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| How do you take it when someone asks for MORE pictures, including full body ones?
Posted: 4/24/2007 5:49:32 PM | Ok so you think off yourself as a fat blob. So you just put down in your profile average and just show your face. Now you meet this guy on line you converse and then you meet, he then doesn’t call you again and you are in bewilderment.
Same scenario for the guys: You know you are balding so you show a picture with your hat on you meet a girl on line you conversed and then you meet You take off your hat at one point, swoop the dew and the next day she is gone Hmmm lets not stop here.. Guys, you take your pic for the profile but you know you got a dikkydo so you just give a head shot in your profile, put down average, you talk with girl, you meet and the next time she is gone.
Finally ladies, you know you have a Hugeass, so you put in your profile “a few extra pounds”, you post a picture from the waist up and hid the big chooch behind a car. You meet Mr Mightbewonderful and He thought he could live with because of what you showed him on line. But when you met he ran the other way. BOoo friggin hoo.
What does all this mean? It means simply this You think that everyone out there will not be attracted to you because of what you are hiding.
Well you are 100% friggen right. Not Everyone will but SOME MAY.
Who are you fooling but yourself by hiding like that and if by chance you happen to snare that person with your clever trickery and they are attracted to personality.
Do you really want to be with them if they are not physically attracted to you? It’s great to find someone you can relate to intellectually they are called friends it doesn’t matter what they look like.
The people you want to become more then that will need both intellectual and physical attraction.
It’s been that way since humans could stand up strait.
So to the question the op asked, I say they just want to see if there is a match up or(attracted to you)
The bottom line in my opinion is who cares what those few think that may not be attracted to you physically. Those people you shouldn’t want anyways as a mate unless you are desperate.
So give up the pictures, post some real pictures and you might have a chance at a real relationship. JMHO
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| How do you take it when someone asks for MORE pictures, including full body ones?
Posted: 4/24/2007 5:56:15 PM | | I ONLY take offense when in the first initial email or when talking for a short time they ask "do you have a full body shot". I am a good judge of character and if some men ask me for one it does not bother me, but others it is sooooo annoying. That is when I usually say, you know what..if you are so concerned about what is below my kneck, then i'm not really what you are looking for. Even though personally I love my body... I don't need anyone re-affirming if they like it through a pic. If and when we meet in person that is when judgement can be made. | |
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| How do you take it when someone asks for MORE pictures, including full body ones?
Posted: 4/24/2007 6:03:29 PM | Not everyone shows overweight in their face.
When I was looking I still only showed a face shot, but I had one full body shot (me in leggings, sneakers, and a t shirt) to show that I am in very good shape. I think that's a fair enough question given the deception in on-line dating these days.
That answers the 600 pound question. If he's looking for T&A pics he can mosey on to the next profile.
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| How do you take it when someone asks for MORE pictures, including full body ones?
Posted: 4/24/2007 6:13:57 PM | | Bleep, I agree with you to a point. But why not just put a picture in there of you as a whole instead of showing just the neck up especially if you like the way you look. I can see if you are just looking for a friend that's great. But lets face the scientific facts both man and woman want a physical attraction as well as a emotional and intellectual attraction. By not showing this some may ask don't be irritated, they need more. That's just the facts. After you have done this use your good judge of character no harm no fowl. | |
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| How do you take it when someone asks for MORE pictures, including full body ones?
Posted: 4/24/2007 6:32:01 PM | Captain Joe ~
So we should show full body shots and not try to have a personality? Gimme a break. I see your point of view, however it sounds a little too warped to me. If someone doesn't like me for WHO I am and not just for what I LOOK like, isn't that liking someone for their body only?
And for the record, yes, I would be swayed by a handsome face/nice body. But if they don't have brains or a personality, I might as well date a picture. (think the difference between a 2d image and a 3d image) Just MY humble opinion... | |
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| How do you take it when someone asks for MORE pictures, including full body ones?
