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Posted: 3/21/2007 8:25:49 AM | ok, I just have to say it...Men throw the word whore around alot...any time they want to tear a woman to her heart (or try). They are basically saying that the woman is not worth being cared for. If we stay on that thought - a woman that is not worth his time or energy - what woman hasn't been told that or felt that way?
The irony is a man is paying a whore for her time and giving her his time and has to call her and find her..How many of the women who find the whore thing so disgusting have been stalkers - worried he isn't calling you - does he have another woman. Maybe deep down you are just upset that a woman is being paid just for who she is.
Never been a whore, but my ex sure thinks he paid me way too much for the sex... | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 8:27:54 AM | TO IVORY BEAST
You are brilliant.... I think it would be good for a system of some sort to be in play for workers and people affected by the industry. The area I am in does provide a lot of services for workers (guys and gals) but I do belive that what society needs is more openness and publication. For example: gay couples where massive taboo up until about 5 years ago, now the mardi gras, gay couples and individuals can practice a free lifestyle and and celebrate there culture just like anyother community. This is all due to publication. People are afraid of what they don't understand, and to all this fear breeds contempt. (Fyi..... Previous statement aimed at me from a certain female individual) | |
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| Would you use a prostitute/escort? What do u think of people who use them?
Posted: 3/21/2007 8:54:04 AM | | I personally would never use a prostitute. They aren't going to be able to do anything for me that I can't do for myself. I don't need to pay anyone to have sex with me, if it was just about the sex I could get that. I'd rather hold out for something that (even if it's not) at least feels right at the time. I couldn't date someone if I knew that they had used prostitutes... wouldn't affect my friendship with them, but I would rather keep STD risks as low as possible. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 9:04:57 AM | That's understandable and respectable..
As long as you realise that not all prostitutes carry STD'S and I would have to say that it is true that women don't really have the same physical need that men do to "procriate".... We shall say. But the biggest problem is a lot of these men that use my services may not have such luck in picking up "partners". Or have a hectic home life. Us working grls provide a calm hr or so to rest there head and relax | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 9:41:28 AM | It's intersting...I just had this 'fine talk' (OK WE FAUGHT LIKE HELL) couple days ago with someone...We argued about men getting prostitutes for staggs...I totally disagree with drunkining a man up about to be married and getting some women to bang him before he settle's for what the bride (at home) to be thinks a loveing faithful marriage...This to me is ''BULLPOOP' The man would not be marrying me thats for sure. So the argument led to him saying....''I dont agree with prostitution''. This is not the case...I believe men or women have a choice...If they are single they have every right to explore all points of their sexual needs if they choose.. Some men are shy about certain things that would never bring up to their S/O. So if they are single they can do some.. for a price.. EX:...they want to try anal....chances are alot of women arnt up for that so while he is single why not give it a go!!! People look so downwords on prostitutes like it's such a bad thing....What is worst sleeping with each boyfriend one has (some have 100 or more before getting married) but they do it for free ok whats the difference with sleeping with a slut or the a prostitute?
i know a friend who has slept with so many men Im surprised she doesnt have a perminent limp!!! And I aslo knew a 'prostitute' who only slept with 5 regulars for extra money......so to the women who say they wont be with a man who been with a prostitute ....I ask how would you know? and youd prefer him to have slept with a slut? | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 9:49:19 AM | | I must live in a strange world...I have seen women almost get into fist fights over a guy..basically, because he would buy them a drink and might take them on a trip to vegas...to me that's so much more degrading. I've seen women go after married men b/c they had money...didn't care what havoc was left behind...I've seen women take in guys to their homes to help pay their bills...All these women would look down on a prostitute, but they look like they are selling themselves to me. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 10:01:29 AM | Yes, i must agree with this opinion...that its a matter of self control and a practice in fortitude in oneself. Yes, we all have the need/desire at times more intense at times but personally I think a cold shower is getting way underrated here....I've tried it and does wonders at snaping me outof that feeling and right in to that Zest-sort-of clean, prostitute free, god its a nice day feeling!
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Posted: 3/21/2007 10:41:53 AM |
Belladona;
Each to there own opinion. It really doesn't bother me what other people say about be for I am what I am
^^^ Oh honey...make no mistake...everyone knows you for who you are now. Apparently it does bother you, otherwise you'd have ignored my post...and shouldn't "be" be me... thanks for the English lesson. If you didn't want to solicit your mailbox...or other box... why did you even mention that you're a pro.... you could've argued your point from a quiet prespect with tons of knowledge ...apparently an 18 year old trollop doesn't have that ability. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 10:49:16 AM | are you serious belladona? So if i announce in a computer forum that i'm an IT tech it means i'm trolling for business??? Did you even read what Sabel posted or did your pre-judgement just get in the way? The only flaming that seems to be going on here is by you so far. everyone else seems to have gotten their opinion across without being insulting.
