| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/16/2007 3:55:09 PM | It is really very simple. People don’t want to talk to someone anymore and ......
They don’t want to hurt the other person’s feeling by saying ......... “I don’t want to talk to you anymore.” Because .......
The other person would start digging for “WHY” .....
It is not being a coward - it is trying not to BLUNT with people.
The bottom line is - IT DON’T MAKE ANY DIFFERENCE - the outcome is the same.
If some gal don't want to talk to me - or talk to me anymore - what in the world would it matter what her reason is. If she thinks I am fugly and my momma dresses me funny - SO WHAT it won't change anything. | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/16/2007 4:08:53 PM | not sure what you mean....
Lots of women that post here are not looking for insight, advice or understanding. (You did say you were.) They are looking for empathy instead.
So, they pose a question, guys answer. Because we tend to be literal minded. But, I guess it falls into the "Why don't men listen?" catagory. We're fixers. We do things. We give advice. We hear a question, and answer the question, because a question was asked....not a request for empathy. The solution doesn't matter at all, but understanding where she's coming from is more important.
To me, it's deceptive to ask a question without wanting an answer, and looking for empathy instead, and it's old around here. I'm not accusing you of that, but just throwing a perspective in there.
But did you REALLY want reasons on why guys do this? Or were you looking to be understood? | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/16/2007 4:30:49 PM | My point, which I tried to make with a bit of sarcasm, was that men don't always communicate very well. And when we are not communicating at all, it might be that the alternative is worse. So we remain quiet. Which is what I should have done while I was feeling all snarky.
I made my point in a not-very-classy way. Sorry.
By the way, I told a woman I wasn't interested once and she said "so? What makes you think I was interested in you?" That was a healthy slice of humble pie. | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/16/2007 4:30:50 PM | The conversation dies and intrest is lost. they don't say anything because they don't want to hurt your feelings..
personaly i have had many women Im or message me and expect me to carry the conversation. that gets old. I don't mind talking but i am not going to be the only one in the conversation.. | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/16/2007 8:26:36 PM | Okay, I checked and I'm not a guy, but I have to put in my .02 cents here...
OP: "Why are some men such cowards?" Who knows? Why are some women psycho ****es when they don't get their way?
You haven't given the men here much to go on. All they know is the guys won't talk to you anymore. Logic tells them that if a bunch of people have a problem with you, maybe the problem is YOU.
Do you think it's possible that you came across as entitled? I know plenty of women who think they can get ANY MAN, ANY TIME...are you one of them?
I agree with the guys who are telling you how it is. Besides, online talking is not the same as talking in person. Plus, what kind of guys are you looking at? Are you setting yourself up for failure? Ie: married guys, guys who are looking for one-night-stands, etc. I think the answer is obvious then.
They are looking for empathy instead. Kobalt hit the nail on the head.
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/16/2007 10:39:31 PM | | No, no guys who want one night stands or who are married...i am definately not one who believe I can get any guy I want, that is definately not the case what so ever. If I knew more about it I would tell you but I dont..all I know is what i've said. Sometimes we've hardly talked at all if anything, its usually very general small talk and then poof. I know to some extent that it shouldnt affect me because there was nothing there, I guess its like a lack of respect to me. For me, I would atleast say something like I dont feel like we should talk, or just something. To me thats just a sign of respect to the other person. But obviously some people dont seem to feel that way also. | |
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hiker4
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Joined: 9/17/2006
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/17/2007 1:02:44 AM |
its just the internet.
Exactly. The anonymity of the internet allows both sexes to act any damn way they please.
This is NOT a guy thing.
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/17/2007 9:35:38 AM | | The beauty of this medium is anonymity, if you tire of someone there's no conflict just block and delete. Have you not done this to anyone? It's a sterile medium in many ways and if you want to play the game you've got to follow the rules like it or not. Sorry, that's just an honest assessment if you want live drama you've got to go meet real live people. H4 has a real good point and you'd do well to consider it. | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/17/2007 11:24:46 AM | growing some balls has nothing do do with it.
they lose interest in you...so it goes....
