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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 10/10/2007 1:44:09 PM | I once had a guy give me a thank you card after out date....he had it signed and sealed prior to our date and gave it to me before I fled from his car...
I thought WTF!!!!!! 
I prefer not to get gifts on the first date, actually I prefer not to get gifts anytime.... | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 10/14/2007 1:08:11 PM | I for one think a rose presented to a date is classy. One rose is not going to shake a woman's world, but it shows this man is willing to go that extra mile. Ladies, receive it with appreciation and know it is only a suggestion of kindness in most all cases!
All you men who give roses on a date (first or thereafter), keep up the good work!  | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 10/19/2007 10:56:04 AM | At a first date with a guy we went for dinner & I realised in the early stages of the evening that I'd not be wanting to go on a second date with him. At the end of the evening he asks if I'd like a lift home. I decline nicely saying I'm taking a taxi. He asks me to wait in the restaurant, dashes off, returns a few mins later with a boquet of beautiful flowers. Obviously he's rushed & a bit out of breath, tells me he's been to his car to get the flowers which he'd bought earlier for me. He hands them to me & asks when he can see me again... Oh! Oh!.. I thank him kindly for the flowers & tell him I'll ring him tomorrow... I never did.. Had he not presented me with the flowers then I would have found it much easier to have told him there & then in a nice way that I wouldn't be seeing him again.. The flowers, although a lovely gesture, made it too difficult for me to be up front & 100% honest with him. I really do think a flower, or flowers on the first date is perhaps a little too much too soon!  | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 10/19/2007 4:35:25 PM | Bad idea!  It tells the gal: "I'm eager to win your approval." Nothing like that projection to set yourself firmly on the road to looking like a puppy dog. While every gal loves a puppy dog, only the wierdest of the wierd will have sex with one. A man should never do anything that seeks a woman's approval and makes him look like a puppy dog. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 11/3/2007 10:52:28 PM | there isnt anything wrong with flowers but lemme ask this why is it from my experiences guys like to do all the good stuff right off make sure they got the girl then all a sudden the small sweet simple things fade and eventually come to a hault? i know that they werent for me obviously cuz im not with them but it jus seems like its a big show to get the heart then ta da got ya now i dont have to do any more of that stuff?
so personally flowers on a first date well if it went good and maybe he saw a flower shop on the way home or during ya and stopped then to get one but to um jus show up with one i thinkid be put off by that even if it a sweet thing to do. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 11/4/2007 5:16:03 AM | If we have talked on the phone enough to know each other, which I would imagine would have happened, then I'd rather he bring something that reflects what he has learned about me, and not just a canned gesture. I had a man bring me a key chain leatherman because we were talking on the phone and I was having trouble opening something. He came in the door for a date, and handed it to me with a little bow on it and said "So you never break a nail again opening a can." Then he put it on my key chain.
That meant he was paying attention and listening. Way better than a rose. A rose says this is what I think you would like according to how I see the world. Something with thought behind it says I listened to you and heard what you like or need, and your concerns, and how you see or live in the world. Big difference. That man is not on automatic. He's listening! Automatic is totally not sexy or interesting. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 11/4/2007 7:17:59 AM | | I responded in this thread earlier, but seeing it come to the top again made me think about it again. I've read so very many posts from both men and women about how difficult it is to find somebody. I've read many posts by women complaining about men and their behavior and how so many are just out for sex. Here you have something that is done by a man that is genuinely nice--giving a rose on a first date, and the gesture is belittled and the man's motives get questioned and picked apart. This is really, really pathetic and sad and is a clear testimony to the futility of a man who is willing to go the extra mile for a woman. The clear message is that there is no reason for a man to worry about trying because nothing he will do is right. He is damned if he does, and damned if he doesn't. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 11/28/2007 8:21:47 PM | I love the romantic things like flowers and candy!  You know that they thought about you before they took you out. I am finding out that my frame of mind is old school. I like doors being opened, chairs pushed in, coats held, all of that stuff! That is who I am and I hope to find someone who appreciates it one day....or wait, I appreciate it...ummm...I hope to find someone I appreciate doing it for me..... | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 11/28/2007 9:21:25 PM |
lets you know he cares and is trying. I dated a guy once who never showed up without a gift or a bouquet.
Well in my opinion i think a flower is too common of a gesture, be more creative when bringing a girl a gift for the first date, it lets her know your always thinking and always on your toes and most of all creative. it doesnt say "sleep with me" because on the first date your not trying to do that, your initally trying to get to know that one person a little better then you knew them before the date :) all in all BE CREATIVE GUYS women love the ones who are creative and bring something different to the table everytime
TBC | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 11/29/2007 12:33:41 AM | | ok.. to be fair, i asked for it off handedly as a joke. "are you gonna be holding a book or a yellow rose, so i'd recognize you" and although he was MIA for 30 minutes, he had a dozen yellow roses for me. i melted right then and there... normally i'd blow it off but it was so sweet and the fact that he actually heard me when i spoke... omg! cheezy or not, i was swayed. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 11/29/2007 5:14:24 AM | Well i was greeted with 2 dozen roses on a "first date" very thoughtful, i had a "meet and greet" the day before. Roses are beautiful and something that i appreciate,their colors and textures and the wonderful smell that they have! The gesture was a nice surprise and very classy.
