| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/17/2009 4:22:21 PM | | Good you had a good time, that place is like a walk from my house (a long walk nevertheless) ... I hadn't been in there in about 3-4 years, so no hat rules there, hmmm. I hear that a lot of Bars/Nightclubs are implimenting that now. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/17/2009 6:25:08 PM | Penguin, we were talking?? OK what was the subject?! 
You changed your handle didn't you?? | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/17/2009 6:35:24 PM | | I knew who she was DF, when she asked "Hey - I know that smile!!! Is that YOU knighty????" | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/17/2009 7:20:46 PM | | Any time TJ. I would say glad to see you back on here, but because you're back it means things didn't work out the last time. In a good way though, glad to see you again anyways! | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/18/2009 5:21:13 AM | yes - it used to be TJ7
Hmmmm this was eons ago, did we fight nice?? 
Were you one of the ones that chased LC Man away?
Unless I want to kerchunk through 73 pages of Garys thread! | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/18/2009 6:51:13 PM | I didn't chase anyone away - I had no part in that - I'm assuming he left after I did - geeeez...................and yes - DF - you and I fought all the time - LOL
Knighty - thank you - you're right - me being back means things didn't work out - but it's actually very ok - there's reasons why people come in and out of our lives. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2009 7:09:39 PM | OK, I went a bit back into LC's thread & found a few of your posts, no interaction between us though that I seen..
You're back! Just like DSL, speaking of which, we haven't seen her lately, found another wild biker I suppose? | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/22/2009 9:09:38 AM | I see that many people have many reasons why we should attend events. I have reasons for not attending events.
Recently I signed up to attend an event in N. Ridgeville and posted that I was considering it on the thread. Not one person acknowledged me or said hello, or anything. So I did not attend. If I was gonna be ignored in the forum what says that I wouldn't be ignored at the event.
Now I know that at the event it would be up to me to mix and mingle, I get that, but being ignored here left a very bitter taste in my mouth.
So I figured I might give it another shot and was looking thru the new threads and saw another event in Ridgeville posted however it did not display the date of the event. I kindly pointed out that people might need to know when the event was gonna happen. Well the thread was changed to include the date but the bad thing is I did not get a thank you or anything again.
I think it is pretty lame that a nice deed like that basically goes for naught. If this is the way to meet and make friends, I'll continue to stay home.
Thanks for hearing me out but it really chaps my a$$ when people are that insensitive. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2009 10:13:47 AM | Cleve - Im sorry that you had a bad experience with it - but you're right regarding "at the event, it would be up to me to mix and mingle."
I don't go to events to meet the 'love of my life' and go home and be happy ever after. I go to the events to see dear friends and to meet new people. I make it a point to introduce myself to people, attempt to make newbies feel comfortable, and at the end of my evening, knowing that I possibly made a new friend - whether they be male or female.
You said that you were ignored on the forums - not everyone going to the events participate on the forums - there are a lot of people at the events that never post on a forum ever. So continuing your distaste for events on an experience on the forums - is that really fair - to you or to those attending the events?!! Missing out on meeting a new friend or just enjoying yourself at an event - getting out of your home for a little while, laughing a bit - that's what the focus needs to be - not how rude some people can be perceived.
Not every event is going to be the one you will enjoy. I know that I enjoy going to the stadium on sunday nights - it's hosted by a couple of awesome gals who have become friends of mine - and they attempt to keep the drama down. With as many people with different personalities that go to these events - there will always be some kind of drama or something that isn't appreciated - but in the long run, there are good people out there.
Best of luck to your future seeking of an event that you may enjoy.  | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/22/2009 10:31:02 AM | | You bring up some good points. No it really isn't fair to judge everyone based on a few however when the host of the event can't even acknowledge your help then yes I will base the event and what happens there on them. | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/22/2009 7:03:36 PM | | I have gone to 3 events and I've met a different guy at each one. They've all either been players out to see how fast they can get a woman in bed or felons. I am very leery of going to any others and meeting anybody. I'm sometimes a little shy until I get to know people, so its sometimes hard for me to just go up and start talking to some. But after my experiences, I'm even more hesitant! However, my friend has never been to an event and has talked me into going to one more, so I will go to humor her! I know there are nice guys out there, but I just don't have the fortune of meeting any. I wish everyone else out there the best and hope that they do find someone decent and sweet. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2009 8:33:37 PM | I walked away from my 1st event, learning that I do actually need to get out more. The one Where's Waldo picture of me in the dark background proves it. I felt important, holding up that wall I was leaning up against.
The only expectation I had going to it was that I'm going to have fun. Not as much as I would have liked to, but it was only my 1st attended event.
Sure, I said hello to a few, but I'm still an event rooky. I'll have more attended in the future. | |
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Posted: 3/23/2009 8:29:45 AM | | well i can say that i am so glad i started attending events. I have met the best girl friends I have ever known. I figure you need to put yourself out there and see. Shoot i was a wallflower the first two times i went to the Stadium...Yes Tracie..me a wallflower lol... but now everyone is like Hey its Christine.... they make me feel like a celebrity! | |
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Posted: 3/23/2009 3:32:42 PM | Cleve - I agree - the host(s) of the events should have acknowledged you or at least made you feel welcome - but please don't judge everyone on the forums or every event the same.
