| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 4:10:23 PM | Being alone can bring boredom from time to time if your social network is small, but being single has its advantage a lot personal freetime . The goal is find someone that enriches your life, but at the same time the wrong partner is alot worse than being single too. Sometimes its better to have a group of friends you get along with well for years. The reason for a good group of freinds is a realationship is putting time into it and some types of people know thier better off single because of mental limitations, or otherwise, but they are smart engouh to know bad realationship is worse than dealing with boredom at times. A good relationship is better than being single, but the odds of that if your take your time knowing a person increases the chance of a good relationship. Younger people are the more shallow or superfacial realationships tend to be and the older you get some know intutiely which people are good for them, and which ones you want not want to be close too. Getting married and divorce will drain your wallet faster at times than losing a job. As stated before try to find someone that will enrich your life, and both partners are willing to accept the flaws in another partner, and there so such thing as perfect partner, and sometimes perfect patners gets lazy on good realationships than they can end also. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 4:27:11 PM |
Would you be able to cope with it and still be happy? How would you cope with it?
Well, there would be a certain mourning for me. I remain hopeful that I'll grow old with the one I love.
But, Im also a realist (idealist realist) and I know that I might never meet that person. I came to that realization a few years ago and while I hope it doesnt end up that way-- I have a couple plans for what I'll do if I am alone and single when my son is grown and no longer needs me:
Become a foster parent for teenagers
Join the peace corps and travel to a new country every two years
Become a cat lady (joking!!)
Okay seriously, the first two are things that would be personally enjoyable and fulfilling to me. It would be a different kind of fulfillment... but I believe the point of life is to build a collection of unique experiences and create a positive change in the lives of people you can.
Honestly, even if I meet "the one" I still may consider one of the above options, and if I do grow old with the one I love and end up not doing these things... I may even mourn the loss of these "alternative paths" a bit too.
I'm a big believer in not overplanning the future. I like to be flexible so that when opportunities come along in any area of my life, I can be open to them.
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 4:30:30 PM | Well after this last round with a lady I am sure that at 48 I guess that i will be single, How am i handling it well i am not I hate being single, The boredom b4 it wasn't bad when my son was younger at least i had something to do now that je is 17 and soon to be 18 and moving out the thought of being alone is a little depressing.....
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 9:06:00 PM | | As for myself, I've been single more than I have been married. Altho, I like the completeness of being with someone, I'm ok with being alone also. I do have a dog, but the thing is she can't carry a conversation. I try and not even think about being alone, as that helps me through. Just keep a positive attitude and live life, whether it means alone or with someone.... But, never be too needy that you will settle, for it's better to be alone. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 9:29:31 PM | | Hey I was with someone and never felt so alone. At least now when I'm lonely It's because I am alone. You're 20, lots of time left to find someone. If you have issues beyond the standard the world is too big to find that one person you're looking for talk to your doctor there's a pill for everything. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 9:29:42 PM | At least you would know and you wouldn't just wonder for the rest of your life.
I'm a firm believer that no one else can make me happy, that I am the only one responsible for my happiness. If my life sucks it's because I'm chosing to let my life suck. Yeah that might be hookey but it's a part of me, the responsiblity aspect anyway.
I guess you would just cope, find your personal bliss and focus your attention and energy elsewhere.
Just think of all that stored up sexual frustration, hey you could accomplish some pretty amazing feats! | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 9:36:46 PM | [No one should be stuck lonely, there's no such thing! With so many people and the Internet if you are alone in most cases its your choice. The only thing that comes between you and someone else is one or each failing to recognise whatever it is that keeps you lonely. To picky, to critical, self absorbed, uncompromising, distrustful, baggage, shyness, so many more, So many people need to learn to FORGIVE yourself, as well as the others, That in itself lifts a lot of dark clouds for many. I do understand some w/ medical and mental afflictions may feel limited but then you too don't have to go it alone when so many are on the Internet, not to mention support groups available. It may not be a warm body in bed, but it can be a comforting heart that can sometimes give you more than the heaviest passion could ever satisfy. Isn't that what its all about anyway? Remember: Love yourself and you'll never be lonely, furthermore you'll always have a friend. and In the grand scheme of things , the relationship as many believe it should be is so over rated  ]
OMG SO WELL SAID TATTAT!!
