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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 5/14/2007 8:52:06 PM | Sometimes it is hard to determine who is a member of POF and who isn't As an event host I know this is TRUE!! It certainly isn't hard to determine who I am lol I am the girl with the name tag running around making small talk with everyone and doing my darndest to make sure EVERYONE has a good time!! Sometimes I'm hard pressed to determine if someone is a new atendee or just a patron of the establishment that the event is being hosted out. JUST SAY HEY DEB and I'll be sure to notice you! Please if EVER you are feeling like you want to attend one of the events but are apprehensive about going it alone TRUST me I understand the feeling. I have in the past and will continue to offer my phone number to anyone who wants to come out. I'm willing to meet you outside and walk in with you and I guarantee that you will NOT be alone for long!! Although some consider it a clique I can assure you it is not. YES there are regular attendees but WE welcome the opportunity to meet new FISH at every event.
When I moved here I didn't know a single soul in all of Ohio. I left all my life long friends behind and had no social outlet what so ever. So I finally got the nerve to walk into my first event at Lucky's in late January. My life has not been the same since. Now I have such a wonderful group of friends!! I just took over hosting the event in early March and I must say the opportunities it has opened for me have been amazing. Not only have I met friends but I have found opportunites to network with people who have the same career goals as I do. AGAIN attending events is something that ONLY you can see for yourself. I can sit here and preach about how fun and wonderful they are but until you experience the amazing sense of belonging when you go to one you will never totally understand what I mean!!
SO TRY IT YOU MIGHT LIKE IT!!
Even if it is not one of my events that you choose to attend I do know most of the other hosts and at least someone that is attending, so shoot me an e-mail and I'll hook ya up with someone who make you feel right at home no matter what event you choose!!   | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 4:26:41 AM | Df,
Ya know sometimes you make it hard to like or tolerate ya. But all the same ... I'm sure that goes both ways. I can tell you have never been to an event, or to very few, because EVERY event I have been to there has always been people looking out for others and inviting them to their table, and making sure EVERYONE was involved. For that sake, even when I went to Sidelines that one time .... it was new to them to have an event but people talked thru the whole room. I'm sure now that there is more familiarity bertween people and lots more conversations and meetings outside of the events going on it will grow.
In one sentence you admit you have been to few events, in the next you state that you don't know that many folks. First off, if that event was in Columbus .. I'm sure the hosts (now or then) would love to know about it to fix it. Yes there are rare occassions when that happens, but its more the exception than the rule. All the same, if ya went to more events, you might accumulate some more friends.....
Also you have to considerthat if you are this judgemental, condescending and negative on here, how do you really come across in real life? I know I struggle with this because of personal issues, but I can be everyone's friend or my own worse nightmarish foe- often in the same night. Sometiomes you gotta look to shake things up and stick with that shook up version before ya find out what you were caught in as far as a rut or bad habits. Like a good friend of mine says, if you are not getting the results doing what you want now ... make changes, otherwsie you already know the outcome !!
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Posted: 5/15/2007 4:51:04 AM | I absolutely agree with Steve~ However I have said my peace and won't go any further into the subject. BUT back to the events, they are fun, full of great times, laughs, good friends, and an avenue to meet new people. What more could ya ask for?  | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 5:13:50 AM | when i decided to get my life back,i traveled to columbus for a few events and made friends instantly (shhh nobody knows that you're just pretending to be my friends). i am shy an quiet and reserved
ok so i fake it well,anyway i continue to plan times when i can have a sitter and travel to an event regularly because it's great friends and great times! i have seen newbies attend and be welcomed with open arms. you don't have to be from columbus to be welcome and to meet friends. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 5/15/2007 6:23:26 AM | I was talked into signing up to POF by a friend just to come and shoot pool. And I did and that was the only thing I was going to do go shoot in the tourney and leave I did the first 2 times and everyone kept asking me to stay did I mention everyone. So I did the third time and I love going to them. I have been to 4 different events and I have met many people. I hate large croweds but I found myself at a POF event where there was about 100 people and never felt like I didnt belong. I think its the individaul, If you have the wrong addituted going then yeah you probably will felt left out. Friendship is a 2 way street If someone talks to you and all you can do is shake your head then yeah you will be alone. This East and Westside stuff about they stay on there side of town not here in columbus. Westside goes out to the eastside for a friendly game of cornhole and the eastside comes to the west. Ive never been in a group of better people than POF.
