| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/1/2007 2:38:17 PM | I personally never have sex on the first date. If a guy is truely into you won't matter if you have sex first date, month or 6 months. He's into you PERIOD.
Now some shallow player types might be different, on their logic.
With me there is 2 types of sex. With & without feelings attached. I'm sure this would be sex without feelings. But as a relationship progresses it would turn into sex with feelings. | |
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tan2
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Joined: 3/1/2007
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/2/2007 1:23:05 PM | do however feel the general consensus among men privy to the knowledge that you put out on the first date ... or for that matter, men you may have done so with ... may well produce a fair assumption that your easy. And for this reason alone, are probably less likely to respect you.
Hi dolly, | |
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tan2
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Joined: 3/1/2007
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/2/2007 1:29:20 PM | | hi dolly, to add to the above, you do what is best for you, but one thing to think about, if your on your first date and you sleep with each other, what does that tell you about the guy, think your the only one? | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/2/2007 1:57:23 PM | No, I would always say its a good idea.
It is probably a bad move, but you should do what you want to do. I think its a bad move no matter what gender you are. | |
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tan2
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Joined: 3/1/2007
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/2/2007 7:16:13 PM | It really depends on who's involved and I admit I don't really know you but I see it like this. Dates all develop differently depending on the chemistry that two people may or may not share. If you have sex because you want to try to 'save' the date, then I think it's a terrible move (unless you both discover you're comaptible that way, then it's not so bad..lol) but if the chemistry is there and you're both feeling it, then I think to hold out on sex would be a BAD idea because it can take away that feeling of easy closeness and intimacy forever. Once again as I said, it depends on who's involved.
-AvroArrow (Wisdom from the unwise *winks!*) | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/2/2007 7:57:19 PM | Not necessarily....but I like to schedule 2 dates in a row...so we can meet around noon for the idle chit chat and "interview questions" then go home...fold laundry, do dishes, shower shave blah blah...and then have a second date about...ooohhhh...15 minutes later | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/8/2007 10:14:16 AM | Thanks to the last few posters but I think this thread has died a death. Nothing new to say. Still the odd interesting comment but nevertheless the personal, negative remarks (especially from some women) continue and It's become rather tedious to keep repeating that the question was not about me it was a general question.
It was an interesting thread while it lasted. My first post and maybe the words were not chosen well. I made more friends than enemies during the threadthough . People who actually read my replies and took the time to get to know me - Remember poster's, most of you don't know me. I am not Dolly Hooligan, some loose, easy woman who is here as a punchbag to make some of you feel more honourable.
I am an adult woman with feelings and (yes shock horror!) morals. I'm rather proud that I maintained my cool even when some of you were verging on abusive. I look forward to more interesting conversations (with most of you at least).
Au Revoir, Tally Ho!!! | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/10/2007 1:44:38 AM | It depends on the circumstances...I have had sex on the first dates a few times and everything was fine...Then well er ah, it happend again with someone and it wasn't fine...She felt used so, i have retired from sex on the first date...well, semi-retired!
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/10/2007 1:55:33 AM | Honestly, I really don't know. The BEST LTR I ever had started with sex on the first date. On the opposite end of the spectrum, the WORST LTR I ever had, which resulted in a failed marriage, also started with sex on the first date, and wasn't very "Long-Term".
I think a successful LTR depends more on the natural compatibility of the persons involved rather than what occurs on the first date. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/11/2007 12:49:46 AM | | honest nice guy: very good point. both had it, so why do women get "labeled?" seems kinda archaic to me. i just can't relate. what are we: back in the 1950's or have we evolved? before anyone gets any (not so) bright ideas, no, i don't have sex on the first date (more like on the year anniversary of the 1st date). i wouldn't have any qualms about sex 0n a 1st date, but it's just not my idea of a "relationship." for me, sex without a meaningful relationship would be trivial, boring, and ridiculous (and that's irrespective of gender). having said all that, it really gets my goat to see people so locked into these ludicrous, out moded ideas. i'd like to bash those people over the head (figuratively, of course). | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/11/2007 9:34:55 AM | | Sex on the first date makes for a short relationship. If that's what you want, go for it. If you're looking for long-term, probably a bad move. | |
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Joined: 4/2/2007
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/11/2007 1:45:05 PM | | I think that between two consenting adults, there is nothing wrong with it. BUT....don't expect the man to respect you much, even if you don't usually do this frequently. It all depends what your goal is. If you want this guy to really like you, then make him sweat for it a little. You gotta build this up before giving it away like that! If you just want to get laid, then who cares what they think of you right? | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/11/2007 2:53:38 PM | Dolly, they aren't letting it die! Hey it's about sex! We are compelled to reply. LOL
I couldn't read thru the whole ten pages. I am a woman and have had sex on a first date a few times. Once the relationship lasted 2 years so that one worked ok for a while. Another one, after I got to know the guy, I regretted terribly doing that as he wouldn't leave me alone. and the third one, I was crazy over this guy and he just wanted sex, so I got hurt.
