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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/18/2007 6:36:24 PM | Just what is wrong with someone asking for a full body pic ?
Maybe they want to see how honest you was about your physical type.
Most of your threads have dealt with this same sort of thing. I am starting to get the idea that it is what you have on your mind and are projecting it onto someone else. | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/18/2007 7:28:34 PM | Blast,
Wow
"Wow. This is like the third thread I've seen you post on about something revolving around men wanting sex or pics or whatever.
From the way you express your apparent disdain for anyone wanting sex, especially men in this case, it is obvious to me that you either have an axe to grind around romance/sex or you have been compromising yourself with these guys. Which one?
It's ok to want sex ya know? It's perfectly ok for adults to engage in conversation about sex and it doesn't mean they have to act on it.
Being seduced is a delicious experience , especially if he's good at it...and yes, most of us are wanting a long term monogamous relationship we can have all our desires filled inside of, but that doesn't mean that they shouldn't try!
Learn something important now. VERY FEW MEN develop emotional attachments BEFORE they want sex. That's just how the male mind works. Most aren't very hung up about sex like we women can be...they have no need to be gatekeepers for the gene pool, their job is to plant it in the garden...what they do with that garden after is their prerogative.
To spare yourself an even bigger chip on your shoulder, tell them plainly that you aren't going to have sex with them until you have a relationship established. Period. While it's certainly not going to get you laid as often or as much, it will insure that you won't have to create another ten forum threads about how much it pisses you off that men want sex.
Ever occur to you that maybe you're attractive to them and they'd like to taste it? Can you blame them? Picture that time you were really really aroused. Now times that by ten and you'll have the male equivalent of sex drive.
Just learn how to tell them no and you'd best have a personality that they actually enjoy if you want them to stick it out with ya till they get their "gift". And YES, it is a sexual hangup when you use being sexual with a guy as a means of insuring a relationship...it's sexual blackmail.
And while you insist on making him wait for the sex, make damn sure you're worth keeping once he gets it. We OTHER women are tired of those men who've been jaded complaining about the false promises made by virtuous women when they actually SUCKED in bed.
Keep him happy. Give him great sex, and have a good heart toward him and he'll give you his love. If not, he wasn't into a fair trade anyway. Move on..."
Oh crap a woman knows the truth about us now Fleeeeeeeeeeeeee
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/18/2007 8:52:48 PM | I find that men and women just talk about sex and sexual content more openly these days it doesn't mean they are expecting sex it just means they are not as jaded or as old fashion as they used to be, that being said I know men and women who only want sex and could care less about a lasting relationship at this point in their life and I sometimes wonder if they ever will.
Just because a man wants to see a full length photo of you before you meet doesn't mean he wants sex ( It could mean that if he asks for nudes) but he may want to see what you look like and if the pics on your profile are recent..
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/18/2007 8:55:46 PM | It's not baggage, it's being realistic and keeping your eyes open instead of thinking every man is on a white horse and only wants you for your mind. Lots of men do want just sex.. a lot more than would freely admit it. If you thought ALL men were out for sex and none wanted anything else, THAT would be baggage. I've dealt with more than one guy on here that got indignant because I called him on his game... one messaged me with "intimate encounter" and claimed that's NOT what he wanted.  | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 3/19/2007 10:06:34 PM | OP, it's really this simple: If you want to have sex with him, do it. If you don't, don't.
Your decision to have sex with him or not will have very little bearing on most men's decision to have a relationship with you, or not. In fact, holding out too long can be detrimental...he likes you a lot, but if you won't have sex with him, he'll find someone else that he also likes a lot, who will be only too happy to enjoy everything he has to offer.
I've developed a theory through my FWB relationships which goes something like this: I've found that when you treat a man you are dating as a friend, instead of a prize that you must win, or a goal which you must achieve, and if you include good sex, with absolutely no strings or pressure towards a relationship, guys get very comfortable with you, and usually end up wanting more. You have achieved emotional intimacy, and once you are inside a guy's comfort zone, that can be a very powerful thing for them. And, you've done it without using sex as bait.
I discovered this by accident, because it's happened so many times, but it's happened often enough that when I do find someone that I truly want to be with, heart and soul, I'm going to treat him as a friend, not a prize or a goal, and exert absolutely no pressure towards a relationship. And I will give him lots of great sex  | |
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| Is it 'bagagge' to think that men are out for sex?
Posted: 5/15/2007 11:38:19 AM | i have little sympathy here,ladies do this to me all the time,often married,they just seem unable to take no for an answer.
i dont like blocking people,but they should respect the fact that we are not all here to gratify mr tickles.
i get hits from about 100 ladies a week,mostly married,all they really want is my body but when you say not interested they come up with `im only here for the forums anyway`,so you just cant win
thanks
john | |
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