| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/13/2009 4:12:16 PM | I'm going to break out of my hobbit hole and attend the event on the 14th. If I can do it you can do it Desertfox!
Hi OP, wasn't that you that was trying to get a GOL or local picnic event going when I was trying this a few years back (thought we had a thread going)?
Not in the mood for bars now (besides you can't wear a hat in them now), isn't that a 'cheezy' way these gals get to meet men??
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/13/2009 10:25:07 PM | I was adding to the forum thread about a GOL or picnic event, but never planned one.
I do have an event idea rolling around in my head, but it's just me so far to plan it out. That would be why I'm breaking out of the confines of my hobbit hole and wasted nights of looking at profiles, to get out , mingle, and fly with the rest of the eagles. I'm willing to bet I'll get more responses from a simple hello than I do on here. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/13/2009 11:54:07 PM | Remember that, something deboccled it (annual Columbus Bonfire?). I thought we had about a half dozen or so interested (big crowd huh?)... guess we aren't the party planners this group turned out to be! (Never was contacted on these until the 3rd of 4th event) Ya know, one person can't do it, yet I had no help locally except from a few of you in Ashtabula & Chardon. In all honesty I didn't know that there were that many in this area.... let alone reading the forums, my they came out of the woodwork.
I think I'm passed the bar thingy now, a few years ago would have been great, no interest then though. Besides, date tomorrow anyway! 
OP I think you will have to remove the hat though... some strange new rule, can't even take it in with you... kinda like carrying a handgun on a holster. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/14/2009 12:02:44 AM | Likewise, I was asked to leave the Stadium a few weeks back here (I haven't been in a bar in almost a year, & I can count on one hand the times in the past 4 years).
Clue us in someone... I don't get it either? | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/14/2009 12:20:50 AM | It was either my Drivers cap or Beret (Can't remember). Remember I don't patronize the Pro Sports gods with appearal (Unless it's the Utah Jazz)  I was stopping after work around midnight, dressed in a dressier shirt, nice jeans & a leather.
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OK, answers to these reasons:
1. The places where these are held are not dives. Normally, they serve food as well as drinks, so they are not much different from any restaurant you might go to.
2. Many people don't drink at the events. I have a coke or water. It is not a requirement to drink.
3. There is no smoke in Lucky's because there is a separate smoking area. In a few months, the smoking ban will be enforced everywhere.
4. The solution to drama is just to be mature. And if you see drama, you know you are getting to know people in reality instead of the fantasy land of cyberspace. Players are exposed at the events. How are you going to know that otherwise except through experiencing it firsthand. Well, here is the place to see people in action and decide if you want to go any further in a relationship than that.
5. No, you won't know many at first, but there is a tradition that no one sits alone. As soon as you arrive, you'll be introduced around.
6. I was practically met at the door the first time I went to an event. Normally, POF has a spot where everyone congregates.
Kimino, you are a woman (& being attractive too helps), that makes all the difference in the world.
You actually think they are going to mistreat or ignore one of these hoochiemamas walking in in a belly shirt & tight jeans? Not all of us are outgoing in a social setting either. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/14/2009 12:32:54 AM | That's easy enough.
I don't drink & drive. I ask for a pepsi.....too look tough I ask for a dirty glass.
Crazy isn't it? The country was built on the sale of tobacco & alcahol, and now they try to ban it.
I can't smell anything, but I can smell drama a mile away.
Everybody has to start somewhere. This will be my first ever event I attend. I warm up easily to people that warm up to me, which falls into the what goes around comes around theory.
Cool, now I know and knowing is half the battle............GI JOE! | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/14/2009 1:13:21 AM | Desert...when was you asked to leave the Stadium? Was it on a Sunday and during our event.? Lots of guys wear hats there. Everything from ball caps to cowboy hats and have never been asked to leave.
Summer magic....not sure why you had a bad experience when you did attend a Columbus event but you and your friend should give it another try. You will be greeted at the door when you walk in. And if I do happen to miss anyone and see someone sitting alone, I personally try to get them to mingle with others. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/14/2009 2:17:09 AM | Crazy isn't it? The country was built on the sale of tobacco & alcahol, and now they try to ban it.
Or Tax it to death...
don't drink & drive. I ask for a pepsi.....too look tough I ask for a dirty glass.
You think they would comply with the dirty glass??
Gotta watch that MOL, I don't condone drinking & driving, but the local enforcement usually watches the establishments around closing time. Years ago, a group of co-workers went to another favorite haunt there, Anyhow all left loaded except one, had just bought a new vehicle & decided to sleep it off in the parking lot (which I would say was the smart thing to do), anyhow he was woke up & ticketed for a DUI. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/14/2009 2:22:52 AM | Desert...when was you asked to leave the Stadium? Was it on a Sunday and during our event.? Lots of guys wear hats there. Everything from ball caps to cowboy hats and have never been asked to leave.
No, it was on a weeknight... anyhow there was a sign inside that the bouncer pointed to, then pointed for me to exit, even after removing my hat.
I figure I'm going in there to spend money, I was not inappropriately dressed, & not there to cause trouble. Turning away a customer isn't smart in these economic times, I assume I'd rather have that drink at home at that point.
