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Posted: 3/29/2007 7:45:35 PM |
I fail to see how said posters inclusion of a 'noncurrent' picture in her profile constitutes hypocrisy To be honest, I have no idea if the pic you're refering to is real, or fake, or recent, or old.
But it does look fake. It appears to be an image scanned from a magazine.
Someone may be suspicious of anyone with no pic displayed on their profile.
I'm suspicious of a person with 1 pic, that looks fake. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2007 7:57:59 PM | | These are free forums and its quite nice to hear different peoples opinions, no matter where they are from, isnt that what this is all about. gesh !! Remember we are all different and should keep an open mind to that. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2007 8:15:29 PM | WOW! I'm wondering if those two guys are related?
It's really a shame when big ol' tough guys......especially ones who don't show
their faces.......decide to pick on sweet innocent women.
In THIS case......I happen to know what I'm talking about.
That pic is not old or fake and it IS her.......this is a very sweet woman who doesn't deserve your snyde remarks or personal attacks.
Maybe we should just get back on topic here? | |
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Posted: 3/29/2007 8:26:28 PM | | ^^^ Agree, so here's a bit of a swing on this topic. What really gets to me is those who feel the need to expose themselves in some manner to get 'noticed'. If your seriously looking for someone doesnt that make you question who they really are? | |
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Posted: 3/29/2007 8:37:14 PM | have chatted with ppl with or without a pic...and if someone asks to see my pic i have one here for them to see. I just don't like having my face put out there (wart on the end of my nose and all )...and if that means less ppl will email me or chat with me ...so be it ..that is their loss!!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/29/2007 8:44:23 PM | They say a picture is worth a thousand words..................it is also said... don't judge a book by it's cover! Sure I have my pic up... but I hate having my pic taken... I'd rather be on the other side of the camera!
But I do look at profiles of those with and without pics....Just my 2 cents worth! | |
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Posted: 3/29/2007 9:34:42 PM | hummm pic or no pic, that is the question. well it looks like i'm gonna have to dust off my speedos fer all ya to see, and then let you decide if its what you all want to see 
don't worry tho...... i will put on a happy face too :) or maybe the old pouty lips thing | |
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Posted: 3/29/2007 9:48:21 PM |
its quite nice to hear different peoples opinions, no matter where they are from yes it is.
But did some of these people come to contribute to this forum's discussion?
I get the impression that a group who has an ongoing battle in other forums, just brought their battle here. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2007 8:33:49 AM | Well......it seems my little thread, that was meant for pure discussion purposes, has become quite the hot-bed of activity.....quite a controversial topic. I had posted this topic in the hopes to hear others opinions on which was better, putting a picture up, or having none at all. I did not intend for anyone to "jump" on anyone else and cause such turmoil on these threads.
If one chooses to use a photo that is either very old, or from a magazine, it is their choice to do so, thus, also it is their choice if they choose to give the wrong impression to those they seek a friendship/relationship with by displaying a false photo. Who are we to judge them, for said choice? I cannot say if the "photo" in question is false, but, even if it be so, it is her choice whether or not she wishes to have her own image displayed on the internet for the whole world to see.
On topic...as for my choice, I have decided to put my picture up, for personal reasons...it does generate a few more responses, though, I can honestly say, I have not had many responses to begin with, and that is fine by me, as I am only here seeking friendship. Also, as someone, I believe it was Blondie, said, some choose to have a bit more privacy by not placing a photo on their profile, like having an unlisted phone number.....this is completely understandable. However, if I get a message from someone, I do expect to receive a photo within the first few emails, if not, then I will no longer contact them. I feel, in this day and age, with technology, we all have at least one photo we can share and if we choose not to, at all, then I feel that person is hiding something or is not really seriously looking for a relationship of any kind. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2007 11:30:45 AM | Ah, the biggest battle in life is to listen to what others have to say and from that learn who they are, in time the true colors always come shining through, no point to fret and allow it to over take you. To pic or not to pic......each to their own.
Have a great day ! | |
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Posted: 3/30/2007 2:43:59 PM | ^^^^^^Very well said.
Have a great day! and a Fabulous weekend! | |
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Posted: 3/30/2007 7:50:44 PM |
a poster earlier had said we "don't walk around in public with lil blue boxes over our head"...I agree.. people want to see who they are talking to "its called interaction"...
I also don't walk around with a poster saying, "Hey! I'm single!" When I'm on this site, I'm advertising that I'm available... in public I'm not.
But I can't call you judgmental because I don't honestly get the point of your post. There's a lot of zig-zagging and intertwining my post with yours and references to people whom I spoke where they are suddenly me or someone else, and... well... you get the picture right?
Like I say... I don't really care what assumptions people choose to jump to about my lack of picture. If one chooses to make an assumption that is way off the mark, then hey... good for me. They've eliminated themselves so that I didn't have to. Like I say, that's not the type of person I'm interested in. I'd rather be involved with someone who takes the time to understand things before they start jumping to conclusions. I don't want a black and white thinker who only sees it as "my way" and "not my way" are the only two possiblities that exist. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2007 5:34:17 PM | | I have choosen NO PHOTO because what one can do with my photo is out of my control. I ere on the side of caution and go without. I can usually tell by chatting or e mailing if I want to meet the individual photo or no photo. I can aonly talk about my experience and not the research I have read about the topic | |
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Posted: 4/7/2007 3:55:26 PM | Wanted to ask, why do some post sunsets, babies, their chldren or grandchildren, dogs and other pets what is up with that? Humor, like I want to date a dog???? Finally it is one choice and I totally respect their decision.
