Zedex
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Joined: 7/21/2006
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Posted: 9/22/2006 10:59:54 PM | | This made me think... I just realised all my wives and girlfriends were at least 12 years younger than me... so is my dream girl I found on here! What a couincidence!! Khmm... | |
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Posted: 9/23/2006 4:22:54 AM | "Whilst sable-locks tinged with silver down,
Wrestle with black curls dappled brown...."
It is a challenge whichever way one dates.... Whether the man is significantly older or younger... Love can make you swivel on a dime like a truck to change your entire lifestyle, direction, or even faith.... Age becomes irrelevant, but can pose the ultimate challenge, that of time-sands running out...
The shallow only pitch their tissues of fact based on the usual illusory surface aspects and textbook clitches such as it is better with an older man/woman cos of experience... it is better with a younger man/woman cos of energy... In reality, those individuals who are actually living these roles are either realistically facing challenges daily, or are on some delusional ego-boost with a token partner... easily replaced because they never take the time to really get to know the person beyond their age. | |
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Posted: 9/23/2006 6:29:32 AM | Me being at the age I am, with the preferences I have, I am finding most of this thread to be a letdown as far as the views of guys my age go. To think of all guys my age as "boys" in general, including myself is ridiculous.
Maturity, responsibility and the like are not always things that come with age. | |
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Posted: 9/23/2006 7:13:25 AM | Well Ravager in most cases it does come with age, but what people cant see is some have to become mature and responsable at a young age. Kids that start working at a young age. (I started at ten) Kids that had to raise their siblings. Kids that have seen the horror of life at a young age or were subjected to gross immaturity and irresponsability and decided they couldn't continue the cycle. If you start maturing at 18 or 21 you will never be as mature as someone who had too at ten
It is a shame that men and women of particular ages get stereotyped with particular traits
All that can be done though is be ourselves and someone will eventually see the real deal | |
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Posted: 10/30/2006 11:03:41 PM | | It depends on the person. I have attracted younger people my whole life. I think it depends on the vitality you exhibit and your energy you put out there. Youngest man I dated was 15 years my jr. I was with a guy for 7 years who was 7 years younger. It ended when he pressured me to marry HIM. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2006 8:33:43 AM | | More times then not I either get men that are alot younger then me or much much older then me... I haven't fiqured out why.... | |
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Posted: 10/31/2006 10:39:34 AM | I am 54 (my pic is current) and I have to laugh when a young man in his 20's or 30's send me a message that they love older women. Makes me think of a joke my mother once told me. What do older women and dog chit have in common? The older they are the easier they are to pick up . I don't think this is the case, since I have gotten older just the opposite in fact, I have become more selective. I am new to the dating scene, after many years, so I can't say much about dating a younger man but I don't think I would be comfortable with someone 20 years my junior. I do agree with alot of you about men looking alot older then their years and don't wanting to be with someone that looks like they could be your father. I guess that is a reason I would feel uncomfortable with someone so young. Was never a mother and don't want others to think I am, lol. Good luck to everyone  | |
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Posted: 10/31/2006 3:05:05 PM | I am 51 and I get hit on all the time by younger men telling me they can rock my world, well maybe but i would perfer one close to my age not younger than my son. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2006 3:26:46 PM | devil woman I took age limits off my profile because I trade email with people in the forums. I've received email from guys in their 20's and early 30's. I always write back and say thank you but did you look to see how old I am? Don't you think the age difference would be a problem? I've yet to get a reply after that.
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Posted: 10/31/2006 3:44:11 PM | I'm cool with younger guys....
I found out that a guy I was dating here was just into much younger chicks, so with that issue, why did I bother with a balding funny looking guy ? They are just into young - much younger chicks and lying about thier age...which is really bull and exploitive of younger people.
So, I decided I liked guys with hair on thier head !
And....who had gas in the engine....
Know what I mean, girls ???
Nothing like a flimsy sleepy dude who doesn't look in the mirror and know what reality is saying. "Im not balding !"
Yeah, and Donald Trump is in a homeless shelter...
Reality beckons.
"But I'm just pretending I'm not my age so Ill come up in more people's searches !"
Uhhh, huh, and I'm 26...
Reality, man. Give me a young dude (!)....but I don't need to lie about my age and take advantage of them ....for goodness sake. It's pretty bad when you don't check out anyone near your own age....Integrity is when what you say and what you do and what you write...match up. I think the word is hipocritical. Uh huh. It's always the worst of them that come up with phoney ploys to get out of adulthood...and further a scheme to chase the younguns. REALITY says volumes about old guys like this....basically that they have a selective one that includes crying foul when they can''t live out thier hipocitical reality.
