| | Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?Page 3 of 13 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13) | I know what the problem is !!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU GUYS LIVE TO FAR AWAY ...............lol
now to be a little serious ............
I think we are all looking for the right thing and I know from being here and other sites it si not easy it can get hard at times but do we really ever give up ? NO
we keep coming back cause we all want to be wanted to be needed
some only want sex and that is the easy part to find
it is everything else that is hard to find
I find that men my age braket don't want a relationship they only want " FUN " if i only want "FUN" i would be busy every night ........lol.
but i am holding out for more
But it is nice to see a guy say he wants more too not just sex
so don't give up you will find what it is your looking for and you will forget all about the time you spent waiting just watch and see HUGS
I always say reach for the stars cause one of them are yours ( wink ) | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 3/16/2007 9:25:44 AM |
But I'm not talking about just a serious relationship, I know for most people finding that can be hard and does take a long time.
I'm talking about even just being wanted/desired by a woman. It's something that shouldn't be and isn't for most people something that is extreamly hard to get to happen.
But you do have somebody who desires you honey and...... she resides on your left hand, her name is Hannah and she's got 5 sisters..........
I know bad joke, my point is this really. Another poster said allowing it to happen. I not only agree but I will add this...... Stop feeling sorry for yourself, women can smell that a mile away and to most it's a sign of weakness, a downer, a drag.
Not if... but WHEN you accept the person that you are and believe that you are WORTHY, capable and willing to love first yourself you will then know what it is you are looking for<<<<< and yes I meant that.
We ALL have feelings like this, so you are not alone. It is how you handle the challenges with the victory that makes that person a winner. Disappointment is a part of life my friend, it WILL happen, just like removing bodily waste, another segment of the plan. So you pick yourself up and dust off look back and say "OK what did I learn from this!!" Hopefully this will be part of the lesson.......
Example 1: Life sux, people suck, nobody wants to be around me, I guess I'm a big failure as a person, nobody loves me boo hoo.
Example 2: OK.... I'm having a bad day/week/month etc. life goes on, I'm going to treat people the way I wish to be treated starting with myself.
Which person would you choose to hang out with for the day???? Let alone a relationship. Negativity rubs off and it is not a good feeling.
Just give yourself a break from the dating thing for a bit and figure some things out. The problem is... you thought you'd join this site and within 6 months you'd be happily married with a family on the way. News flash........ having a significant other will NOT complete you as a person, you'll have to complete yourself first so that you are a worthwhile mate that can add more than boo hoo poor me to a relationship.
Stop expecting too much and just have some fun already.
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 3/16/2007 9:31:08 AM | Well Yes I feel like that not that I had many replys ...not sure why really profiles honest to the point meet a few for coffee (just coffee) for all of you whoms minds are working on overtime...... that half my trouble meet them accept them as friends and they also what friendship the they think you should be bedding them....I no we are all grown-ups but I don't F*** my friends ...if that all you want then please the answer no I am honest and I expect the same back so am I going to give up will see ...what am I looking for ...I know it when I find it.....
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 3/16/2007 9:34:37 AM | I know what the problem is !!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU GUYS LIVE TO FAR AWAY ...............lol
now to be a little serious ............
I think we are all looking for the right thing and I know from being here and other sites it si not easy it can get hard at times but do we really ever give up ? NO
we keep coming back cause we all want to be wanted to be needed
some only want sex and that is the easy part to find
it is everything else that is hard to find
I find that men my age braket don't want a relationship they only want " FUN " if i only want "FUN" i would be busy every night ........lol.
but i am holding out for more
But it is nice to see a guy say he wants more too not just sex
so don't give up you will find what it is your looking for and you will forget all about the time you spent waiting just watch and see HUGS
I always say reach for the stars cause one of them are yours ( wink )
Sure I'd like a relationship, but I'd be more than happy with just getting sex.
It's the physical intimacy (sex, kissing, cuddling, whatever) with a woman that I long for and crave the most, a long term relationship/being in love would just be a REALLY great bonus. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 3/16/2007 10:14:47 AM | Well said ladyxo,
But let me add one more thing, some people may never find that significant other, and so the search should begin within ourselves. When we can find happiness and give the love needed to first nurture ourselves and be content and at peace with ourselves, this will be reflected in us and our attitudes.
And then opens the door of opportunites.
People are drawn to those who are confident and happy in their lives. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 3/16/2007 10:44:34 AM | i can relate. i gave my heart away once. my whole heart. i will never get it back. though i have picked up the broken pieces...the lil pieces...the smallest pieces...they are missing...and have changed me forever. I never did anything wrong except i loved all too deeply...so deep it hurts me still...and my only mistake was the woman I gave it too. The painful part is, though i have managed some dates, i cant erase her. Its like a scar that never heals. It has transcended into my life...affecting relationships with my family and friends...lost my job...and I have really been hit hard.
So I am open to talking to ladies. It keeps me sane and helps me heal to some degree. I wanna be closed off but then I am letting painful memories defeat me.
"behind every player...theres a beeeitch that made him that way"....thas what im living by now...it may be wrong...and dirty...but do what u wanna do...ease ur insides...no woman deserves to hurt even after she is out of your life. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 3/16/2007 11:26:11 AM |
The painful part is, though i have managed some dates, i cant erase her. Its like a scar that never heals. .
See my reply to this thread: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts6853053.aspx
You may find it helpful. At present, PM, you're not ready to date. What you do now is try a different approach to healing, since your previous attempts to get past this painful part of your life and its persistent memories is keeping you from healthy social life. And frankly, its seriously eroded your feelings of worth and esteem, from the mournful description you gave in your post, above. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 3/16/2007 1:59:44 PM | i can relate. i gave my heart away once. my whole heart. i will never get it back. though i have picked up the broken pieces...the lil pieces...the smallest pieces...they are missing...and have changed me forever. I never did anything wrong except i loved all too deeply...so deep it hurts me still...and my only mistake was the woman I gave it too. The painful part is, though i have managed some dates, i cant erase her. Its like a scar that never heals. It has transcended into my life...affecting relationships with my family and friends...lost my job...and I have really been hit hard.
So I am open to talking to ladies. It keeps me sane and helps me heal to some degree. I wanna be closed off but then I am letting painful memories defeat me.
"behind every player...theres a beeeitch that made him that way"....thas what im living by now...it may be wrong...and dirty...but do what u wanna do...ease ur insides...no woman deserves to hurt even after she is out of your life.
I felt like that once, for a looooong time. But I ended up getting over it and I'm sure you will do given enough time.
You know I'd love to be able to talk to that girl again just so I can tell her to **** right off. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 3/16/2007 2:50:28 PM | Be honest with you dude everyone feels that way now and then. But hey the site is free, so if you're not paying anything why close it? Keep it open until you're sure you've found someone.
Maybe someone will find you when you least expect it.
Best advice I can give you is, when searching for someone, don't search at all. Love is the only type of searching that is done best when you don't even try. It usually comes when you least expect it. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 3/16/2007 2:53:45 PM | buddy I just read your profile and unless you've changed it recently it's no wonder you haven't recieved much correspondence, liven up a bit, tell some interests if you come off needy and boring thats a no-no, life experience is a win win situation , spice up the profile , women want people that have similiar interests as them ,you show none,
they don't (on the most part) want a whiner , so suck it up and do some research and throw your hat back in the ring and I'm sure you'll get more responses, just don't lie , false advertising is mean and will just bite you in the a*** down the road,
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