| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/17/2007 1:04:04 PM |
Denny's IS edible
Usually. But there have been a few times...
Even moreso when you have consumed so much alcohol that your tongue is numb.
That does help a lot. The number the better in fact. I just hate the way they have those more expensive menus with little selection during the drunk hours. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/17/2007 1:25:40 PM | It can be taken whatever way it will be taken. It all depends on the person you're dealing with. Personally, I think everyone is beautiful in his or her own way. Having said that I am comfortable in my own skin. I am confident in my physical appearance and I don't need others to validate it. Not trying to sound****, but it is what it is. But on an initial contact level, if a guy were to approach me for the first time and say hey show me some naked photos -or- what's up sexy -or- display even the most remote type of sexual innuendo then yes I do take it in a personal level. It's rude, it's not right, and you don't approach anyone in that matter when you're just getting to know them for the first time. Just one person's opinion and a female's one at that. Bottom line, sincerity goes a long way. Trust me on this one.  | |
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| hotasianrunner
Posted: 3/17/2007 6:16:59 PM | hotasianrunner
if a guy were to approach me for the first time and say hey show me some naked photos -or- what's up sexy -or- display even the most remote type of sexual innuendo then yes I do take it in a personal level. It's rude, it's not right, and you don't approach anyone in that matter when you're just getting to know them for the first time. Just one person's opinion and a female's one at that. Bottom line, sincerity goes a long way. Trust me on this one.
This is very well stated and I think everyone can agree that an initial email should not be sexual in nature at all. Also, it makes you wonder about the sender of something you describe. How could someone sending something like that expect any response at all --much less a positive response. | |
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| hotasianrunner
Posted: 3/17/2007 6:34:22 PM | | What do "independent" women think of a hypothetical situation where they have enough "independent" cajones to be as upfront about their immediate and intimate relationship goals, as guys are? For example, would women complain as much about guys asking them for sex if it were socially acceptable for women to simply and honestly ask men for sex in the manner of us guys? As a proof of this logic, how many guys complain about being called sexy or women asking for sex from us? | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 12:52:51 AM |
For example, would women complain as much about guys asking them for sex if it were socially acceptable for women to simply and honestly ask men for sex in the manner of us guys?
We've got a ways to go before it's going to be socially acceptable for women to do that. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 1:35:52 AM | CTR916
For example, would women complain as much about guys asking them for sex if it were socially acceptable for women to simply and honestly ask men for sex in the manner of us guys?
who are you referencing as the "us guys" in the following ?
" in the manner of us guys? | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/19/2007 7:38:44 AM | | Nothing specific. Any average sampling will do (you can even factor out for excessive rudeness). I guess my point is, how much of that is our (guys) fault. We can talk rude and crude amongst ourselves and not consider it bad. We may sometimes forget that women are not "us" and try to talk to them as we would amongst ourselves (e.g. as guy friends). | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/20/2007 7:40:52 PM | I guess my point is, how much of that is our (guys) fault.
Our fault? The only ones at fault are those that engage in such borish conduct.
We can talk rude and crude amongst ourselves and not consider it bad.
What you consider ok amongst ourselves may not be the same as what I do.
We may sometimes forget that women are not "us" and try to talk to them as we would amongst ourselves (e.g. as guy friends).
Huh? We're talking about initial unsolicited emails here. You now, those emails where you are trying to impress the woman enough to consider you as a potential date. If you're too stupid to remember she's not a guy, I submit that you probably aren't good date material and she is well justified in using the block button.
This isn't the locker room. If it was, I'd be somewhere else that smells better.
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/20/2007 7:51:14 PM | | As a proof of my logic, how many guys complain about being called sexy or women asking for sex from us? Do you have any constructive criticism or are you proving that us guys can "engage in such borish conduct" and not consider it bad, betwixt ourselves? | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:02:52 PM | I don't think anyone is disputing the fact that women can be just as sexual as men. However, society has also conditioned them to feel bad for expressing themselves ina way found to be "unbecoming". Is it right, is it fair? No, probably not, but it is the way it is.
Guys are probably not complaining about being called sexy, because most women wouldn't choose that adjective to describe them in first contact.
