CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
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CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/25/2007 4:31:13 PM |
I wish they would run it by the Brotherhood, so that we can be consistent in our rhetoric.
What's wrong with just being polite? During a first contact you really don't know much about the woman and leaning to the conservative side isn't a concept that takes many neurons to figure out. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/26/2007 8:19:21 PM | It's all about context. Most people like to be appreciated for more than their outward appearance, and for those who don't....well that's a whole other discussion.
When you initially meet someone, it's usually better to err on the side of caution, simply because you don't know how a person is going to react. I don't find it insulting to be called sexy, nor am I insulted by getting e-mails that only say "Hey Sexy", I just delete those, and move on to those with more interesting things to say. I think a majority of the women on here react the same way. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/26/2007 8:47:11 PM | As men we must overcome our "Visual Stimulus." Sexy of or relating to sex, desirable advantageous or beneficial and the list goes on. All signs of early Cro-magnon behavior. I relate to scenarios of gentlemen talk but am offended at the lack of intelligence among our species. I would never go up to someones (Mother, sister or friend) and say oh by the way you don't know me but I think your sexy. Should I be offended when they say oh by the way I think your Stupid. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/26/2007 10:05:59 PM | Try phonetics- sound it out buddy. phat when sounded out sounds like " fat. " Most ladies would not consider that a compliment.
It's a compliment to somebody, maybe.
A man never knows how a word is received by the woman. It is a compliment when she is in heat and a sexual harrassment law suit when she is about to have her period and wants to scratch your eyes out for just looking at her.
phat or fat on you lady. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/26/2007 10:13:49 PM | lets face it guys what else is on our minds but sex? What are we pursuing women for inthe first place? Is it for money-no, is it for child support-no, is it to pay her alimony-no, is to have room and board-no, is it for her to do your homecare-no, is it for their brains or charming personality-no?? It is for one and only one thing-SEX-SEX-YES YES. The rest is collateral gratuities!!
They know it. I think it is laying it out on the table and is another way of saying, " do you want to go to bed or FXXX".
depending if she is in heat -she may like it but if not inheat she may get offended. It's all in the moods she is in at the time. | |
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CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/27/2007 5:59:58 PM | What's wrong with just being polite? During a first contact you really don't know much about the woman and leaning to the conservative side isn't a concept that takes many neurons to figure out.
I am not sure I really had a problem with it to begin with. This has been more of an issue for chicks.
I agree with the sentiment that words can be used against us. Chicks just tend to be more subjective in the use of their words. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 4/2/2007 1:53:02 AM | | I always thought sexy was not so much about a persons looks but about how they carry themselves. Sexiness is subtle and relaxed. Rarely is it overtly sexual or aggresive. Its a humble confidence that can show itself in something as simple as a smile. Billy Joel wrote a song back in the early 80's called "shes got a way". That to me is what sexy is about. Its about a persons way, not the way a person looks. Sexy is such a great word. But unfortunately like so many other descriptive words its used so much that, ahem,... we've taken the sexyness out of the word sexy. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 4/19/2007 10:52:58 AM | Crap... is this how we are supposed to do this deal?
Believe it or not -- a couple of women (I think they were women) sent me initial emails saying they thought I was sexy and I felt CREEPILY COMPLIMENTED. Especially after looking in the mirror and thinking to myself, "What drugs are these women on?"
When I send out a first contact it really depends on what got my attention. Usually it pertains to a specific post or a clever profile but occasionally it will be in response to physical looks. Not often but every once in awhile I think I see THE GIRL THAT GOT AWAY. I try to be honest, funny, inquisitive, positive and complimentary. If it includes sexy, sometimes I will get responses BUT many times not. I'm looking for something deeper than skin deep and I hope someone responding to me for whatever reason is looking for the same. Intelligence, kindness, humor, creativity and humility are very SEXY.
Beauty is only skin deep and ugly is to the bone.   | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 4/19/2007 3:04:54 PM | Thanks bubba... but on further reflection, I decided what I don't like about being called sexy in a first contact...
It's too personal. I don't think you can actually know if someone is sexy or not, until you meet them, because sexy is an indefinable which often has less to do with looks and more to do with personality and mannerisms.
When someone says I am sexy, before they meet me in person, then I am going to have to assume they actually mean "I would like to have sex with you, based on your photos." Not really the best measuring stick. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 4/19/2007 3:41:25 PM | R I G H T - ON - M O M!!! Sexy is best used by your significant other..... It'd be a personal conatation, toward the one you love. If women like to be called sexy, it might be that they have been brought up with different morals, and or values. To each is own... Live and let live.  | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 8/4/2007 12:31:21 PM | I totally agree with you because I know you and I know how you look at things. You couldn't have put it in a perfect way.
I personally do not want to be told I am sexy in the first contact, because I feel that is what is seen once you get to know me. | |
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CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 8/4/2007 3:37:35 PM |
When someone says I am sexy, before they meet me in person, then I am going to have to assume they actually mean "I would like to have sex with you, based on your photos." Not really the best measuring stick.
It may not be the best measuring stick for women who want a long term, legally binding social contract; but I think this is how most guys may react to a picture of a sexy woman. Consider the Playboy centerfolds. They would not be centerfolds, if many guys did not consider them sexy; and maybe even fantasized about a form relationship, that may only last a few seconds. | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 8/4/2007 5:01:04 PM | I think it's a bit overplayed. I prefer the type of guy that doens't say such stuff. Sounds like he's trying too hard. Usually it's followed by how good the chum thinks we would be together. Haha, right. 
I don't mind being told I'm sexy by someone I know. | |
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CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 8/4/2007 8:30:22 PM | CTR, who hit the nail on the head?
I really think women don't mind being called sexy, if it is done appropriately, even in an initial contact.
Almost every single woman has responded that they DO mind being called sexy in an introductory email.
I tend to use "sexy" as a love name, and would say "Hiya, Sexy" the same way I would say "Good morning, Gorgeous"... but obviously this would be with someone I know well and feel comfortable with. It is too intimate to use before you've even said hi. | |
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CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
Msg: 223 | |
| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 8/4/2007 8:36:00 PM | | I thought it was because she was stereotyping that conversation. Some other women don't seem to have a problem with a guy saying that in an initial contact. How are we supposed to know some of you women have problems with the way we communicate, if we are unwilling to stereotype you women in the process? | |
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 8/4/2007 8:46:58 PM | Funny, I think Momi is very sexy and I have never met her. She was sexy when she bit*h slapped the s*it out of me when I deserved it. She is the sexiest poster in the forums. Her wit and insight are without equal. Her wisdom is way beyond my years though she is younger than I. Sexy!
Yet were I to have the great honor to meet her, sexy is the last word I would use to her face.
I guess to know what I would say I would have to meet her.
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| Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 8/4/2007 9:09:03 PM | Cooky, Hey sexy! I know beyond doubt that you and I will never be more than friends but I have to say you are so fricken sexy! I have never met you and I really don't want to go there because I know I will totally be lost in your eyes. If I thought for a moment that I could keep you happy for the rest of your life I would meet your sexy a**.
Till then we will be friends and I will hope that a sexy a** guy will find your fancy and you will be happy!
Love you babe!
>mak^o> | |
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