I will shed some light on it for you......you have to keep our interest...plain and simple....
believe it or not...guys also like connection as much as gals do...but in a different way. and if you aint keeping our attention then why should we hang around?
How about this...it upsets you soooo0 much....how about doing things that make them not want to delete you. then it wouldnt happen. | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/17/2007 2:22:00 PM | Discard sympathy for empathy,
And lighten the day,
Open your heart,
For all I have to say.
It is part of a poem I wrote a long time ago which came to my mind with what Kobalt said and I must say he was one of the nicer of the guys to reply. I might make a thread in Ask a Girl, called “why are some women such cowards???” I am allowed to do that right or is that asking for trouble? In any case I find it perplexing that LoveLanguages is getting the end result of what guys get a lot of the time from women who refuse to reply and simply let the man wonder what the hell happened.
It is obvious that these men were not interested in you but for what reason…who can tell. No one can tell because you are right that they were too cowardly to speak their mind to you. Why were they such cowards…who knows, they did not stick around to tell you but in any case your profile seems all right. There are a few negatives but most of it seems fine. It says you have a picture but you seem to want to keep it for later, just ask it says. So send me your picture, this thread made me curious. | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/17/2007 3:42:40 PM | | I am sure many, many guys feel the same about some of the Ladies here. Sorry to say it goes both ways here. Not much you can do about it, just move on! | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/17/2007 9:19:32 PM | Sometimes, girls can be so boring  or maybe you 2 don't click. Why bother talking to someone that you won't have a future with (not just on the relationship level, but the friendship level as well)? Catch and release. | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/17/2007 11:03:47 PM | Wow, I had to read this thread. Yes, I am woman but it caught my interest. Then I noticed ELDUBU's post
Okay, I checked and I'm not a guy, but I have to put in my .02 cents here...
OP: "Why are some men such cowards?" Who knows? Why are some women psycho ****es when they don't get their way?
I must say I was thinking along the lines of the last question she posed. I think if you continue this line of questioning the men are going to start thinking the same way. | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/18/2007 4:07:05 AM | What's most hilarious and just downright stupid is how this OP wades in here spewing her crap and then has to spend all the follow up time defending herself! LOL
If it's indeed Ask A Guy and like has been said you insult the very people your bashing in disguise "question" then how can you expect anything less than the negative responses you've received so far?
You being frustrated and taking it out on someone who's NOT the source of it all makes you appear like a nut. Who in their own right mind wants to continue any sort of association with anyone who behaves like you have here?
Hopefully OP you're a bit less b1thchy and a lot less frustrated in real life----or the secret why guys avoid you after a while isn't such a mystery. | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/18/2007 4:29:13 AM | i'm probably going to get flamed for this but what the hell, reading the original post it seems like she's simply frustrated that the men who she talks to seem incapable of a civilised cut off and just shut her out, and you flame her for it?
maybe its just me but is it not blatently rude and uncivilised to block someone that way, yes she's insulted some of the guys that posted but maybe she's just frustrated that some of you think cutting someone off and just expecting them to get the message is normal? | |
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Joined: 3/10/2007
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/18/2007 4:53:03 AM | Sad to say, but I think they were hoping you could take a hint through no contact... Sounds awful I know and a bit disrespectful...
Maybe they found someone else?
Maybe they deleted their MSN? ( I nuked my msn once)
Maybe they lost interest in you?
Maybe they were bored?
Maybe he's a coward?
Maybe he didn't know what to say but didn't want to hurt you feelings? | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/18/2007 5:35:20 AM |
i'm probably going to get flamed for this but what the hell, reading the original post it seems like she's simply frustrated that the men who she talks to seem incapable of a civilised cut off and just shut her out, and you flame her for it?
maybe its just me but is it not blatently rude and uncivilised to block someone that way, yes she's insulted some of the guys that posted but maybe she's just frustrated that some of you think cutting someone off and just expecting them to get the message is normal?
