| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/23/2008 1:22:09 PM | | I have absolutely no problem dating anyone of any race, as long as our personalities match. Having said that, I've found myself becoming more attracted to Indian guys as I've worked with many in engineering firms over the past few years. :) | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/23/2008 2:18:40 PM |
For me, it's a religion issue.
Similar, here , I would have no problem dating such a man but I would not want anything long term or serious. I am a Christian and do not want to be brought into another religion , I would have less of a problem with someone that is of no religion as long as they allow me to go to my Church and other wise participate in my religion. | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/23/2008 2:39:14 PM | Personally, I have no problems with Indian men and find many very attractive. We have many exchange students from India at my university but I haven't really had a chance to meet more than just a few from my dorm. It's not that I'm not interested, it's just that I'm shy. Many of our students (and yes, I am a student as well) who are exchange students generally spend most of their time with others from their own country. In other words they travel in packs. This is somewhat intimidating to a shy person! Think about it like that, it's much harder to approach a woman who is with many friends than when she is on her own.
This is just from my own personal experience in a university setting, but it may apply to others as well. Good luck! | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/23/2008 2:43:54 PM | | There are some stunning Indian men (as there are stunning men of every race/nationality), but they're typically not the types I go for. It's just a matter of attraction. | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/23/2008 3:36:58 PM | Mash one did make some good points...and if your Indian buddies get upset so be it. I've found it to be true that many Indian men will date a white woman because he knows she'll sleep with him eventually, but they still plan on marrying an Indian woman because she is virtuous. Middle Eastern men will do this as well. I'm very knowledgeable of this phenomenon and try to navigate through those men just wanting to use white women in order to get some free sex with no commitment.
And yes, we all want to believe the races are equal and we should be with whomever we want...but in reality it's not to be. I'm totally gaga for Indian men but I'm thinking I"m not going to find one serious about a relationship. They all seem to be up for sex, and when they realize they won't be getting it from me, they move on very quickly.
What I really wonder is...how do the INdian and Middle Eastern women feel about the fact that they are expected to be virgins while their future husbands are over here in the US fuc++ing anything that will allow them to | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/23/2008 7:56:02 PM | Personally, I don't like the smell of curry. The entire "buying" a computer book, only to return it for a full refund in under 30 days thing gets old too.  | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/28/2008 1:16:22 PM | Raiderfan
Quote "I've found it to be true that many Indian men will date a white woman because he knows she'll sleep with him eventually, but they still plan on marrying an Indian woman because she is virtuous. Middle Eastern men will do this as well. I'm very knowledgeable of this phenomenon and try to navigate through those men just wanting to use white women in order to get some free sex with no commitment. "
Raiderfan, I would have to agree with you on this. But may I say, it may not be true for all Indians. I am one of those who had the same perception. Not very proud of it. I am not sure its because I was in Mideast for long time or because I am from a village which is disconnected from rest of the world. It's only after spending few years in west my perception about white in general changed. I have found myself on wrong foot many times (not limited to white girls) because of my perception about west. What I have found and learnt is that core values are same. Its even true the other way. Most of the guys and girls here in west are looking for same things as Indians. Most of them look for honest, loving and long lasting relationship. I believe stats go slightly go against white when it comes to marriage. Every marriage goes through ups and down but in west reasons for breaking up are shocking at times. I remember when I was very new in Toronto I read an advice by marriage consular to a girl to file for divorce cause her husband snored loudly and that this was mental harassment.
General notion in the east is that white girls don't have family values. Which is another stereo types. Also, another fear is that white girl is going to throw parents out. Which is generally very sensitive issue. Many girls on this forum have boasted about not marrying to Indians just because its like marrying the whole family. Its quite true and quite important for most of Indian and its not necessarily a bad thing. Religion plays a role but its not a bigger than in West as well.
Best way to test an Indian is to meetup his family. Indian who is serious enough about relationship and whose family is open to interracial cultures will pass this test easily. I think this is more important when white girl is marrying an Indian..
All the other things such curry smell are all stereotypes. | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/28/2008 3:36:20 PM | Thank you for your thoughtful insight. I do have some great Indian friends online, most are actually in India and can't believe a white woman is so into them and their culture. And they are usually impressed that I am a ''good'' person. There is also a misconception that Americans all have money. They think i can just jump on a plane and come hang out with them. It's cute but ain't happening.
I try to judge everyone individually. We do have stereotypes that are somewhat true in a sense that it is a ''cultural'' thing. But you can never say "ALL"...I had a bad relationship with a Latino guy for four years. AFter that I ran when a Latino showed interest. But then I dated another last year and he was sweet, and all his friends were nice to me. So it's about the person. We all bring our family values and our cultural values with us. Some are good, some are bad.
