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Posted: 7/28/2006 4:09:44 AM | | ^^^From a pretty cool chick this is sage advice!! My thoughts or feelings about women dating men signifigantly younger than themselves was it mostly flew in the face of what SOME women have said all along about men----that we never really mature, we just grow older!! LOL | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 4:24:21 AM | | my past few relationships have been with women elder to me and i know it for a fact the next is gonna be with 1 too for various reasons | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 5:09:53 AM | I too have been bombarded with younger men 3 of them were 19, I'm 47! It actually irritates the crap out of me, as i have stated in my profile what i am searching for. I can only assume their little hormones are running hot. I can't resist the temptation to check out their profiles, and surprise surprise 'intimate encounter'. What i would like to know is what does a much younger guy think he can give me that a guy my age cannot? Devil Woman you are correct in stating that they may think we are a bunch of desperatos, and this to me is a plain and simple insult. I'm more than happy to have a decent conversation with a youngen, but if sex gets mentioned i'm outa there!  | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 5:18:57 AM | | Yes i agree most of them are just plain horny but there are a few genuine men that are attracted to olderwomen, i have my own reasons but has nothing to do with being horny | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 6:31:40 AM | xotic73.....your an exception ok cause ya cute!.....No seriously though, there is a difference between early 30's and late teens. I mean by 30 you would expect that a man's knowledge would have expanded, late teens? mmmmmm........Hormones | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 4:49:32 PM | | I can not speak for all young men, but the ones that I have known have been very irresponsible. My husband would spend his entire paycheck on cigarettes and beer, and I was expected to pay the bills. If I mentioned it to him he would let me know that I wasnt his mother and I would not tell him what he could spend his money on! | |
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JONN
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Joined: 7/15/2006
Msg: 107 | |
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Posted: 7/29/2006 4:35:29 AM | I think it's the story of marrying a person of low quality. I'll bet your ex treats his next wife/girlfriend no better. I have always loved older women and have fond memories of most. It's more often a matter of character and perspective that governs the manner of a relationships end.
By the way from what I can see - his "luck" was running pretty good when he had you...
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JONN
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Joined: 7/15/2006
Msg: 108 | |
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Posted: 7/29/2006 4:47:59 AM | I'm a little puzzled by responses I've received from younger women. I think most men and women my age automatically attribute this attraction to horniness, wants a daddy or mommy or a sugar daddy or sugar mommy. I deal with it simply by not dating younger women. I happen to think that mature women are more attractive to me from many perspectives similar life / age reference, perspective and I happen to think that a mature woman who has maintained her health and fitness is sexier - both from a physical and mental perspective.
Also NEWSFLASH for mature women who think otherwise - "Old guys" get horny too. I know you're not asking but - I think an important reason many men my age are attracted to younger women is that too many (not all) mature women treat the subject of sex like a hot potato - many younger women do not and frequently both men and women mistake sexual "readiness" for the sole basis for a relationship. I heard someone say during a conversation on this subject - "At what age do women just totally give up on sex?". I happen to think that a good sex life is an important element of a continuing relationship at any age for both men and women... what say you??? | |
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Posted: 7/29/2006 6:19:20 AM | Of course there are younger guys who just want the experience with an older woman and are not looking for anything meaningful. There are also younger men who truly prefer having meaningful relationships with older women - PERIOD. I've run into both kinds and I still run into both kinds but I know how to tell the difference after (usually) the first conversation. For over the last 10 years my relationships have all been with men 10 to 20 years younger than myself. Most of these relationships were meaningful. Few of them weren't - just as they might or might not have been with men of any age. Just because the relationships didn't last forever, does not mean they were not meaningful. Most of these relationships ended for reasons that had nothing to do with age. Note: I've had relationships with guys my own age that I ended because the men turned out to be totally immature.
If younger men eventually want children of their own, and you don't (for whatever reasons) - this may be a factor in that this relationship has a known expiration date from the start. However, not all younger men want children of their own. Most of the guys I was involved with did not want to have any children of their own hence that would not have been an issue in my personal relationships/experiences.