So, we the ladies in thier 30's are finding, yes, why not date a younger guy --- they are actually honest. As the gal put it here earlier about what her daughter was saying; the old gys dont realize how the younger gals view them - as making fools of themselves with thier balding and silliness, lying, and kiddie behavior. After all, the younger guys are looking to us older women BECAUSE OF our maturity --- not because we are looking to behave like immature scumbags who are just predators.
Anyone see the DATELINE special on the online predators seeking women much younger.....yeck. Predators alright.... They are looking for chicks way under the acceptable level, and pretending they are younger.
Uh, if younger guys email me...that's cool. If they come across as immature, well, I am not interested. If they are mature, I started to get interested, seeing as I was dealing with old predators giving me a line to cover thier ugly habit. I had just gotten onto what was up and decided that I was wasting my time with a predator after the kiddies....
If a young guy takes an interest in me, that's a nice compliment --- he sees my real age in the ad. I don't lie about it for goodness sake. I'm honest to begin with. ANd I find, they are much more honest and seeking maturity, too, and they have surprisingly decent values.
There are still two different types of men, and you wont find the good one's who are aging...have never been married or grown up, no, these are the duds ! At least, the younger guys are seeking to be grown up and emotionally mature. You know, they find pedophiles tend to chase after kids whose emotional age they are equal to (they tend to universally be emotionally immature and that is a primary component). Interesting.
Here, the young guys started in on me, too, not the other way around to my fault. I just decided after dealing with emotional maturity and a predators outlook in some older people, that maybe I was better off around younger honest people than aging predators, after all. It's a question of safety and mental health for some women my age.
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Posted: 10/31/2006 4:03:48 PM | I am with you, in that I wouldn't want to date someone younger than my kids, but just as many of the older ones are just after sex.
Desperate? Maybe they think that, maybe not. Maybe they just like the way you look, and hope you will also like they way the look. Maybe they just figure the worst thing that can happen is you will say no, so they have nothing to lose by asking.
Would you be thinking the same thing if a 22 year old woman emailed a 50 year old man? That she was thinking he must be desperate and willing to date/sleep with anything. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2006 4:12:48 PM | Interesting, I'm a lot better looking than an old man, to begin with. That also made me wonder why I would date anyone as funny looking as the last bloke I dated here. He was some weird guy 5 years older than me who was on here lying about his age, after the chicks half his age. There is a closet case.
We women have to ask ourselves sometimes why we will date ugly men...especially when they are immature and don't appear to have values. Do we feel we are supposed to be the Salvation Army of Dating ? If there isn't more depth there....are we making a mistake ?
Meanwhile, after seeing the DATELINE special, I got on to this weirdness. THe guy was just another online predator. You really have to be careful about aging men you meet online who are after younger women. It seems there is a huge vacuum of healthy men here. I'm looking for health, wherever that is. Often, it's offline in your neighborhood bar rather than online.
I notice the younger guys approaching me here, if they have some intellectual reason, I'll talk to them, but they appear universally more healthy than guys older than me looking for kids - guys who have none themselves, and who never grew up. That's pretty low. So, after what I've learned -- I'd rather date younger and healthy, than aging and pseudo-pedophile. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2006 5:53:31 PM | hello you are in part rigth i agree well i guess all people think diferent i like to share and talk with smark people it is hard the found the people i guess you are smark and it is interesting how you talk to the people
make smile to see the rise
ERIK HTO DUNCAN | |
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Posted: 11/1/2006 4:48:13 AM |
devil woman I took age limits off my profile because I trade email with people in the forums. I've received email from guys in their 20's and early 30's. I always write back and say thank you but did you look to see how old I am? Don't you think the age difference would be a problem? I've yet to get a reply after that.
I am the same age as you are, and have dated and would date men in the early 30's(20's I don't think I could). I seem to have more in common with men that age, and find them a lot easier to talk to than men my age and older.
For me anyway, it isn't about sex, it is more about their attitude about life in general(Let's be real, not all young men are great in bed, and not all older men are horrible in bed). I am the kind of person that will do things on the spur of the moment, and it seems a lot of men my age and older plan each and everything they do. I am sure some have a certain time each day they go to the bathroom.
My uncle was seriously involved with a lady that was 30 years older than him, and they would still be together now, but after 20 years, sadly she passed away. Together 20 years, I hardly think it was all about sex.
I know some bring up the idea of children, but at least where I live, most that are planning on having any, have them by the time they are in their early 30's. A lot by the time they are in their late teens!!! Not that I think that is really the way to go, but still that is the way it is!!! | |
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Posted: 11/1/2006 9:47:44 AM | | In this human life we are in why should age keep people a way, If the woman is older, and man is younger and of age Why not, We all know this age is a number and it is man made, but what one feels for an other is the love they have for all. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2006 11:41:40 AM | devil woman(d400637)
This seems to happen to me more and more. I take it with a grain of salt...and smile and think..."must be a mistake, he is joking, right?, where's the candid camera?". I never ever thought of this type of relationship until coming here to POF. The fact remains younger men do this. I want to think that no matter what age (above legal) consenting adults should know what they want and don't want. If it makes you happy and is legal...do what you want.
