” Must have a pretty boring life to get your jollies by randomly viciously attacking others. sure...you are right—I AM mocking you! –Not because I am bored, but because you deserve it...disclaimer: .
This place is a trip!!!!
You need to take a trip—somewhere else."
UMMMMM..... You gave her the title once again. And I stand by what I said because I wouldnt want that title. It angers people, it puts people off and wants them to stay far away from you. Plus let's look at the dictionary term for someone that antagonizes someone- To incur the dislike of; provoke hostility or enmity in: antagonizes her officemates ith her rude behavior. AND I AM WRONG TO THINK THAT IS A PRETTY CRAPPY "TITLE" TO HAVE????? And who says that I wasnt offended??? How do you know? Do you know me? I could be the fattest bleach blonde mall hopping thong wearing bimbo in the world!!! But to say that "the only women who want to hear that are fat ugly women who never get hit on and so appreciate ANY compliment that comes their way" did seem to set people off a little. Yet once again- my response was not to her- IT WAS TO YOU. I still dont know who Stick Girl is or which post she put!
I BURST in here? No sir, I posted in here earlier and than read another response to her and was taken back by your "title". I blasted her? Ummm... once again no! My response was to you- not her. However, I think that people who want to antagonize others (remember, its hostile) should expect some backlash from their words.
"A vicious personal attack on Stickgirl®™ was your intention
Your goal was to denigrate, defame, slander, malign, belittle, criticize and put down this young woman and that is just plain wrong..." AND "Therein is the irony. You humiliate, disgrace, and make a public spectacle of Stickgirl®™ with hostility and contempt condemning her–For what! Is this how you get your jollies? While my friend Stickgirl®™ delivered her brilliance –in a comedic vein –in that context... You come in here and personally attack her! That is irony. It is also in very bad taste. "
Are you kidding me??? I humiliated, belittled, defamed, slandered "Stickgirl"??? Bill, did you get enough sleep? No, you putting this nine thousand word essay trying to put me in my place is pathetic. I cant believe that the small statement I said got you so wired up. If you read what you said calling me hostile, and than re-read the definition for someone who antagonizes (once again- the name YOU gave her) than you can see that you called her hostile from the get go. What are others to think from what came out of your very own head and and into this forum?
AND ONE MORE THING CHAMP, IF ANYTHING, I THINK THAT YOU ARE THE ANTAGONIST. SOME PEOPLE DO GET OFFENDED OR INSULTED, OR DO NOT LIKE IT WHEN SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING THAT IS SUCH A BLANKET STATEMENT (SUCH AS THE FAT PEOPLE COMMENT). THEY SHOULD EXPECT SOME BACKLASH IF THEY ARE QUICK TO HAVE SUCH A BIG MOUTH. I SAW HER SARCASM IN THE BLEACH BLONDE MALL HAIR COMMENT. I AM NO DUMMY AND HAVE AN INTENSE SARCASTIC SENSE OF HUMOR MYSELF. MY RESPONSE WAS TO WHAT YOU SAID AND HOW YOU SET HER UP YOURSELF. I AM NOT MALICIOUS NOT DID I BARGE IN HERE TO HURT ANYONES FEELINGS. I KIND OF LIKE THIS PLACE MINUS THE GUYS THAT THROW OUT "SEXY", OTHERS THAT FEEL THE NEED TO CORRECT ANOTHERS SPELLING SKILLS, AND NOW YOU FOR TAKING A HECK OF A LONG TIME TO TRY AND PUT ME IN MY PLACE AND MAKE ME LOOK STUPID! AS I SAID, THIS PLACE IS A TRIP. AND NO, IM NOT GOING TO "TAKE A TRIP SOMEWHERE ELSE". I KIND OF DIG THIS PLACE! STOP TRYING TO PUT OTHERS IN THEIR PLACE LIKE A BULLY AND TAKE UP A BETTER CAUSE.
I have so much more to say but I already have lowered myself to your level and spent too much time on this. Bill, people have every right to voice their opinions if they are disturbed by what someone else said. Remember that. Dont go and try and save your friend everytime she says something. She is a big girl who as I have heard is funny as hell but does seem to have a little diarreah of the mouth (and who of us doesnt). Im sure that she can defend herself. If she wants to defend herself than great although once again I was disgusted at you telling the forum when they were voicing their opinions (as they ARE allowed to) that she was the antagonist. I personally would have been miffed at anyone giving me that title. You set her up to others that do not "know" her in a bad light. PLUS, as we all know that since these are forums we cant always "hear" a person's tone of voice which leads to misinterpretations.
Got it?? And hopefully by now you have wiped that stink brown nose.
BTW... your whole tirad was so ludacis and completely untrue, boring, and uncalled for that I never even read the last half. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/16/2007 11:58:44 AM | TY hgh..... Ive noticed that now too!!! Plus (uugh, I dont even want to admit this) I just read the end of his ramble where he invites me to ask for help and tells me Im insecure. Obviously he makes a good case for that old saying what happens to you when you ASSume things about others.
