| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 6/6/2007 4:35:00 PM | Magic eightball says 'outlook not so good'.
Why?
One has to realize that a human beings sex drive is VERY unstable.
So if the OP is in a relationship where sex is an intergral part of it, get ready for an unstable relationship. And with unstable relationships comes temptation.
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 6/6/2007 4:57:14 PM | I have been with a few woman that had very high sex drives. None ever cheated on me. It is far better to find a woman that has a health sex drive then one that show little interest in the physical side of a relationship.
The key to all this is good communication. The sexiest organ in the body is the Brain. How do you make love to the brain with words. | |
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 6/7/2007 8:26:33 AM | I would say yes to an extent. Just Remember that she want to try eveything,so you have to be very versatile to keep her happy.
Just treat her like a total slag and shell be cool.
So chicks are filthy worse then us guys lol. | |
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 6/7/2007 8:30:42 AM | | Just because someone is highly sexed - does not mean that they are liars and cheaters!! Lots and lots of sex with someone you love is definitely fulfilling - no need to wander!! | |
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 6/7/2007 8:56:28 AM | After you have sex is she satisfied? Can she satisfy herself? The urge to have sex is strong, but not unmanagable. If she is happy with you and your sex life she can be faithful. Keep it interesting though, quality as well as quantity are important here. I think the terms "horndog" and "nympho" are cop outs for liars and players.
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 6/7/2007 2:49:50 PM | I think where sex is concerned you need to find someone on the same level.
If one or the other partners is frustrated its a recipe for disaster. | |
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 6/7/2007 3:08:51 PM | OP replies to:
YES IF YOU GIVE EM IT ALL THE TIME LOL
and says:
Isn't that the whole problem??
There shouldn't be an "if"
Well... this is a little deeper than the original question, I think; but it's highly related. First of all, any person has the right to pursue whatever they want in a relationship. If she is not getting enough sex or the right kind of sex, then why shouldn't she look elsewhere? The answer is because she made a commitment to you, right? But what kind of commitment did she make? Just because she likes going out with you and wants to be intimate with you sometimes, have you assumed she would be monogamous? Has she felt pressured by you or social norms to say she will be, when in fact, that may not be what she wants, or feels she needs? The deeper part I'm getting to is either she's going to break up with you and seek it elsewhere, or if she's going to cheat on you... so, should there be an occasion where she will cheat? Should? Well, that's a question of ethics. Will? Probably. I would say with the vast majority of women that are nymphomaniac or have extremely high sex drives and interests (goddess bless them), they will most likely cheat if unsatisfied with their current partners, because:
1) It might not be that easy for her to find another guy that meets the rest of what she's looking for in a relationship. Even nymphomaniacs are interested in other traits when relating to people.
2) She might have feelings for you, and not want to leave you.
3) it guarantees her that she has you at the minimum and spice on the side... if she left you, then she's forced to find another minimum.
4) Addiction is about the drug, not the relationship to the supplier. | |
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 6/7/2007 10:29:35 PM |
Nymphomania _ An illness you hear about but never encounter....
It does exist I assure you.
To the OP however..... true nymphomania is different somewhat then basic sexual compulsion. For one thing nymphomania (hyper sexuality) can often be a symptom of other problems, and people suffering from this disorder can actually be physically dangerous. It's not a laughing matter. I have seen women with hyper-sexual disorders not on medication. Be careful what you wish for. Calling them moody is an understatement. Don't date one if you own a rabbit.
Simply having high sex drive (some of these people jokingly call themselves "nymphos") is not a bad thing as long as she does not have a past history of having many different partners, or having sexual relations in a lot of high-risk environments (swingers groups, orgies, worked on a porn movie called "The 79th Marine Division", etc) Either way make sure she gets tested for STDs of ALL types before sleeping with her. Be a wise fish, else you could end up with a limp flounder. 
If your friend really suspects that is what she has then she should see a medical professional and also get blood tests for other impulse causing disorders -- thyroid, hormonal, pituitary imbalance, etc. Even tumors on certain glands or in the brain can cause this kind of odd behavior as well. Another reason your friend should get evaluated properly, especially if the compulsions seem to be increasing in frequency. There could be underlying health issues that are life threatening.
More likely your friend has high sexual drive (not unusual or uncommon - as the other poster said enjoy the ride if you can stay on). Female biology can create all sorts of interesting mood swings, desires, and compulsive behaviors -- particular in early teens and early middle-age. However sexual compulsion in a person that exhibits high levels of anti-social activity of any form means that she probably has little control over her own impulses as well, so for you it is doubtful that she will be faithful over long term - a basic red flag. If her goal in life is to out do porn stars or brags about how many men she had in one month - you got a problem.