If you go thinking your going to find Mr or Miss Right on your first time then you will be dissapointed. If you go to make friends lots of friends you will find them.. Shit see what happens when I dont sleep I write a friggin book on why you should go to POF gatherings.
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Posted: 5/15/2007 6:32:05 AM | In one sentence you admit you have been to few events, in the next you state that you don't know that many folks. First off, if that event was in Columbus .. I'm sure the hosts (now or then) would love to know about it to fix it.
I'm assuming you are Steve, & no, these weren't POF events but much the same with a few area singles groups I used to belong to years ago, I was tired of the inner drama the exclusivity of these & decided they weren't for me.... believe it or not, people in a clique can be cruel to outsiders, & even a few on the inside.
Also you have to considerthat if you are this judgemental, condescending and negative on here, how do you really come across in real life? I know I struggle with this because of personal issues, but I can be everyone's friend or my own worse nightmarish foe- often in the same night. Sometiomes you gotta look to shake things up and stick with that shook up version before ya find out what you were caught in as far as a rut or bad habits.
I really don't get where I'm being judgemental, you all are being judgemental of me, as you also were Lakie (& of course something, somewhere happened I din't see that all of a sudden I come back to the forums here & everyone is Lakies buddy, did some of you actually get to know him outside of his grammaritically incorrect posts?  ) Some do come off way different in chats & mail than in person. the few I've met have surprised me that they were not at all what I expected.
Another observation, that most of these posts/event posts seem to become a drivel of inside jokes only to be understood by the central Ohio Clique. It's great you have this support group, but put yourselves outside of the box for once, & look at these from an outsiders view, it is sometimes hard to find out of some of your events are a closed party or not.
I didn't post on here to bash on you I was giving you an outside opinion on possibly why someone would not want to attend an event you asked, I told, no offense mean to be given & none taken. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 6:49:57 AM | Sometimes it's not what you say but how you say it that makes people defensive. Perhaps if you had an outsiders view of some of your posts you would see that they are very judgemental and even sometimes mean. YES you absolutely are allowed your own opinion and post away but when you assume the role of a martyr and engage in name calling it leaves a bad taste in peoples mouth.
Another observation, that most of these posts/event posts seem to become a drivel of inside jokes only to be understood by the central Ohio Clique.
Yeah our event threads are generally posted on by the people who attend but I don't think it is drivel at all. Read the event thread for Lucky's and tell me you think it is a "drivel of inside jokes only to be understood by the central Ohio clique." | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 7:05:32 AM | I started going to events after spending months in the forums chatting. CrimsonKimono emailed me and said you should really come to an event and offered to let me ride up with her. So I attended my first Lucky's! I've seen some people come and go, relationships begin and end.....but I've seen a lot of friendships begin and continue!
I have ventured out to Puckers and Lancaster and have had a blast at all of them.
I keep seeing the wording that you have your own little "click's" and outsiders feel out of place....I have went to office functions after work and you have your "clicks" You go up town on any given night and you see different "clicks" This isn't a group of people setting out to keep others out, its a group that have met, found many common grounds, and they feel comfortable around each other. Do they unwelcome newbies. HECK NO! You find a group that best fits you to sit with, laugh with, dance with, drink with, flirt with...etc..........
Events are about letting your hair down, kicking back with friends, meeting new people and having fun! | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 7:32:16 AM | Our events don't know what a "clique" is! We do our best to make sure no one is left out. After you've been to one, you're no longer a stranger and like the rest of us... you look forward to the next one and can't wait to get there.