Trust me, if you get a group of women alone together, they are just as raunchy and boorish as men, I can almost guarantee. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:03:07 PM |
As a proof of my logic,
Snort!
how many guys complain about being called sexy or women asking for sex from us?
Again we're not talking about in general here--this is about initial emails. I don't know how many guys complain about "being called sexy or women asking for sex" in initial emails but I am one that does not appreciate it. Sex without the mental connection just isn't attractive to me.
Do you have any constructive criticism
No, I'm just saying you are wrong. Do I need to use smaller words or something to get that across? | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:16:03 PM | | You are welcome to your subjective opinion. From a purely subjective point of view, I don't have a problem with women calling me sexy. And, I probably wouldn't be complaining about it if I did. I guess it is not considered socially acceptable for us guys to complain about raunchiness from women, or something. Don't you think that most guys give women a harder time if they are not receptive (raunchy enough) for us guys? | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:20:15 PM |
Don't you think that most guys give women a harder time if they are not receptive (raunchy enough) for us guys?
Honestly, I'm not sure I could answer this. I've always been sufficiently raunchy enough for anyone I've ever dated!  | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:28:46 PM | Men often greet me with "hey Sexy." It's an immediately turn off because to me it gives the impression of someone looking to get laid in a one-night stand or fling. I think they do that so we'll know what they're after, most of the time.
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:29:45 PM | I think you are being a tease, being as you are not close enough to be a booty call or FwB.
You have to admit that this thread probably wouldn't exist if women hadn't complained about being called sexy. Even if it is ok to use that same word if you are already in some form of relationship. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:32:15 PM | If you referring to me, I assure you, it was an honest statement, not meant to tease, as I wasn't even thinking about that.
You have to admit that this thread probably wouldn't exist if women hadn't complained about being called sexy. Even if it is ok to use that same word if you are already in some form of relationship.
Aren't most threads started by someone complaining about something?!?! Hahaha. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:36:11 PM |
Men often greet me with "hey Sexy." It's an immediately turn off because to me it gives the impression of someone looking to get laid in a one-night stand or fling.
Even if it isn't that, it still shows a lack of respect by being overly personal with someone you don't even know yet. I don't know about you, but I certainly don't want to "get laid" by someone that doesn't even respect me the night before. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:40:37 PM | | They could probably claim consistency. They wouldn't have to respect you afterwards, either. What if I called you sexy, Eeek? I don't want to get into your pants. Would you no longer have a phobia about being called sexy by women? | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/20/2007 8:48:00 PM |
They could probably claim consistency.
Huh? What would that matter?
What if I called you sexy, Eeek?
I'd just consider the source and move on. Picking one's battles is an important life lesson.
I don't want to get into your pants.
Yeah, right.
Would you no longer have a phobia about being called sexy by women?
I've never had a phobia about being called sexy. Once again you are ignoring the conditions I stated. Being called sexy or being asked for sex in an initial email is not the way to get me to do anything more than ignore or block your email. Women don't like and I don't like it. If you like it, that's your business. But if you send "hey, sexy" emails out, don't expect a lot of responses.
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/21/2007 12:28:42 AM |
I am hoping to learn more about relationships through human dynamics and role playing while practicing being non-judgmental. It is not so much that I am into playing games, but that I want to learn more about human dynamics and become better at relating and establishing better relationships.
Well, they say admiting you need help is the first step. Non-judgmental you say? Well, a good place to start would be by not calling people names when they do something that does not go along with what you see as being beneficial to you.
You want to learn about human dynamics? Try acting like a human.
Establishing better relationships? From all of your posts, it seems that you don't want any kind of relationship, other than one hand on the remote, and the other on your johnson. Forgive me if I am mistaken. Perhaps you'd prefer one on the remote, and another on eeek? After all, you did call him sexy, right?
'B' movies
You're talking about those wannabe p0rns on Skinemax after dark, aren't you?
I looked at your posting history, and every single post either had to do with being irate because women may take offense to being called sexy, or why people shouldn't date you. try a lil variety in life, it's nice. Women are not the root of all evil, and neither are men, if you honestly are serious about some of the things you've written in your profile, best of luck with that, I think you'll need it.  | |
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