| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/26/2007 12:49:05 PM |
Men give love to get sex. Women give sex to get love.
Oh really? I choose not to believe everything I'm told. I can assure you that I will never give "sex" to attempt to buy love. And I hope to hell there are some men out there who don't feel as if they're buying sex with their love. Gawd almighty. It goes on and on. You'd think we'd all be adults eventually, and stop treating sex like something to be bought and sold. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/26/2007 4:12:25 PM | I'm really confused...
On one hand we have the men saying they wouldn't think twice about the women who do...and on the other we have the men saying they wouldn't think twice about the women who don't.
I guess that means... We're damned if we do...and damned if we don't.  | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/26/2007 4:58:04 PM | | My thoughts are this, and there is scientific evidence to back them up, if a woman gives it up after the first date then she is certifiably psycho. There is hard evidence to support this theory. For whatever reason, the type of woman who has sex on the first date has emotional issues that just won't work well with a long term relationship. Maybe a sexual relationship would work, but as far as a spiritual, meaningful connection goes, every guy who wants one should stay away from the women who have sex on the first date! But by all means, if a guy has already spent the time and effort on a date and the woman wants to give it up, then the guy should go for it! Sex is still sex. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/27/2007 5:55:59 AM | Poster 178. I respect you have different views but I seriously doubt the relevance of any data from your quoted 'scientific evidence'. It's not a scientific subject after all. It has much more to do with emotions, feelings as well as physical contact.
I beg to differ with you on the idea that a 'woman who has sex on the first date has emotional issues that just won't work well with a long term relationship'. I had a very happy 15 year relationship the last time I had sex on the first date!!!!
Why the talk of a woman wanting to 'give it up'? Wouldn't the guy be 'giving it up' too if they have sex? | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/27/2007 6:28:27 AM |
My thoughts are this, and there is scientific evidence to back them up, if a woman gives it up after the first date then she is certifiably psycho. There is hard evidence to support this theory.
Do tell! I'd love to see the scientific evidence you're referring to. I'm especially interested in the documentation of the phrase certifiably psycho. I don't believe I've read that in any medical research. Interesting.  | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/27/2007 7:10:43 AM | I don't think a woman is certifiably anything by having sex on the first date.
It's not a bad thing to do this if you don't expect much of anything to come out of it - besides a good arangement MAYBE. IMO you can't respect someone and care about them enough when having sex so soon you don't know them that well. But if that's ok with you, go for it.
I would question a man or woman who had sex knowing someone one day in the sense that they might not be so quick to fight off the next person who they were attracted to should the situation present itself. There are isolated cases of people tho who had sex immediately and it became a long term thing, they were able to balance a sex life with getting to know someone they were interested in.
You have much better shot at a relationship actually happening when you have sex with them after knowing them a while and having a better idea of who they are. If you sleep with him right away, he may not respect you or value you as a person, which you want if you want long term. If you don't sleep with him right away you find out more about what type of guy you're dealing with again before you get too close. Might not be fair, but it is what it is. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/27/2007 7:29:35 AM | | Thanks for your views poster above - I think you may have missed a bit of my last post though - the last time I had sex on a first date - turned into a very happy 15 year relationship! | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/27/2007 7:39:39 AM | ^^^ Yes, I did read that, which is why I said sometimes it does happen, although it's rare...you're not the only one, I did too and it lasted quite a while, but it was sort of by accident as I wasn't out to get involved. Doesn't mean it's recommended.
But generally it's not common because you're getting very up close and personal with someone you don't know that well and no matter how you slice it, it's a crapshoot. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/27/2007 8:04:26 AM | ^^^I don't think you should ever have sex on the first date expecting an instant long-term relationship.
Regardless of what anyone says though, if you're into him, and he's into you, it's not going to end with that 1st time. If either of you walk away from it thinking "Nope, I'm done here," then it's not going to be anything more than a one-time sex deal. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/27/2007 8:29:19 AM | Dominate It wrote:
My thoughts are this, and there is scientific evidence to back them up, if a woman gives it up after the first date then she is certifiably psycho. There is hard evidence to support this theory.
Arugula wrote:
Do tell! I'd love to see the scientific evidence you're referring to.
The hard evidence wears a condom
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/27/2007 9:03:20 AM | Clone!! I only just saw your post with the cheeky challenge invite. Did you realise that to some folks on here that offer is tantamount to kerb crawling, my reputation on this post being what it is???
I have summarised all of the previous posts and come to a conclusion!
Sex on a first date, is it a bad move? Yes and No
It's that simple!
