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Posted: 5/4/2007 9:53:23 AM | I dunno. I just posted my pic and now I dont get messages. LOL | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 11:32:02 AM | The only conclusionI can draw from th OP's information seems to be that he may not be very photogenic,....
so,..... if you only get responses when no picture is up,....then I have to ask if you ever go out with any of the people who message you sight unseen????,....
and FYI,..to me????,....what happens when they eventually see you in the flesh (as it were)?????
I personally like to see who I am talking to,....and since they get to see me it seems fair,...
Although it never ceasesto amaze me,...how (no matter how explicit I state that a picture is required before I message back,) still men write me without one,....
Don't people read the profiles? which BTW brings me to my personal pet peevs,...
Profiles that give virtually no information,....I mean when all you state is too much to mention and go on to say just ask me????,.....I wonder if anyone actually does? | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 12:23:05 PM | Hey Creepy...you don't scare me......you are just a little **** cat.................I know | |
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Posted: 7/1/2007 11:20:55 AM | Hey polly.........you really scare me..........you are just a ********* cat......and I know
just screwin with ya people we all know polly is a sweetheart and wants too jump creepy's bones | |
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Posted: 7/2/2007 7:00:30 AM | Nah...not jumpin' creepy's bones......I've seen them! Maybe yours J~man........... haha
Only teasing boys.....I luv ya both | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 9:48:07 PM | I think it all depends on what you are looking for on POF. If you are just looking for friends, they don't need a pic. But if someone is looking for longterm, or dating. They should have a pic. But for me, I don't consider my self a shallow person, but for dating or longterm, at least to start, I need to be physically attracted to that person before I would consider dateing them. I have met people that didn't have a pic, wasn't what I expected. With the technology these days, everybody is able to find a way to post a pic if they desire.
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Posted: 7/12/2007 1:48:47 AM | | Gotta agree with WHITELIGHT's post to an extent...if there is a will, there will be a way...but some ebb away from that for fear that some will like their appearance too much (and I'm meaning not the shallow, but the truthful, and fearful), others due to NOT wanting their pic on in a city that they grew up in (and many recognize) and some since they will like the looks, and not care about who they really are...We are all different and all of of our expectations are so different, so you have to just go by your gut...and what YOU feel comfy with. Maybe you want them to wait to see you, get to know your personality first...as long as you don't lie about it. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2007 5:21:58 AM |
But for me, I don't consider my self a shallow person, but for dating or longterm, at least to start, I need to be physically attracted to that person before I would consider dateing them.
This seems to be a big problem. I don't know why people have to defend themselves regarding physical attraction. It isn't shallow. It's just as important as everything else that you find attractive about a person. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2007 8:00:22 PM | | sorry, didn't mean to sound defensive, but I have chatted with people with no pic, then you ask them for a pic and they get all defensive, it's like You want them to rob a bank. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2007 9:00:29 PM |
They say that if you put up a photo, you are more likely to get responses to your add, but, I have found.....that when I had NO photo up, I got 10 times more responses than when I put my photo up. The minute I put my picture up, the responses stopped.
Do you feel it is better to put up a photo or to leave your photo off of your profile?
Just playing around with the quote thing never tried it. No matter what i think you should have your pic to see what you look like. If you stopped getting messages with your pic maybe you should try and send messages to who you like. Or maybe your just ugly jk haha | |
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Posted: 2/11/2008 1:37:40 PM | I totally agree with the quote "We are Visual Creatures" and as such I personally dont look at profiles without pictures, there are literally hundreds and possibly thousands of profiles we may be interested in, but unless there is something that reaches out and grabs ya, it will likely never be seen.
And just one question for you to think about...
When you go "Fishin" do you bait the hook with something to attract the fishes attention, or just drop a piece of string in the water and wait for the fish to jump in the boat?
Wanted to ask, why do some post sunsets, babies, their chldren or grandchildren, dogs and other pets what is up with that? Humor, like I want to date a dog????
If you have ever met a Dog owner such as myself, you may find that persons dog is a huge part of their life! I personally like to see a persons dog in their profile, it gives me one more thing to talk to them about which I am very passionate about!
I do find it dishonest when one posts a picture and it is not them...once again what is that about??? Poor self confidence? Putting to much in the look? Trying to impress me before we meet??? Got to tell you when I meet a man it goes way beyond the physical. It is a presence, that good feeling. Being able to tell if he is for real and not hiding behind some photo.
I cant imagine what a person can get out of doing this if they ever have any plans on meeting the person? Unless they have already paid for all the plastic surgery and thats what they are going to look like when its done? | |
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Posted: 2/13/2008 1:01:18 PM | | OK I want to add I am trying the photo on here. The responses are not all that great. I plan to be on here for six more weeks then time to start a different strategy or leave this all together. Interestintly I have had better results on other paying sites. Would like to hear your comments and experience on here. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2008 7:21:36 PM | I've been on here for almost two years now. I'm still here, and thats not saying this site sucks. I did try a pay site...for a month. IT DID SUCK! Little in the way of responses, and if you wanted to contact someone, they had to be a member too. I found some would not answer my messages, because they don't get the message until the next day.
