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Posted: 3/20/2007 11:19:29 AM | So I've heard that when learning a new language and trying to 'get' another culture, the humor is the hardest and yet most crucial piece if you really want to fit in and be able to fully communicate.
I think we are all little microcosms of this phenomenon, we are all own little cultures, and finding a similar sense of humor (or lack of it, definitely not my choice for relocation) is a bridge for understanding each other.
Plus....men who are really funny (or funny to me) tend to be able to get out of their own head and observe others, they have some intuition about people, are usually fairly intelligent. Stuff I love. The best is a funny guy who will drop the jokes every once in a while and be vulnerable and not funny....yikes! I'm a goner then!
p.s. It kind of seems like some men are turned off by women who are funny and sarcastic...even a little teasing seems scary for them....dang don't they know that teasing is a form of affection?
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Posted: 3/20/2007 11:30:09 AM | | It's more fun to laugh with someone than at someone. Life is already serious enough, so people who can laugh or see humor in daily life get to cut in line. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 11:44:23 AM | So wait... If my microcosm bumped into your microcosm.... and my culture bumped into your culture.... I wonder what would happen.
Hmm, well regardless, we'd probably need some kind of petri dish and a temperature controlled environment.
the giggleparts - So, what's prison like? Well, there's a lot of singing and dancing... crafts... the share circle, where we can air our grievances and share meaningful life anecdotes... and then of course, there's the dry prison rape... yeah... I could really do without that part... | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 12:29:23 PM | Paintbynumber,
Not me! I love a sarcastic witty woman. The character that Candice Bergen played in Murphy Brown and to a lesser extent the one she plays on Boston Legal? Oh yeah baby! | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 12:41:19 PM | Gonzo...
Of course not, but they may be carried by a african swallow perhaps...
But can you tell me.... How can you tell if someone is truely a witch? Remember, what floats?  | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 1:05:11 PM | I'm with you brother, that SEEMS to be important and although I travel most of the year, I'm a professional comedian and I'm still single. I guess FUNNY and in ONE SPOT is more important, until then I'm "married" to a woman named "Comedy". She's HOT but kind of a  Well you fill in the blanks
Good luck and stay funny!
Rodney | |
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UrbanX
| | Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 58 | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 1:26:12 PM | There are often gender differences in what men and women mean when they say exactly the same words. This is one of those times.
"While women want to settle down with a guy who can crack a good joke, men, to a large degree, want a partner who laughs at their antics."
"The basic difference is that males tend to use humor to compete with other men, while women tend to use humor to bond with others. Studies show that men more often use humor to jockey for position with other males when they are in the company of women."
http://psychologytoday.com/rss/pto-20050808-000003.html
So, OP, the women mean exactly what they say, but apparently don't consider you a big generator of humour. Sounds like its time to work on your routine.
Cheers,
Mike (I sentence you to watching Comedy Central to identify when women in the audience laugh) | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 3:19:11 PM | | While sense of humor may be important, doesn't physical attraction need to come first or they won't stop by long enough to find out if you have a sense of humor? | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 3:33:09 PM | A sense of humour is vital to me. I know when to laugh and when to be serious, as long as others know that it's all good. Who wants to be around a person who has a face like a cat's bum? | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 4:25:58 PM | I like 'em funny but not funny if you get my drift
But he has to have MY brand of humour and shucks not many of those around! | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 4:32:03 PM | To original poster:
Having a shared sense of humor is humongously important for me. If we can't laugh,it can't last.... | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 4:33:24 PM | | Having my brand of humor...pfft. Go to insanity and take a few steps backwards....yeah that's about right! Or pass GO and collect $200....either way. | |
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K-lo
| | Joined: 7/31/2006
Msg: 64 | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 4:55:45 PM |
"While women want to settle down with a guy who can crack a good joke . . ." Psychology Today sucks ass. Either that, or I'm . . . once again . . checking to see if I have woman parts. . . . yup, I do. "Cracking jokes" is the LAST form of so-called humor that I want to be exposed to. And I swear it's not just because I'm blonde AND a lawyer - - but "jokes" . . . and deliberately "cracking" them . . . I almost feel guilty because I can't even pretend to THINK they're funny. . . . which is totally exposed by my vacant stare as I look through the skull of the joketeller. Though, I can't NOT laugh at a good fall . . . unless I know them AND they're a fragile senior citizen (then I get sad and almost cry). | |
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UrbanX
| | Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 65 | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 5:03:26 PM |
"Cracking jokes" is the LAST form of so-called humor that I want to be exposed to.