As Eric Cartman puts it, "Screw you guys, I'm going home!" | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/14/2009 2:26:19 AM | The event that summer_magic attended was most likely the pool hall/bar that Debbie hosted the event at. That event was only for a few months as I recall. They couldn't seem to keep karaoke going for us so it fizzled out. I can't remember the name of the place but as I remember that is the only place that we played cards and pool.
Last Sunday at the Stadium there were well over 100 people who attended and it is almost impossible to make sure everyone is introduced so if you don't sign in and get your name tag then chances are you are not going to meet anyone. especially if you are the shy type like I once was when I attended my first event at Lucky's back in august 2006.
I know people who know me would never classify me as the SHY type... but honestly I was very shy. The events brought me out of that shell I was in.
Sharon I hope to see you at the Stadium again soon! I got caught up in the pool tourney and didn't get to socialize with you much and by the time the tourney was over you were gone.
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/14/2009 6:39:38 AM | Kathy - omg - the first few events that I went to back in 2006 were fun and friend-keeping. I'm so glad that I came to the stadium last week and saw all you gals that I met so long ago!!!
The events can be awesome if they are ran well - a great place to meet people and make friends.
If you get the opportunity - go to an event and enjoy!!! Try another one if the first event isn't your 'cup of tea.'
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Posted: 3/14/2009 11:14:57 AM | All I know is that I was ignored. I didn't see any sign up sheet. I sat at the bar and was out front waiting for someone to approach me, just at least say hi. It didn't happen.
As for my friend, I don't know if she will ever go back. She left almost a year ago after she heard someone else talking about a person she called a friend in a very distasteful manner. She couldn't understand how this cheerful and outgoing person could be talked about in such an ugly way.
Any now, she's is now afraid of what folks say about her behind her back. And that friend that she over heard the conversation about, was obviously not a friend either. Not one person from these events has contacted her to see if she is ok. That's how she knows that she really didn't have friends there. Whenever I ask her if she will just give the event another try, because there may be new people there, she says no. She is tired of being rejected.
I have been her friend for a long time. She is a very sweet person that would do anything for anyone. And when I see her upset about people that she considered friends, it breaks my heart.
From what she says is that: Many people knew of her, but didn't know her. And that's sad. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/14/2009 11:27:23 AM | I'm not defending anybody's behavior, but did you approach anybody and say HI, hello, hola, aloha, or whatever form of hi?
I have people talking about me all the time. The way I look at it as long as they are talking about me, they're leaving someone else alone.
I've never attended a singles event ever. Tonight will be my very first one. My only expectation with attending is that I will allow myself to have fun, to mingle, not expect anything from attending, but to have fun.
I've lost friends because of their two faced ways. NO big loss to me, I'll make more.
I've been a hermit in a hobbit hole looking at the hundreds of profiles for too long, it's time for me to get out and spread my wings and socialize and make new friends.
If I say hi to someone and they reply back with a hello or hi, then I continue to try and talk with them about whatever. If they snub their nose at me and NOT say hi, then I just consider them as being inconsiderate and move on to find someone that WILL carry a conversation. Kind of like how it goes on here with all the read/deleted messages I've received. It doesn't discourage me, it allows me to think "She's stuck up or thinks she's better than me"
I may meet some nice people tonight, I may meet some I wouldn't invite over for coffee, but unless I try it I'll never know. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/14/2009 1:08:57 PM | Awwwwwww shucks, now my head is swelling. Thank You.
Always have been and always will be until the day I stop being sweet when they put me 6 feet under. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/15/2009 2:36:18 PM | Was my hangout in '91 & 92, but haven't been there in a about 5 years.
Crowd got a bit rowdy as of late, especially the disrespect of anothers personal property. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/16/2009 9:17:57 PM | I know how you feel now summer magic. I attended the event saturday in Mentor on the lake, and felt almost like an outsider looking in. BUT, I don't hold the people at the event accountable for my lack of mingling.
Will it deter me from attending future events? NOPE, it just makes me want to attend more, to brush up on mingling.
I was hoping to show up in a picture or two, so I could borrow it, slap a flashing neon arrow on it, pointing to me and say PROOF I WAS MINGLING!
Maybe next time.
I did talk to a few, but still realize I need to get out more.
It's simple logic.
I attend more events, I meet more people, I meet more people and I have a better chance at making new friends. My circle of friends is dangerously close to collapsing and becoming a dot instead of a circle.
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/17/2009 11:33:23 AM | OptimismPrime, I'm not positive, but I think that's you in the background of this picture:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/partyimages/nsmzxab1sr_222698.jpg
I caught it because kimmichanga and I are also in it.
I know it can be a bit nerve wracking the first time if you don't know anyone, I felt the same at my first pof event. While I realize that maybe it's a bit easier for women, I chose to be at least a little bit proactive....chatted a bit with the hostesses when I first arrived, mingled and said hi to those that I recognized from their pictures, etc.
It also helps to start posting in the party thread beforehand, it's a way of getting to know others a bit before the event, and you'd probably be recognized and approached since people would have a *sense* of who you are already. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/17/2009 12:35:00 PM | My circle of friends is dangerously close to collapsing and becoming a dot instead of a circle.
Welcome to the club... Northeast Ohio is cruel like that.
They make you remove your hat there? | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/17/2009 2:31:36 PM | I went topless. I mean without the hat.
By Golly that would be me in the dark.
WOW, proof I do get out.
Thank You. | |
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