Sandbug
p.s. happy  to all of the "fish" in the pond. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 11/29/2007 5:52:52 AM | I remember my last 1st date I arrived with a huge pan of Rice Krispie treats I prepared for her. I thought instead of spending money on a flower it would be better to show that that my heart was in the effort of preparation and thinking of her while doing so rather than just in my damn wallet. Besides that she loved the treats and I had no idea about that either, it was a blind date where we had talked maybe 5 times on the phone.
Don't get me wrong, flowers rock, but I guess I was trying to make a better statement as to who I was rather than follow the standard. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 11/29/2007 9:27:31 AM |
there isnt anything wrong with flowers but lemme ask this why is it from my experiences guys like to do all the good stuff right off make sure they got the girl then all a sudden the small sweet simple things fade and eventually come to a hault? i know that they werent for me obviously cuz im not with them but it jus seems like its a big show to get the heart then ta da got ya now i dont have to do any more of that stuff?
so personally flowers on a first date well if it went good and maybe he saw a flower shop on the way home or during ya and stopped then to get one but to um jus show up with one i thinkid be put off by that even if it a sweet thing to do.
The answer to your question pof_prize is that the guy was trying to impress you by being someone he's not, happens all the time as some guys seem to feel the need to change who they are to impress a woman, been there, done that, never again I can promise you. All it does is lead to problems later on when the guy begins to feel comfortable in the relationship, he doesn't feel the need to try to impress you anymore by being someone he's not so the small "sweet" gestures stop. Now this is not true in all cases, everyone is different, but that's the way I see it. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 11/29/2007 9:47:55 AM |
I once give a first date a dairy listing her exact movements for the past week including photos of her sleeping... somehow she wasn't impressed, think I'll go with the rose thing next time and just the photos...
I do hope this stalking was a joke...not funny at all because men do get creepy and I guess women do too.
A guy once said that he loved to pick up flowers, it took him like 5 minutes and they didn't have to be roses, but the usual pay back he got was worth every second and every penny. (Pay back, means compliments, a hug, the woman's attention to him, etc., nothing unappropriate implied.)
I think if a man does get flowers they should be given at the begining of the date. A huge bouquet can be difficult to carry into a restaurant, so if he isn't picking you up at your house, a single blossom is great or something you can wear. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 11/29/2007 2:45:50 PM | I think some are reading way way way to much into it, from the "eager to win your approval" kind of thoughts, it is after all just a flower, a sweet gesture, something nice to give to someone else..why do we always need to analyse and find a negative in other peoples actions, to me, it is just sweet, whatever happened to someone just being nice.
I hope that chivalry and romance are not dead, and personally I would think about a guy fondly who gave me a simple flower of some description on a date for a very long time, even if he wasnt the one for me. | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 11/29/2007 3:47:31 PM | When a guy on a 1st date will decided just to give me a ROSE, then he will make me feel very special.
One time on a date, saying our goodbyes, he went to his car and gave me a bouquet of yellow roses, I was so surprised with his gesture, that won him a 2nd date with me !
It was a very unexpected gesture, on his behalf after our dinner date, but an awesome one.  | |
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| Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 11/29/2007 4:07:18 PM | I have been out of the dating world for over 20 yrs. "Back in the Day" I used to give a flower/rose to a girl on our first date all the time and it was always received warmly.
fast forward
I have been back in that dating world for a little over a year now and have dated only two ladies. First date/first lady; I gave a few gifts to. We had spoken on the phone for several weeks before meeting. We met online, she lived 150 miles away and I thought she might appreciate a couple gifts to show I had been listening to her. She made mention of the fact that her Bible was getting worn out from much use. It was one of those 'first time' paperback Bibles. I searched and searched until I found a leather one in her favorite color and gave it to her at our first meeting. She absolutely loved it. I had also picked a few roses and flowers from my garden, kept them fresh for the drive to her place and gave them to her. She loved that also. Unfortunately as time progressed she came to realize she needed more time to work on herself rather than a relationship but it was nice while it lasted. One time, I had given her a pretty little stone I found in the mountains where I work. I saw it and thought of her so I picked it up, put it in my pocket, presented it to her saying I thought it could symbolize my rock steady devotion to her. All I am saying is that flowers are cool to give to a lady but they also appreciate those little insignificant things which demonstrate you think of her often.
Second lady whom I am currently seeing did not get such gifts or flowers since our conversations before actually meeting seemed to indicate she thought such things had an ulterior motive behind them. Not being one to miss too many hints, I refrained from the flower giving. However; on our fourth date which coincided with the 30 day "anniversary" of our first date; she got a nice wildflower bouquet which floored her and she loved. 30 days later, it just so happened we had another date at my home and I cooked a nice meal for her. At the end of it I surprised her with a bouqet of peach colored roses. Peach is her favorite color and 'Peachy' happens to be her nickname. again, she loved it.
I think BOTH points of view have merit. The single rose on a first date does show class. Then again waiting to find out what she really likes and giving a simple gift reflecting that you had paid attention also shows class.
Best of both worlds. Best of luck out there! | |
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