Posted: 4/24/2007 9:53:48 PM | | You know I have the max on pictures on here. It annoys the tar out of me when someone wants MORE pics and they have 1 if I am lucky at that! I especially get ticked if someone asks for nude ones. That is as bad as saying "Hi How are you?? Do you shave?" Geesh perves. This is a dating site!! If the person profile does NOT say intimate encounter that means they are looking for substance usually. So stop bugging! as far as face shots, My face looks like I might be barely thick if thick at all. I am very thicky endowed. So no face pics doesn't show it all! | |
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| How do you take it when someone asks for MORE pictures, including full body ones?
Posted: 4/24/2007 11:10:20 PM | I always put up a few pics of my face and one full length of my body. I yam what I yam. If he were to ask for more pictures he would lose major brownie points and I would probably lose interest and I would interpret that as superficial. At 50 I am realistic in my expectations regarding a man and am not seeking perfection.
I recently was approached by a guy on here who wanted more pics that what I had posted. I did send him more which I don't normally do. He wrote back and said I wasn't what he was looking for - which is fine. Just found it interesting that a) his pic is him sprawled on the couch in a crappy housecoat and b) the next was a full body shot which showed him clearly to be overweight (which is fine by me..I am chunky and like chunky guys). He had stated "average" in his body type
I think at this stage of life we should make looks further down on the list and concentrate on the personality, life experiences, interests and measures for compatibility more than just looks alone. Yes I know men are visual and so are we. I have dated guys off of here who when I first met them at the proverbial Tim Horton's wasn't impressed. But getting to know them I ended up dating a few really decent guys
Let's all have a three date rule...(no not the sex one)...go out with someone three times and then decide if they are for you. People can be nervous the first date and by the third date you have hopefully achieved some rapor with the person and if you haven't you know he/she isn't for you. Does any of this make sense or am I just a dreamer | |
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| How do you take it when someone asks for MORE pictures, including full body ones?
Posted: 4/25/2007 1:09:30 AM | Personally, if I am interested in someone I would prefer to see a full body photo so as to compare the photo's description to their self description. Your "average" and my "average" might be different.
However, full body doesn't mean a revealing photo. I prefer to take those personally!
To me, if someone is asking for a skin photo they are looking for something other than a relationship. | |
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pepe37
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Joined: 2/22/2007
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| How do you take it when someone asks for MORE pictures, including full body ones?
Posted: 4/25/2007 4:25:41 AM | well this can be a two sided coin really. the obvious reaction from women in particular, is they wanna perv over seeing you in the buff!!!!
and there again, may just wanna make sure your judgement of your own body,is'nt way out by a country mile or so.lol.
i've met people who described them selves to be totally different to what they were in the flesh. and that can kinda be an awkward situation. but lets be honest. we would all be gutted if some one we we're to meet on a date turned up looking totally the opposite, of what you were expecting. hmmmmmmmm!. i say show the pics if ya wanna. hey. if some woman wanted to pleasure herself to my pic, i'd be bloody flattered. the site aint a peep show. but a head shot tells u a little about the person. not all. | |
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| How do you take it when someone asks for MORE pictures, including full body ones?
Posted: 4/25/2007 7:25:42 AM | Sometimes people use other peoples pictures. Here is a prime example. I had one woman give me 3 pictures of herself. I didn't think about asking for additional pictures for various reasons.
Come to find out those 3 pictures were the only pictures she had of another person which she was passing off as themselves.
So some folks online are now a little worried that the person on other end has like 3 or 4 pictures of someone not themselves and therefore ask for more and more pictures to varify the person is not telling a lie.
However, this still might not eliminate that problem.
On the other side of coin, if they ever ask for a "Nude" picture I'd toss them into the trash pile and not mess with those people. It means they are into sex only or just want your picture to masturbate to and you'll never see them again.
Or worse yet, they'll send your pictures out to others pretending they are you.
So becareful and use your wisdom when dealing eith people. | |
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| How do you take it when someone asks for MORE pictures, including full body ones?