Humancondition... woah boy calm down. You're getting a little over excited there ;)
And yes everyone knows her for who she is? Is she supposed to be ashamed of who she is? Would her words have as big an impact if she had said "you know i knew this prostitute once who told me..." rather than speak from personal experience. It's pretty sad when one has to resort to spelling flames to appear superior. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 10:52:30 AM | | Charming505 - I agree with the matter of selfcontrol and fortitude. I've been celibate so long, I'm tired of counting the years...I find it funny - a guy i dated told me i was conservative.. Given how liberal i can be I said ???why do you say that??? He said , "you don't share you body with just anyone". However, I don't know that an escort is only paid for sex...it may sound odd but I have a wedding to go to - was it my best friends wedding where debra messing hired the pro? i had a friend suggest it and i think it does solve a multitude of issues for a single person. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 10:58:16 AM | | It was called The Wedding Date Judy and that seems to be societys thoughts on escorts... they're fodder for comedy or reason to feel sorry for someone. Some feel a cold shower is underrated. I feel that self gratification as long as it's not at the expense of animals or underrage children is underrated. but yep thats just my hedonisitic opinion. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 11:11:13 AM |
are you serious belladona? So if i announce in a computer forum that i'm an IT tech it means i'm trolling for business??? Did you even read what Sabel posted or did your pre-judgement just get in the way? The only flaming that seems to be going on here is by you so far. everyone else seems to have gotten their opinion across without being insulting.
^^^ Yeah IT and prostitution on an open forum will illicit the same responses. I'd have to ask you the same question...are you serious Weebs28... or just naive
Humancondition... woah boy calm down. You're getting a little over excited there ;)
^^ Get over yourself... I may be passionate about some things, and I may be strong in my opinions.. but at least I'm not some meely mouth who just goes with the flow to avoid strong rebuttles or suck up.
And yes everyone knows her for who she is? Is she supposed to be ashamed of who she is? Would her words have as big an impact if she had said "you know i knew this prostitute once who told me..." rather than speak from personal experience. It's pretty sad when one has to resort to spelling flames to appear superior.
If I was her...yeah...I'd be ashamed, especially at 18 years old, being used by a man to earn money....please ...there is no class or resepct in selling your body...there just isn't and my opinion will not change.
What my intent is, (your comment on spelling/superiority), and how it's perceived is of no consequence to me... I could give a f*ck ...it's just my view and opinion...just like you have yours...have a nice day Weebs | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 11:11:52 AM | weebs - i wasnt meaning anything negative. i guess, i see as since i do the payment i choose the service. i don't see why that's insulting to you. i didnt say anything against paying or receiving for sex...so please don't turn this into a anger lashing...unless, of course, you truly are a hedonist and to you that's a compliment and I am just be sensitive...
I believe this is a really big world and there's room for everyone to have freedom of choice...You can choose what you want... | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 11:18:51 AM | Personally, I couldn't care less whether someone goes to/uses a prostitute or not. If you think about it, it's just an exchange of services between 2 adult human beings. IE, sex/conversation for material compensation.
This sort of dynamic has existed since the beginning of civilization. Whether it was vestal virgins in Babylon, the brothels of Pompeii, courtesans in Europe, or the teahouses in China, sex/companionship for money has always been present. Not only has this existed since the dawn of civilization, evidence has mounted that it has existed well into our evolutionary history as well as observations of chimps and gorillas have shown (banana's for sex).
As for why people go to prostitutes, I can't speak for women, but my impression from men is they either want personal companionship, or they are horny, or both.
Those who seek the services of a prostitute tend to do so because they are unable to satisfy their needs/desires within the frameworks of their lifestyles/relationships.
First, the vast majority of individuals that see prostitutes are in fact married or in a relationship. Personally, I don't consider it fair or right for people to see prostitutes when they are married or in a relationship, though I suppose it's okay if the spouse/girlfriend is either okay with it (yes, I've seen that before), or actively participates (supposedly it does happen), or those extreme cases where the spouse is extremely physically ill and unable to have sex at all such as in cases of Alzheimers, people in vegetative Comas, etc. Similarly, for those in loveless marriages where they fear a loss of access to their children or may suffer severe financial consequences for seperation, I can understand the logic though I may not always agree with it.
The reasons married men give tend to be repeated over and over again. Keep in mind
1) The desire for a partner to listen to you. Prostitutes, as service providers are paid to listen to everything you want/need to say, and will do so without judging or criticising them.