Machoism at it's finest!!! | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/16/2007 1:06:45 PM | slprincess, you can always count on me to uplift! Ignorance is so annoying and when some people express it so blatantly, it is even more so!! I enjoy good banter but come on. I remember something my biological sperm donor always drilled into my head when I was growing up...Assuming only accomplishes one thing...making an ASS out of YOU and ME. Some people need to either learn that or re-learn it.  | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/16/2007 1:38:08 PM | Being In the situation of getting told that on a first contact. . .Yeah I do find it a bit creepy and weird. It kinda makes you think what type of person this guy is and why he is really talking to you.
Now I know not all guys having sleazy motives when they say things like that. But It can come off as being too eager. If you want to compliment her try to be a little more specific, like her eyes. Also avoid "sexy, hot, fine"
Overall, try to refrain from throwing out all of your compliments to her. Otherwise you wont have much to say In your next conversation. . .Unless she says that she is the type that luv's compliment. Then by all means give it to her. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/16/2007 7:32:18 PM |
Being In the situation of getting told that on a first contact. . .Yeah I do find it a bit creepy and weird. It kinda makes you think what type of person this guy is and why he is really talking to you
Now I know not all guys having sleazy motives when they say things like that.
Well put! The message shines brightly in the absence of contempt. I am sold. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/16/2007 7:39:10 PM | ^^Some people come off creepy no matter what they say... and the slightest hint of a sexual inuendo just adds to their perv-ness... and then there are some that are just so damn sweet they can get away with saying anything and you "know" it is with the best intentions.
Unfortunately many of these first types mistakes themselves for the second. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/16/2007 8:34:45 PM |
Lady Lois!!!! I like you even more!!! I call my biological father "the sperm donor" too!
Yes, slprincess, if I believed in the devil, he would be him! Ah, I digress...what are we talking about again???
Oh yes...you know, one time I got an e-mail from a guy who simply said one word:
yummy | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/16/2007 9:51:28 PM |
BILLBUTLER!!!!!
Wipe off that nose of yours!!! Its brown, stinky, and unnattractive!
Please tell me that you did NOT spend all that time writing that!
how much time ? -- Oh, slprincess time?
oh no! ...not even. Not a fraction of that amount of time...gezzzz...I am very busy with lots of important things to do! I couldn't possibly use that much time...ppfftt!! | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/16/2007 10:26:30 PM |
oh boy. unless you are some stupid ass prude, who cares if someone calls you sexy? isnt that a compliment?
It isn't that saying you are sexy is bad; it's that saying you are sexy in an unsolicited email can be really pathetic and a put off. The "hey, babe. I think ur sexy wanna get it on" emails have a class quotient that is many orders of magnitude less than the limit of 1 over x where x approaches infinity. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/16/2007 10:55:28 PM |
p.s. down there (where's the down arrow) oh anyway... I'm a "woman". We don't do math.
You do know the edit button is cheating, Janet? Besides, there's another red head I met a few years ago that turned out to have just graduated with a math degree and she was working at JPL. So at least some "women" do math just fine. 
Now have you figured out the value of that simple limit yet? | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/16/2007 11:39:19 PM | While I don't think I've ever said a girl was sexy directly, if a girl posts a pic where she's dolled up and acting provocatively I'll say the photo is sexy, I don't know that I would NEVER say a girl was sexy. Depends on the girl I guess. I don't like shooting myself in the foot.
Little rant...
The fact that some girls are creeped out by being called sexy is a little irksome to me though, to be honest. I can see being creeped out by guys who try to meet up right away, or who start talking about sex before the vibe is there, but people call inanimate objects sexy all the time. It doesn't have a lot of meaning. All you ladies out there can pretty much assume that any guy who writes you a message wants to have sex with you. Does a guy make an effort to get to know you? Is he friendly and open? Is he fun to talk to? Does he treat you like a human being as opposed to a vagina dispenser? I think that's what matters, not what random adjective he uses to indicate he thinks you're special. Honestly, we all like sex here (I hope!), it doesn't hurt anyone when all participants are consenting adults, there's absolutely no reason to be uptight about it, it's a perfectly normal human function, and a major part of what (eventually) separates "dating" from "hanging out"... So RELAX! We're in 21st century California, not 19th century England here :) | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/16/2007 11:43:37 PM |
The fact that some girls are creeped out by being called sexy is a little irksome to me though, to be honest.
But this thread is about initial emails. Would you email a woman (not a "girl") you don't know any call her sexy? I certainly wouldn't even if that's what I was thinking.
I can see being creeped out by guys who try to meet up right away, or who start talking about sex before the vibe is there
That's what we're talking about. There's nothing wrong with calling a women sexy when the time is right. But it is creepy when you do it before you've even spoken. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/17/2007 12:03:59 AM |
Personally, I try to focus on the profile in general and respond according to what I've deduced from the written words AND photos. I've had several successful contacts that have resulted in meaningful exchanges
You have the right idea. Most of the guys who first contact me with comments on my body or being sexy, only have one thing in mind - AsianAce is right - this is a dating site, not a sex site. I, too, would like to meet my soul mate, not just a f*** buddy. | |
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