I have a close relative that was diagnosed with HIV last year, his depression limited his options for a very long time after about a year or so of drinking and drugs he chose to live life over his alternative options....dont get me wrong he has his ups and downs....but he has had a lot of ups because he has actually met alot of people online with his same condition that he has come to be very good friends with....so a support system is most important whether it be friends, relatives or just online buddies.  | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/26/2007 9:43:13 PM | | I think one who is happy with their own life need not feel stuck. I enjoy going out but it is not my priority. I have lots to do without attaching myself at the hip to another. If it happens that the right person should come along, it would be worth a little compromise or give and take, but I don't think I will cease to exist if I remained single. I don't feel stuck at all. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/27/2007 1:44:24 AM | While I would love to find that one I could cherish and be cherished by, I still say it's better to be alone than in bad company. So even if it's forever until that one arrives, I am joyfully single. I don't want any substitute "maybe baby" until "He" shows up and I most certainly would never let being single limit me. I really can experience everything, pretty much give myself everything . Except for romance, companionship and partnership. Those and a good spanking.  | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/27/2007 3:11:14 AM | Lol this thread is becoming amusing. Guys, for those who feel bad about being single, or should I say feeling self-pity instead, I hope you realise that you have so much free time. Imagine what things you could do and see in this world.
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/30/2007 8:03:20 PM | | my only thought would be unnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn.... oh shit..... | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/30/2007 8:06:49 PM |
Would you be able to cope with it and still be happy? How would you cope with it?
I do cope with it. Daily. After a length of time, you sort of forget the good things attached to a relationship. They become a thing of the past and you get used to living life singular. You cope with it just like you do anything else. You smile, breath in and out, do what is required of you, sleep, eat, and do it all over again. It's really no different ~ oh, except I only have to do about 1/4 the laundry I used to do.  | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/30/2007 8:14:05 PM |
Suppose that one day you realized you weren't fit to be in a relationship with anyone or even be physical with anyone. This matter was out of your control, and you knew you would be stuck this way for the rest of your life. How would you cope with it? Well... the first thought that comes into mind are all the 'forever single' people I know... many of them are 'the cat lady', 'the career woman', 'i went and got a child (various methods as to HOW)' it's not like the kid has a choice! poor thing , 'the community activist'... There are lots of people that choose to be single. I suppose I'd do a combination of the above or maybe become a vagabond  | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/30/2007 8:27:35 PM | god must really hate you then and you probably have earned this somehow or you deserve it..
this is also a stupid question...
people are meant to be with one another, to be in relationships, to reproduce, we need one another....why do you think there is so many of us?
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/30/2007 10:17:45 PM | Just Coping..........
Coming from a Women that has been Single for 14 yrs..... I think that's all you can do is Cope with it... I've tried telling Myself I'm happy and I am in most ways but I'm a very touchy feely, kind of person, love being handle.
But it's something I think about more often then I care to admit, being Single for the rest of my Life. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/30/2007 10:26:22 PM | Well I don't feel stuck. And I cope just fine. I maybe single for the rest of my life. So do I sit here and pine over a love I may never have .Or do I live my life as best I can for the remaining time I have. BTY guys the fish r biting. LETS GO RIP SOME LIPS!! | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/31/2007 5:38:52 AM |
god must really hate you then and you probably have earned this somehow or you deserve it..
this is also a stupid question...
Ouch. Wow, that is about the most hateful response I've ever seen on this topic. I can assure you OP ~ God (if you believe) doesn't hate you or anyone else, if in fact, he's all about what believers profess. Being single isn't a curse or a payback for anything ~ it's just a state of being. Just be happy with who you are ~ everything else in life is merely a bonus. JMO | |
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