2) Differences in sexual appetites. There is no shortage of men in sexless or low sex-drive relationships. Rather than force their partners to have more sex, they seek a different outlet.
3) The desire for variety of partners. There is a human tendency to lose desire for things which we have increased/unlimited access to. Chocolate once in a while is great, every day not so great, 5 times a day and it can become nauseating.
4) The desire for specific sexual services and fantasies. There are women who love their husbands/boyfriends, but have no desire to satisfy their particular sexual desires. Whether it's BJ's, anal, BDSM, unusual positions, dressing up, fetishes, etc, there's always men who desire something that their wives either have no desire to do, or don't particularly enjoy. Instead of trying to force their wives/girlfriends to do them, they seek professional sexual services.
5) The freedom to pursue additional partners without the emotional and logistical complications of a mistress/affair. Some men will never be physically monogamous, it's not in their nature. However, they can be emotionally monogamous in loving only one person, and bearing only that person's children. There's a saying in some South American countries, it doesn't matter where he's been, only where he sleeps at night that counts.
6) Loneliness when they are apart from their partner for any significant amount of time, such as being posted in other cities or overseas. When you are seperated from your girlfriend or spouse for extended periods of time, you miss more than sex. You miss the comfort of someone next to you in bed, or the smell of perfume, or the sound of a woman's voice. In fact, in some forms of Judaism it's not considered cheating if you're more than a certain distance from your home town.
As for those men without partners, they tend to focus on similar but slightly different things.
1) The desire for the presence of another human being. While the hand works fine, it's a poor substitute for the warmth of a body in your arms.
2) The desire for sexual gratification that is immediately available. While you could find a random girl in a bar/online, there is usually a significant time investment before you would see sex, assuming you are outgoing enough to meet random girls in bars and had sufficient charms to seduce one. If one's schedule is difficult or busy, or they are somewhat shy or introverted, the ability to date can be severely impaired making this almost impossible. Compare this with someone picking up a telephone and going to meet a professional sex worker.
3) The desire for sexual gratification without emotional complication. Women often speak of how hurt they are when a man "uses" them just for sex. Some men choose prostitutes as it is a way to gratify their sexual desires without taking on the responsibility or risk of hurting a woman's feelings. Between the provider and the man it is purely a transaction in it's most basic form, without emotional or psychological repercussion beyond the transaction. This can also free a man from the immediate impetus of "needing to get laid", thus allowing him to more fully focus on the qualities of a woman beyond the sexual.
4) The desire for sexual gratification without financial risk. For men that are affluent, or very successful in their careers there is always the concern that any woman they get involved with will be attracted more by his earning power than by his personal charms. While there are lots of women who aren't trying to be "gold diggers", there are a sufficient number of attractive women out there who are "gold diggers" to make the whole concept of dating rather daunting. Prostitutes give those men the option of intimacy without the fear of jeopardizing their financial stability or risking their emotions over their desires.
5) The desire for companionship. Being single can be lonely sometimes. Even if it is just an illusion, the professional sex worker's job is to make the customer feel strong, competent, sexually attractive, skilled, and desirable. While it may not be the reality, the emotions that can be evoked are real for that individual. This is another reason why prostitutes can be "addictive" and why more than a few men fall in love with the prostitute.. ie, not realizing that it is a paid service.
That being said, I guess my thoughts would be to each their own, and let's not be too judgemental.
On a side note, I always find it funny how much of American society (and to a slightly lesser degree Canadians) have such a puritanical view towards sex.
Sex on screen = Bad
Man murdering and dissecting people on screen = OK
Give someone money to have sex = Bad
Give someone money to pound the crap out of someone else = OK
People walking around in sexy clothing = Bad
People walking around with loaded guns(in the US) = OK
Most of the world is actually less uptight about sex than in North America. Just take a stroll through Europe (porno on regular TV, legalised prostitution in many countries), Asia (Quickie motels in Japan, major/minor wives in Thailand/Vietnam, barbershops in China), South America (no shortage of sex/mistresses down there), etc, etc.
Just some stuff to think about. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 11:19:11 AM | umm sorry,was off taking a cold shower.Didnt work Im still hot for her ;) Anyway interesting thread.Interesting posts.And like most things on the internet.Nobody gives a shyt for anything thats been said.Cuz too busy holding onto their own opinions.Heres a newsflash.One of the reasons guys go to prossies.Is cuz alot of women.Seem to think with their emotions.And speaking from a guys stand point.That can be very frustrating and infuriating.All this being caught up on sex = love stuff.Is a recipe for disaster in a realationship.(again just my opinion.)And alot of women I think (here comes another opinion.)Could learn alot about their men.From a prostitute.Ok Ive totally lost sight of any point i wanted to make.But maybe,it was try not to be so caught up.In worrying about sex.
