| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/9/2008 1:33:54 PM | Hey sixpac..Don't give up. Not all girls are the same! I found a great way to deal with the in between times is start a network of friendships..when you are not dating or searching. Hang out with your friends..you won't feel the pinch of rejection as much, you will take it slower because you have your acceptance from your friends "need" met. When she comes into your life they will keep you anchored, its amazing the friends I have made on here...male and female. We all have something in common to help eachother through good times and bad. Don't lose heart!
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/9/2008 1:43:05 PM | Fortunately/unfortunately we don't know whether or not we're ready for a relationship with anyone until the process starts and we react emotionally to it. It's the same for all of us.
Wrong place wrong time OP. Take it for what it was, appreciate it and move on. | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/9/2008 2:24:37 PM | | OP....I hear you loud and clear...its not just a thing with women ..it happens with men too..which is why I changed my profile to reflect the frustration I have felt with certain individuals...I wish people would stop using this site as a way to play mind games with people and use it for the purpose that it was created for...but, having said that...don't give up...there really is someone out there for everyone | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/9/2008 8:04:26 PM | | Did you give this enough time to really discover enough about her to give her your heart? Realy think about this. At what point are we responsible for our own feelings and what happens to our own feelings? | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/10/2008 7:06:34 AM | | I like when women play with my heart. My heart is for a woman to play with. I like to play too. She has to let me play with her heart though. I'm too lazy to be heartbroken. Being sad and forlorn takes effort. I already forgave all the women who played with my heart. Lately I have been having women's block because I enjoy writing but I am coming out of my hermit shell. I'm ready to play now! | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/10/2008 10:04:35 AM | Easy there bro.
Been there done that got the t-shirt, AND the coffee mug!
Lets sift through the dishonesty and games here.
Iam not ready for this and does not return my calls no emails no nothing
Translation: I have found someone else. I have not the balls to tell you. I do not have the common sence to face you and tell you it's over, so I will simply ignore you so that you will go away.
Honestly, would you really want a mate with such a lack of moral programming?
IAM DONE
You have a choice here bro. Let the gamers win, become bitter. Or move on and be happy. They might have won the battle here, but don't let them win the war.
When the war is over, the dust settles, and the gamers loose their beauty as they age, they will spend the rest of their lives unloved. it's called Karma.
Now get back in there Tiger!
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/10/2008 8:10:25 PM | there are women who mess men around and there are men that mess women around. it's hard but it's life.
don't waste any time on this woman ,move on, learn to trust again and one day you will find someone special.
(am still looking too but the nice ones are bloody well camouflaged! )
good luck and don't give up ! | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/16/2008 4:02:16 AM | Hey sixpac, sorry to hear this happened to you. But I must say hang in there. The same thing happened to me shortly after I joined POF. Met the guy, started out as friends, grew into more and then wa la.......no email, no phone call, no text message...nothing.  From what I can see, the man hid his profile the last day he saw me and then removed me from his favorites. He was talking to 3 other women and told me he told them all he was dating me. I even put a testamonial on his profile and he told me the women were really pissed off at him. He even made fun of one woman cause she had heart surgery and she called him shallow, he said he could never date a woman with serious health problems. Oh well, I guess one of the women really got to him and he didn't have the balls to tell me that he found someone else.   At first I was really hurt and was hoping to hear from him, but soon realized that he was a player and it happened for a reason. I picked myself up and moved on. I learned from this situation. Not to be so quick to let my heart out to a man that sounds to good to be true. I am very careful now of the men I choose to chat with and date.  I let them know up front that it takes time to develop a relationship with someone and I take things slow. I include them with my friends to get there opinion on him. No better network then your friends!! My advice is not to give up, just be really careful how fast you open your heart. Take time to get to know the person. If they try to push it faster, then they may be looking for one thing and one thing only. I know it can be hard to do, but when you go to release your heart remember what happened before and be cautious. I do. But don't let it stop you from finding the woman of your dreams. Good luck to you sixpac and all others that have been played by either a man or a woman on here or any other dating site! | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/16/2008 4:16:18 AM | If you start with the premise that all people on these sites are lying through their teeth you won't go far wrong.
I'm on here in the vain hope that I may just find someone who isn't - but I'm not holding my breath. Cynical? Maybe, but I've been taken in more than once and I don't intend to let it happen again. I start with that premise and I've not been proved wrong yet.
The simple fact is that for both men and women there's simply so much choice out there and it's just a game to most. | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/16/2008 4:43:42 AM | Here comes tombstone tom to the rescue, my exact sentiments THANKS TOM.