It's not always about sex. There are plenty of guys of the same age (whether that's in their 20s, 30s, 40s, etc.) who just want sex. That doesn't depend on someone's age but someone's mental state. When I was in my early thirties and still dating men older than myself, I ran into many men in their 40s and 50s that just wanted sex and nothing more. It was in my early thirties that I began to open my eyes to younger men. Being in my mid-thirties, they were (at that time) in their mid-twenties. I'd find myself jokingly saying "damned, they didn't make boys like that when I was growing up!" Perhaps it is these last 2 generations that is totally different. In fact, the more I live, and the more I learn, I see that men in their twenties today tend to be a lot more mature than when I was growing up.
Many of my male friends (friends only not ex-lovers) are men in their twenties. Their number one and two and three complaints about women their own age is that women their own age are just looking for a good time (i.e., someone to spend big bucks on them) and to get married to someone that can show them a good time and spend bucks on them. The third complaint is that women their own age play games whether they are intentional or not - they tell me that women in their twenties have no clue of what they want - one minute it's this, one minute it's that. Basically, the combined complaint is that women their age just want to be entertained and are either high-maintenance demanding or lethargic and expect the man to do all the thinking, doing, etc.
As a note to the above and for the record, I've never had to pick up the tab for any of my younger boyfriends.
My "commentary" is based on my experience, so you can take it or leave it but it's my experience. Again, it's my story and I'm stickin' to it!
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Posted: 7/29/2006 6:41:51 AM |
Older guys get horny too... I think an important reason many men my age are attracted to men my age is that to many (not all) women treat the subject of sex like a hot potato.
Sheesh, we older women can't win. Either the older guys won't date us because they think we have given up on sex, or they tell us that the younger ones are only after us because they think we are desperate for sex.  | |
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Posted: 7/29/2006 10:45:03 AM | | I think older guys date younger women,( sometimes leaving a great wife of 20 years or so)not because older women dont want sex, but because they think THEY are getting old, and a young woman being attracted to them makes them feel attractive.. They also like being seen with a young woman! For some reason men feel the need to prove they still can!!!! | |
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Joined: 7/24/2005
Msg: 112 | |
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Posted: 7/29/2006 10:49:05 AM | | i always date younger men. For some reason, they just like me better than men my age. I think it is because I have a lot of energy. I am seeing someone now who is 8 years younger, and the man I love but cannot be with because of his problem son, is six years younger. I once went out with a man l7 years younger, but that was just for a fling. I would like to keep it no more than l0 years younger, but that is me. If you are happy, it does not make a difference. My son is 32, his wife is 4l, and they are very happy. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2006 11:18:13 AM | | I've had two great relationships with men 8 and 9 years younger (offline - have never met someone online). As far as getting mail from these younger guys 22+ is concerned, I don't even think about them, barely read them and just laugh them off. My profile was created to attract zero attention - no photo, few words... (just here for the forums). My profile would not attract the attention of any one looking for a serious relationship so I really don't take those who initiate contact with me seriously at all. But the mails keep coming... I'd also imagine that many looking for intimate encounters, just send those mails to as many females as they can. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 11:43:38 AM | My lover is 21 years younger than me  I prefer younger men and obviously they prefer me, cause they pursue me, not the other way around. And long term relationships? Yes, very rarely have my young guys only wanted sex. Infact, they tell me they are afraid that's all I want from them cause I'm older. My current lover and I have deep feelings for each other which may be love - we'll see - keep your fingers crossed for us Open your heart and your mind cause the right one for you may turn out to be someone different than you expected!! | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 11:57:54 AM | | I agree with you ^. I had a wonderful 4-year relationship with a man 21 years younger than myself. We lived together and it was the best relationship I ever had! While we both knew it would not last forever because of the age difference, we had a great time while we were together and I'll never regret it. We are still the best of friends, and I can't imagine my life without him in it. Some young men are mature for their age, and it doesn't have to be just a sexual thing. I feel my young man is a soul mate, and hope we will always be friends. So, don't look past the younger men - it can be great, if he's mature enough. And the younger guys have plenty of energy!! LOL | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 8:22:30 PM | Generally speaking, I tend to be drawn to younger men or men who look younger than they are if they are closer to my age or older......I tend to be drawn to men who are between 30-40, but that isn't set in stone.....
