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Posted: 3/19/2007 1:35:55 AM | Whoa. That was just plain rude and arrogant
Next time you see this guy say...""wow really?. And I have to say you would be the same, really hot if you just got some facial resurfacing....and you might want to think about a nose job...Im sure you would be hot too.....have nice night now""" | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 1:52:03 AM | God,its guys like that make women think about trying to be a perfect 10 even tho women shouldn't.If I was you,I would of grabed a tire(belly fat) and said "you would too buddy" | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 2:38:02 AM | {quote}Whoa. That was just plain rude and arrogant
Next time you see this guy say...""wow really?. And I have to say you would be the same, really hot if you just got some facial resurfacing....and you might want to think about a nose job...Im sure you would be hot too.....have nice night now"""{/quote}
You said it !
Tossing it back in his face is what i would definitly have done.
I'd a said :and you'd be a great guy if your sexual performace was more like that of a real man, than that of a boy scout in training"
By the way........I'm who your ex left you for
She's finaly had an orgasm! I'd offer to tell you a few "secrets" but thatwould mean sharing air with a grown man who is still in cubs, and on top of it can't bang.
I'd rather chew gum and spit | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 5:21:41 AM |
Well if someone said that to me I would not hesitate to throw the closest drink in his face and walk away.
That will make him keep quiet and never forget the power of a WOMAN
^^THIS is the the most ridiculous thing I believe I've ever read here on POF---and it's by far the dumbest thing in this post so far!! How in the hell would this show "the power of a WOMAN"? LOL Sounds like a 5th graders reaction! Sad thing is some guys would have reciprocated in kind---or even worse.
OP this is naturally a rude, stupid childish bit of behavior and while it would be nice blaming it on booze you're probably not the first woman this jerk has pulled this same thing on. I've seen it a few times----the boy inside the man tends to think this is funny stuff.
Nothing can really take away the sting of such a comment but keep in mind he's like this all the time and no one other than his equally idiotic friend think he's really funny. He has the burden of being himself which will be---if not already---punishment enough for him!! | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 5:37:41 AM | | The subject of your post is "What makes him think". First of all, he's already proven he can't. For some guys it seems common sense just isn't that common anymore. On a positive note, he has shown a few of us guys what we don't want to be like. Besides, with the statement he made, he was talking with the wrong head anyway in my humble opinion. His loss will be some lucky guys gain. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 3:46:47 PM | Hi iwantaboyfriend,
This guy was really full of himself, wasn't he?!! I probably would have replied to his crass remark with something like this: "What's the matter? Was your toilet plugged so you had to fill your mouth with crap? Get over yourself and go back to your corner!!!"
His remark sounds a lot like the cruel things guys used to say to me when I was in high school, simply because I was shy and unable to defend myself. He was probably trying to look cool at your expense. I can guarantee that if anyone heard and was laughing, they were laughing at him, not with him.
Don't let his comment have any effect on your self-esteem. Learn to like yourself, and note that in saying that I am not meaning to imply that you don't. Your self confidence will then radiate from you and no one will even consider saying such an awful thing to you or about you. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 4:43:28 PM | Nothing can really take away the sting of such a comment but keep in mind he's like this all the time and no one other than his equally idiotic friend think he's really funny
That's a good point. Dont think he just singled you out. IF he is this stupid, or ignorant on acceptable social behaviour then he most likely does it all the time. I've seen these people for some mentally retarded reason think they are entitle d to tell people what they need to do to look " good" and its generally a mindset that will persist until someone , somewhere throws it back at them and they experience what it is like to be on the receiving end. He will do it to the wrong person at the wrong time and console yourself it just might be someone with the verbal come-back skills of Joan Rivers or Dr House. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 4:49:18 PM | Granted, hes right. I could stand to loose some weight.
So what's the problem? He was honest. Maybe a bit brash about it, but honest. I bet without reading your profile, it was something you ask for in a guy.
Should he have lied to you, took you home and thrashed you then never called? The truth is not something that tastes sweet...most of the time. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 4:50:14 PM | | Well sweetheart, he had no right to say ANYTHING about your weight. You are the only one who should care what you weigh... and I can think of a few choice words that I would have for him... and 2 or 3 girlfriends that would be dealing with him after I walked away. People can be terrible, I learned that at a young age. I hope you told him off. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 6:49:32 PM | Chilly62 It would have been different if I asked him what he thought of my weight. I didn't. I don't ever ask a question that im not prepared to hear the answer to. If I did ask him then I should not have been offended by his comment.