Women are weak and humilated when they have to face the truth about breaking off a relationship. They feel they humilalte themselves when having to face you in persons, they know that we (men) are seroius and truthful with our feelings (most of the time) when we open our hearts and respond to them thru love- care- conern for their well being and so forth.
The one thing that I see regularly is the speed of a relationship a short time table to express your love for the opposite mate (male /female) it shows desperation and insecurities from one to the other and it scares off the potential mate. a yellow flag or red flag from the start. Patience is a virtue, learn as much as you can about your potential mate before saying "I LOVE YOU "in a committed relationship.
we all have had this happen to us during our life time your not alone. There are plenty of fish( real ladies) in the pond of life Just keep n fishing and enjoy!
Don't let this hurdle get you down! | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/16/2008 5:31:15 AM | The thing to see in this...since we are on a site called POF...do you want a beautiful bass or salmon or are you going to settle for a scavenger fish? There are a lot of scavengers! I take my time to see what kind of fish they REALLY are. Trust me, lots that you want to throw back in the pond! And as soon as you see what they are...throw them back! Don't settle for carp when some where out there around the bend just might be the salmon or bass or marlin! : ) Fishing should be done in a slow fashion...sitting on the bank by the shore...taking in the sunshine (having fun), taking in the scenery, enjoying the day (or night), being relaxed with some good expectations. If it isn't a good day for fishing and you catch some mudsuckers, hey, know one when you see it! Study the fish to be sure you know what it is! Don't let shiny scales fool you! Don't think that is going to be the only catch of the day! Take your time..fishing should be about your day and relaxing and YOU choosing the fish you will keep. Just because a fish shows up does not mean it is a good fish or a healthy fish! Don't keep a fish cause they look pretty! ha! Enjoy the excursion, go with good expectations and expect good things - but examine the fish very closely to be sure it is not a toxic fish! Not all fish are the same...and neither are people. I have seen from my experience that the "red" flags will show up if you watch for them! The things I watch for concerning men are #1 Do they operate in secret or are they open to share.?#2 Do they have to share lots about the other women they dated (ego problem or lust) ?#3 Do they have some interest in who you are as a person or is it all about them? #4 Do they show you respect and have a healthy way of connecting? #5 Do they appear to respect others and have a healthy respect for themselves? #6 Are they in a big rush or willing to take their time to get to know you? #7 Do they have a healthy sense of humor? #8 Can they comfortably support themselves? (Trust me, some cannot seem to rise above poverty - which causes me to wonder about their habits). #9 Do they have a good relationship with their children? (If not, most of the time their is a good reason their children do not like them. They just may know something we do not know yet!) #10 Are you comfortable asking them questions or do you sense resistance? Finally, if you sense something is wrong...trust that! God gave us all an internal warning system and please do not minimize to yourself the "flags" God is trying to show you. If you feel tossed inside, insecure, unsure, or that you are being taken on a roller coaster ride...TRUST that! What you feel inside is enough! Don't try to figure out what is wrong. If your inner self knows something "ain't" right...trust me, that is pretty sufficient! Last thought, women guard yourselves! It may sound corny or old fashioned - but do not give your bodies away! These men out here will use you and dump you most of the time. The morals of our society have decayed and it is because women have been too easy. Men no longer get the challenge of the chase. Men in general (not all of course) have lost repect for women. Women, take care of yourselves, guard your hearts (and bodies), protect yourself and wait for that prince who will make it all worth the wait!
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/16/2008 6:47:13 AM | | Meh. Once again, the problem is that you actually cared about this other person. Stop investing yourself as much in the people you date. Do you honestly think that if you care about someone enough, they'll reciprocate? | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/16/2008 3:52:33 PM | You say you're sick of women who play with your heart , hurt and disappoint you.
Sounds to me like you keep finding yourself the same type of woman.
Must be a reason why you're attracted to women that can't commit or who use you for what they can get and disappear.
You say you're done-- if by " done" you mean done repeating that same destructive and futile pattern, great!
Instead of jumping heardfirst into another exercise in futility, why not take some time to get to know yourself?
Find out who you are at this point in life, what you want, and don't want for yourself now and in the future.
Make a list of the qualities you want in a future partner. Keep that list handy at all times, and refer to it often.
I'm sure better judgement will follow.
Oh, and a little self-respect wouldn't hurt either.