Mind you, I haven't done so badly with my first post... Ok, have had people who probably didn't even read my profile first offer never ending streams of abuse and personal comments (un founded most of it too!). But the thread has proved a popular one and isn't that the idea? Get people talking even if they want to talk out of their derriere's!!! | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/27/2007 9:21:41 AM |
Sex on a first date, is it a bad move? Yes and No
It's that simple!
Do you want a relationship? If so hold off on it.
I have had sex too early many times, and its never worked long term. Sure it do for some, but that is an oddity.
Its about self respect, a friend said it in his profile. "We wont have sex on a first date, if we did one of us just became a conquest. Its about self respect."
I used to think that I could develop a relationship after an intense romp. But really by doing so its stacking the cards against you. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/27/2007 1:41:41 PM | Dolly - great thread. I really don't want to have anyone jump on me the way they did you...Being an internet whore and all (just kidding - I find it absurd) The double standard and all the worry about the man not entering a ltr (uhh, used to be marrying us) can be resolved. I'll go with conceding to the scientific data of dominant dude. That should put an end to the double standard b/c if a woman having sex on the 1st date is mentally incompetent (psycho) then she is unable to give consent. If she couldn't give consent, he committed sexual battery. Ip so facto - matter resolved. No more sex on the 1st date! All men go to jail, do not pass go.
Yes, this post is purely for entertainment purposes only. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/27/2007 2:57:34 PM |
I had a very happy 15 year relationship the last time I had sex on the first date!!!!
hmm... so what happened? It still ended. My point exactly. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/27/2007 3:42:05 PM | | Msg 190... This was a question for all people, not a dissection of one individuals personal business. Although, this medium gives a sense of intimacy - there really is none. So whatever happened to her partner, is truly no one's business... | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/27/2007 5:36:45 PM |
I had a very happy 15 year relationship the last time I had sex on the first date!!!!
hmm... so what happened? It still ended. My point exactly.
I'm another psycho woman who had sex on the first date and it lasted 25 years. You do know that in the real world, people die, don't you? Silly man. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/27/2007 5:45:50 PM | | Well that is a tough question really,if the guy is just playing you he will probably date you until he gets what he is after anyway.And if the guy is truely interested the fact that he slept with you on the first date probabaly won't change that. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/27/2007 9:52:46 PM | I am not sure why there is such a double standard. Men, if you are that attracted to someone on a first date and really like her, why play the game of I will sleep with you now but not respect you in the morning. Shouldn't that respect come by not following through with the sex on the first date then?
As a reply to Dominate... I think you have some major disdain toward women. Maybe you need the shrink. You seem a little bitter. | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/28/2007 2:03:54 AM | | Hey Ms Hooligan, whats all this trouble you've stirred up? I note that no one has looked at this from the man perspective, in terms of feeling used and abused. Speaking from personal experience I have had sex on the first date with just 3 women......only problem was it was all on the same date!!!PMSl...........Mucho cream crackeredo!! | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/28/2007 3:55:58 AM |
Mind you, I haven't done so badly with my first post... Ok, have had people who probably didn't even read my profile first offer never ending streams of abuse and personal comments (un founded most of it too!). But the thread has proved a popular one and isn't that the idea? Get people talking even if they want to talk out of their derriere's
here here Dolly... not many have made this many pages on their first ever post,well done girl hehe
I had a very happy 15 year relationship the last time I had sex on the first date!!!!
hmm... so what happened? It still ended. My point exactly.
What is your point Dominate?..... the op had a lasting relationship with a partner who they happened to have sex with on the first date.... 15 years is more than a lot of marriages who saved themselves for the big day last... so no your point exactly is inaccurate.... why it broke up after 15 years has nothing to do with having sex on the first date and why it broke up has nothing to do with anyone else and is not the issue of this topic
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/28/2007 4:26:00 AM | Response to Dominate It
hmm... so what happened? It still ended. My point exactly.
He died...Any more assumptions??? Yes I expect you do! | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/28/2007 9:43:23 AM | Soooooooo... apparently being "easy" isn't limited to just one sex. PHEW!!!! Glad I got that straight!!!!
To the guys who DO lose respect for a woman who might/does sleep with them on the first date is: Why do you lose respect? Are you afraid because she was easy it might mean she won't be faithful to you later? | |
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| Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move?
Posted: 3/28/2007 9:47:32 AM | historically, women I've slept with the 1st night I've never stayed with long term.
I wasn't conscious of it until much later but it usually was a physically attraction that brought us together; we had a night (or a couple) of passion and then...it fizzled out.
if a woman wants to hold my attention for longer than a month or so, she better not give it up quickly OR, provide mind shattering, house shaking, NSA sex that will have me calling her at 9am. | |
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