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fit50s
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Joined: 10/29/2008
Msg: 151 | |
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| Griz.....a knuckle,or 2,or 3,has been high on the list of do that more for several women I've
Posted: 11/24/2008 1:56:21 AM | That is what I was saying, I know how to do it, find the right spots. That because I love making a women twitch.
But she has to return to make me twitch. Last GF drove her nuts 3 time over the 5 months we dated. Me, nothing. I hate that. Girls when a guy does you. You need to do him too. Personally, I like waking up in the morning like that. | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 11/24/2008 3:02:07 AM | Ok the M&M trail idea on pg 1 of comments was original, but COME ON - must we really stick candy coated chocolate up our cooches for men to give us oral? When I give oral, I want to taste my man (or woman), not chocolate or honey or strawberry.
Now on to the hygeine issue, I know a lot of people in these forums suggest taking a shower/bath for two. This is how I imagine this scenario unfolding:
Man and woman start making out, clothes come off, man positions his face between her legs or does a scratch and sniff test (which she is fully aware he is doing - I mean we KNOW) then he says, as rehearsed, "How about a romantic shower for 2". Now come ON!! She's stinky--not STUPID. She knows why you want to bathe her and now she's ashamed.
When I'm with someone new, for the first time, and they stink, its gave over. People!this is the first sexual contact, if they're hummin down there on the FIRST encounter, which is when most people take extra care in their cleansing/grooming, they are most likely going to smell bad for the duration of the relationship. And that romanic bath/shower diversion will only hold out so long. He or she is gonna know whats up when you suggest bathing every time as foreplay.
OP, I don't think you need to teach your man to give oral, or ask him for it. He obviously doesn't want to do it. Take the hint. Move on. He's not rare. There are plenty and I mean PLENTY of guys who would be willing to stick you without licking you or lay back and received BJ after BJ without reciprocation. Someday you'll meet a guy who is really into pleasing you and you will wonder why you ever wasted time on this selfish clod. | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 11/30/2008 2:07:08 PM | Show him. Guys don't have our parts, so we have to show them where our sensitive areas are sometimes, if they aren't familiar with them. I actually used a flashlight with a guy once, who wasn't quite hitting the right area. I turned of the lights, and used the flashlight to kind of help "point" the area out better. And also what area of the clitoris to stimulate. It helped him out a lot and it was great for me because then he hit the right area, and it was wonderful.
You can gently say, "Baby, that feels really good, but I'd like you to try this too." The key is, not to make him feel stupid, but to tell him you want to show him something new because you'd really love watching him do it to you.
Guys need a plan and sex is no different. They don't mind taking instruction because then they can implement that plan. Guys like to feel "successful" in bed too. So give him some blueprints and show him where to go. Not only will it build his sexual confidence but you will get to enjoy the results. | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 12/9/2008 9:49:52 PM | | Show him yourslef through masturbation. Let him watch how you like to be touched. Plus I am sure this will add to the overall excitement & fun! | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 12/10/2008 8:58:59 AM | | Tell him what is you sensitive spot and if you don't then just tell him to work the clit for as long as he can until you cum. After that he'll learn and get better. | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 12/17/2008 6:33:35 PM | | Chances are if he has never done it, you wont be able to make it a pleasing experiance for either of you by teaching him.... dump him and find somebody who loves it and is passionate about doing it, if you want it badly enough... I am available still...lol | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 12/17/2008 7:44:11 PM | | See me peronally I love words hearing them and using them. The first time my ex tried it was hopeless poor guy.It was damn near comical.He thought he was a puppy taking a drink. lol BUT he tried. I even rewarded him with an hour long gift in return with lots of teasing anyway. The next week I wrote him a letter and described in perfect erotic detail just what I wanted him to , do the letter was two pages long. It was not a list . every detail I could think of was in there including what I would do for him in return. I put it in his lunch before he went to work. OH my the man learned very quickly. He only got better and learned his own little tricks in the process. Words I tell you they work every time !!! | |
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jayb2b
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Joined: 9/29/2007
Msg: 162 | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 12/19/2008 8:03:50 PM | are u serious?  there!
