| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/6/2007 4:32:22 PM | | don't forget that thomas edison went threw over 1000 materials before that he discovered that bamboo would work in a lightbulb and even later that he found the right metal.humand would never be anywhere if we did not keepp trying to move ahead.how many of us wonder when driving what's around the corner? it is that drive that keep us forgeing ahead in life.keep your head up and remember this chinese proverb...the sun is shining, even when it's cloudy... | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/6/2007 4:49:49 PM | ^
(Yeah, well I went thru 7 defective batches of defective flip-flops that didn't perform to spec's during my inventing process. It nearly cost me a divorce because of how long it took to find a single batch that worked. Wish it would have before kids became involved. That was ages ago. The point is, your analogy sucks when it is read by an inventor.)
To answer the question to the topic; yes, I have given up 100% after my most recent burn which involved thieving money from me, and stealing a large chunk of my life before I realized that I was being played. I now, during my lovely recovery, recognize that all I need in my life right now is my dog, my friends the Kinca*, my TV, maybe my PC, and to be able to eat. | |
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kimg62
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Joined: 3/20/2007
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/6/2007 4:57:11 PM | | I am new to this site, but have read about people giving up. I believe you meet the right person when your really not looking. I believe that everyone has a soulmate (still waiting) for mine to show up. If you go on a date and it sucks, well you've learned something. People, Male and female can tell you exactly what you want to hear and that can be tragic in itself. Watch for people that are in a hurry as there is probably a reason. Believe in yourself, demand honesty from others including yourself. I hope this helps. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/6/2007 6:13:12 PM | I feel the same way and have for sometime. I keep the profile up but nothing. I guess I just keep hoping there is someone out there who will run across my profile and write. I don't try anymore. Maybe that is wrong, but you get discouraged and give up. Self preservation.
When I am bored, like tonight, I read the forums. Anyway, You aren't alone in how you feel, but I try to enjoy life despite being discouraged and feeling lonely. I have alot to be thankful for and I am.
God Bless and Good luck to you | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/6/2007 6:51:57 PM | yes i can relate to you i feel like giving up too most of these men are looking for supermodles .They don't seem to be looking for anyone like me. I'm a good person once you get to know me.I'm not sure how long i will stay on this site.Some of these guys on pof are too picky  | |
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Joined: 3/30/2007
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/6/2007 9:55:59 PM | Naaah,
Hope springs eternal and I have been here since December. Had some nice dates, but nothing that makes me want to pursue things further. Maybe it is me, maybe it is because the one for me has not found me yet. In the meantime, I too have been enjoying the forums while living my life having fun.
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/6/2007 10:08:13 PM | Courage is rightly considered the foremost of all the virtues - upon it all others rest.
I think that was Churchill that said that.
When he was ask the most valuable thing he ever learned he said something like ...
He answered it different than it was ask - the summarized his entire learning experience into just a few words.
Never quit
Never ever quit
I will never quit looking for a good two way match (a gf). I never quit when I was a kid and I always ended up with a delightful girl friend. I recently spent 20 years (17+3) with a good human being - this is no time to quit now. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/6/2007 10:43:41 PM | ::Smiles:: Constantly
I made myself a promise I'd give online dating sites a chance. 6 months later I was ready to quit.
I looked up at the Heavens one night and saw a shooting star. Made a special wish on that star.
Then remembering where mankinds needs come from, I offered up a prayer. I don't often ask for things that are for myself. Then came the old phrase that "God helps those that helps themselves."
Its been a total of 9 months. The depression of being lonely still hangs in the air about me. The saddened thought that my Romantic life has not advanced at all remains heavy. But I don't feel that I am worthless. I feel I have something to offer a woman.
So each week I remind myself that I must help myself in order to one day find that one special person. Because no one else is going to help me.
So yes, I can relate and thats how I keep pushing forward. Will I ever succeed? I don't know. How long do I commit to this search? I don't know.
Just remember losers quit. So I encourage you to never quit. I am not a masterpiece of looks, but I think I can find someone good. And if I can, so can you. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/7/2007 6:19:05 AM | | Suspect Orchid ( I tried to email Orchid but can't because I smoke, and I was disappointed) responded to my post which was as negative as it gets, but true. After a while, one gives up. I moved back into apartment style life and I love it, especially because of all the wonderful little kids that don't know my name, but run to see my giant Labrador, " Lexidor Cut Thick". Recently I have actually come to accept that irritating advice about stop looking and it will find you. Well, I asked for guidance from above, and got it. Now I seek to help others and find another purpose in life, and I know it will happen. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/7/2007 11:28:49 AM | It took me 5 years of online dating and 5 years of utter dissappointments until I met the love of my life last July. You have to remain strong and not let losers and players get the best of you. Remember to choose wisely and never give yor heart so easily. You have to learn to keep your chin up and learn from every negative experience. Always remain on top because having a negative attitude won't do your self-esteem and aura any good. Having a positive attiude will allow others to naturally gravitate towards you. I truely believe there is someone out there for everyone you just have to be patient. If you don't find them, trust me, they will find you.