You should be asking yourself whether she exhibits ethical behaviors that denote responsibility and trust to others who are important in her life. That will help you determine the probablity of her faithfulness to you specifically Lack of social morale or acceptance of responsibility is usually a big red flag.
Women with sexual trauma issues generally dont trust others anyhow -- so it may also give you some indication as to the possible source of the problem. Some women who have suffereed through that kind of circumstance see sleeping with multiple partners as a way of establishing control over their life. I know that doesnt make sense to you - but that is how it works.
Persons with sexual fetish, obsessions, or compulsions also tend to have very active imaginations that tide them over the barren times (or when they try to go cold turkey and control the disorder - many do as with any other mental illness). If you can find out the nature of these fantasies might also help you evaluate what drives her needs. If you can fulfill that need (she likes guys in uniform, likes to be called names, rough intercourse, etc) then perhaps you can satisfy most of her impulses. If she dreams of doing football teams or bikers clubs -- big red flag.
Another thing to consider is whether or not she exhibits other addictive behaviors (especially if she is in denial about these other behaviors). It is not uncommon to have sexual compulsives who are also heavy alcohol or drug users. Women who use sex, booze, or drugs in combination are generally running away from something -- and are very self-destructive at the best of times. Their ability to form stable relationships or bonding is probably pretty low. If you can establish an emotional bond with them then you need to walk carefully. Most compulsives are unstable people when the need for a fix strikes. If you are not available to satisfy it then she probably has other sources. However when that person has a crash -- and see you as someone denying her the god given right to do the guys at the gas station down the road -- well again big red flag.
And lastly -- take note of any other delusional behavior she may exhibit (believing she is from planet Sexilon Sixty-Nine and her mission on earth is to do all men, is secretly directed by the Pope to do this, claims to speak to Maryln Monroes ghost, etc).  Delusional behavior is often a very bad indicator of other problems. If her grip on reality is iffy, then you need to give her a lot of room (that means move out). The nymphomania episodes will be the least of your problems if she starts to channel L. Bobbitts spirit (who I might add is not dead yet as far as I know). Anyhow you probably get the point. Your safety may be at risk.
Either way if your friend is not in denial/deluded -- and is willing to at least sit down and talk with a mental health professional (nymphomania or hyper-sexuality is something that needs more then a counselor or therapist) -- than understanding her urges and desires may help her control it. If she is really attached to you then she may be willing to deal with the illness in a way that benefits both of you. In which case you may make half the guys on this web site very jealous lol. Otherwise man you sound like your buying shares in the Titanic.
Good luck.
The Outlaw Fish - Josey Whales ---> | |
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:25:45 AM | | of course a woman with a really high sex drive can be faithfull, especially if their needs are always satisfied by the man. it also depends on the kind of relationship you have some highly sexed woman will settle for use of toys lots of foreplay if your not up for sex all the time and there is also the the aspect of how much the relationship means to each of you. Another way to get round this if you really want to date a high sexed woman and cant keep up is to have an open relationship....................be involved/watch/give your blessing to her being with other people purley for her sexual needs sex is sex after all anyone can have sex to satisfy an urge but to have that and love and trust as well is special. Or date women who dont have such high sex drives ................... but do not tar every woman with a high sex drive with the same brush, personality, satisfacton and the relationship status all come into whether or not a woman will cheat not just a high sex drive. | |
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 10/16/2007 4:09:49 PM | I think a nympho can be faithful however....
if for any reason sex stopped bein so good, so frequent or what ever id question if the person could stay faithful cos theyd need sex. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2007 4:52:15 PM | ok I have decided to post my opinion in here after reading this thread a few times.firstly anyone who is truely a nympho isnt going to go around bragging that they are. If shes bragging chances are shes just trying to peek your interest in her.my answer to the question id yes a nympho can be faitful. I know this because I suffer from a sexual addiction. I have actually been diagnosed by a doctor. I have NEVER cheated on anyone I was with and I can give you names n numbers of ex's to prove it. there are ways of keeping a sexual addiction under control just like any other addiction. being with someone who has a sexual addiction can be very stressful relationship though. I can not tell you how many fights have errupted with my ex's over sex.while many men who hear this information about me think wow thats great. I always say no actually its not fun at all. enough is never enough, and being in a committed relationship is hard.though not impossible. as a sexual addict one of the thing you have to deal with daily is rejection. since it is never enough your partner will eventually not be able to perform anymore and your left with this feeling ..when you know something is incredibly wrong with you. some quotes from my ex's.. things said to me during arguements over sex.. imagine hearing things like this all the time and then tell me how youd feel.."I'm not your G*d da*n sex slave","I just want to cuddle and watch a movie and all you can think about is f*cking, whats wrong with you", "a relationship takes more then sex, this isnt a relationship, im just your f*cking toy","ok miss insatiable, get off of me now I'm getting raw","I dont wanna do this all day"
imagine how hearing things like that makes a person feel.. trust me.. if shes bragging shes no nympho..as for cheating it all depends on her morals.. go with you gut on this one. | |
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 10/16/2007 6:03:40 PM | | I have an ex that was a loyal nympho. She didn't like my working so much though, so eventually the relationship was too demanding because she wanted to be around me all day long. So yes, it is possible if you can manage to keep each other on the edge of your seat, so to speak. | |
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 10/16/2007 9:22:20 PM | Faithfulness seems to be more an indication of character than physical need. Someone that has an incomplete character, or an immature character, may cheat if the sexual urges are sufficiently strong. But the real issue is the maturity and character of the individual.