I have posted this situation on my blog on another site. Men in general came back with the response...a younger man is looking for a mother figure, he wants sex, and/or he thinks your desperate, this seems to be the accepted standard way of thinking for older woman/younger men relationships. This also suggests that some people think older women are nothing more than an object to be used by younger men for one reason or another. Never to love. Yet older men having a younger woman on their arm is applauded and acceptable behavior? And it is not only men who think this way.
A couple weeks ago, a female friend who I work with was so happy cause Joe, who lost his wife about two years ago, is getting married. Joe is 58 years old. His wife to be is 33. I told my friend, thats quite the age difference and she said, well it makes him happy.
Hmm. I asked her if she thought age differences mattered and she said no. Ok. I said, Well I hope your as happy for me when I walk in here with a 30 year old. A whole different look came over her and I knew instantly it would be different if it were me. I just laughed and said...Ok I won't bring him here.
Double standards are still alive and well...they are for those who choose to live by them. They are not for me. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 6:43:44 PM | Well, I'm 19 And i love older woman Whats wroung with a young guy who wants abit of experence from an older woman have some fun times and enjoy.Not Every young guy is young at mind Some of us look Young but act adult.Shouldint Judge the book by its cover you mite be missing out on something great.And if you simply want it for sexual Fun Explain your self and inform that person so you both understand the terms of the relationship. Ive met some great older woman And it was awesome..
And i still think older woman are hot ... ive thought that was since i was 12. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 6:59:12 PM | | Getting the same thing here!! I think you are on to something there too!! I think they would love to tell the story of the time they "did" a woman old enough to be their mom. LOL some I think are looking for a challenge in the "pleasing" dept and looking to "learn" a few things as well. Whatever their reasons may be..it sure is flattering! :) | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 12:03:34 PM | | I get a lot of email from guys way younger...im a 44 year old woman......they write me or instant message me......the youngest one on here was 18....i asked him why he would be writing me and his reply was that the girls his age are immature.....arent they supposed to be? I find that it does get pretty tiring and it does seem that its all about sex.......they try to disguise it......but come on...im 44!!!! I would never...consider dating someone that young......what would one have in common with that big of a gap? I have a daughter that is 24 and im a gramma..i think that shocks them sometimes........lol | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 12:59:35 PM | | I'm with you Shore. I've had an LTR with a chap who is 19 years younger than me, and it's perfectly fine. In fact, I am bored silly with men my age and older. I'm not exaggerating when I say that they are soooooooooooooo out of shape and they are searching for a petite woman who takes care of herself and her body! that's the kicker! I do have to weed out the obvious "searching for a Sugar Mummy" youngster though. I often wonder if they are thinking - "Well, hell, she's single, perhaps she bled her ex dry in the divorce, or perhaps the old guy 'karked it' (died) and left her a bundle." In which case, he's expecting a brand new car every year and trips to Tahoe and the Italian Riviera. It soon becomes obvious when he asks what kind of car you drive. I'm on the floor guffawing raucously at this point. Shine on! | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 1:10:36 PM | I tend to prefer men who are about 5-6 years younger than me. Men my age do seem to be (1) terribly out of shape, (2) grumpy, (3) expecting someone who will be their "mommy" (I already have a thirty year old child). As for men much younger than that, I don't think I would be comfortable dating them, because I don't think we would have a lot in common, and the minute I was referred to as "their old lady", it would be all over! And CrazyDiamond97 hit it right on the head when she says that a lot of them think that older women have money to spend on them!
Hell, all the money I make, I spend on myself!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 1:11:54 PM | | I get lots of emails from guys in their 20's and I give the same response have you checked my age and it has not detoured any of them, they all claim to love older women, the only guy I love that young is my son | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 1:14:26 PM | You may as well get yourself a younger model ladies, after all men never really grow up do they!
and you say '' y do we act stupid'? well who says were acting. haha
I mean, come on, they put one man on the moon, they could of put the rest of us up there hey!! | |
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Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 149 | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 1:16:19 PM | | i'm so tired of women catching flak for the same stuff men do. if you really think about it ITS NO ONE'S BUSINESS BUT THE OWNERS OF THE PENIS AND VAGINA!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/18/2007 1:33:30 PM | I finally solved it for the most part...by putting a minimum age restriction on who can email me.
Some try to get around it by temp. changing their age; however, they are easily caught because they will change it back... not wanting to keep the 'older' age they put there any longer than necessary.
And, yes, for the most part, from my own personal experience, men in their late 30s and older seem to not be in as good shape as women of the same age group. Not talking 'all'...just 'in general'. | |
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