Now, regarding pics, I prefer to see them. I am NOT shallow, but I do know that my taste is my own, and seeing a person will tell me if there may be an attraction or not. Thats being honest! EVERYONE needs to feel a physical attraction. Be it the eyes, smile, hair, nose, lips, laugh, or the way they may pick their nose. There is always something that catches the eye, and attracts one enough to 'go for it'. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2008 12:59:38 PM | I don't even hang here much anymore & not even looking, But if your not going to post a pic it seems too me your not really giving the site a chance and we all like to see each other in some form.
I think It's a self esteem issue right off the bat. next.
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Posted: 6/12/2008 5:51:10 AM | I can't put my picture up... what if my wife or my girlfriend would see it?? geez! Think people!! giggidy giggidy... | |
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Posted: 6/14/2008 10:42:20 AM | the only thing that EVER attracts me to look at a profile is the smiling face and eyes.
and I just can't help it..what are you hiding?..I know I know..at times I want to hide and I have and let the dating thing go for a bit..but when I am ready, I stick up my mug shot again and give another heave ho!!!
think about it....if he isn't even willing to put up his picture and I am..how are you going to answer that age old question???
where did you 2 meet?
hmmmmm
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Posted: 6/15/2008 7:30:32 AM |
think about it....if he isn't even willing to put up his picture and I am..how are you going to answer that age old question???
where did you 2 meet?
Let me see if I am understanding this correctly. If I had a picture up, you could tell people, "Oh, I met him on Plenty of Fish," but without a picture you are somehow confused as to where you are?
I've gotta say... that is some pretty funny sh*t!
But I'm not hiding anything. I'm just one of those people who doesn't do what people tell him to do. You think I owe you a picture? I say, "F*ck that!" I make my decisions, you don't make them for me. It's nothing personal, that's just how I roll. | |
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Posted: 1/16/2009 9:18:20 AM | You know, I never even thought of that! Posting a pic of something other than myself. Never even occurred to me. Kind of defeats the purpose of "must have a picture to contact user", don't you think?? lmao
I've been reading this thread as I was curious as to why some post a pic and others don't. Some ask for a pic as a "must have" but don't have one themselves (this one really boggles my brain, lol); some ask for a pic and say that they will respond in kind (and don't,lol), same as saying "yours will get mine".
The best I've read so far within this thread was "...don't judge a book by its cover...". I laughed at this statement. Let me explain. Technically speaking, that's exactly what a picture is. It's the cover of the book. The profile is the inside front or back cover of the book.
The meat of the book is found in both the initial contact (response to profile) and the meeting (actually meeting the person).
To post or not to post. Personal choice... | |
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Posted: 1/16/2009 1:03:06 PM | I wonder how many of you that do not have pictures find yourselves browsing by the picture you see of others,...
I know I tend not to bother reading profiles of those that I can not see,...and by that I mean actually see without the benefit of a microscope,....what exactly are you all hiding???? | |
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Posted: 1/20/2009 1:35:58 PM | | I like everyones comments and everyone makes perfect sence. Personally i would perfer chatting with someone with a picture.Its not shallow in the least bit. Im sure all the ladies would agree that you wouldnt go up and introduce yourself to a total stranger in the bar if you didnt think that the guy was at least cute? If there is one lady here that has walked up to a guy and said hello in the bar just becuase you thought it would be nice to get to know him, please let me know. Because what brings you to him is physical appearance. And same goes with pictures on here. Maybe Im wrong. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2009 9:41:41 PM | Personally i would perfer chatting with someone with a picture.Its not shallow in the least bit.
Absolutely not! That's one thing that makes me laugh is the people who think that sort of thing is shallow. You made the choice not to post a picture, people can make the choice not to talk to you neither. Picture... no picture... if you're eventually going to meet, they're going to see you and physical appearance is still going to play a part in it all.
If there is one lady here that has walked up to a guy and said hello in the bar just becuase you thought it would be nice to get to know him, please let me know.
She might if all she saw was the sign on his back that said:
Relationship Status: Single
Relationship Sought: Long Term
Children: No
Wants Children: Yes
Interests: Walks on the beach, Candlelit dinners, etc.
About Me: I am honest, caring, and affectionate. I am looking for a woman who shares those qualities. I enjoy my work. After years of trying to save lives in the E.R., I have found my true calling and work as a surgeon in a children's hospital. It is so uplifting to see the joy on the faces of the children and their families when we are able to save a life and/or make it better, but equally difficult when we are unsuccessful.
I love animals and own an acreage with dozens of animals that I have rescued from the SPCA. They are my children and I love everyone one of them.
If any of this interests you, please feel free to approach me.
But since nobody walks around with a dating ad attached to them... physical appearance is what draws you to someone when you're out and about.
And same goes with pictures on here. Maybe Im wrong.
Nope... not wrong. Just one of many perspectives. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2009 9:42:43 PM | I think it is a personal choice and personal reasons as to whether people wish to place their photo on their profile. For some it is a privacy issue and for others it is not to be regognised. For me, i woulod rather be stright up with no hidden agenda.
It is personally what works for each individual... | |
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Posted: 4/26/2009 2:47:44 PM | | I'll respond to any ad that I find intriguing...regardless of picture. Doesn't bother me either way. | |
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