You miss the point of the reference. It isn't the particular form of humour or taste in humour.
When women say they want a man with a sense of humour, they mean they want a man that will make them laugh.
When men say they want a women with a sense of humour, they mean they want a woman that laughs when they try to be funny.
These both require compatible senses of humour.
Cheers,
Mike (do lesbians take turns being funny?) | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 5:06:14 PM | ^^nope no need
Humour = the guy tells a funny and I giggle...natural humour just happens and I loves me a guy who oozes funny!!! | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 5:30:54 PM | Everyone thinks they have a sense of humour...the trick is....do they make YOU laugh?
I mean we all hate when we have to explain a joke. So yeah we want someone who makes us laugh.......who wants to live without laughs? Its very sexy. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 5:55:12 PM | Laughter is the best medicine !! Smile 
Enjoy a favorite funny of mine..."A chicken and an egg are lying in bed. The chicken is leaning against the headboard smoking a cigarette, with a satisfied smile on its face.
The egg, looking a bit pissed off, grabs the sheet, rolls over, and says, "Well, I guess we finally answered THAT question." 
See...it really IS the best medicine  | |
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Tarika
| | Joined: 8/30/2006
Msg: 69 | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 5:57:40 PM | | A good sense of humor is very important to me....I like to have fun and goof around. If a man is really serious all the time, I get bored fast. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 6:04:05 PM | | Personally, canned humor is like canned veggies...edible but not nearly as tasty as fresh. I like someone who can deliver fresh humor, the spontaneous on the moment type. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 6:38:21 PM | | I think a 'natural sence of humour is great,.but more importantly is an easy going sunny disposition,.you don't have too be cracking jokes all the time but in my book if your eyes are smilieing it shows your a warm person,. I think sense of humour can be taken many ways,. I actualy find it irritateing if someones a costant pratical joker or trying way too hard,. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 7:54:19 AM | Practical jokes do not count as having a sense of humor. A good sense of humor allows people to see the humor in everyday life. A good example was when I was visiting in Seattle. I went outside the place we had gone to eat to get some pictures of the view. I didn't want to go further out on the deck area as there were a bunch of seagulls. So I stayed under the overhang. One of the little darlings flew under it and I had bird caca on my head. Yes I could have pitched a walleyed hissy fit but instead I laughed and everyone joked about my 'ability to attract sh*t' the rest of the night because I laughed at myself.
My family goes pun crazy at times. If the person isn't quick witted they get left behind. It doesn't matter if someone has a 'dry' sense of humor just as long as they're able to smile and laugh at themselves and life in general. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 8:09:04 AM |
The ex could never tell when i was kidding... eventually I stopped being me. I like to joke around ,and she made me feel bad for it.
I have had this happen to me once. Almost anyone can tell if I am joking, if I keep a straight face or not(if they know me somewhat). My ex never seemed to catch too well. Then again...she was high most of the time so I don't think I should have expected too much.
Telling jokes is not me....I often get them wrong and well, I am sure you know how that goes. I don't mind if the humor is based off of my experiences either....and that's regardless if it's a bad memory or not....I can try to make it funny somehow.
As a matter of fact....I think my first post in the forums was a good example..... | |
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Posted: 3/22/2007 9:13:15 AM | | I tend to make people crack up but can't seem to find any (non-professional) women who can make me laugh. Where are the funny women?! All the ones around here think the height of humor is the photos of kittens falling asleep in their food bowls that they e-mail around the globe. Come on, ladies - make me laugh and you'll see how easy it is to get into my pants! | |
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Posted: 3/22/2007 11:55:50 AM | | I consider myself to have a great sense of humor. I love to laugh and kid around and make others laugh. I've been outgoing all my life. Therefore it is of upmost importance to me that the person I'm with be the same. No sense of humor means BORING to me. If you can't laugh together they'll be no playing together. | |
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