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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/21/2007 1:32:31 AM | This is my new -improved Default Subject line for sending
emails on plenty-of-fish mail. I love it, and it was inspired
by this thread in association with someone special to me
who I like a lot.
+=------Hey Sexy------=+
I think it is just the coolest!
And there is nothing creepy
whatsoever about it.
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CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
Msg: 177 | |
| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/21/2007 9:34:32 AM | Sarcastic smiliey girl,
What if I told you I think you are sexy when you are being a sarcastic smiliey girl? Would you still find the word sexy, offensive?
Are you sure you are referring to me? Can you quote me on what I have said to people when they don't go along with beneficiality towards me? I think you may be exaggerating a bit. In any event, what you attribute to me, is what I have noticed you chicks doing to us guys when we don't tell you what you want to hear.
I always act human. How can it be otherwise if I recognize that I am a homo sapien sapien?
What made you think I don't want any kind of relationship if my profile explicitly states what I am currently looking for in forms of relating, and that includes relationships. As a concrete example of this, I would gladly have a booty call or FwB relationship with you if you lived close enough to be convenient.
It is unfortunate that you didn't get the concept behind my banter with Eeek. It is just that I find chicks using words against us in the manner of most any good tyrant, sometimes.
I did mention (mostly) SciFi in my profile. However, skin flicks can be good training films when used appropriately.
I didn't think I came across as irate. You may have missed my post about independent women being independent enough to email me if they want to initiate some form of relating that may include a relationship. That is part of the issue I do have with women and the way they like to blame us guys for problems that we do not always recognize as problems, until some chick starts complaining about it being a problem. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/21/2007 7:30:28 PM |
Pretty Hot And Tempting. P H A T
Could you clarify that a bit? I'm confused. There are, at last count, 179 posts in this thread. Are you commenting on a specific post? Perhaps comments on the topic in general? Or maybe just smoked a little too much of that stuff?
At least give everyone a hint. | |
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CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
Msg: 182 | |
| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/21/2007 8:16:51 PM | I guess the question I would really like an answer to, is why does sexy mean something else to women, than it does to most men?
sexy
One entry found for sexy.
Main Entry: sexy
Pronunciation: 'sek-sE
Function: adjective
Inflected Form(s): sex·i·er; -est
1 : sexually suggestive or stimulating : EROTIC
2 : generally attractive or interesting : APPEALING
- sex·i·ly /-s&-lE/ adverb
- sex·i·ness /-sE-n&s/ noun | |
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CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
Msg: 185 | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/22/2007 11:40:38 PM | Save the word for when things get in that neighborhood. Until then, stick with "pretty" "gorgeous" "handsome" (for women).
I think women, though, can get away with saying that on first contact, but it might open up the can of worms way too quick. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/23/2007 12:00:30 AM | i'm 58 years old and get a number of messages like this. usually after a moment of disbelief, my reaction to these remarks is "...duh!?*". and if the "man" is the age of my "child" , then he gets my mommy lecture about milfer's. if he persists, then i block him.
my "generational" take on this, is that if a man has no ability or social grace to write to me in a respectful and friendly manner, i am not interested. rarely am i frightened or do i feel "creepy" about it, however, once the remark got worse than that and implied my picture was being used "personally". yes, that was creepy (as well as pathetic). actually it was more like "disgusting" and i blocked him immediately.
all this being said, if i was in my teens or 20's, i'm not sure what i would think. i suppose it would depend on the person's profile and whether he was of a similar age. furthermore, i am not prudish amongst my friends and collegues. but similar to table manners in a public restaurant, there are certain social graces i observe and maintaining boundaries with someone i do not know at all, is just assumed on my part. become my friend and i'll say what i mean and do what i say, as well as tell it like it is! after all, i'm a brooklyn woman despite living in CA! politically correct, i am not. | |
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CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
Msg: 189 | |
| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/23/2007 6:38:18 AM | Amazing thing about being able to think for yourself, you can do whatever you want!
Ok. Then, form me, any good dictionary is a good enough, and objective enough, and standard enough, technical manual on what words actually mean; when they are not being subjectively interpreted by chicks to mean something else.
That doesn't mean I can't still take your word for it, when you chicks feel the need to complain about your subjective interpretation of a word; especially, when that interpretation has no basis in any objective reference manual (i.e. a dictionary).
You can consider it a form niceness and us guys going out of our way to accommodate women's subjectivity, even if it has no basis in our current (and objective) understanding of reality. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/23/2007 11:16:17 PM |
when you chicks
Chicks? 
when you chicks feel the need to complain about your subjective interpretation of a word; especially, when that interpretation has no basis in any objective reference manual (i.e. a dictionary).
Do what you want, dude. That's just works so much better that being polite when you're looking for a date. Where do you find the time to post? | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/23/2007 11:29:17 PM | | Creepy, there is nothing APPEALING about it from an online stranger, or any stranger for that matter. If a man came up to me and said I was incredibly sexy I would slap him on the spot. Its just degrading to a REAL Woman with class. A man that has class would never say that either. They would use a word to express their beauty not their eroticism. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/23/2007 11:33:23 PM |
Creepy, there is nothing APPEALING about it from an online stranger, or any stranger for that matter.
Not even from a New York City construction worker?
A man that has class would never say that either.
