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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 3/16/2007 3:08:41 PM | Agree with Kenman1, if people had to pay and it was coming time to renew which means forking over more money than i bet they would try and connect with one another b4 their membership expires.
Good luck, who are you hurting by leaving your profile on, again the site is free!!! | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up on Ross because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 3/16/2007 3:09:56 PM | Dude, you just answered your own question, big time. But I'll let you figure that out on your own. I'll only say that finding a partner is 25% or so about what you want, and 100% about what you have to offer. Whoever she is, she ain't Mommy, and the whiney, helpless thing will neverevernever endear her to you.
Neverevernever. OK?
Cheeers!
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 3/16/2007 3:27:29 PM | _blu_
I just love reading your posts. You have a word with words and they make so much sense. Too bad you weren't older and lived closer...LOL
I feel the same way!
I am perfectly content with ME, regardless of whether I am seeing someone or not. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 3/16/2007 8:08:32 PM |
Shame we don't live in the same country hun
yeah it is a shame we don't live in the same country, but don't give up, like everyone else has said....its free!
By the way, you can message me sometime besides on the forum if you would like to. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 3/22/2007 8:21:56 PM | | I gave up a long time ago. I was naive in thinking that there was a "perfect match" and the last couple years I was naive in thinking that there is even anyone that likes me for who I am. If I could fix myseld I'd..... but it's too late for me. Tragedy is my heart. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 3/22/2007 9:37:34 PM | Yes definately, I've been told what a nice guy I am by every woman that I've been with but do any of them stick around? It makes me feel like I just can't keep em around. But I keep trying like a fool I guess! Thinking maybe next time will be different. I just hate starting over again, having to get to know someone all over again, so much work. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/5/2007 7:25:12 PM | | I feel that way now... but I like the forums, It helps to know I am not alone in the world. I wish no one ever had to fell the pain of being alone or breaking up, but it helps to know others are going through the same thing you are ... or have been there and made it through . Some times people need other people to help them through a tough time. That is what this forum is sometimes people helping people To me any way. Hang in there baby Fridays coming! You seem like an honest, attractive man. I know you will find that someone special. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up on Ross because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/5/2007 11:05:45 PM | I feel a lot like you do, except that it's not from being unsucessful....it's more because it feels like there is not someone for me out there.
People I talk to, or hang out with....it's nice...but it's never more than that. Sometimes for my part...sometimes theirs.
It's just never....right.
I can't say I have given up.....more like I just don't care anymore.
Why search when you know deep down what you want is not going to happen? | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up on Ross because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/5/2007 11:24:52 PM | I give up on trying to FIND someone. I think that's where we all mess up, we're constantly trying to find someone to make us happy when in reality, we have to learn to make ourselves happy. Who says that we need boyfriends and girlfriends. I think romance and love are supposed to come out of the blue and unexpected. You never know when that right person comes, as for some people that person may never come. When you look for love, you're almost looking for trouble half the time because they don't work. Love is really not something you go on the internet and click at profiles for. It just comes naturally and unexpected. Why not go out somewhere to find potential dates? You never know.. you might find your soul mate at the China Buffet or something LOL.
Why not join clubs or get involved in your community?Doing things you like and meeting new people in the process? Anywhere where you might find your potential mate. You know I've actually have had more success this way than any website could offer me. It's seems like I meet more genuine real people offline than online! | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/5/2007 11:35:55 PM |
Can anyone relate?
Years ago I would off, then I stopped letting other people effect how I want to feel as that's a choice for me to make.
Then I chilled out and started to smile a lot more.
Nicely enough lots of cool people started turning up then :) | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/6/2007 12:31:05 AM | | I never give up ------what r u giving up on? I love meeting and enjoy all the guys on here rather I meet them in person or just have a few chats--u probably just r getting bored in general--don't place so much importance on meeting the right one it will happen when it should on or off this site. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/6/2007 1:11:14 AM | | yep i feel like that a lot, been on pof on and off for a few months now and have become to realise that i like making friends and chatting but often when it comes to meeting there just doesnt seem to be a spark there, it makes me disillusioned cause theres also a lot of guys just after one thing and its disappointing. i just think i'll shut it all down and get on with things alone and maybe i'll get used to it but ive made a few good friends that i wouldnt want to lose touch with so i dont, but know what you mean. just keep chatting and making friends and maybe you'll meet the one you just click with, i'm not holding out much hope but still got a little and in some cases thats all you need, take care jen xx | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up on Ross because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/6/2007 6:57:20 AM | Then it really is sad that you think you need to be whiney to meet people. You'd think you'd want to have them meet you for "you" not to save you.
You attract what you project. If you project nothing, you'll get nothing. It's ok to want a relationship, nothing wrong in that, but to define your life based on that? | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up on Ross because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/6/2007 7:18:52 AM | | Ross...I agree with those who suggest that your profile does not invite women to want to give you a chance...it truly suggest that perhaps you are at a place in your life when you should be working on YOU....not looking for someone to fulfil your needs...ie: no profession, living at parents home, social anxiety....YIKES..you need to address your own issues and create the YOU that would attact someone wonderful into your life... | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/6/2007 12:28:04 PM | This site is really starting to piss me off. People basically just ignore my profile. And when I send messages to someone they don't even have the decency to tell me upfront that i'm not their type. They just ignore me. That's just ****ed up. Women are so shallow sometimes. All they care about is looks, like men grow on ****ing trees or something. Apparently it doesn't matter how good your personality is. If your looks don't meet their standards, you ain't worth shit to them  | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/6/2007 4:14:24 PM | Well, as someone said, you need to be looking at the appropriate people/matches -- those who might be interested in you, within the usual "norms", whatever those are. The question is, how do you determine who those people are? I email people pretty infrequently, but I try to pick someone who seems like a reasonable possibility, obviously, in terms of age, appearance, location -- and personal issues. I don't see much in the way of response so I wonder if my sense of "appropriate" is off, or if it's just a question of odds -- that is, an email every now and then is not going to do it.
It's frustrating at times -- I emailed one guy, my age, lives in the same town, and said in effect, I moved here recently, it would be nice to meet someone just to socialize, putting no expectations on it, and I still heard nothing from the guy. I thought, well, geez mister, what's wrong w/ saying hi to someone? As for "walks on the beach" -- I live on an island, we could definitely do that, but frankly, all I had in mind was a coffee shop, talk about local issues, whatever.
I'd like to take a very practical approach to this actually -- just get some realistic feedback on who might be interested in me, and proceed from there -- how could I do that?.
And if it means anything, there seem to be plenty of people on here (visible on the forums at least) who are sincerely looking ot meet somebody, I'm surprised they're not finding counterparts. Just an observation, don't know how to interpret this. | |
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