I haven't given up on a finding an INdian man to date. I'm just very careful in my selection and know just the right questions to ask them now thanks to guys like you telling me just how it is. | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/28/2008 3:41:14 PM | Yikes i was going to send u a personal message, but see that you are married and cruising the internet for friendship and romance....ok well you just destroyed another ''good'' stereotype I had heard about Indian men and that is when they fall in love it's for life.
Too bad, I actually liked that one. | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/28/2008 4:52:58 PM | | lol... I meant that I am no different from non-Indians.. Yes, as you mentioned very different from stereotype about Indians.. But then its a stereotype.. | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/28/2008 5:57:39 PM | If th-is smell keep the unwanted hand away from me.I want to know about it.
I want that every time ,someone tell me about this food please.No kidding | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/28/2008 6:34:40 PM | That is so not true. I'm not your white girlfriend but I am white. I have met a few Indian men and been around Indian people. They smell no better or worse than any other race of people and that's a stupid thing to say. If someone smells they have bad hygeine, and people with bad hygeine come in all colors, sizes and genders.
My last boyfriend was Indian and he smelled and tasted deliciously wonderful. He was gorgeous too. | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/28/2008 6:37:36 PM | | By the way the two men who I did date who didn't have the best hygiene....a Bolivian and a Brazilian....Hispanic. But would I say all Hispanics smell like crap...NO. | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/28/2008 6:46:44 PM | | Where as a few years ago (20) a foreign man looked exotic and enticing to date, now days we are finding out how different the cultures can be and how difficult it is to live within those boundries... the other thing is that I know how strict it is over in the East and everyone tries to live within the constraints of their religion. Especially when it's politically intrigrated with religion... as we become more educated and find how women are treated who don't have doweries, or find themselves not having the correct sex of a child it makes things a bit harder to consider. Not only that when you have a rigid upbringing and walk the walk in your own country yet come over here and go hog wild with having sex and drinking booze which wouldn't happen in your country, secretly I can't help but be judged for my own western upbringing... because I know the talk that goes around... and when you guys approach us with cheap talk in bars it really falls on deaf ears... do I sound a tad bit bitter? or predjudice? Maybe so... but that's been my experience... don't even get me started on green cards... | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/28/2008 7:59:08 PM |
I was brought up in a 99.99% white community. I'm not racist by any stretch, but what I was surrounded by, I was conditioned to find attractive (that being, other white males).
"Conditioned?"
What does that mean, they toothpicked your eyeballs open and shocked you when they showed you an image of a non-Caucasian?
B, and S.
I grew up in a similar neighborhood and I have no such preferences. It's fine to have a preference for whoever or whatever, but I think blaming it on "conditioning" is a bit suspect. | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/28/2008 8:01:14 PM |
CUZ YOU GUYS SMELL LIKE SHIT BRO FOR REAL MY WHITE GIRLFRIEND TOLD ME.......NO HARD FEELINGS BUT MY GIRL SPEAKS HER MIND
I wonder if she knows you're listed as "Single" on a dating site...
Something stinks here, alright...and it's got nothing to do with race. | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/29/2008 12:34:03 AM |
Not only that when you have a rigid upbringing and walk the walk in your own country yet come over here and go hog wild with having sex and drinking booze which wouldn't happen in your country
Pixy, I could not think of any reason not to agree with your post but are you sure the above quote is about Indian? Because that's definitely incorrect. | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/29/2008 4:58:22 AM | | For me, it's a clash of cultures ... nothing more, nothing less. I live in a multi-cultural society and like most people, I tend to gravitate to those with similar beliefs and interests as me. | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/29/2008 12:22:51 PM | "What does that mean, they toothpicked your eyeballs open and shocked you when they showed you an image of a non-Caucasian?"
B, and S."
That's a good one hillside! | |
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| Caucasian Women + Indian Guys
Posted: 4/30/2008 7:07:46 PM | I think Pixy dust has her geography mixed up. The stereotype she is perpetuating belongs mostly to men of Middle Eastern descent. And it is a stereotype. Not every country degrades its women. Laws are more strict in some areas more so than others. And some of the principles of Islam were once found in Christian religion too. I remember Christian women used to be modest and dress conservatively. Those who genuinely follow their religion still are.
As for dowries, My Muslim friend gave his wife a few gifts and had to show her family he could properly support her so he saved up a lot of money. In India, it is a status symbol to show how much money you have to give. It is not mandatory and more for show these days.
As for them going crazy with alcohol and sex in the States, I think that is more directed at Muslims too. Drinking alcohol and having sex before marriage is strictly forbidden in the Koran (wasn't sex before marriage forbidden in Christianity too?) If girls are going to complain about these men taking advantage of our ''loose'' ways in the west, they need to look at where these foreigners get their views of us from. I talk to a lot of foreign men and they say it is the image they get of Americans from the television shows they see. They also have the stereotype that all black Americans are gangsta rappers. We tend to believe what we see in the media, instead of having dialogue with people of different cultures and finding out the truths. There are good and bad people on both sides of the waters and all over the world. | |
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