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 1/30/2009 8:34:36 PM | There are times when I do just give up altogether. But I always end up back in the mix, still as unsuccessful as before. It's sort of a paradox, too -- when I am out of the mix I feel lonely and empty, and when I try to meet people I feel frustrated and depressed.
I just turned 34 this month and not only have never had a girlfriend, but never even kissed a woman (unless you count a friendly kiss here and there), or even been past a second date.
And I've tried everything, too... not only have I been on many different dating sites, but I've done volunteer work, social groups, nightclubs, etc. I even spent several months with a group of pickup artists going out to various venues and meeting all sorts of women. But still no luck -- I'd get a phone number every so often only to get no answer whenever I called.
I look at myself objectively and can't help but wonder why I'm not a hell of a catch, too... I'm reasonably good looking, have a master's degree, a great career, am a Mensa member, and am at least somewhat athletic. But it gets harder and harder to feel good about myself when I can't shake the emptiness inside me. I read the stories on this forum of people who have lost someone, and can't help but think that I would gladly volunteer to go through that heartache if only to know what it's like to feel the other side of the spectrum. All I feel now is nothing. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 1/30/2009 10:40:49 PM | What is this "give up" phrase you folks are talking about?
How does one "give up"?
On a serious note: I'd suggest keeping yourself occupied by "preparing" for your mate. Get your house together, car paid off, education finished, etc.
These kind of things tend to happen randomly and out of the blue, could be tommorow or it could be 3 years from now.... we're all impatient because life is short, each minute that passes by feels like a minute wasted from our lifetime mate and the children born from it. That's how it felt to me and it just landed me in a big mess. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 1/30/2009 11:28:40 PM | | talking about unsuccesful, i can relate to that. i have been on here for a short time , went to a single meeting , get no responces from the people i mail, i just don't know what is wrong, sometimes i wonder if this is real, there must be some lonely people out there just like me, who want to find a partner, i don't want to find one when i have one foot in my grave, lol... where are you people/// | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 1/31/2009 12:14:02 AM | | Absolutely, i feel exactly like that right now, in fact ive hidden my profile for awhile, its all a bit too hard, so going to carry on, go to work, and be happy with just me, except i am 53 this year, so gets harder still to meet someone, oh well will see what happens this year, will probably put profile back on eventually, regards | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 1/31/2009 6:36:35 AM | I think frustration is the word. Weeding through all the people makes me realize that I was never much of a gardener. At one time in my life...looking for someone special was fun...now?..it seems so much like work that its tiresome. If people would just be themselves when they meet someone instead of trying to do everything , or act like someone that you THINK the other person wants, then this process would be so much easier. I absolutely despise dating. If I could just jump into a relationship without the whole dating thing I would be so much more content. Altho we all know this isnt possible. Sigh. Ah well...Im off to do some more..."reading between the lines"
ps...dont give up. Altho....the moment you stop looking...will more than likely be the moment you find who your looking for. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 1/31/2009 12:34:36 PM | | Ya...seemed like I am always getting burned. But gotta have hope.........life goes on-go out with friends, I don't think about meeting anyone and sometimes thats how it happens. When ya least expect it. Maybe at 56......and I keep smiling....... | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 1/31/2009 1:03:44 PM | | I am feeling like you, too. I feel like that men do not feel comfortable around me, after they see my home. It is a beautiful place, and many have never been inside such a luxurious estate, on acreage, so this makes them feel uncomfortable.... this is just about the time they start to make themselves scarcer, if not removing themselves completely out of the picture. Maybe they don't like all the "hired help". I haven't dated anyone who has as much money as me. I try to hide the fact that I have substantial incomes, but eventually they find out. I mostly go to church, and get invited by groups of members, but it would sure be nice to find someone. I have no problem getting dates "on line", but they usually only last for about three dates. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 1/31/2009 3:00:04 PM | Oh, yeah.
Lots of people looking for fun and nothing serious. That's great, if that's what you are looking for. It's the venue, and the type of people it attracts, that's all. I'm sure there are exceptions and some great stories to be told... but keep it in perspective. This venue is for FUN. Don't take it too seriously. No one else is. | |
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| Anyone else feel like giving up because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 1/31/2009 4:07:30 PM | | I do feel like giving up sometimes. In many respects, I think I already have, but then again I'm not too sure that it's in my hands anyways. Now that can be a good feeling, because it means that success doesn't depend upon me doing this or that or the other thing. I have a hope that has sent its tendrils throughout my entirety that whispers that if I live my life the right way, that good things will come to me. So I'm gonna keep on doing that and let Heaven bring what it wills. | |
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