Posted: 4/25/2007 9:27:12 AM |
nothing wrong with some sultery or teasing photos revealing a bit of skin. while i have no objections if a guy wants to show me all his goods, i personally like to maintain some mystery. if he asks, he may get cleavage and bare breasts, but i do not do pu$$y shots. sorry boys, some things you only get in person ; )
Ok, first off, be gentle, it's my first post on the site. That said... CC, you're killing me, woman!  LOL
Personally, I don't ask for photos most of the time, some people feel more comfortable sharing than others, and I can respect them. But using different angles, editing software, etc. to misrepresent themselves is of course sometimes a reality. Not sure what they hope to accomplish by doing it, because after all is said and done, the real person is ultimately going to have to 'put up or shut up'!
One other thought... believe it or not ladies, not all men want to see 'the goods', especially not right away. It doesn't matter how fantastic your body is, it does me no good if you're 1500 miles away... not that I'm discouraging CC in the slightest, should she feel the need to share!  | |
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Joined: 5/31/2005
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| How do you take it when someone asks for MORE pictures, including full body ones?
Posted: 4/25/2007 10:21:58 AM | | He could just be curious like we all naturally are. He could want to size you up as he likes his women to have certain body shapes, could be many reasons. If it was me, id just ask why he wanted them, if you felt his answer was honest and harmless then id do it, if you felt personally that you didnt feel comfortable then no. Its all in your own perceptions and gut feeling at the time. I've come to find that we all see things in vastly different ways and each to his/her own. As the saying goes.... whatever floats your boat! | |
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| How do you take it when someone asks for MORE pictures, including full body ones?
Posted: 4/25/2007 10:38:59 AM | Full body pictures are the only way to prevent someone from using the "MySpace Angles" to misrepresent themselves. Don't mistake a require for full body shots as someone asking for naked pictures. They aren't the same thing.
Perception is shaped by context and experience. In real life, we have binocular cues in addition to the 6 or 7 monocular cues to compare size. As well as being able to reposition for a different vantage point. But with photos, you can create a static monocular image that can be greatly skewed by angles (such as the ever popular "one foot infront and above the face" shot). This skew makes it almost impossible to determine the facial ratios of the subject of a picture.
Turning a photo to greyscale can also hide contours and acne.
It is all about honesty. It isn't like if I met someone off this site, that they wouldn't be able to compare me to my picture. If I'm going to be rejected for my appearance, I would rather it be before I spent months talking to a person and the anxiety of arranging a virtual blind date.
As to someone having uploaded the maximum number of photos. If all of them are just face pictures, it is time to swap a few out.
I think the perfect mix of photos is:
1-3 face pictures (maybe a few different hair styles if it is appropriate)
2-3 full body pictures
The rest as photos of you doing things listen in your interest section.
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| How do you take it when someone asks for MORE pictures, including full body ones?
Posted: 4/25/2007 10:49:45 AM | | Men are more visual horse s___if a man wants to see a full body shot he is at the least so shallow that why would any lady want to waste their time with him the profiles have a body type on here and if a woman lies that much she knows it and ain't going to meet you anyway I'm a guy and it makes me sick the way men are concerned with appearance they talk this crap about interested in a meaningful relationship and are only concerned with dating a model or getting laid as soon as possible Guys your disguise of your intentions is transparent if you only want to date a super model say it , if you only want to get laid say it, if you want to see some porn say it someone on here will oblige. | |
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| How do you take it when someone asks for MORE pictures, including full body ones?
Posted: 4/25/2007 10:58:37 AM | | I don't provide pics - in essence, no way of knowing if its the person etc. If I chat with someone and am interested, I invite them to view me on cam - that way, no surprise when we meet - it is what it is where cam is concerned - camera doesn't lie! Would be nice if women did the same in exchange, but, some don't have cams. It is entirely appropriate, saving much wasted time in electing not to meet if cam does not give person the image that they are looking for - c,mon people, lets be efficient here..why waste precious time meeting - we are all busy! | |
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