Sorry but no flames however whatever level of frustration she has does NOT entitle her to bashing those who AREN'T "guilty" of what she describes. We also need to keep in mind MAYBE somehow she's causing this REACTION from others?
Yes I'll flame someones ACTIONS especially when those actions are nothing more than lashing out at others! In the more immature manner I'd say "SHE started it........."!! LOL | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/18/2007 5:46:50 AM | | The same reason some women do the very same thing. It's usually called "letting him down easy" when a woman does this. I guess it's cowardice for a guy, according to the new thinking... | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/18/2007 6:11:24 AM | I just read your profile and I see a lot of "I want" coming at me. I wonder if you're conversations are like that. That'll put a guy off pretty quick.
Don't focus on the guys. Focus (not obsess) on what you have to offer as a partner. Are you fun to be around? Are you loyal? Are you an optimist? Are you confident? Are you honest?
Don't know what makes you a great partner? Read a few self help books. Their great. After you read a few, you'll start to get a better insight into yourself (I don't agree with that. Hey, I never thought of that. Hum, I frown too much). Get it?
luck. | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/20/2007 3:20:20 AM | Right so please dont take this the wrong way. I mean this post with honesty but not any rudeness whatsoever.
I finally got round to reading your profile and although you want to come across as sounding like as if you are looking for a particular type of guy. I would suggest that you probably loose your contacts with these guys because you are being a little too "picky".
Alot of men have had alot of insecurities in their past etc and we find it hard to get over them as quickly as women do. It's just how we are so you will have to give us a chance to find our own way to deal with it and then feel comfortable with you.
So instead of blaming us for being cowards... perhaps you should look at yourself and ask.. "is actually me thats driving them away? what is it that i say that makes them run off?"
As i said in a previous post... you need to give us a example of what you say.
Perhaps your like me and want to speak your mind in the politest manner you can possibly think of but when it comes down to telling/writing them down for people to understand, it comes across the wrong way and people assume it to be the opposite of what you wanted.
I'd suggest that you give us a example of what is said. It might help us understand what you or the guy do to drive each other away. It'll also probably stop alot of guys from assuming that your generalising all of us to be bad people. So it could also lessen the amount of "horrible" comments you get from your question.
Unfortunately although us men might be a little slow, but once we know the details we're very good at knowing what helps a situation  | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/20/2007 7:56:54 AM | If I'm frustrated with someone, it might be them and it might be me.
If I'm frustrated with a small group of people, it might be them but it's likely me.
If I'm frustrated with a an enormous group of people, and in fact everyone I meet in a particular context, it is most certainly me.
You can't change the world, and complaining about it doesn't help. All you can change is your own outlook and expectations. | |
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| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/21/2007 11:48:19 AM | | Why are you wasting your time pursuing conversations with guys that aren't really interested in you?Then you get mad because you keep frustrating yourself getting after those jerks. Like another guy said to you -post a picture of yourself.Whether you like it or not we're all on this site to meet people we're attracted to.You sound like you need to work on your self -esteem.Then you'll find a decent guy who communicates on the level you are seeking. | |
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dpd22
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Joined: 11/9/2006
Msg: 49 | |
| why are some men such cowards???
Posted: 3/21/2007 2:40:11 PM | | I obviously can't speak for all men. If I exchanged some emails with some women, I would rather have them be upfront and say "I'm not interested" than block or ignore me. Therefore if I'm no longer interested in a woman I will say so in a respectful and polite way. If she responds rudely then that is her problem. BTW a lot of women do the same thing and a lot of men complain about it as well. I don't think there is anything wrong with the OP point or question | |
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1john1
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Joined: 3/17/2007
Msg: 50 | |
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