Oh, he might. But he's do it at the right time. He certainly wouldn't engage in an argument about it like critter 916 does. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/25/2007 12:17:57 AM | I just had to jump in here. I couldn't resist this as I just logged in to my email and there were 17 of them. 10 of those were "first" contacts. Now mind you, I get my share of emails and I have yet to get any overtly sexual in nature email. If however a man says I'm sexy and actually uses the word, It totally depends on how he uses it, but in general I find that guys who maybe are a little less articulate or who are coming from an intellectual place rather than an emotional place will tend to use the word more.
CTR 916 Have you ever heard of the 2 foot drop? It's just a suggestion but it might help in your quest. In my experience men relate better with me if they've taken that 2 ft. drop from their head to their heart. Just my opinion of course.
I chose a few excerpts from the initial contacts I received. They are typical of the comments I get and I responded to all of them. Most say I'm sexy but just don't use the word. examples:
"Deliciously and sensually beautiful I see..."
(Hmmm, is sensual "classier" than sexy?)
"to behold the company
of such fine, exquisite radiance
of intellect and physical structure.
Being with you would be nothing shy
of wondrous bliss."
(I did not take offense to this at all and ehe obviously wants to "be" with me)
"What an excellent profile! Handsdown,the best i've encountered in my online quest! hope the nigerian n russian women dont get ahold of it for more ammo... So well writ! shows you're open, honest,fun and personable. I see a positive and un-tamed personality with many more qualities within.."
(I thought this was great! He didn't need to tell me I'm sexy, this was much better)
"The creativity, sensitivity and spirit within your words demonstrate your beauty seen is equalled only by that which is within yourself.=="
(Well!)
"I truly adore u. OK Honestly u are truly a beautiful woman and I really don't think I could ever see U a day over 38. I really would be insanely turned on if u were 58. I luv older woman. I'm not kidding. U rock my world. "
(I thought this was cute, even if he had used the word. It made me smile.)
"Your eyes should be locked up!"
(Wow! That's hot!)
So you see, they all tell me pretty much the same thing, it's just semantics. And to me it's flattering.
And what's your handle? DON'T BE BEAUTIFUL? I suppose you speak for all REAL women with class? I assure you, I am a REAL woman and do believe I have some class and if a man tells me I'm incredibly sexy, I would say, with as much class as I could muster, "Thank you for the compliment," Period. (I wouldn't say the period part, ya got that right people?) Just my humble opinion....
And guys, the point is, ALL of these got a response from me. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/25/2007 12:25:18 AM |
I just had to jump in here. I couldn't resist this as I just logged in to my email and there were 17 of them. 10 of those were "first" contact
I'm sorry. Oh, wait, that wasn't me ;)
If however a man says I'm sexy and actually uses the word, It totally depends on how he uses it, but in general I find that guys who maybe are a little less articulate or who are coming from an intellectual place rather than an emotional place will tend to use the word more.
And from an intellectual place I can see how guys would find your pictures sexy. It's till not very polite to say so in first contact though. For that matter would a guy hit on a woman that he didn't find sexy?
if a man tells me I'm incredibly sexy, I would say, with as much class as I could muster, "Thank you for the compliment," Period.
That may be one more period than they deserve. But I like it ;) | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/25/2007 12:41:59 AM | I'm with Eeek, it's just not polite. Towards the end of the date is more appropriate. Although I can be pretty sexy!! I wouldn't blame a guy, but he should mind his manners upon first meeting. It just can be a bit uncomfortable if the attraction's not mutual.
Whatever you do, just don't say "Ummmmm, you look delicious! Good enough to eat!" Actually, don't say that until you've already been naked and they're still talking to you. Lol!
Unless, of course, she has lingerie pics posted on her public profile, then I say......HELLO??
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/25/2007 12:52:47 AM |
I'm with Eeek, it's just not polite.
Thank you! I'm glad somebody is getting the point I was trying to make. (and thank you for getting all three E's too!)
Although I can be pretty sexy!!
Ok, I looked at your profile pictures and I can't disagree. Faces mean a lot to me.
I wouldn't blame a guy, but he should mind his manners upon first meeting.
Why is that so hard for some guys to figure out? Sheesh!
Unless, of course, she has lingerie pics posted on her public profile, then I say......HELLO??
Don't forget the silly boob shots. My thought on seeing those is always "Hello? Are you nothing but boobs? I'm looking for a brain too!" (Ok, my ex's IQ was 160. But I'll settle for a bit less now.)
(Guys, even if you're just looking for sex, you should remember that a brain helps a lot in that department.) | |
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CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
Msg: 198 | |
| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/25/2007 7:50:29 AM |
Do what you want, dude. That's just works so much better that being polite when you're looking for a date. Where do you find the time to post?
And here I thought we were, merely, arguing the semantics of a word that may have (like numbers) some imaginary properties to them.
I don't think I have written any initial emails with sexy in them.
What about, "what's cookin, good lookin"? Does that "really mean" that I actually want to spend a little time with you before I bend you over the nearest horizontal surface? | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/25/2007 9:03:17 AM |
For me personally in first contact it's old and tired. We're on a dating site and considering some women get inundated with emails it doesn't take long for those kind of first contacts to get old.
I'm way more than my looks so emails like that just cause me to think "oh bother, ho hum" and roll my eyes. While a compliment on looks can be nice I'd prefer to have first contact focused on more than my looks.
EmeraldJag, I TOTALLY agree with you! | |
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