| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/3/2007 11:04:18 AM |
By observation in reading my post that I am in a long term relationship with a man who has no children of his own, where do you get that I am lumping all men as players?
Maybe by your assertion that somehow a man who can accept someone elses children is somehow of better quality than a man who does not want to be in that situation... | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/3/2007 3:12:52 PM | | I don't mind dating women with children. But to be completely honest you do have one disadvantage. Less spare time. Now that is not totally fair because I know that a lot of single moms are excellent at organizing their time and are completely capable of making time. But it seems to me like a lot of them can't get together as often as I'd like to. *Shrug* I guess the single dads would be more understanding. | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/3/2007 5:26:35 PM | | HERE HERE on that one. I too have several children, 9 to be exact, but it is only with 2 men, not several. I dont need a father for them (they know who their father is) but they do need to have a male figure around to show them different things in life that I can not show them as a man cause I am a women. Their fathers are very much involved (we've learned to put things aside for the kids sake) so therefore I do have more freedom then most to go out on dates. Oh and by the way, only 5 of them still live at home. I am the heart and sole of this family and will do what it takes to make sure that my kids have what they need. I dont need a man for that. I need a man for myself not for them. And I too feel that there isnt a real man out there that will give me a chance to prove my worth cause of the amount of children that I do have. Is that fair to me? .....I DONT THINK SO...... Life is all about taking chances and if you dont take that chance then you will never know. | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/3/2007 5:58:31 PM | smjle
You are sooooo WRONG.... I dont need a man for his checkbook. I am doing just fine raising 5 children on my own without a man. When it comes to decisions I do involve my children and I do value their opinion as well. That makes it a close family. I am a very good mother and have been with a guy that gave me his opinions as well and yes I did go with some of them cause they did make good sense to do it that way. But I can also say that with most women they will do what it takes to protect their children from preditors like you that are just out for the glory and not the long haul that comes with it. I think it is obvious that you dont have any kids and therefore dont want to be burden with someone elses. As far as I am concerned you are still wet behind the ears and never will know what it is like to have a serious relationship. | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/3/2007 7:04:22 PM | | wow 9 kids, I think that is slightly intimidating but only in an insecure way. I don't think that should prevent you from getting a date Sweetjeri, and you do sound like you have it all together. | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/3/2007 10:59:29 PM | | I personally wouldn't mind dating a woman that already had kids because I love kids. It seems like many guys see the children as unwanted baggage in a relationship. I don't agree with the extra baggage theory but that is what I hear a lot. If a guy is interested in you he needs to be interested in your children as well. I see it as a packaged deal. A take it or leave it situation and I mean that in a good way. I hope this helps. | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/3/2007 11:51:40 PM | I don’t mind dating a woman that has kids,
………. as long as she doesn’t try to involve me with them.
Let me explain.
She may have kids and they are very much apart of her life and should be dear to her. If I am dating a woman who has kids I would hope she would like to get to for us to know each other well preferably getting serious before involving her children.
IMO I don’t think the kids should be involved in the dating stage at all.
I have children myself and they don’t need to be involved till I am comfortable with the woman I have been seeing. | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/4/2007 12:41:52 AM | I think it's great like a combo meal. I dated this one women who had a kid for a couple of years, I asked her to marry me, and she said yes. Then she left me standing at the alter - turned out she was playing games with me - She was still Married! I was mad - and I payed for the wedding. not that it happened but still I was out, just like that. If she had lied to me and asked me to wait I would have. I don't ever want that to happen again. I was really torn up, but you know in the same way all men can't be judged by the actions of one, neither can women. Sometimes in a handful of women you find a lady.
"I" think that some men look for women with kids for the wrong reasons too, some are perverts (which ya'll need to be on the lookout for) some can't have kids - but can still keep it up, some can't do anything but figure if you already have a couple you wont want/need anymore.
I wouldn't mind dating a lady with kids but I wouldn't date her just because she had kids,
I would date her for her personality. If kids were part of the equation that would be fine really of no consequence to me. I think kids are great, I'd like to have some and adopt some.
If a guy wants to date you and asks if you of your kids is of a particular gender I wouldn't ever talk to him again - you have to watch out for the perv's.. At the same time I know guys who are afraid of being accused of things like that because they have money or they think the woman might be spiteful if they were ever to dump them or try to break it off so they just don't even give them the chance, because they have been taunted by other women in like manner.
To each his/her own.
Hope this helps, or at least sheds more light on the subject. | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/4/2007 8:42:50 AM | | Of course we could be friends but no benefits or date. I'm also a single parent and would never date a woman who wouldn't want her children to get to know me for someday calling me daddy....that would screw up the way I'm raising my son. Plus you're working and going to college so I'm assuming you don't get enough child support or any so I'd be helping to pay. You have alot going on in your lives right now so friends is always best til it settles down. Good luck! | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/4/2007 8:52:03 AM |
Do men really mind dating women with children??
I did it for a few years, i was serious as always in my relationships, but her EX was a factor, a nagging perpetual sore in the mix. I again took a chance with a girl after that who had a child...that one didnt workout either so its not going to go through it again. | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/4/2007 9:26:10 AM | Try to find a single woman these days that doesn't have children. This would cut down your dating chances to about 5 percent or so.