Ok thats ur man handle ur biz, make him want to taste u and enjoy tasting u. Draw him a map from ur nipples all the way down to the center of ur **** covered in whip cream. Part the lips for him and make him dive head in first. **** needs to be licked with expert precision - suck on his tongue, lick the right side and then the left and then tell him to do just that to ur clit! Have him blow on it - suck that pearly shape tip of it. | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 12/19/2008 8:31:46 PM | First you need to get him interested in pleasing you sexually more so than with his "wang". I'm not sure how talented you are at giving oral so maybe do some research and find out.
I don't know about you but, for me I like to caress how I'd like to be caressed; reap what you sew. Give him oral more like how you would like it. First identifying what parts of the males organ are comparible to the parts of your organ and caress accordingly.
Perfect your techinque on him, ask him how important it is to him to help you feel that way. I dare say you have to trick him into wanting to go down on you. Just tell him you'll take turns on who goes first by the toss of a coin. I dare say that if you do good with this one you'll have it down for future partners! :)
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 12/19/2008 8:38:07 PM | I'm just as sympathetic to the guys as I am the girls. In other words, not at all.
If you have to teach him to give oral, get rid of him. Nothing like someone scared to do oral, disgusted to do oral, or doing it as a chore. Let the people who hate/can't do oral match with each other. | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 12/19/2008 8:44:58 PM | I think it an exercise in futility for me to think I can tell you or teach you (well, with words only) how to eat ****. I can share with you my experience and what I have found works for me, and you are free to adopt any of my techniques or experiment and see what works. But I cannot write the definitive "''how to eat **** like a champ by following these simple steps."
The only general guideline I offer is that there is no right or wrong way to eat ****. It is my experience that each woman is very different in her preferences and anatomy, and the effort you put into oral sex for your lady is really the time and diligence you put into it to find out what works—and what does not.
Being able to openly talk to your woman before, during and after the grand event is very helpful, but sometimes they are not your best guide either from shyness or inexperience.
I think the right attitude is the best skill you can possess in eating ****. First, see this as a selfless act designed to bring pleasure to your woman. Do your job right, and the payback can be pleasure of untold proportions. Remember, this is not just a warm up for you to f*ck her (except when it is) or something that you do because it is expected. You need to have the mind set that you are going to do whatever it takes to provide her a high quality orgasm using only your mouth, tongue and maybe fingers. And you do this because...well... it is just f*cking hot for you, too.
In short, I believe the right mind set is something along the lines of "Eating **** is its own reward."
Second, you have to really love the **** in its entirety. The way it looks, smells and tastes as well as feels when you are f*cking. Each woman has a different smell and taste. Some have a heavy scent and taste, others are light. It doesn't matter as they have as much control over this as you do the size of your**** The point is you need to "take it as it comes" (to pardon the pun) and remember that ALL **** is amazing. Amazing not only for the pleasure it can afford you as a means of intercourse, but in its very existence. The **** is the center of a woman's sexuality, but not the single place where it resides. However, each woman's **** is a marvel to behold and something to treasure and that attitude makes it easy to become acknowledged as a master of your skill.
We all have a preference in the smell and taste. But again, other than simple hygiene, your woman has zero control over any of that. Let her know you adore how she smells, how she tastes and how beautiful you think her **** looks. Hopefully a genuine sense of awe is your mind set. I let her know I want her to "mark" me with her juices, that I want her smell on my face, fingers, neck and**** I will tell her I really need her to abandon herself to my mouth and dance on the tip of my tongue in her erotic dance of pleasure. To use the common vernacular, I urge you to let her know you "get it."
As for the mechanics, there really is no right or wrong way—there is just what works for her. There is no one secret, special technique that, once understood and mastered, will make you THE **** eating champ for all women. However, there are techniques that work for her and that can make you HER world champion **** eater. And the joy is in the journey and discovery. Truly, a labor love.
Ok, here is how I do it, and take from it what ever you wish. I begin by whispering in her ear that I simply must taste her—that my need to go down on her is strong. Then I take a bit of time to see what I have to work with. Is she dripping wet in urgent need of release? Is she not wet at all and needing the proper time and attention to coax an orgasm out of her?