In general I do not think it is wise. And also, especially someone you met off the net, who you hardly know. How do you know how much of a slut they are? Are they clean? Even those that think they are, might have somethign they don't even know about. Even using condoms can't protect you from everything. In this day and age, it's probably not wise regardless of whether any guy thinks. And the double standard is just plain bs. What is good for the guy is good for the girl. I find it disappointing when a guy I was interested in pushes me for sex too soon. I dont' get angry. I just get disappointed that he didn't care enough about our relationship to want to know me. Just my two cents.
But then there are those guys that if there were no diseases....heck I'd just rip their clothes off and go at it. Without a thought to anything long term. women have sexual desires just as much as men. I don't believe for a minute that we don't. Some of us women just pretend we don't. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/11/2007 3:15:27 PM | It's very common today..... but I tend to worry if a woman gives in the first day, that I might come home from work one day and find her in bed the plumber! I know it's sneaky, but I actually test for this and see at what point she says no, if at all.
However, I wont break up with someone just because she gave it up on the first date. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/11/2007 4:55:51 PM | | I dont think its a bad move, I dont look down on women that have had sex with me on the first date, I am just as bad as they are, but it does let both of you know if your compatible in the bed room. Sometimes I have dated women for months before haveing sex and found out we were so incompatible in the sack, I felt like I wasted my time with them. I think the 3 date rule is a good way to judge. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/11/2007 9:11:04 PM | | well I've had sex on the first day date myself on a couple of times! I never thought any less of the women I dated, I think Getting to know someone from the begining is a good way to avoid time waste and broken hearts.I think it gives you the oportunity to be more open with the other person and when second date comes;whether there's sex involved or not,you feel more at comfortble with you're date. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/12/2007 4:30:59 PM | | You know I think this could go both ways. Some people just go on a first date to get a piece off a** hence then you come with the terms man whore and slut. Others they just go on a regular first date no expecting it, planning on it, or even thinking about it and something between them clicks and it just happens. I don't know if other people follow but you have your bad forms of first date sex and I guess you could say in a sense your good forms of first date sex (I don't know exactly if that is what you'd call it). In turn it comes down to was that your whole reason you went on the date and where you planning or wanting to do that or did it just happen. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/12/2007 5:00:56 PM | Sex on the first date is A-Ok, just as long as there is communition of where you both stand before, and after the deed. Nothing wrong with being pleasured ... I would never think of a woman any differently than if she didn't give it up on the the first date. If a date went well, I would assume we'd end up in bed the first day / night.
Best of luck!
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/15/2007 7:55:55 PM | sex on first date could be bad or wrong ,,,,i think it ok if it happends to be i had couple was great ,,, for all it matters at that moment in at that place ,,, just to remeber ripped it up | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/22/2007 5:12:30 AM | sex on the first date???? whatever makes you happy...whatever you feel...do what feels good to you....does it matter what the guy thinks...is the answer that important???? here's what i think....i do whatever i feel and the guy feels if we hit if off and it leads to that on the first date then hey i am all for it...but i also know i take the chances of never seeing this guy again if i like him...and then it is what it is....but doesn't mean it won't go the other way ...u have this incredible sex with this guy and it could lead to a relationship...i've been on both sides...and i am comfortable with whatever happens..... i am in tune with who i am and the decesions i make i don't need a man to validate that .....doesn't make me trashy or a prude or anything else just makes me me.... | |
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Joined: 3/4/2007
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 4/22/2007 10:16:48 AM | | Yes, I would say that it is a bad move. I'm not sure what would compel people that just met to have sex right away. I personally see it as a lack of self-respect. | |
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