I detect more than a note of " Poor Me" whining through your thread. | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/16/2008 4:37:22 PM | | OP, I certainly hear what you're saying. I've had girls screw around with my ead and heart before too. It sees like they take really sadistic pleasure of it too. But also, as many other posters have pointed out here, men do that kind of thing too, and alot of the time their alot more vicious and evil at it than the women are. Don't let it get you down, you'll find the right girl. Stay stong, my friend. :) | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/16/2008 4:58:19 PM | | Maybe she was looking for that instant connection. She did have a nice stable friendship with you, but some women want that fairy tale romance and she may have met someone who she clicked at a quicker rate than you so she decided to go for it. You could ask her, but I caution you that her answer could be really painful so be careful. | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/16/2008 10:15:29 PM | | I am sorry to hear you went through that,It's harder when it blossoms into something bigger.I felt the same way you do for so long .I am the type that loves to much sounds like you are to.The only thing wrong with that is we seem to attract those who love to little.Now is the time to throw your self into your friends and family.After my fiancee of 5 years cheated on me I forgave her and we moved on til 6 months later it happened again.We mutually broke up and although she was my first true love and I would take care of her today if she needed help,we haven't spoke in 5 years.I waited 2 years after she left thinking we could some how make it work.Many years have passed and although I am skeptical of people and trust so few.I deserve to be loved and feel love again.Don't you?There is someone out there for everyone,I believe every person has several soul mates through out there life.My personal opinion that is.If you give up on love your new soul mate will never find hers.Good Luck! | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/17/2008 3:14:26 AM | Hey dude, not uncommon . . . but let me relate some experiences that have happened lately - and if this sounds familiar to anyone out there I would like to hear about it - . . . I e-mailed to one ladies profile and she and I started exchanging e-mails on a regular basis everyday for a couple of weeks . . . we really seemed to be clicking, and it was a wonderful experience . . . we arranged a coffee date and she closed her account several days before the date, with no way to get a hold of her . . . she never showed up, I was early and waited a long time . . . then I started to correspond with another lady, and it turned into a couple of weeks of great and wonderful correspondence . . . today she just said thanks and closed her account . . . they both kept saying they really liked talking to me and were really enjoyed corresponding with me . . . then they were gone . . .
So, how am I supposed to react to this, what is it telling me about myself? I consider myself to be a nice guy, my friends all tell me I am great friend - I just was the designated driver for a party tonight, and drove all over town for my friends, because that is what I do and I love my friends - . I pour my heart out and get it stomped on. Is POF for me? Debatable . . .
I'm trying to put a positive spin on this, but it is getting harder every time . . . fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me . . . round three? | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/17/2008 3:32:35 AM | | Ditto, Im also sorry you had such a heartache, but sadly some men do the same, i guess maybe they are not ready to take things anyfurther and dont know how to say so. That doesnt take away the hurt though so chin up and dont give up.. Irene | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/17/2008 5:09:19 AM | She may have had NO intention of playing with your heart. IN FACT she may have fallen for YOU big time and, may have been telling the truth by saying SHE could not handle it. Some people are better at being CLOSE to others than others.
AND, we all have different definitions of what "close" is. Amounts of time spent together, quality of time spent together, how much we feel we can share, etc.
Sorry you are going through it. But, there must be some reason for it. At least that's what I try to tell myself when feeling pain.
Coco | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/17/2008 5:27:31 AM | I was sad reading your words and I immediatly identified with you.
I have too found that men have played with me for months online, flirting and showing incredible interest in me suggesting lives of togetherness......
Then too, all of a sudden, the loss of interest is apparent. I have spent copious amounts of time wondering "why, what happened?"
For some, it is a game. Then along comes another and the game starts again.
I believe some do not comprehend the devastation this brings. They fail to see the impact they had. They were not inside our beings to identify the effects they had on us.
We need to take great care when interacting with others.
Great care, and great respect.
I wish you all the best. | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/17/2008 7:00:29 AM | Aren't we all some times as bad as this ... but maybe something bad has happened, an car-accident or a heart-attack etc., who knows? Don't be to square-headed.
But for the future my friend:
The past is history, so let it go. 
The future is a mystery, so let it come. 
The present is this moment now - a gift. To be truly in the present today, it is useful to release all our fears (based on the past) and our worries (imagined futures) - this is the work of someone who truly wants to break free from the stuff of past yesterdays and speculative tomorrows. It begins simply - with awareness. See the fears, see the worries, look at them in the face, watch them come and go. Treat them like children on their way out to play. 
Let them go. 
There is only now - even if we are in planning mode, stay in the present and plan tomorrow, it's when we drift into tomorrow with our imagination that we experience loss of this present moment.  | |
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| I am so sick of woman who Play with your heart
Posted: 2/17/2008 10:44:43 AM | | Guys do the same thing. I lived this exact situation recently. It's not men or women only. It's the insecure, hurt, lonely, and afraid people that do this. The only way to be done is TO BE DONE. Don't let this keep you from finding someone who does know what they want and is ready to commit to finding the one. The others that lie can just form a group and keep each other miserable company for all I care. | |
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