I'm a shy person, but you wouldn't know just how extreme my shyness is if you meet me at an event. Everyone goes out of their way to make EVERYONE know they are welcome. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 8:11:20 AM | I agree, I always hear some ppl use the word 'clique' to describe some of these events, but it always seems to be with ppl who I find tend to still act like they are in high school and can't get over it. I wasn't a popular person in high school, always on the outside, but since become an adult, I've learned alot more confidence in myself and to be more accepting of friendly gestures from ppl, and I have a blast at the gatherings! I've made alot of fun 'acquaintances' but also some truly great, deep friendships. and I know that personally, I go out of my way to greet and chat some with ppl who are new so they feel comfortable too. I think some ppl have trouble because they carry so much negativity and past baggage, that things seem exactly like they expect because they make it so. Enough on that subject!
I've noticed alot of drop in attendance at the gatherings in general lately, and I'm wondering, is it because it's just such a busy season, with all the nice weather starting, or are we overdoing the number of events in Columbus that are regular?
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Posted: 5/15/2007 8:21:41 AM | Hey Sherry just adding my 2 cents to your question. Being one that has never attented the gatherings (mainly cause I am just to far away) Just trying to figure out which one to go to seems madding to me.
There does seem to be so many going on, to an outsider or newbie it seems very over whelming. Just a view from one that's never been there. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 5/15/2007 8:24:11 AM |
Just trying to figure out which one to go to seems madding to me.
I kind of just base it on when I have my daughter and nothing else planned, personally, although I guess it could also depend on if you are looking for kareoke vs. dancing vs. cornhole or pool tournaments?
lol, sometimes too, depending on who's coming out, I try to get to certain ones when there is someone I haven't seen in awhile (or I'd like to see, lol) | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 5/15/2007 10:39:10 AM | I have had to scale back my attendance at the events during the week especially because I was just running all the time. Was getting really exhausted. I think there may be too many events during the week. There's Lancaster on Tuesday nights, Jilly's on Wednesday nights, and Pucker's on Thursday nights. It is impossible to keep up that kind of pace and then go to the ones on the weekends, too. Some people go to each and every one of them, which I could not possibly do.
One thing I would like to do, though, is put together a Columbus delegation to attend periodically the other events such as in Dayton, Cincinnati or Northern Ohio. Some of those have large attendances and I see people on there that I would like to meet. Is anyone interested in forming a carpooling group from Columbus that would go periodically to these?
One other factor in the low turnout at some events is that several have coupled and left! It does increase the odds of meeting someone when events are attended. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 5/15/2007 3:42:52 PM | I have to put in two or three cents worth if you don't mind..lol I started attending the events in Columbus when they FIRST started last summer. I can honestly say... When you have events in other areas, (work, friends, family etc) there are bound to be *cliques*SP, then you take the people of POF where we are all in the same area, single. looking..(not a matter of what we are looking for) bored, tired of sitting at home alone or with the lot of kids, etc. You put this group of people together and OF COURSE there are going to be matches made, (have seen several) friends made, (have made lots) and for the most part everyone enjoys everyone else's company. I think there are some that get connected with others and of course theywill spend more time with them because they enjoy each others company, that does not make them, *cliques* that makes them friends getting to know one another better.
Desertfox ...
I CHALLENGE YOU, to let me do this: I will go OUT of my way, pick you up, take you to an event, AND take you home... If you are not having a good time, we can leave immediately. I want to prove to you that there are people that care about others feelings and would love nothing more than to show someone that there is a life that can be enjoyed NO MATTER WHO you are OR WHERE you come from..PERIOD...
What do ya think? Most of the people in the Columbus events have met me or know me. I am totally harmless.. If this comment or post offends you I apologize but you have sparked in me something that has now become a need to show you.. show you that all the hype...the drama...whatever you may want to call it is real..we are human beings that want to live..not necessarily alone...but want to enjoy our time that we have to ourselves no matter if it is to meet that special someone or get wild and crazy with the likes of us.. But we dont judge and EVERYONE is welcomed with open arms..ALWAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think Sharon has a great idea of carpooling from columbus to some other events. Having kids makes it hard for me but I would be willing to do it once in a while..