Yep, I know all about that 
Then factor in the ones that are actually attractive (to me anyways), that takes it down to below 1%, lol...
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/4/2007 9:39:30 AM |
Try to find a single woman these days that doesn't have children. This would cut down your dating chances to about 5 percent or so.
Yep, I know all about that
Then factor in the ones that are actually attractive (to me anyways), that takes it down to below 1%, lol...
yes it is hard to find that compatible match now isnt it. | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/5/2007 2:07:02 PM | I love the guys that say that they don't mind dating a woman as long as they don't involve you with them. While I don't think that children should be introduced to someone until there appears to be a long term relationship developing, you are basically stating that you don't really want to be involved in their lives.
In other words, you only want to sleep with them but don't want any complications. Nice, very nice. I am surprised you even get a date. | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/5/2007 4:42:48 PM |
I love the guys that say that they don't mind dating a woman as long as they don't involve you with them. for a sec. there kingmike it looked as though you might be quoting me I guess if you were... you finally looked at my profile and actually read my post. any case I'll put my flame thrower away   | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/5/2007 6:21:14 PM | | Men, with your kind of attitude about life, and women with kids. You may never find the right woman for you. Maybe it isn't a woman you are seeking. Have you really searched your heart? Or does the man have a heart at all? I have 2 great kids from a previous marriage, then I was blessed once more, when I married for the 2nd time with twins. I wouldn't trade the mistakes made for anyone in the world over my children. Even though my past marriages didn't work out, I still have my kids, and my heart and soul.............. | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/5/2007 8:33:33 PM | All I’m saying is I would date them but … I would hope that she has good judgment.
Yes,... enough to realize that you need to build a good bond with me and know me before introducing me into the picture of her children.
If a woman wanted to introduce me to her kid’s life before she got to know me “dating stage” I would question her judgment and maybe her motives.
As a parent myself my kids wouldn’t even know about her till I deemed it to be ok. To me that is just irresponsible on the mothers side.
Do you really love your kids? | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/6/2007 3:17:38 PM | | I am a single mom who has been in the step-situation before. When I allow a man to become an intimate part of my life his views will be primary in my life. We will stand united in our decisions regarding discipline of the children. That is why I do not date jerks straight up. I will already know we are compatible, reasonable and able to work together for the overall good of the children and family before he is introduced into their lives. And the step-dad I spoke of, we are not together due to his addictions, not disagreements over children. And another point, children give so much more than they take. It just takes a strong heart to love that deep and most men will not allow themselves to go that far. P.S. I know some kids are difficult, but please don't label them all. | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/6/2007 5:50:28 PM | I have posted this before. It seemed like a good time to do it again.
Sometimes its not the kids sometimes its you
Don't let your kids disrespect you
Don't let your kids disrespect your mate
Don't let your ex create a lot of drama
If it gets really serious you have to understand that sooner or later your mate will be in a disciplinarian position.
The top thing to remember !
Any man can be a father but it takes someone special to be a dad. | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/6/2007 6:30:01 PM |
Then factor in the ones that are actually attractive (to me anyways), that takes it down to below 1%, lol...
Then, factor in the ones that find me attractive and we're down to about 0.0001%.
As for involving myself in a relationship with a woman with children whose father is alive, I've yet to be convinced of the upside. If the father is still drawing breath, rest assured that he will return at a most inopportune time. I've seen it happen with friends and acquaintances. A widow with children would be an entirely different situation and one I would consider.
It always puzzles me when I read the writing of a woman who says that her kids have a father and she isn't looking for one. Really? So, when she finally finds mister right and they decide share a household, she will have no problem if does his thing and lets her take care of her kids. After all, they already have a daddy. Yeah, right.
Let's face it, the reality is that if the relationship blossoms into marriage then there will be a lot of family responsibility placed on the guy. It's only natural for the situation to develop in that manner. And it's only natural that the guy intuitively understands that this will be his role and must be prepared to accept it when entering a relationship with a woman with children.
At least some of us are upfront and honest about this and aren't looking for a "wham, bam, thank you ma'am" good time. | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/6/2007 6:51:11 PM | Hey vxn,
Most quality, mature guys don't mind, or even enjoy dating a woman with kids.
But judging from your profile, that not where your problem may lie.
It says under Prefer Not To Say under "Do you smoke? Do drugs? Are you married?"
Even to a guy who is interested in a good looking young woman like yourself, the smoking maybe normal and acceptable, but doing drugs and not having cut off completely from your last relationship will raise red flags.
Kids maybe enough baggage (despite how fun they can be), but to not be divorced yet. And having kids means you shouldn't be doing anything but prescriptions.
ddr- | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/6/2007 6:54:13 PM | | age has nothing to do with it for one. i am only 19 and i love kids. it depends on your guy. imo kids are some of the most fun but i am a big kid myself you can get away with dressing up and going trick or treating if ya can get a kid with ya hehe. but realy i think its the guys you see no offence. keep lookin darlin you will find the one who can show love 3 ways | |
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| Do men really mind dating women with children??
Posted: 4/23/2007 1:04:54 PM | | Dating as a single parent is hard. I'm not a parent, but am still hoping to meet Mr. Right to settle down with and have a family with. But I have been out with single Dads before... and it's been hard, so hard, for them to find the time to spend time with me. I feel bad for everyone involved because it's hard on everyone. | |
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