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Posted: 3/24/2007 9:29:06 AM | The guy you went out with is "old" school. Our society today is much different than his post war parents. Back then a structured society was living on the farm, going to church, and raising eight to ten kids, and then enjoying your grand children into your golden years. That's how my parents grew up as well.
These days, women want their own lives, and want to fend for themselves. They are expected to have some kind of carreer goals after a university education. The independent woman of today I am attracted to, was pretty much non-existant when he was growing up. We are all products of environment.
Marriage and children are coming later in life now, because people are realizing that mature parents, make for mature offspring. I am more leary of someone who has been married two or three times, than someone who hasn't been at all. I know people who got married because they thought they should, not because they wanted to. Pressure from parents at times can be overbearing at times to say the least. Back then, living together without marriage was considered sinful.
These days society doesn't put such hardcore restraints on a persons views, in my area of the world anyway. Stick to your convictions, and don't settle because you think it will never happen. You are far better off being single and happy, than being stuck in a miserable marriage. | |
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Joined: 1/18/2007
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| something wrong with us?
Posted: 3/26/2007 2:01:39 PM | Maybe when he was born (1947) people thought that way. People also used to (and still do) have diseased, antiquated views on the way society and people should be. If you went by that viewpoint, then women older than 20 are all spinsters.
ALL PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT - so circumstances are different. | |
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| something wrong with us?
Posted: 3/26/2007 7:16:35 PM | There is nothing wrong with us. Some people today are more cautious. With divorce rates as high as they are, a lot of people want to be sure it's going to last and not be a statistic. Society is changing too. Here in North Dakota this month, they finally removed a law that made cohabitation (two people not married but living together) illegal. Yes I am divorced, but if I knew than what I knew now, I wouldn't have gotten married. It goes back to the long and many time asked question "Why are you single?". My answer is because I choose to be right now. I might find that perfect person for me in a month, a year, a decade, or more, but for right now I'm satisfied being who I am how I am. You seem to be single because of a rapid life style and there's nothing wrong with that. As for not having made a connection by the age of 36... shoot your still young and have many years to go so don't bother it. Just enjoy life, make friends, and you never know what or who you'll find in the next year.
Buck | |
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Posted: 3/27/2007 5:55:11 PM | | Absolutely not there is nothing wrong with you. I was married had a big beautiful wedding like a princess but I had the wrong prince . I fell in to the old fashion way of thinking and wanted to be married and overlooked the person he was. Not the one for me it took longer to get Divorced then the marriage lasted. Take your time for the right one. Enjoy your life and live it to the fullest. Be happy with the person you are instead of the person you wish/want to be. You go girl. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2007 10:35:16 AM | I agree with everyone who has said that there is nothing wrong with being single in your 30's. Heck there is nothing wrong with being single all your life if that's what you want. I like mshell had the big beautiful wedding and was told I looked like a princess but I too married the wrong prince for the wrong reasons. I have always been the one in my family to have the old values. Well did I ever learn my lesson there, I got married for all the wrong reasons and look where I am now lol. I married because I was pregnant and didn't want my child to be born out of wedlock. BUT H E L L if I had known then what I know now I would have taken my father up on his offer to call it off and go party.   But I didn't and I don't want to look back but ahead. Now it's time for me to enjoy life and what it has to offer. So to the idiot that said there was something wrong with men not being married by the time they were 30 I say. Up yours buddy. We don't live in the ice age anymore, things have changed . So get over it. To the rest who are still single and looking I applaued you. Enjoy life and all it has to offer; you never know you may just find that special someone around the next corner. Here's hoping I find my special someone. | |
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| something wrong with us?
Posted: 3/28/2007 12:21:03 PM | Yes, there is soemthing wrong with you. How, will you ever live out your life not knowing what it is like to :
1) come home and not speak for hours over something you said at breakfast.
2) sleep on the couch instead of your bed to teach her/him a lesson.
3) Come home to someone you don't like because you didn't take the time to
Really get to know them. And now you can't find anywhere to hide.
4) Have the hair stand up on your neck when they touch you. Or the
nerve tingling laugh that you never noticed before.
NOPE- I think all relationships should have an exit clause- like a lease ........ | |
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Posted: 3/28/2007 12:31:07 PM | I total agree dee bear!!
I am 32, I had a son at the age of 17 years old (Out of Wed lock). Then went on to get married at the age of 22 (Biggest mistake of my life!). I am now single and enjoying every minute. I can do want I want, when I want and only have my son to consider.
I haven't totally given up on meeting Mr.Right, but a believe he will come along at the right point in my life, and I'm not going to lose sleep worrying when that will be!!
So for now its carry on partying!! And living life to the full!!
If its going to happen, it will when its least expected.
Zaney Zoe | |
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| something wrong with us?
Posted: 3/28/2007 6:18:18 PM | | We all have issues ... the "issue" is if we have/are dealt/dealing with them. | |
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Joined: 3/30/2006
Msg: 35 | |
| something wrong with us?
Posted: 3/28/2007 6:53:01 PM | | No I don't think so, for the most part. Each case is different you can't judge the whole bookstore just because it sells one bad book. | |
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| something wrong with us?
Posted: 3/29/2007 10:20:13 AM | Not at all, I was married in my mid 20's shouldnt have really but oh well, got a great son out of it.Its a matter of who you are,what your doing( life style) if your not married at whatever age some people just like being unattached ,some with a common law. Or just end up a bachelor /bachelorette for a long time. Depends what is going on in your life.Like your traveling thats good for you! You have more a chance traveling the world than just searching online or in your local neighborhood.Look how many divorces there are for people who get married in thier 30's as well as any age. It doesnt matter what age you get married at.If you do at all.
It is a matter of finding someone with a attraction to you and you to them and take it from there, just hope if you marry that person that 10 years down the road your not divorced.Then you have to start all over again lol,There is nothing wrong... just have fun while being single and out there. | |
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