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Posted: 3/13/2007 8:08:45 PM | | LOl..ok that's funny!!..though no man i have dated smokes pot at all!!..kinda glad to see i'm not the only one that experiences this though..how do you handle it T L Cyn? | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 8:16:34 PM | I love catching the TV show "BLIND DATE" towards the end of the date, when the man is going down in flames -he starts over complimenting the girl: "i love you" "your soooooo cute" "your sooooo hot" "marry me" etc. -the harder he tries -the more she's creeped out and cowering in the back corner of the cab  -Dude cut your losses and let it go... | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 9:07:37 PM | | It's probably because you are so sweet to them and they are not used to being treated that way. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 9:14:26 PM | | Ok Ok I warned all these boys about my friend blueyesopen......you know the song Easy lover by phil collins........that is what I keep giving her a hard time about....and she does not like it!!!! lol, she is easy to love and before you know it those 3 words come out of their mouth way too soon. Think all the boys are confusing LOVE with admiration and lust....love all the responses some very funny and I think too that it must be the water or the B.C. BUD.....after all her name used to be misswatergirl....lol... but please think about what you boys are saying and how it may come across.....I really like you.....much better than I am in love with you... | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 9:18:46 PM | What????????
Can you try this again?????? | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 9:48:41 PM | Well now ........
I think people should STFU and not got too silly too fast ........... BUT
I for one will know VERY FAST if cross paths with a potential match.
I will also know what is on her noodle very fast. If I don’t know what is on her mind - it is NOT a potential match and she will not be making any post about me like this - because I won’t turn into a whimpy clueless guy.
The type of guy that the OP is talking about has ZERO sense of what is going on (not going on) and he needs a big cup of “get a clue”.
I have a pretty good track record with relative few (but long two totalled 33 years) relationships. They have ALL (even as a kid and gfriends) been instant two way matches. None of them were any kind of guesswork - they were all known on both sides - INSTANTLY.
If either side needs to do a bunch of "head scratching" it is not a real two way match. In a real two way match - both sides feel very fortunate to have crossed paths and there is very little to think about.
There are NO games when there is a real two way match in the making - both sides know better and would not do anything to screw it up.
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Posted: 3/13/2007 9:53:01 PM | Do you look like your pictures?
I hear a lot of women don't. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 10:04:17 PM | Well for some one way to get some is saying they love you. Either it's that or they really want to know you that they like you. However after 1 or 2 dates is nearely impossible to be in love with someone. Oh you can like some one ofcourse but to say you love some one after 2-3 days is a whole different ball game..
I bet they don't even know what love is.. The sentence "I love you" is being abused by a lot of people to get someone into bed.. It will probably be abused for centuries to go.. And probably for some it's working otherwise they wouldn't abuse it.. LOL | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 5:46:41 AM | Well Hun...I plan the wedding...pick-up the honeymoon tickets...As he arrives at the Church I call from the airport to tell him I am running away!
*No man was hurt in this mishap... | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 6:32:43 AM | | LMAO TL Cyn!! too funny!! | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 6:43:10 AM | Hey blue eyes
Your question has a simple answer. I didn't read all the other answers so stop me if you've heard this one.
I checked your pix and bio. You're obviously hot. We men are very visual creatures.
My guess is the men once they saw you wanted you for their own. You were the best looking woman they've ever been out with.
Knowing women are mostly romantic and think with their hearts, the men put the "I love you" out there quick hoping they'd establish an exclusive relationship with you.
Instead of working, it put you off and you wondered what kind of moron would say such a thing...how about a desperate insecure one? | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 7:02:50 AM | hmmmmm, saying 'i love you' on the second date doesn't count. one reason being that the person hardly knows you well enough.
the only time the 'i love you' counts is when you've shared toothbrush, you know his 'smile', you have some of your tampons at his house and so on. in other words when you have been seeing each other for some time, and you both know each other and you've moved far past the uncomfortable first date.
if they say 'i like you' thats a different story because that usually leads onto a third, forth, fifth date etc. a relationship... but 'i love you' on a second date or too soon... sounds like lust, which doesn't usually last.
could they mean it? maybe, but its most likely because of physical attraction, but thats not really 'love' now is it? | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 7:38:49 AM | maybe this is being over analyzed, it doesnt have to mean anything in the serious sense, its most probably just an expression of adoration or maybe its a way of letting you know he likes you
puppy love is another thing, when i was younger id look at girls and think, i love that girl/wow, she's wonderful/beautiful/whatever
or here's another thought, you ever said something daft that you dont really mean? | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 8:37:24 AM | I'd say 'awesome'....let's get married right now!
and then grab the waiter, bartender, prison guard ( anyone social ya know ),
and have them 'marry you'...
