| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/15/2007 12:35:44 PM | I would have to say I like it. One of my dates from here brought me the most beautiful pink rose for our first date. He was the youngest guy I had ever dated on here and it really changed the way I had viewed age when accepting dates from younger guys. It showed me that young guys can be romantic as well.  | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/16/2007 3:11:21 PM | We are talking about the FIRST date here? Right?
It is basically saying that the guy is a needy soft-touch & will do anything, no matter how annoying to impress the girl.
Flowers AFTER the first date, as a surprize, if the date went well, & if there is going to be a second date - then yes. Hey, I'll do that. It's will be a nice surprize (well, not now it won't as I'm typing it here...), or flowers a few dates down the line - 2nd, 3rd... yes. Absolutely - I've done that in the past & I will do it again.
But for the FIRST date....... You are giving flowers to someone you don't even know???????? I dunno...Could be interpreted as stalker-ish. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/16/2007 5:49:54 PM | | Not a necessary thing, but it does show that he has some idea of romance and can be thoughtful. Of all the guys (ha ha....4) that I've been out with this year, the one who showed up with a rose and a birthday gift for me is the only one I'm still in touch with. Coincidence? Maybe, maybe not. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/17/2007 2:39:09 PM | I think the best thing a man can do on a first date is arrive with a rose.
It is such a simple thing to do and also very inexpensive but it has a huge impact and portrays being romantic. It also starts the date off on a positive note.
I remember one time a date arrived and I looked out the window and saw he had something in his hand and I immediately had a smile on my face thinking it was a rose. But......the smile soon turned to a frown when he walked in and asked me if he could throw out his empty Mcdonalds cup in my trash can !!!!!!
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You are right of course Astreda
And my rose bushes are regularly raided at 3am by guys who have just had a fight with the gf, and cant get to a flower shop at that time of night.
They are welcome to my roses too.
But one thing bugs me.
That a girl is so shallow that she will go to water over one rose, and then turn too hellfire over a simple requst by somebody who doesn't want to foul the environment with McLitter. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/19/2007 3:48:40 PM | I think the best thing a man can do on a first date is arrive with a rose.
It is such a simple thing to do and also very inexpensive but it has a huge impact and portrays being romantic. It also starts the date off on a positive note.
I am surprised that so many women think a red rose on a first date is such a good idea. I am sure on other threads they complain about guys "not getting it" yet on this subject, they seem to relish his ineptness to the point of encouraging it.
It may sound quaint but there is a language to flowers -both color as well as selection- and someone showing up with a rose on a first date of any color does not get it! Furthermore, even if you have been dating a while and the first rose you are given is a red rose, they still do not get it! There is also a separate matter but one that may well be worth considering: the element of someone bringing a rose to a first date as trying too hard and possibly having ulterior motives. (Like that kid who brought apples to the teacher in school -can you say "brown-nose"?)
I do not have time to go into the subject of flower protocol but basically a rose is the primary flower of romance. Its different shades have different expressed meanings and the red rose means "I love you."
Any woman who would feel awkward at a guy verbally professing his undying love to her on a first date (and presumably any sane woman would find this uncomfortable at the very least) should think twice if he gives her the floral equivalent. Because that is what the red rose expresses and odds are good that he does not mean that on a first date...if he did you probably would not want him around for a second date  | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/19/2007 3:58:50 PM | On the first date? Are we talking the infamous coffee date? It would creep me out a little if he appeared with it on that date. If the date went well and he asked for a second date, a sweet gesture such as a flower or perhaps something he remembered or noted I liked would be nice.
Roses though say alot, a different flower for me would be better ( gerbera daisy or a lily ) something different ( trinket, ornamnet ) would show creativity. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/19/2007 10:16:38 PM | I am a sucker for flowers. Roses are pretty but I really don't care what they are, I love any flowers. Daffodils in the spring, wildflowers, etc. I love to feel like a guy is trying to make a nice first impression, whatever that may be. I think it's nice if they at least show up in something other than a grungy tshirt and jeans...and at least offer to pay for the meal (if we go out to eat as is typical for a first date). I don't need to go someplace really nice but to me it just feels cheap if he expects me to pay on a first date. Guess I'm just old-fashioned!
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/20/2007 12:25:01 AM | It is such a simple thing to do and also very inexpensive but it has a huge impact and portrays being romantic. It also starts the date off on a positive note.
Ok your seeing the positive side to this that is nice to hear that but you never know what intensions this guy might have up his sleeve.
Well this is my opinion.
If this was my first date with this person and I did not know her very well I would not give her roses or flowers because I don’t want to give her the wrong impression or her to think that she owes me something in return or her to think of me as someone I my not turn out to be after the first date.
However if this was someone I knew like a friend lets say or someone I talked fluently to and I’ve always wanted to take her out and sweep her off her feet for her first date I would try to make it an unforgettable first date so yes flowers to start very thing off then my own secrets.