Some women are thought of as being "nymphomaniacs". It's my opinion that many women are highly sexual at some time in their lives, and it's their experiences that cause them to express or suppress those sexual desires.
A very immature sexually aware woman (or man for that matter) is likely to find sexual conduct as a way to reaffirm their own sense of worth. And the greater the emotional immaturity the greater these expressions are likely to be expressed by either gender.
Almost any woman can become highly sexualized by a loving and trusted, and trusting, partner. The primary reason men and women become inhibited in their sexual expression is the oppressive and sometimes abusive treatment from the spouse.
If you have a spouse that you characterize as a "nympho", help that person find ways to reach orgasm in ways that will keep them out of trouble and at the same time feeling accepted and happy. Sharing masturbation stories, even when the other spouse is not available to share in the actual experience, is a way to do so. Encourage the spouse to express themselves to you in ways that will allow him or her to find safe ways to enjoy their feelings.
A spouse that cheats does so for many reasons. But I've never heard of a spouse cheating when that spouse was loved and accepted by their spouse, and both worked to encourage a healthy marriage. | |
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 10/17/2007 10:10:45 AM | You are doing something wrong, not necessarily in a sexual content but I mean in your relationship. Spend as much time as u can with her  | |
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 10/17/2007 11:03:04 AM | People cheat for different reasons. And, just because she likes sex does not mean she will cheat. Sometimes fear pushes the other party to cheat. And, obviously there is some concern, therefore your thread.
I heard this before from some guy when I was alot younger, he was really nice, seem like a decent guy, and he told me that sometimes women push men to cheat, sometimes when they assume you are a cheater you end up cheating. Well, I never understood that and never understood why someone would cheat. Given that I was in a relationship for a very long time with a somewhat insecure man, anyone can get that way when they fear loss, it made me understand where that guy from my college days meant by what he said.
Moral to my story: Don't bring up issues when there aren't any. Trust until the trust is broken, otherwise what you have is already broken by no fault of the other party. Don't create that self-fullfilling prophecy and enjoy what you have. If she likes sex and she is doing it with you, enjoy.  | |
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 10/17/2007 11:12:41 AM | | yes she can be faithful. Having an overwhelming desire for sex is not a bad thing. Enjoy her wild and wooly ways cause you are definitely in for adventure of a one in a million type. Don't toss her away... You will remember her forever. | |
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 10/17/2007 11:42:30 AM | You beat me to it no_1_bby ,LoL!
I had one of these a few years ago, and I have to say from my experience, that the answer is most probably no, looking back , I should have seen it fairly soon, but love is blind, she was completely crazy and insatiable, Oh Yeah!, any time, any place, any where!, and then one day when I was visiting, her teenage daughter reeled of a list of guys names that had been trying to get in touch with her, and right away she seemed to be embarrassed (I think her daughter was fairly Pi**ed off with it all) , when i asked her about it, I got some very weak excuses, but seeds of doubt were sown, and 'things' started to fall into place.
I think that when she got into 'the mood' it did'nt occur to her that what she was doing would hurt someone, it just wasn't part of the mind set. She was actually quite an attractive lady, and a very nice person too, apart from her compulsion, but she just couldnt help herself.
It was a lot of fun while it lasted, and gave me a new perspective of relationships.
Would I do it again....Hmmmm, Hell Yeah!... In my dreams
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 10/17/2007 11:50:31 AM | Having a high sex drive has nothing to do with fidelity. There are people with a very low sex drive that have cheated as well. If this bother you, it may be more a reflection of your insecurities than her behavior. So talk to her. One thing I believe is certain. If somebody have cheated before, they will do it again.
Now if you ask her, it is important to be aware of where are you in the relationship with her. Are you exclusive? Have you had that talk? Or just assuming? | |
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| Can a nympho be faithful?
Posted: 10/17/2007 12:55:35 PM | | lucky for some..............endinin up wit a nympho.................like twice............thats a gift and a curse right there keep looking there some one for everyone lol | |
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