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Posted: 5/15/2007 4:10:46 PM | Kasie, I know what you are feeling on this. I was going to go get Lakie and bring him down to Lucky's (and try to get desertfox to go, too), but it was like beating a dead horse. I think some people hold those negative thoughts so tightly to protect themselves from getting involved. It's better to think that the way it is at the events is the reason not to participate rather than the way the person is.
I hope desertfox will take you up on your offer. But don't be too frustrated if he doesn't. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 5:11:02 PM | | DF I have made an observation on my own. Yes most of the posts and events are from here in central Ohio. is that our fault heck no. Many of us from these area have offered in the past to help get events going in other areas of the state and show everyone from all over how us POFers have fun. But dont put us down or think just because we are mostly from Central Ohio means we are clicky, which we are not. we are friends. I have since joining saw many relationships both romantic and friendships grow. Partly because of us going to events and meeting people. Its easy to sit behind a keyboard and feel sorry for yourself and say how lonely you are and be negative. you are the only one that can change that. Get out and live. Most people around me do not know. But I came very close to death last summer due to cancer. I wanted to give up and just die, but I fought and lived, now i live each day to the fullest and wont ever let myself feel like that again. So come to an event and let it change your life like it has so many of us. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 5/15/2007 5:12:46 PM | I wouldnt get frustrated Sharon...all I can say is this... if he doesn't
POINT MADE... can't judge people by the words in a forum unless you go meet them yourself and find out what they are all about... My feeling is that he would enjoy himself but be afraid to admit it!! Thats why he probably won't go... I don't let people frustrate me..I am responsible for my own actions and take full responsibility. 
That being said...Desertfox..your on a singles site... you ready to join the rest of us and find out who we really are? What could it hurt besides your butt being sore from a couple hour drive.. (worst case scenario) Here I am...where are you???????? | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 6:12:43 PM | First off, in response to Doc K's comment about carpooling out. I know there have been a few times that there has been a small group of people involved in going to other events to help em along. Also if I remember right, didn't the Lnancaster event start because someone knew they could do it in there area also?
Kasie, as for you helping him out, if its a time or night I have off, I'll be aloing if he is scared of your shortt lil butt on his own. There again, after my comments to him over time, he might be more scared of me than you.Cause as you know we are a clicky group that is hostile against him to paraphrease hius comments from another thread.
((All the same, I'd still help ya go get him if he or you wanted)) | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 6:24:48 PM | Fut, yes, the Lancaster event is an off shoot from the Columbus events. MikeyOhio got us together to see a singer that was playing at a restaurant in Lancaster. Then it sort of morphed into a weekly event from there under Colya and Cupcakes' leadership. I think several events in the state got started either by people who first went to the Columbus events or by people who were encouraged by the success of the ones in Central Ohio. There has been talk of starting something in Southeastern Ohio, but no one has come forward to host it.
Which brings me to the thought that those people hosting events are due a big thank you. Because of them, there have been many couples joined together and others have met so many friends it is incredible. It's a big responsibility to host these events and keep the threads current. They work with the venues as well to make sure everything is as it should be. To a large extent, we have to give credit for the success of events to the hosts because other people come and go. They may sign up and not attend. But the hosts are there regardless.
So a BIG THANK YOU to all the hosts of these events! | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 6:43:29 PM | My 2cents on the subject,we have all been pof virgins at least once ,& kind of like everything else were a little scared.But your only a virgin once & i know from my experience you give what you get.Ive made new friends @every event .
I wish i was able to attend more. did i mention ive been to only 3 parties.
Im planning on hosting an event soon.Were not all friends here but wed like to be.
Peggy/Slowburn43 | |
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