I begin by just lightly licking the entire ****. I explore lightly with my tongue, and savior her taste. I take a few very deep breaths to let her know I like what I have found—that simple act alone, letting her hear you breathing her in deeply and robustly, is a great way to set the stage. Then I pay attention to her clit. Does she have a huge clit that is readily exposed? Does she have small clit that is hidden deeply behind the folds of her hood? I find the location and condition of her clit, but leave it alone for the time being. I lick her **** from stem to stern repeatedly, gently suck her **** into my mouth, and trace the lines of her **** lips with the tip of my tongue. I pay attention to how she reacts, and if find something that is really working, I keep doing that until it is time to move on to something else.
That something else is usually the beginning stages of eating her. I never directly stimulate her clit, unless I know this is what works for her. Some women need direct and continual clit stimulation at the outset, but my experience is that most do not. Using the first third of my tongue, I lap the top third of her **** and alternate in sort of lightly tracing her clit or the hood and her **** lips.
I also make a point to gently use the tip of my finger to trace and rub the lips, usually taking the time to tell her something hot and nasty, or sweet and loving. But I will for sure tell her that I love the way she smells and tastes—and I tell her that every time.
A note; some women are super sensitive at first and cannot tolerate any firm stimulation of the clit—these are women who, in my mind, I need to "work up" to the point of tolerating/needing firm clit stimulation. Other women want a firm tongue lashing of their clit, and from the beginning are in desperate need of rapid and hard attention from my tongue. Pay attention because you want to get this right.
Once she is good and wet from her own juices and my saliva, I will pick up the pace of my lapping and licking and increase the pressure on her clit—one way to look at this is taking the intensity of my actions up a notch while paying close attention that I am not over or under stimulating.
Then I stick one of my own fingers in my mouth and wet it in preparation of inserting it into her ****. It is my experience that nothing can be more of a momentary "buzz kill" for a woman than the sudden introduction of a dry finger. Another good way to do this is to let her suck and wet a finger or two for you. Then I go back to actively eating her and gently slip a finger inside her.
My experience also tells me that finger f*cking is not the best use of my digit. Rather, I crook my finger and find the ridged area just inside her on the top. Now, find a rhythm with your tongue on her clit and gently tap and rub that ridged area—which I believe is commonly called the "G spot." Then slip a second finger into her and use both finger tips to tap and rub the ridges. And another note, some women's ridges are big and pronounced, other are small and delicate. But notice they all seem to swell and become more pronounced as they build towards orgasm. The swelling and pronouncement of her ridges will happen in direct proportion to her wetness. And it is just hot to feel it happen on your fingertips.
At this point I know I need to be focused but flexible. She might buck and thrash with increasing intensity as she builds. She might push my face into her ****, or hold my head and grind her hips into my face, or wrap her feet around my upper torso. But then she might also simply lay very passively, opening her legs wide to give you all the access I could hope for and wail and scream...or whisper and make her small noises of pleasure. I just roll with what happens, but when I since she is getting close I will urge her to cum on my tongue.
I find a rhythm and a place on or near her clit that is working and keep going. The time has passed for changing it up or exploration. This is what I call the "active **** eating stage." At this point I am working towards completion, using my tongue and fingers and staying focused. I try to position my nose such that I can breathe; another big buzz killer is breaking the rhythm to gasp for breath.
A woman once told me that when she came with me licking her clit AND rubbing her G spot it felt like an "internal and external orgasm, while it just feels external and more intense when you use only your tongue." She did not place a value judgment on one method or type of orgasm over the other. But she did best vocalize the difference in a way I could grasp. By the way, she had this really nice, full natural blond bush. She barely had any taste or smell, and she gushed wetness even when slightly aroused. She also had a G spot that was impossible to miss. She was a wailing, screaming, head-thumping, grind-and-thrash-hard-into-your-face woman that would literally scream "F*ck, you ROCK" right before I sent her over the edged by eating her. Her blond **** was tight, hot...
But I digress.
Anyway, discuss it with your woman. Give her both types and see what thinks of each climax and if she feels a difference.