Its completely natural.Nothing to be ashamed of.And U will more likely hold onto your man alot longer.If U dont make a huge complicated.Everythings about my feelings and emotions issue out of it.And just relax.And be open and be yourself.Cuz again just from my personal taste.I need a realistic woman.The more emotion based she is.The less likely I could ever take a real interest in her.I like sable.Dont really know much about her.But like what I see.
People are so caught up and anal about sex.That its ridiculous.And pent up sexual desire turns people into fecking freaks(child molesting priests anyone.)So anyone who gives peoples perversions an outlet.Is taking one for the team ladies.Anyway Im babbling. Make luv not war(but sheesh I luv war)And U heard it here 1st :D bye.
Oops have to amend this.I would rather be a happy slut.Than a miserable angel.What Im trying to say here.IS HAVE MORE LESS STRINGS ATTACHED SEX !!!If U use reasonable precautions.And have reasonable boundaries.Its not like your going to die from putting out.Ya might even enjoy it more than a little.And the basis for any lasting relationship between a woman and a man.Will be physical So lets not all be fecked in our heads over sex.
Anything people take to seriously.Will always be fecked up.Geez Ive been awake to long and am zinging on coffee.Hope this has any value whatsoever :D bye
PS again.Even if she was selling.Which shes not.If people wanted to buy and she was ok with that.Then whats the big deal.There are alot worse things.Than having sex with a beautiful woman.And besides.Im in the states.And she is in Aus.So if this is a sales pitch.Then it would be a really bad one eh ?Anyway would ya lighten up ?Like Im saying. What could possibly be the bigdeal.Shes a sweetheart anyway.I will never have sex with her.And whatever.But hey,makes for a really hot fantasy :D | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 11:26:27 AM |
umm sorry,was off taking a cold shower.Didnt work Im still hot for her ;)
^^^^ Bingo hun...that's what she was hoping for...nobody else can fathom that there maybe a method to her posting madness and when someone, me or anyone else and there's been at least one more at the beginning of this thread, says anything that may expose that aspect...well... we're just horrible, judgemental people..hmmmm... | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 11:44:56 AM | read for comprehension much bella? I even put HUMAN CONDITIONS name in there when i told him to calm down. Which one of us is naive? women who aren't prostitutes put up their picture in order to get men all hot for them to make themselves feel superieor and something is wrong with sabel for being honest and not ashamed about it? or am i being naive to think that sabel has a personal sex life above and beyond her work environment? something i gathered by actually reading her profile. which one is it? The difference between you and me is that i judge people based on how they present themself and not what they do for a living. If it makes you feel better to call me naive then i'll gladly take that label and consider the source that it came from. I'll try not to loose too much sleep over it.
And yeah as you can see i'm way afraid of a dissenting opinion. Thats exactly why I am posting in agreement with sabel. oh no you're on to me. i couldn't possibly have a different opinion than yours... Does that sound intelligent to you at all? | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 11:46:34 AM | Blastkissed you are full of yourself lol. Hey I used to be a parttime personnel trainer..
You could use some work on your thighs and diet. Pretty face but the body could be worked on quite a bit.
Plus you are wearing alot of makeup i can not tell you the tons of women i met who looked great all made up but once the makeup was off looked average or below average.
If a man came up here and acted like you he would be called vein, conceited, obnoxious.
Your a very judgemental person so i just judged you . BTW i never paid for sex from any woman. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 12:02:57 PM | LOL U dont have 2 damn U.U have fecking body for days.Shyt Im going to have to hit the working out ALOT more.Just to try to keep up with U on physique.Nah noway.Aint got it in me.But still kinda cool the people U can meet on here.Feck dood,send me your secrets of working out ? :D DAMN U lol.Ummm ladies I have a shining personality.When Im not out of ma head on coffee and lack of sleep.(which isnt much of the time ) :D
yeah usroberts think your a cool mella fella 2.Definitely interesting person material.And wasnt even kidding about physique.Man mother nature took a liking 2 U :D DAMN U AGAIN later bro. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 12:15:11 PM | Weebs28... I just read your profile and am amazed that you are actually a woman...or at least you say you are. I find it interesting that you, as a woman, don't support your own gender in making good choices. Do you have a daughter...oh yeah right... we'd prefer not to say...but would you like her to be selling herself to man at 18 years old..... talk about supporting the "lolitta" phenomenon. You could be the spokesperson for support the "Johns" campaign.
Saying that I don't read for comprehension because I thought you were directing your post to me...is ludicrous hun...rereading pages of posts to decipher your meaning isn't worth my time.....not even close. | |
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