But that’s just my opinion. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/20/2007 4:07:23 AM | NO...because the first date is usually the 'get to know you - interview' and I really hate for a man to spend money on me until he's sure he wants to see me again or vice versa.
Don't get me wrong - I LOVE receiving flowers. Am thrilled to death to receive them (the 3 times I have received them in my whole life) but there is a time and place. I don't think men should waste their money on every flippin woman they meet. They ought to save it for the one they decide to spend some serious (quality) time with. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/20/2007 4:17:38 AM | sebeery sez:
Seriously tho, I can't believe there are people who would do something like that...
You would prefer he left in on the ground or perhaps on the floor of the car he intends to take her out in? I think he was being pretty darn considerate... and polite.
OP sets a new standard for anal and you my friend set a new standard for public arse kissing. Are dates really all that hard to come by? | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/20/2007 4:27:50 AM | | Yes I would like a rose or any flowers. It shows he put thought into the date. That would be nice if he did bring a rose. Women love to get small gifts. Not big gifts, just to let us know that you kind and thoughtful. I have dated a man that would let me buy everything and no I did not like it. It was a one way street and it ended. I want someone to think of me, not me do everything for them. So guys bring the flowers. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/20/2007 5:46:12 AM | | For those who are so adamant about not getting flowers on a first date or ever, how about simply showing a little bit of class and graciousness for a gesture a guy is making toward you in doing something that he thinks would be nice. I am sure that the overwhelming number of guys who bring even a single flower to a first date are not thinking, "Well, gee, how can I totally piss her off right away or appear to be pathetically trying too hard?" Is he supposed to know everything you like and dislike on a first date? Let's face it, traditionally in our society it has been a nice thing for a guy to bring a flower or flowers. Everything a guy does need not be overanalyzed and he certainly does not need to be judged on every action, questioning his motivation or if he is needy or trying too hard. Has anybody ever considered that doing something nice for somebody is just simply doing something nice and has no other meaning than that? | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/20/2007 5:57:30 AM | ^^^^^Exactly, well said.
Being a florist I can tell you that for some men even walking into a florist is like pulling teeth.
The gesture is everything.... giving me a Dandelion would be just as touching.
A bit of professional trivia....men are actually more romantic than women. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/24/2007 12:57:34 AM | | OP, that must have been disappointing. I'd love to get flowers, or even a flower, on a first date. Never have though. In fact, only ever gotten flowers 3 times from guys....the first was this guy I was nuts about who'd been in an accident. His mom told him I'd been at the hospital constantly while he was in ICU and when he was released, he came over and brought me a dozen red roses for being so concerned. The next time, was on my 24th birthday, a guy I was dating brought me two dozen red roses and a music box and then made dinner for me....I was floored! Then the first year we were married, my second husband brought me eleven red roses and one white in the center of the bouquet for valentines day. But flowers on a first date? never gotten 'em. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/24/2007 10:35:02 PM | I used to bring a rose on every first date, but that was a long time ago.
At some point I realized, that on a first date, it's a generic, almost empty gesture; you don't know the girl well enough to know if it's meaningful. Besides, there are plenty of other ways to impress a date with the idea that you're romantic and a gentleman.
By the second or third date, if it's going well, I think flowers are a lot more meaningful - and probably more of a surprise.
In fact, I think if a girl is surprised if she gets flowers ANY time other than a first date or if you did something bad :-) | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/27/2007 4:24:25 PM |
At some point I realized, that on a first date, it's a generic, almost empty gesture; you don't know the girl well enough to know if it's meaningful. Besides, there are plenty of other ways to impress a date with the idea that you're romantic and a gentleman.
Very true and nicely stated! | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 12/27/2007 4:59:47 PM | Asreaa,
It has been so long since I have received flowers from a date... I wondered if people still did that. I actually had that exact thought the other day... wondering what happened to that simple gesture. Among others.
What happened to a man opening a car door... I can't tell you how many times I've look like a fool... left standing at the passenger door of the car; only to have "him" ask "Are ya gonna get in or what?" Sigh.
I have even had the recent pleasure of a man walking into the building (coffee house) and holding the door, just enough, for me to take it, as he walked in, in front of me. Leaving me struggling with a very heavy door. Sighing again.
Yes, bash me for being a bit old-fashioned. Bash me for being picky. Bash me for wanting a hint of romance. But! I do relish in those small gestures of chivalry, kindness and care.
I love the feel of a man's hand on my lower back as he escorts me into a room, or pulls out my chair, or helps me on or off with my coat (gently untucking my hair from that newly placed coat) or the offer of his arm as we walk. All those little things...
And yes, the gesture, of a flower or flowers, would definitely be the "icing on the cake" and make me smile...
My two pence,
-Laurel Lei | |
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