I do find it dishonest when one posts a picture and it is not them...once again what is that about??? Poor self confidence? Putting to much in the look? Trying to impress me before we meet??? Got to tell you when I meet a man it goes way beyond the physical. It is a presence, that good feeling. Being able to tell if he is for real and not hiding behind some photo. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2007 4:50:53 PM | ^^^^if you go on a date with someone before you actually see the person, then I guess that's your choice. I'm sure that if you seem interested in someone by their profile, they will give you a picture of themselves. Most pics on here that aren't of themselves, dogs, kids, sunsets etc., is a good chunk of their lives, if you don't accept that then you should probably not bother them. As for poor self confidence..... where is yours???
just my two bits | |
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Posted: 4/7/2007 7:54:53 PM |
Wanted to ask, why do some post sunsets, babies, their chldren or grandchildren, dogs and other pets what is up with that?
Apparently the admin is trying to crack down, on some of these pics now.
I've got to admit that I was guilty of having a sunset pic on my profile for months.
My reason: I also wasn't comfortable with displaying a pic of myself on my profile. But I wanted to have some kind of pic, so I simply used a pic, not of me, which I'd taken myself.
It eventually got replaced, when I got this picture of myself, which I like because I'm too far away to be recognised.
I really don't see the harm in a sunset pic, a scenary pic, a picture of a pet, etc. It adds something to a profile that would otherwise have a blank spot.
It can also be something personal to the user, and may tell you something about the person. Such as they like dogs, or that they like the outdoors. Or a scenary pic may depict the part of the world where they live.
I've contacted people based on such pics, because I felt I may have something in common with them, after seeing their lifestyle or interest portrayed in such a pic. | |
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Posted: 4/10/2007 8:12:49 PM | | Men read profiles with no picture it depends upon how you have worded your profile to make it interesting to the reader. Yes the picture is a serious part, but I also feel that what's inside of a person really is a big part as well. I mean the opposite sex could be outstandingly good looking but to talk to that person and having to look at that face all day wow tiresome, but if you are attracted to his personality, his humour and his intellect then nothing else matters.... | |
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Posted: 4/10/2007 10:13:08 PM | An interesting thread, and something that I've been thinking about a lot recently actually.
1. We never really know why people do not have a picture with their profile. If the profile is interesting, it is easy enough to ask "Hey, why have you chosen to not have a picture on your profile?" instead of "do you have a pic?"
2. There may be a picture, but what is in the picture may make me change my mind about a profile. I personally do not like anyone's main picture to have their child(ren) in it. Maybe it is OK as one of the supplemental pictures, but not the one that comes up when you search profiles! I like the idea of having other photographs of something that is important to you, again just not as your first picture, as it gives you an intriguing look at the person you're viewing or thinking about responding to.
3. I am a very private person, and don't like the thought of having a public picture. I figure that if my profile doesn't interest a person, why should my picture? If someone wants a picture, I'm more than likely to send it to them if they have even a small ability to compose a message to me...
4. When you work with an organization that puts you infront of 39% of the province's population in a year, you also don't want to be recognized because someone has seen your face online. It is not because of shame or embarassment, it is just a personal choice.
I will reply based on the profile I read, and will continue corresponding with someone based on the quality of the responses I get. Will I ask for a picture? It is not usually something I do in the first conversation.. but it would happen before I were to meet someone...
I think that everyone has their reasons that motivate them to include, or not include a picture.. and although there is great disagreement over this, I'm sure this will continue to be an interesting thread!
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Posted: 4/29/2007 7:11:38 AM | I agree there are many reasons for not posting a picture. I do think that it is only logical to have one avaialble to send if you make a connection.
But not mandatory, most folks mention that they will respond with a pic if contacted. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2007 10:06:19 AM | | We are all a bit shallow are'nt we? Looks do count , they are what first attract us.But if you are notwilling to see what is on the inside, then that is what truely makes you shallow.So, I like to see a picture, at some point whether it be on the profile or not. I have responed to both types of profiles. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2007 11:53:24 AM | Greetings All...I guess I am shallow, I prefer pictures over non-picture profiles. But let's face it, humans are visual creatures especially men. I am not being rude, it is fact that men are visual. I do and will chat to men without pictures, but after a few times, I ask for them why they do not have one. I have my picture posted cause I don't want people to think they are chatting to someone I am not!
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Posted: 5/3/2007 4:41:34 PM | | Thanks for answering the question in regards to sunsets, children etc. As for my self confidence it is just fine today. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2007 9:53:23 AM | | I dunno. I just posted my pic and now I dont get messages. LOL | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 11:32:02 AM | The only conclusionI can draw from th OP's information seems to be that he may not be very photogenic,....
so,..... if you only get responses when no picture is up,....then I have to ask if you ever go out with any of the people who message you sight unseen????,....
and FYI,..to me????,....what happens when they eventually see you in the flesh (as it were)?????
I personally like to see who I am talking to,....and since they get to see me it seems fair,...
Although it never ceasesto amaze me,...how (no matter how explicit I state that a picture is required before I message back,) still men write me without one,....
Don't people read the profiles? which BTW brings me to my personal pet peevs,...
Profiles that give virtually no information,....I mean when all you state is too much to mention and go on to say just ask me????,.....I wonder if anyone actually does? | |
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