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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:10:54 AM | Funny thing about attraction. When you are young like yourself...you tend to look at someone and think "yeah..wow..they're definitely doable" When you get older..to say maybe my age and you look at someone of the opposite sex. You notice whether they are clean, well kept, look like they are a genuinely happy person, and not mad at the world in general.....and ::drumroll please:: you wait to see what comes out of their mouth when they speak before you think "yeah...wow..they're definitely doable." Saying something like that about friends would definitely make me toss a man in the "non-doable" pile. Sincerity, integrity, honesty, and a good heart can make even a plain jane/john extremely hot to the right person. And REAL friends are hard to find..and should be treasured. Just my thoughts. | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:17:36 AM | | People tend to know, deep down, how attractive they are. They figure this out based on how much attention they get in life. So, if your female friends are honest about how much attention they get, and still comment as they did...I'd say they engaged in projection. And take their comment with a grain of that type of salt. :) | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:25:39 PM | | If I see an attractive guy hanging out with men who were behaving rudely, I'd be cautious. But the attractiveness of the women he's hanging with has no bearing on whether I'm interested. Frankly, I doubt that your gal pals are all that ugly. Women tend to have the ability to see beauty in places some men don't bother to look. Second, that's an incredibly competitive stance your friends take on who to ask out. As in, they would only want a man who hangs with gorgeous, svelte ladies? Meh. The whole concept is silly. | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 5/24/2008 6:21:53 AM | | I dont think most people assess their looks on how much attention they get, at women don't for the most part. I think that the more attractive a woman is ..the LESS attention she gets because men are either intimidated or they think she must be taken. Men are more likely to approach "average" women. As far as men "checking me out" im not so vain that I even notice it unless its blatantly outward. I just don't pay attention or think that looks are such a big deal that people even want to make a fuss about it in public, I guess Im not overly shallow like that. | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 5/24/2008 6:33:26 AM | | I would think if you are looking to pick up a woman, the last thing you would want to do is be out with ANY other women while trying to do it. Wouldn't a potential date look at you and say to herself "I bet one of those is his girlfriend, so he must already be taken"? I know if I saw a woman out with one or more guys, the last thing I would do is walk over and ask her out on the chance that one of them might want to beat the hell out of me for asking his girlfriend out. | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 5/24/2008 6:36:05 AM | Any way you look at it, it just doesn't make sense.
Let's pretend I am shallow for a minute. (ooh that's really hard, lol) If I see a guy hanging with mediocre to ugly girls I might think to myself "I totally have a chance!" Because who wouldn't want me over them? (Also speaking as of the "hot" girls you claim say they won't approach a dude in this situation) On the other hand, if the girls were super hot, why bother? I'd "ass"ume you were interested in one of them.
If the guy hanging out with ugly girls isn't so attractive himself, I wouldn't bother anyway lol.
So, really, it helps if you hang with ugly chicks, but you must be hot. | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 5/25/2008 6:20:51 AM | through a first glance. I could see anyone judging you. even if we logically don't want to judge - we will. we must. it's how we have survived thus far. i.e. it's not rational to be afraid of heights if we are safe. but we are inherently afraid of heights. and for good reason.
We must judge based on previous experience. And women around you will judge you. Of course you will dispel every preconceived notion of who you are when you approach and speak.
To be honest (and from personal experience), I know it should not have a dramatic affect on how well you fair during the night.
Just have fun. And people will gravitate towards you. | |
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| Hanging out with non-attractive female friends, ruin picking up girls?
Posted: 5/25/2008 10:41:18 AM | truth - if someone is attracted to you and you have a good vibe ans something to offer ...you could be surrounded by a gaggle of witches and your gonna get lucky ..
stop looking for lame reasons and get out there and approach women..!! ..not stand around pondeing life and the whats and why and maybe how ...........
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