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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/5/2007 5:35:32 PM | This just happened to me Saturday, when I met someone for the first time. He brought me one red rose. I thought it was wonderful.I took it inside the restaurant with me, and the girls who worked there, kept saying what a nice man he must be.
It made me feel special to think he would stop and buy me a rose, complete with a few stems of baby's breath! | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/5/2007 7:03:18 PM | I have brought things before.... a small bag of fresh apricots... some apples... or something I baked. Yeah, it is kind of a neat gesture. I wouldn't say that it makes a difference in the long run.... but it does share a bit of "feeling special for the moment".
... hey, what is wrong with making someone smile? | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/6/2007 7:37:17 AM | First date? I don't know about that.
If he showed up with a rose before even meeting me, I'd be a little turned off, unless we'd been talking for a really long time or it was my birthday or something.
However, in the middle of the date, if things were going really well and he stopped and bought a rose from a vendor or something, I'd be touched.
But at first sight, carrying a rose? Seems a little presumptuous to me. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/6/2007 9:10:44 AM | I still think that a man that thinks about going out on a date and picks up or makes something special for the person is probably a keeper. Getting emails from guys for just sex to going out on a date with a man that brings a gift....geez, no comparison. My dream date is still being brought a flower to wear, having the man order for me after I have stated what I wanted, his chosing the perfect wine to go with it, and ending with a gift of chocolates so that after he leaves I will still remember him with each lump going to my hips...joke...
It has been 2 years since I have been given a gift by a man. I don't really mean to complain, I know it sounds that way. I really want to say how impressive it is for a man to bring something. Heck, I am just impressed when a guy is that into me that he calls me. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/6/2007 9:22:46 AM | I think I would prefer to see a rose on the second date, that would let me know how he feels without him having to say a single word. It's a very thoughtful gesture, depending on the colour of the rose. White = innocence, pink = friendship, yellow = jealousy, and red = love or affection. 
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/6/2007 11:48:32 AM | | A single flower is a wonderful gesture. A bouquet is good too. But what makes any flowergiving special, is if the man actually gives her favorite flower. Also....it can't be just any rose..........rose colors have different meanings. Make sure you know the difference. I like white or pink, but red is for love......not casual. I also like black roses believe it or not. Try a theme depending on the time of year. If it is Halloween, try black and purple roses with bats or spiders incorporated in the bouquet. Valentines day doesn't have to be about hearts only......how about pink flamingos with pink roses and red or white carnations. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/6/2007 12:54:35 PM | In general women love flowers. Many years ago I delivered flowers and it was the flip side of kill the messanger because so many were delighted to get the flowers or plant. A guy has to know how to do it if he will give roses--start with a single rose, miniature roses, 3 roses, 6 roses, a dozen--leave yourself somewhere to advance as the relationship grows.
I once delivered roses to a woman in her 40s who had never received roses before and she was ecstatic, but to me it was also a little sad because nobody cared enough to give her roses before. At Halloween at work I dressed up as V from the movie "V for Vendetta" who would give a rose to his next "victim" and I had a rose as part of my costume. Later I gave the rose to a woman at work and she was delighted. She had seen the movie so she understood about the rose, but she still kept it with her for the entire night and took it home with here.
It's too bad that so many women have become suspicious about every little thing a man will do. For a man to bring a single rose on a first date does not mean he is desperate or trying too hard. Even if the woman does not like flowers she should at least be gracious enough to receive it in the spirit it was given. We see so many threads and questions about chivalry being dead and bringing a rose even for a first date is a good example of chivalry and yet it gets treated with mistrust or judged poorly. Pity. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/7/2007 8:58:30 PM | It is sweet whenever a a guy gives a rose on the first date , actually I had bouquets of roses given to me on many first dates and beyond! Even though rose are beautiful, they are expensive and do not last very long ! The guy could give me carnations,daises, or tulips becasue I have a thrifty side to me ! I had a boyfriend two years who gave me a dozen red roses from his home garden when i left to go to school for Washington, d.c. for 2 semesters. This was the night before I left for Washington and I had to give the roses to my mother !
Also, this was a first date and we met at Applebees restaurant and he gave me a dozen of roses and I was bit embarrassed inside the restaurant becasue I was the only woman in the restaurant that received flowers! | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/7/2007 9:39:17 PM | A first date?
Sh it I told my long term guy of years ago (his sister brought us together evnetually, her newest man bought her a dozen roses almost everyday, they didn't have a great relationship nor last as long as her brother and I did).. anyway, upon her constant prima donna attitude about her bf spending all that money on things that would die, I told my bf I thought it a huge waste of money.
I got from him a rose every now and then, it meant a lot more to me. So did the Easter Basket he made up for me one year. He even pretended there was 'someone' at the door.
