| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/25/2007 10:19:42 PM | Thus far I don't have to suppose,  you learn to cope, you can still find periods of happiness, but your mostly lonely , imagine not having someone to talk to or share a joke with. you cope by thinking things could change.  | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/25/2007 10:22:06 PM | I think God has already struck me with this problem so I am glad like steven hawkins I still have my mind and fill it up constantly with things that seem to help my employment life, but not my personal relationships. I know such a looser here, but at least I am good for something  | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/25/2007 10:54:45 PM | If i do stay single. I would do alot of things I can't do in a relationship or not a lot of.
But I wouldn't mind staying single longer. I can pretty much go out with out worring about some one else or worry about your gf or wife calling you etc.
If you are single have as much fun as possible, and make it last. Remember when you get into a relationship you kinda have to lessen your fun or sacrifice some for some one you really care for. <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/25/2007 11:01:05 PM | I have been alone most of my life...
When I was younger, I was not happy about it but I dealt with it.
Now, I am happy...ifn I ever do find someone, I can only hope I remember how to be in love.
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/25/2007 11:53:46 PM | Hypothetical Situation? Well, I suppose it isn't that bad when you don't have to worry about ticking someone off...lol
lemme see... no fighting for the remote, no worrying about money, no arguements... LOL
Downside... no intimacy, no one to talk to at home (once the kids are gone) and having to cook for one... lol
Ok... lemme see... guess everything has it's advantages and disadvantages -- it is all in how you accept them and live with them that matters.
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/25/2007 11:58:32 PM | i just want to reply to OP.
I am struggling with just that concept now, after being single for five years. I'm not one to settle just to keep from being alone. I am independent and do love my quiet time. But after being married for 20 years of my life, it isn't easy. still. But the hope of finding someone to share life with, someone to care about me, keeps me going.
so, you learn to cope with what is. it's not exactly my choice. but the alternative of settling for someone you don't respect or not being respected by a mate, is much worse.
I always have my spiritual life to work on. It does get lonely tho and, honestly, i don't like being alone all the time. Especially when everyone else has someone. Where are the single people? Do i have to become the outgoing, partying type? | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/25/2007 11:59:25 PM | If I was stuck being single and had no choice but to be???... the first thing I would do is bond with my toys big time, probably own a sex shop and jump my own bones each and every night after work.
Ok I gotta get some sleep this is starting to effect me.
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 12:30:12 AM | LMAO vancer... I so hope they read our past forums or they wont know what the hell your talking about. ok you bring the wet cloth and I'll count to 100.
bet ya wont last...
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 7:04:28 AM | Suppose you were stuck single forever...
I believe I am in fact fit to be in a relationship both physically and otherwise - but 'pairing up' doesn't seem to be happening.
However, I have made friends with solitude and entertain myself quite well. I have been very fortunate to have excellent native intelligence - so the world is not boring. I have an adventurous life. However, I would choose to be in a relationship - even married -- maybe that will happen again someday.
I do believe that there will continue to be a huge number of very lonely older women - constantly increasing in numbers over the next 5 - 10 - 15 years, who will be found staunchly clutching their various laundry lists of demands with over done expectations that a male mate must meet.
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 7:09:55 AM | "Stuck" is STILL so the wrong word..... That smacks of both desperation and the old school idology taught to young girls that their purpose in life is to be with some man, any man, even the wrong man, or they have no value. What a load.
Far more people are "STUCK" in awful marriages than those of us who are happily single.
I would rather be where I am than where THEY are.... | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 8:34:10 AM | OP wrote:
Suppose that one day you realized you weren't fit [meant] to be in a relationship with anyone or even be physical with anyone. This matter was out of your control, and you knew you would be stuck this way for the rest of your life.
Would you be able to cope with it and still be happy? How would you cope with it?
Very good question to think about which I've slightly edited in brackets. It's interesting also that most people think of getting married as something they choose to do. But staying single is something that a few people choose to do also.
And then there are those who perhaps think it would be nice to be married or in a "relationship" but things just don't work out. There is nothing wrong with this. It just wasn't meant to be. And as many have pointed out, one state in life is not necessarily "happier" than the other. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 8:34:31 AM | | I do not know how long forever is to anyone else but I have been single and not dating for 15 years now and I am very happy. During those 15 years I have defined who I am and found a sense of pride in who I have become. Everyone is different, but I think we all need time to understand ourselves before we can find happiness with others. If you do not like yourself who else can? | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 9:54:26 AM | The best response to this post was on a TV show called Rules of Engagement.
Okay, first of all, note that the word "engaged" has GAG in the middle of it....
On the show, the main character (engaged) asks his single friend what he's doing that night. And t eh single character says "I'll busy doing whatever I want all the time".
And there you have it.
Stuck single?
No, stuck anything BUT single..... | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 10:19:52 AM | Perception is everything. You could also be asking would you be able to cope if you were stuck loving someone.
Stuck is a state of mind. If you don't like the feeling, change it (your mind I mean).
If you are meant to be unattached then find your true purpose. I really don't believe in the concept of 'stuck'. There are a lot of things in life that we have absolutely no control over.
Stuck is not one of them. Buy yourself a bottle of 'goobegone' and move forward. Your mind can go anywhere you allow it to go. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 12:58:10 PM | IMHO, if you can truely feel great without the needing the dependency from another person, you will find it a lot easier not being alone.
People who think they are alone need to get hobbies and experiences that challenge them out of apathy and make them realise how wonderful life can be. Yes it requires work.
If you can feel great first then you will be with a great person.
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 1:08:12 PM | | Id be able to cope with no problem,yes Id rather find someone to spend my life with ...but am happy being single too ...so if its not meant to be its isnt going to bother me all that much ,I have male friends so male companionship is still in my life rather it be in a relationship or single. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 1:15:04 PM | | there is some one for everyone ,, gotta wait for it until that time get yourself busy ....try a few dates dont give up ...go to the gym ,work freinds keep urself companied .....I've been livin in a diffreent country every 3 months for the past 4 years ...and really couldnt keep a relationship because of that ..but im happy cause i got other good things goin in my life | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 1:28:08 PM | I have to agree with Fisty on this :
{I have come to the conclusion I would rather be alone and single then be in a unhealthy loveless relationship. }
I made that decision and it was by no means an easy one. It took a parenting after seperation seminar to drive home a couple of points where my intentions were admirable but I wasn't doing anyone any good with the situation as it stood.
So ya, now I find myself with four walls and my children part time, posting thoughts and opinions on a site like this.
Opinion: Be true to yourself, if its wrong; bail. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 1:41:36 PM |
Would you be able to cope with it and still be happy? How would you cope with it?
Yes. I'd keep on truckin and having the time of my life. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 3:36:59 PM | | I realized this at the age of 20 based upon my wowsing success with the opposite sex sometimes it gets me down just seeing other couples so happy but then I go well I know they will not be happy for long something will happen period that will end thier happiness even if it takes 20 years. | |
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