| Was I too mean?
Posted: 3/18/2007 4:17:41 PM | pgsnow,
Don't worry too much over this. You did the right thing by letting her know that 1) You didn't appreciate the way she was treating you and 2) It was officially over and you were moving on.
Based on what you posted, there was nothing there that could be checked into the "mean" category. You spoke your mind and gave yourself closure. The fact that you sent it in a text message is irrelevant considering the fact that she was not being responsive to you through phone. How else were you going to contact her, you know?
I think you have learned the lesson of not rushing into something, especially when it comes to a long distance relatonship and it includes any type of relocating. Good luck to you in your future relationships! :) | |
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| Was I too mean?
Posted: 3/22/2007 12:54:23 AM | | Again I wasnt the one rushing the relationship she was the one that wanted me to move. I even told her that in my field which is IT that it takes a long time to find a good job because of the industry itself. Two months later I finally received some job offers and that makes it worst. I was stupid for not looking into the relationship and going with the flow. I just cant believe she would just blow me off without an explanation but yet again that shows the character of person that she is and that she has deeper issues that I cant imagine. She even took my trojans which I have no idea why someone would even do that. Thats like stealing your manhood away from you LoL . But yet again I can forgive her because of the hard life that she has and I hope she finds true happiness one day because everyone deserves that. For me I think Im over it but I cant trust women anymore. Im tired of getting treated like crap and Im tired of women saying that they want a nice guy. Ive been a nice guy all of my life and look at me now. The longest relationship I ever had was eight months and Ive even tried to be an a**hole but I cant its not in my nature. I guess Im tired of people in general being fake and not being real. I know theirs genuine people at their but they are far and few between. Again just want to thank everyone out their for replying you have helped tremendously. | |
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| Was I too mean?
Posted: 3/22/2007 1:30:01 AM | Where were you mean? Asking for the truth? I dont understand the title, it seems to me that you were reasonable and deserved some communication, some truth, and she started hiding... I dont understand people either, they act all great at first then act like they are afraid of actually getting what they said they were looking for.. it could be self sabotage, it could be she was full of it or that she just thought things were moving way too fast and that if you moved there that you would have "depended on her" for too much, who know... you did the right thing, move on, try to understand that people are messed up and their minds are full of BS from TV, magazines, movies, family, friends and their own fears and weaknesses... Now you can move where ever you want, you know that people are interested in hiring you and you have your whole life and the whole world ahead of you... best of luck... it didnt sound mean at all to me.
BL | |
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| Was I too mean?
Posted: 3/22/2007 5:16:06 AM | | stop being so hard on yourself! mean? I didnt see anything mean in what you wrote. | |
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| Was I too mean?
Posted: 3/22/2007 5:50:05 AM | pgsnow:
You were not being mean at all. I think you took the high road in all of this. Another poster once said on the forums here that there are some people that act like "monkeys swinging on vines" meaning, the monkey will not let go of the vine behind him/her until he/she has a new vine to grab on to. Unfortunately you were the vine she was hanging on to while grabbing for a new one. I wish you the best. You sound like a decent guy.
WD | |
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| Was I too mean?
Posted: 3/22/2007 6:14:31 AM | | Actually the last six months things have gone really good for me and I have never felt better and more confident. I just ment that when it comes to the relationship side of my life its been pathetic. But Im sure their are many other pof that have worse experiences than me. | |
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