We have a wonderful event happening in Hilliard (I know, not near you) that is hosted by a couple of wonderful gals - and there are great people that come from all over the state (not every week, but every couple of weeks).
Christine - a wallflower? Absolutely NO WAY.
When I started back going to the events, I made it a point to seek out and meet those people who I had seen in the after-event pictures - and I found they were nice people and became friends (yes, Christine - you!!!) .
And if you do find a nice event to go to, you will find it an awesome escape from the every day-to-day reality of life!!!
Best of luck Cleve!!! | |
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Posted: 3/26/2009 7:39:29 AM | Recently I signed up to attend an event in N. Ridgeville and posted that I was considering it on the thread. Not one person acknowledged me or said hello, or anything. So I did not attend. If I was gonna be ignored in the forum what says that I wouldn't be ignored at the event.
I hear ya, & don't blame ya. I would assume that the 'gifted' people especially the women, will pick & choose who will feel welcome. It's just like when we were in High School believe it or not, I imagine when these events get started it's not as bad, but give it time to turn into a clique. How unfortunate.
I tried to get something going a few years back here, & met much resistance. When I was in a local singles group years back I usually spent a few minutes with potential members, but you would be surprised how some would act toward them. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2009 8:51:12 AM | The only constant in any situation is YOU.
Get over your damn selves.
The whole lot of 'ya.
Sourgrapes.
Sourgrapes.
Sourgrapes.
I have fun at the events.
EVERYFRICKIN' where I go.
Been to several, all over Ohio.
If you don't find one near you, then you are not looking.
Bellyaching is not attractive btw.
And no it doesn't include booze or drugs or sex.
*Gasp.
Whoodathunk it?
Just good peole and good times!!! | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 3/26/2009 11:38:57 AM | For what it's worth....
I attended a party this past weekend and had a blast! That was my first in Brunswick, and I can't wait for the next. At one time I didn't know anybody either, but the comfort level that was provided by all (men and women) made me feel like I had known everybody for years. I'm driving over an hour away for tomorrow night's party in Canton just to be around people I've only met once or never met.
In other words, it's starts with YOU taking that first step. Perhaps I'm wrong, but the wrong approach to have is going there with the intent to meet somebody you're instantly going to fall in love with first. Become friends first and see what unfolds after a period of time and more parties. Once people get to know you better, as long as you're a willing participant in the events, life will get easier.
And finally, for those who have met the guys that are interested in the one-night stands, thats everywhere you go, not just these parties. And the same holds true for women who may be looking for the same thing. I have 1 rule, I go there alone, I leave there alone. I am.......
The Saint | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 5/17/2009 7:01:33 PM | Better yet! Must be a new rule...
Likewise, I was asked to leave the Stadium a few weeks back here (I haven't been in a bar in almost a year, & I can count on one hand the times in the past 4 years).
Clue us in someone... I don't get it either? | |
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| Why should you attend events?
Posted: 5/18/2009 9:52:25 AM | Looking at those that posted on this forum 2 months ago and seeing those same people now goes to show that so much can change in a short time.
I love attending events. I just started last month with the Sidelines event and I've been to 3 others since - including this last weekend's Sidelines 80s event. I have had the best fun and met the coolest people I've met in a long time. It sure beats sitting home alone waiting for the emails to arrive!
The key to going to events is to participate. Even if you're not a dancer - heck, I freely admit that my dance style is a bit "out there" - you should still make your way around the crowd and chat with folks. There are those that choose to sit and watch the dancing that would more than welcome someone coming over and striking up a conversation. Even if you're not a smoker, sometimes going outside and chatting with us smokers is a great way to enter into some interesting conversations. Besides, not everyone outside is a smoker; some people go outside to rest up and cool off.
No, attending events held at bars is not for everyone. However, I encourage everyone to give the events at least a couple of tries. There are quality events being held every weekend in different areas of the state. There are also family-oriented daytime events being held. And if there's not anything in your area of interest, why not try hosting an event yourself that will bring like-minded people together?
I've said this before and I still hold to it. Life is what you make of it. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 10:02:15 AM | i agree with spinach, my first party was in march and i weas overwhelmed at first and thought what was i getting into, i dont recognize anyone, i dont dance, etc. but everyone there is so friendly and down the earth its so easy to make friends and laugh. and may was my third party and i do my best now to have an open mind and support the themes and i can say i have a blast... and spinach you dont giv yourself enough credit, i saw you out there whoopin it up | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 3:03:05 PM | here i go posting after you kingrock.... I can tell you i started to go to events in January...it is now May and I am now the event Host for the party.. have an open mind.....find someone to talk to ...I always try to hook up new people with a regular so they have someone show them around and not be left alone sitting and regretting coming to an event.
Shoot.... im pretty shy around guys so ....when i step in the door of an event i leave my shy side there....and take on a "never met a stranger" persona.... how else are you going to enjoy a party unless you participate.... | |
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Posted: 5/18/2009 3:11:42 PM | Did you bring them a beer homegrown?? 
When I hosted events years back with a local singles group, it was sometimes beyond my control how they were treated by other group members though.... after the first few meetings when I joined this group, I felt like running away myself.
 ... took months for me to get used to them. | |
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