'do you, hat wearing chick on POF, take this needy, stoned, man to be your husband'
"yes" etc. etc.
Whole thing gets lightened up. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 8:42:30 AM | | OMG i LOVE that idea Jamie!! Thank you! Perfect!! | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 5:15:39 PM | Blueyesopen's friend probably has it already figured it out for her when she says
Think all the boys are confusing LOVE with admiration and lust
Maybe quite dating BOYS and try the men out for awhile. They are hard to find, but I'm sure when you find one, you will be surprised. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 8:19:59 PM | . . . . . . . . if his name was "BOB" . . . . . . and he came with a pack of batteries?
I say LOVE HIM TO DEATH!!!!
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Posted: 3/14/2007 8:36:02 PM | | LOL..thank you..been workin on that relationship for years!! LOL | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 11:09:59 PM | Blue Eyes,
It's all your fault in SOOO many ways.
First and foremost, stop looking like Shania Twain, because damn, we wanna make you feel like a woman....
Second...you're wearing "that" hat so we figure you are gonna spare the horse and ride a cowboy!
Seriously though, you need to probably screen better through email before meeting them. Anyone that says it that quick has no idea what the true definition of what it is anyway, and assumes if they say it, that will give them quick access to...well...you know...
Good luck with your search there Shania (wink wink nudge nudge) | |
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Posted: 3/14/2007 11:11:56 PM | | you got game..and you got what men like. i need that. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2007 1:21:43 AM | wow what a good way to get you running away from them yelling ahhhhhhhh scary!
it's probably a combination of the fact that you're a.gorgeous and b.seem really nice/funny/friendly.
maybe these guys see a good thing and just want to latch on to it? I agree that they are crazy for dropping the L bomb like that!
maybe they think it will set them apart from anyone else you might be dating?
and in a way I guess it does but probably *NOT* in the manner they hoped it would! | |
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Posted: 3/15/2007 2:06:03 AM |
You suck at picking men.
Very perceptive and most likely true. I think you are out-of-their league so of course they are desperate to have you. You need the confidence to date more desirable men. Men that don't think you are the living end and men and can take you or leave you. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2007 7:42:46 AM | | Perhaps you have incredible pheromones, or amazing charisma! (Or perhaps a really cute ass and they're in lust, not love.) | |
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Posted: 3/15/2007 8:03:16 AM | So far all good advice..and thank you very much for all the sweet comments too.
but now leads me to another question then...if i'm not picking men properly..which ,well come one now..obviously i can even see that?..LOL...what kinda screening process am i missing?..i have that written right out on my profile not to say something like that as i feel it's rediculous, first paragraph actually!..and it usually does come up on conversation..as conversation does always lead to eachothers past experiences with other pof dates..i only date people my age or older....i try to learn much about their life before i go out with them..lots of friends..good family, ect..try to weed out the needy ones.....
So yes i still just don't get it!....and i'm a pretty simple easy goin chick...really i get a long with just about everyone! i can have fun where ever i am..NEVER think of myself better than anyone else!..EVER...and i've worked very hard all my adult life instilling that into my children as well! an important quality to have i think...
Maybe it just boils down to the old saying...men just don't listen to us woman! LOL....cause if they were listening to me at all..as we get to know one another..they'd know that is a weee bit of a turn off, for me! LOL | |
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Posted: 3/15/2007 8:19:01 AM | Blue;
Well, let's see if I can enlighten you a little. While not knowing the guys, you still describe them as "nice and decent." If that's true (I'll take your word for it), then they're probably feeling some connection with you, and calling it love. Take it as a compliment, it means you're doing something right---you've made him feel just wonderful about being with you. What you're probably dealing with is the guy knows a good thing when he sees her, wants her for himself (exclusively), and simply tells her he's feeling a connection by saying "I'm in love..." in hopes of inducing the same feeling in you. It doesn't work, but give the guy some credit for trying...
Oh, btw, nice eye color! | |
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