He was more romantic in the little things he did than any guy who bought me the dozen roses or big romantic deals. Those men had know imagination nor did they 'get me'.
If he had been a stronger person and if I was as well I would not have left him.
Ah well, he is happily married now and has what I could never give him ... a child.. something he never told me was a big deal.
But, we are better off now, I left because I knew he wouldn't admit it was not working.
I did it out of love. And I don't regret that to this day.
So, no, I don't think a man who brings flowers on a first date is being romantic. I allowed some guy a few years ago who I was not interested in to try to romance me that way.
He turned into a control freak who said I couldn't wear my favorite sweater on a trip to MS just because it has a playboy emblem on it. At the time the sweater was the least revealing thing I liked to wear when going out. I originally thought he was just a friend who shared in my local music passion at the time.
Sorry for the off topic .. but bottom line again, men bringing flowers on the first date...
it is ok, but makes me think they are expecting more of a relantioship than a first date. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/7/2007 9:42:06 PM |
A gentlemen once bought me a plant, which I thought was a unique idea at the time.
HEY! a gent bought/brought Me a Plant once Too
and? I *thought*...
"Well, aint dat nice? a Plant, something 'lasting' - Unlike a flower, that will whither and DIE"
But, 'ill be IF...that ding danged plant dinnt do Just THAT
Yup-as our relationship/love started to choke,whither,DIE
Sooo did that Plant!
(twas a 'flowering' Plant, it grew/bloomed/flourished-right along with our Love...awww,how ~sweet~)
Then: brown/wilting/NoThing could save it. The 'blooms' Died, leaves fell Off, whole thing just went KuhPooT!
'a Rose'? on First Date?
'sweet' (maybe) *but* means nuthin | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/9/2007 10:16:44 AM | | I have tried my best to a gentleman, for the pass 3 lady's I have dated. The last girlfriend . After the first date I had flowers sent to her with a guesture note on how much I enjoyed the evening we had. She did thank me and we dated for 4 months and I continued to give her red rose's . Just after the last dozen an candy she called it quits. This is a sample of the past 3 lady's I have dated . Sorry I starting to give up on the idea of being romanic or a gentleman from this point on | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/13/2007 2:37:28 PM |
but bottom line again, men bringing flowers on the first date...
it is ok, but makes me think they are expecting more of a relantioship than a first date.
Well in case you don't understand, that is the idea, I mean if I go out with someone, I always like to consider that an opportunity for potentially something more to occur, why else would you go unless it is as friends or something like that. To not be expecting a relationship or atleast to not have that in the back of your head I think it is a form of lying to the other person who is looking for a relationship, it may be a form of leading them on.
Here's a saying that I think anyone who understand will get the most success and get it with the right person "See every date, as a potential mate". Otherwise if you are just going as friends, then I would hope the person would tell the other person that, so they don't waste their time. Nobody wants to waste time, and to take someone on a "date" without seeing the situation as a possibility to get into something further is nothing short then wasting the persons time and leading them on.
But to answer the question, yes I did and do bring flowers on first dates, because I consider every date as a potential to get into something more. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/14/2007 6:06:22 AM | Wow! I don't want to offend anyone here but there are alot of women with issues! If a man shows up on a first date and brings you a flower...just smile and thank him, don't jump to conclusions, he is not trying to control you whether it is a daisy or a rose. Its a nice gesture, don't let your poor self esteem convince you its wrong, as your not worthy. He brought it to you and expects you to smile, and rightfully so. It takes preparation a little planning and its sweet. Maybe men should bring a flower on the first date to see the reaction, weed out the ones who are a little nuts!
Your worried about your cat when you bring it home? Good god!  | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/14/2007 2:28:16 PM | As long as its not a Red Rose because i'm sure all of us know the difference, or atlease would guess so. If i would go with a rose, being the first date, i would go with a yellow one, cause its harmless and shows friendship. Usually though, I would wait for a few dates to actually get items for the lady. and then its usually a nice bouquet or flowers, Roses are just tooo cliche. I've talked to some women and if the date went horrible in thier minds, and recieved a gift, rose, or some flower, some women find it hard to break it off and not see them because of the gift. Then it just gets drawn out and ends badly.
So all in all, I think that a gift, flower, of any kind on the first date is kinda a bad idea. First of all, you are trying to get to know each other (if they dont like the gift you got them... oooops), then each date afterwards it kind of leaves expectations, doesnt it???
I would like to surprise my dates after a few, and just do something special on the date, or like i said before, pay attention to their likes, and go from there. | |
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I think it's a very sweet gesture. A gentlemen once bought me a plant, which I thought was a unique idea at the time.
