| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/31/2007 6:28:48 AM |
At least you would know and you wouldn't just wonder for the rest of your life.
didoo! but then, I find this hard to believe, unless of course you're a reclusive shut-in, or tom hanks on that deserted island...wait, he had a pal...nevermind | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/31/2007 4:34:45 PM | I suppose the best way to cope would be to refocus myself and not look at it as being "stuck" first of all. Being happy with oneself is a blessing and there are those that make it seem easy!
As for being alone, one can be in a relationship and be more alone than they have ever been in their life. I know, I spent a better part of a 14 year marriage feeling that way and I realize more every day since divorcing how alone I felt, moreso then than I do as a single parent now. Having someone there and emotionally detatched is a whole other world of pain. You can draw people into your life or choose to shut them out. Voluteer for one. There are alot of truely lonely people out there and my guess is they'd love to see a smiling face. There are children's hospitals, retirement villages, hospices, aides clinics, special olympics, etc. The world is full of people yearning for the love and company of another human being's voice simplly saying hello and caring that they are there.
And yes, I know what you are saying, but what I'm saying is this, no one is alone. I have buried most of those close to me from older relatives to children in my life and I have felt that loss deeply and there are days I still do. Sure, I want forever with someone who cares and loves me by my side, but who doesn't? You can't focus your entire life on that, you have to just live and God will take it from there!
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 5/31/2007 4:48:06 PM | Oh surviving without a partner is not that hard. There is lots of tricks. Many guys throw themselves into their work to help forget how lonely they are. Then your stuck with all that money to spend! I hate it when that happens! hehe You have the play the cards you're delt. So if it's your choice then find the little things that make you happy.
But I've chatted with people that think surviving on their own is a sign of strength. I don't think it is. When you open yourself up to let someone close, you put yourself at risk. You know you could get hurt and all you can do is trust it won't happen. That's where the real courage is! | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 6/6/2007 1:12:15 AM | I'm new to the forums, and this thread has a LOT in it for me to read everything. I'm pretty sure I'm repeating what's been said, but here goes.
I'm almost 30, and have been single my whole life. I've never had a girlfriend. It's not that I haven't tried, I just have horrible luck when it comes to relationships I guess.
I've come to the conclusion that I cannot depend on someone else to make me happy. I'm very independent, but for a while there I thought I needed a girlfriend/wife to be happy. Since I've readjusted my attitude towards this, I have been for the most part happy. I focus on things that I enjoy. I have goals that I want to reach, and dreams that I'd like to achieve....at least for the next 5 years. But they aren't so set in stone that I couldn't make adjustments should I meet that special woman.
Yeah, I'd love to have a girlfriend, but if I was single my whole life, it wouldn't affect my happiness the way it used to. I won't let it. I used to think that because I didn't have a woman in my life that I was worthless, blah, blah, blah. I was very depressed/borderline suicidal up until I made this "realization" about a year ago.
But the real question is would I be even HAPPIER if I had a woman in my life, and I think I would. Not so much happier, but more complete, if that's possible. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 6/6/2007 1:20:38 AM | I can remember in my younger years wanting very much to be in a relationship, so much so, I basically gave too much. Since I've matured both mentally and emotionally, I can honestly say "It really doesn't matter anymore" I'm just as happy single as I was in a good relationship. Needless to say the bad relationships aren't even worth counting here.
Once you realize that a relationship cannot fulfill any voids you have in your life, I think you begin to be happy being single. That's not to say that I don't want to be in one, just that my life wouldn't fall apart if I wasn't. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 6/6/2007 1:58:11 AM | Hi
Im being honest here and saying I am not sure how I would cope with it, if it happened to me now after having a full active life then I would find it a very hard struggle for sure. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 6/6/2007 4:41:57 AM | Im on here in the hope that Im NOT stuck and single forever..been single for very many years and did ok for myself. But stuck on my own single for the rest of my years - I dont think I would like it too much altho I know Im self sufficient enough to cope well with it - I just dont want it to be like that So I'll cont. fishing - No one I like enough taking the bait tho 
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 6/6/2007 5:46:46 AM | | I am single and really have no plans to actually tie the knot again. Did it once with no regrets but don't think I will ever find another. Having been married 24 years I now find that there is something kind of nice about being a bachelor that I never really appreciated before. I notice that I lose at least half my decision making while in a relationship and that I really work harder at being the very best of who I am for my sweety. Now I am a bit more relaxed and laid back and take people as they are and hopefully they take me the way I am. Dishes soak for a couple days, no problem now. I didn't shave for the past two days, that's OK too. I don't try to impress anyone and life just seems comfortable for me now. IF I couldn't find another, for whatever reason, it's no big deal. I'm comfortable in my own skin, but every once in a while I think it would be even nicer to be comfortable on someone else's skin. I might be old but I'm not dead yet. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 6/6/2007 6:55:57 AM | forever??!!!!!! thats a long long time lol dont know, quite looking forward to the prospect of having someone to go to bingo with and help me put my sox on in the morning when i can no longer reach!! if that never happens and i'm eternally single how will i get my sox on?
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 6/6/2007 2:57:38 PM | Live your life for today.......do not worry or be scared of your future...I believe life is good and should be lived no matter what happens....appreciate today and be thankful | |
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Joined: 10/3/2006
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 6/6/2007 3:03:14 PM | Crown and pepsi.....................................................................................................................................................................................
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 6/6/2007 3:06:49 PM | You know when you are stuck, it implies that its permenant. To be stuck single, you would not of been born.
So what if the main title was changed to
Suppose you made a decision to avoid taking risks and looking high and low so that you can remain single until you died.
If you have not taken risks in life you have not lived. You had to take a risk to learn to walk, to speak, to eat, to cross the road.....don't worry you will be safe you are dead. | |
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Joined: 11/29/2006
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 8/23/2007 1:37:16 AM | Quarter of the way there already, and so far, so good! Kinda feel like the 3rd wheel when going out with a few friends who have spouses or S.O.'s, but it's never stopped me before, and won't in the future.
Can't really speak toward how I 'feel' about it. Don't really have anything to compare it to, but all I can say is that the steady baseline of emotion seems decent compared to the roller coaster that I have to be the ear/shoulder for go through. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 8/23/2007 4:10:00 AM | | It would be a disappointment, but it isn't a given that any of us will have that fairytale ending. I'd channel my energy into another passion and keep smiling. | |
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| Suppose you were stuck single forever...
Posted: 8/23/2007 5:13:12 AM | ...Then I'm single forever...so what?
If you'll excuse the pun, why is this terminology/state of being always "singled out" as some kind of curse or criminal act?  | |
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