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| Men and their occupations, why the defensiveness?
Posted: 3/27/2007 11:47:16 PM | I don't like to tell people because I don't want to look like I am trying to impress someone.
Also, my particular business is the only one in my Town and if I say what it is, Everyone can find me. I don't like idea of strangers finding me without me inviting them.
Now that is my reason and it might be same reasons for other men.
I do know one guy I chatted with. It was very amusing. We were in an open room and we got to chatting about our Companies. He owned a business of his own too.
Suddenly we were in IM's talking about how similar our two businesses were.
Why? Because he like me didn't want the women in the room to know what he made. Didn't want them to think he was bragging and trying to catch their eye.
Cause face it, while you might not be a gold digger. There are a lot of gold diggers out there.
To this day none of the ladies in that room knows what I do for a living except that I own my own company. Its none of their business.
However, after getting to know a woman. I have no problem telling them about my business. The last woman I told such info too, I had talked with for 2 months on the Internet. But she still don't know what I make each year, That is my business. If I get serious about a woman I'll let them know what to expect. | |
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| Men and their occupations, why the defensiveness?
Posted: 3/29/2007 8:49:36 PM | I find this topic hilarious! I like to know what a person does for a living for a number of reasons.
1)That's what they do with the majority of their time and I like to take an interest in what they do.
2)It's a good conversation tool to get to know someone. Someone's job can also tell you a lot about their personality and interests.
3)Money matters...when you don't have it...it really sucks! I'm not talking about the kind of money that allows you to live fancy-free either, I'm talking about just having enough to pay the bills, own a house/rent an apartment etc. Many women face difficulties with this because of the fact that the paid labour force is still dominated by men.
4)Do men have babies? Not the last time I checked. LOL If children are in the couple's future, well someone has to leave their job to have the baby and depending on the type of career, their job might be there for them after. If they go back to work, who's going to take care of the children? Despite claims to the contrary, we are not superhereo's that can do it all! Having the option to choose to stay home and raise their children without it being a huge financial burden to the family, is something a woman may desire instead of feeling forced to work and having a stranger raise them.
The reality is that life is costly and it really helps to know that you've got someone who's "got your back"! Bottom line: having a man who can provide for his family is the reason most woman ask that question.....NECESSITY OF LIFE! Most men don't understand this as they don't live the reality of a woman.
The term "gold-diggers" is being terribly missued! The true "gold-diggers" are the one's who are looking for serious money and not for the reasons listed above. (Truthfully, there are very few of them!) | |
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| Men and their occupations, why the defensiveness?
Posted: 3/31/2007 10:40:15 PM | Any woman who asks what I do gets the same answer "unemployed". If she sticks around after that for a while then she gets the truth.
There are more users and gold diggers out there than you think and that is a telltale sign. | |
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| Men and their occupations, why the defensiveness?
Posted: 3/31/2007 11:14:44 PM | Why do "some" women get defensive about this issue? lol It's only natural to ask anybody what they do with themselves. It's an invitable question anywhere you go to ask and be asked that question. Of course some jobs hold more prestige and romantic mystique than others and are occupations that are perhaps proof of good character or sheer determination. It is definitley true that some women would prefer a man with a career in one of the prestigious proffessions and it's gonna be a contentious issue if he senses you are one of these women. So if your not, maybe you should provide some reassurance that your looking for a friend, instead of a trophy. Some women have a habit of talking themselves up too much, that would do it as well.
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| Men and their occupations, why the defensiveness?
Posted: 4/1/2007 3:19:19 AM | i don't find guys to be defensive about their occupation. a person's occupation can say alot about the sort of person a guy is, so its a perfectly fine question, and most guys don't have a issue with it.
i've never met a guy that was affaid of talking about their work (unless its a bad job). | |
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