Any younger than 30 genenerally speaking I find are a bit immature for me....of couse there are exceptions to that...lol | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 8:28:27 PM | lol I am 30 my fella is 22 I love it he makes me feel young and sexy all the time and I said yo him recently what do u want with an older women he replyed we more mature we have been and played the game , we no what we want more fun to be with lol I got to admit i like them younger | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 8:29:42 PM | lol same here I cant pull any one me own age but it keeps me toung at heart  | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 8:46:17 PM | Glad you called him a Fella and not a MAN Kelly
I dont see any 22 year old being a man they are still BOYS --- lets just say if the shit hits the fan 99% will run away from any responsibilty
BUt hey if your into kiddies and Boys all you women --- good luck to you
just dont **** about it when he gets a piece of tail his own age or younger and leaves you standing alone wondering WTF ?
oh and lady K I can assure you there are many many MEN in thier 30's 40's 50's that can kick a 22 year olds ass easily in the nergy stakes etc
I actually like the fact all these young boys go for older women -- means they leave all the young tight firm fit healthy women to me | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 9:16:17 PM | I consider 22 a boy, definitely.
just dont **** about it when he gets a piece of tail his own age or younger and leaves you standing alone wondering WTF ?
Since when is it only the younger guys who leave their woman for someone new? I know plenty of women who had husbands walk away from families for some bimbo.
oh and lady K I can assure you there are many many MEN in thier 30's 40's 50's that can kick a 22 year olds ass easily in the nergy stakes etc
In their 30s, hell yes. In their 40s...a few...In their 50s? I have yet to meet one.
means they leave all the young tight firm fit healthy women to me
God that is SUCH an incredible thing to read right after you defend the older guy as being just as good as a young one.
I may not be young, but I am damn fit, tight and very healthy....much MORE so than MOST "younger" women.
The knife cuts both ways. Remember that.
An older woman is JUST as entitled to date a younger man as an older man is entitled to date a younger woman.
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Posted: 9/22/2006 9:19:57 PM | she speaks the trruth^^^^^^ can you handle it??
Hiya Foxy, good to see ya again. Mandrake | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 9:29:07 PM | ^^^Mandrake: nice to see you back!!
I don't know about all younger men, but the younger men from my past certainly were not interested in me just for sex ~ I don't do casual sex ~ my last boyfriend (before he became my husband) waited nearly a year. He was nearly 10 years younger. We were just two people who had enough commonalities to make it work. Although I have older men friends, I am not the least bit comfortable dating someone older. My age limits vary depending on the person, but 35 is probably as young as I would date ~ I'd prefer someone 37 to 42. To each their own, but I do get sick of people insisting it's all based on sex.  | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 9:35:58 PM | Gees....do I have to change my age now?^^^
Ohhh, Now I feel like Eeyore....so sad, no chance, I'm just too old, she doesn't want me! woe is me!! | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 9:40:11 PM | actually Fox --- if i could remember the web site I would show you but its a lot of male bodybuilders 45+ plus years of age and they put me to shame - they make me look like a bloated pig
One russian guy I know of is 63 years old and has 18 inch biceps and 4 % bodyfat 170 pounds 5 foot 10 tall -- he still competes in professional kick boxing tournaments against males his grandkids age he is the oldest recorded competitor in a pro tournament
has all his own hair and not a single grey hair In fact the guy looks younger than I do
BUt yes fox I agree with you though most men go to hell after 35 but then again so do most women. With the guys its the declining testosterone levels that make them age and get all flabby etc -- the estrogen levels in them are not counteracted by the testosterone - hence the older guys with man boobies (moobies) though they would only have to be in the gym twice a week for 1 hour to keep levels of test up the body would produce more in response to the stimuli of weight lifting - its the way males are hardwired by evolution
With the women cant say anything about it medically only that in my observations it comes from apathy | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 9:43:00 PM | I have seen pics of the bodybuilders who compete in Grand Masters and yes, very impressive. What I said was that I had never met a man in his 50s who was in awesome shape..
Yep, most people just go to pieces after 35. Sad, but very true....and oh so unnecessary! | |
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