My orgasm comes in one flavor. I cum hard. I do not think men, or at least most men, can say one cum feels much different from the other. At least physically, anyway. However, I will be the first to admit I might be wrong, and I have not discussed this with other men. But the male orgasm, I think, differs only by very slight degrees of pleasure either way of "great."
But my experience is that this is not the case for women. They can have any number of different types of orgasms; hard to the point of violent, or soft and sweet. They can arrive as mind blowing climaxes that leave 'em limp or a little shudder from one that is just sufficient to take the edge off. I have found I cannot control the type or the intensity of her climax as there are many other factors that come into play that are usually outside my abilities. The point is, I can make a woman cum (99 times out of a 100) by eating her ****, but the quality of her climax is not a sure thing I can replicate for her time and time again. However, I do like the sense of power that comes with a challenge wherein I am have to coax an orgasm out of a lady when I eat her, and succeed.
That said, I do know I can ruin it for her at the end with bad mechanics. There is providing too much stimulation or licking/fingering "too hard" that can f*ck up a climax. Or breaking the rhythm by losing her sweet spot (clit) just as she goes over the edge and the resulting orgasm is one of less intensity. Or losing the rhythm too many times and turning her into a frustrated, overly sensitized woman who can't go over the edge. Yep, check the box, I have done all of that. At times I have been the worst **** eater known to woman. And those failures have made me much, much better at the job.
Perhaps one technique to experiment with is the "Butterfly." In this, you eat her **** and use the index and middle finger to tap her G-spot. The ring finger has no job, so you keep it curled in. Use the tip of your little finger to gently probe her anal opening. You need not penetrate her ass (unless she grooves on such a thing) but rather just toy with her little rosebud and give her ass a little play. You might be amazed at the reaction you get. My experience is I at least get a shy little admission that "how you did that was hot."
I believe the cool down is important to the entire experience. I pay attention and let her body will tell me when to stop licking her clit. I will keep eating **** until I receive some sign of "enough!" It can be the words "stop," or a tightened body that goes slack, legs and arms unclenching my head and hips not being wildly pounded into my face. It can be having your head pushed away. When it is over, I will very gently kiss the area around her ****, her inner thighs, her tummy...just light little kisses, while taking an occasional deep breath to let her know I continue to adore her scent. I once had a lover whose every nerve was on edge after she came that even a little kiss on her inner thigh made her jerk with little jolts of pain. But I linger in the area until they come back down...come back to me.
And for me, the greatest reward of being a good **** eater when she whispers in my ear an urgent plea; "Baby, I need you to do that thing you do." Or something more direct. | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 1/30/2009 6:47:36 AM | | I like that long description, kudos to you , lets go skiing sometime... I take the elementary (literally) approach.... First , I kiss lips for starters and imagine i am licking downstairs lips... then I simply lick the alphabet.. cursive that is and then go backwards and forwards... then repeat.... it works well for the first timer especially but old salts can benifit tooo !! rich s | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 2/21/2009 8:50:01 PM | | sorry to disappoint you, but yes I suffer from ED. sometines it works and sometimes it doesn't. celias helps. I don;t mean this to sound like b.s., but in spite of my difficulty, I really am a fantastic lover.i all seriousness, I love to play a woman's body like a musical instrument. I know I sound like a cheap romance novel, but that's the truth thhhhh. (how do you write the sound of vibrating you tongue sticking out between your lips?) but if You need more, I perfectly understand. | |
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| How do you teach a guy to give oral?
Posted: 3/18/2009 10:51:04 PM | in response to marc^^^^way above...LMAO!!! a letter or recommendation from the ex!!!!
 
do unto others as you would have them do unto you--first show him where, how, as noted above. then initiate some 69 and use your tongue on him like you would like it used on you-pressure etc.
and it's not just about the alphabet etc- changing it up helps, but he will know when he has hit an area that's working. circles, slow flicking, faster, doing 'figure 8's', running the tongue around the rim inside the labia, etc- see what works- for both. fyi, using a 'flat' tongue' close to climax works for a lot of women- it is less pressure, less 'rough'. experiment. explore (great word). have fun. | |
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