So if I go by your philosphy, if a girl thinks you suck in bed and just kindof blurts it out in conversation, its ok with you? Because she is just speaking the truth. Even if you didnt ask her? What it all boils down to is having class and tact. He didnt have it. We need to really start practicing the old saying "treat others as you would like to be treated". He could think all day long that I was a few extra pounds over weight. Expressing it without considering how it would make me feel is very wrong. Granted his thoughts on how I look are not really important.
Not exactly sure what thrashing means. But he certainly wouldnt have the pleasure of doing that to me 20 pounds over weight or not. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 7:08:22 PM | I feel for you "iwantaboyfriend". I had lost 129 lbs and was feeling really good about myself when some woman told me.."well, looks like you can lose another 15/20 lbs and you'd look really good". I told her I felt sorry for her and she asked why I felt sorry for her. I answered, "I feel sorry for you because tomorrow, I'll lose that few extra pounds, but you'll still be ugly!"
(she wasn't ugly or even bad looking, but the look on her face was priceless. I don't get mad ..I get even | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 7:11:21 PM | I just read you last post "iwantaboyfiend" I am killing myself laughing...
I only "wish" I could get a girl into bed ...she doesn't even have to suck!!!
Sorry, not trying to make small of your predicament ... I just couldn't resist injecting a touch of levity. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 1:00:27 AM |
So what's the problem? He was honest.
The problem is she didnt ask for this "honest" opinion. She didnt know him. he was a friend of a friend or in a group. It was totally univited You gonna be that kind of "stranger in your face honest" with every lady you meet? and say its ok cause you were honest. Its not honest if she still is beautiful with a few punds more - it is still ONLY his opinion and one she didnt ask for.
It would have been a big difference she asked him to tell her honestly what he thought of her looks . However she didnt. No one has the right to become personal groomer to random strangers or associates when out. Go into a supermarket and say "hey, that dress looks crap on you, I think you should wear a size bigger" "Your a___ looks big in those jeans, you'd look better if you lost some weight"...I dont think so | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 4:20:14 AM | People get the concept of "rights" twisted.
He has the RIGHT to say what ever he wants. She has the RIGHT to respond accordingly up to and not including the right to bean him. That is NOT a right.
Basically, it's like this... it's not what he says, it's how you react to it.
'Nuf said...I have the right to not respond to whiners. Go lose some weight and that's one less thing for someone to comment on...
personal responsibility. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 4:25:20 AM |
So what's the problem? He was honest. Maybe a bit brash about it, but honest. I bet without reading your profile, it was something you ask for in a guy.
Should he have lied to you, took you home and thrashed you then never called? The truth is not something that tastes sweet...most of the time.
Adding to another explanation why such a thought isn't welcome I'd say this is a very, VERY misguided look at "the truth"! Someone who thinks this way is probably the very type of person who made this original boorish comment.
Honesty is't about approaching someone and assaulting them with your unsolicited opinion----in it's most simple form it's answering a question directly. The arrogance exhibited by this "if it's true (in my opinion) and it hurts then that's too bad......". I'd be willing to be if someone approaches this sort of person and made a comment to the effect his "manhood" could use a bit more length and girth BUT it was only "the truth" he'd be quite put out about it all. Since it's "the truth" according to anothers opinion shouldn't that be equally acceptable?
I think the point that was missed is HOW this happened and that it was an unsolicted comment. It was immature, meant only to be hurtful and because of that is inexcusable for a million reasons. I'm surprised anyone couldn't see this from the very first post.
Again OP I hope you can just dismiss this child and forget it----as I said before his punishment is being himsself!! | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 4:40:34 AM | | He's the same guy with a huge potbelly and bad haircut and hasn't has his teeth cleaned in his lifetime! Probably thinks he's only worthy of a Cyndi Crawford... At least he gave up his sorry personality right away!!! You were lucky you got away! And he wonders why he doesn't have a girlfriend! And to quote my Momma... all dogs like a little meat on their bones so you're perfect just the way you are, don't buy into the hype that men are only looking for skinny girls! If that were the case 90% of the women I see today would be alone.. and far from it I see many girls who are well rounded in great loving relationships. Maybe I'll put on a few pounds if that would help find my guy!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 6:53:33 AM | I might have said it just to see what kind of response I got from you , however I would not have kept repeating it! Saying it the first time would onnly have been to get a rise out of you; however I doubt I would have said it someone that it actually applied to...it's only funny if it doesn't hurt their feelings and if it's obvious that it is not true! | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 3:02:12 PM | People get the concept of "rights" twisted.
Yes talk about twisted. Agree. How come he gets the right to say whatever he wants but she doesnt ?????? in your statement
She has the RIGHT to respond accordingly up to and NOT including the right to bean him. That is NOT a right . Didnt he bean her as well? Please do explain the difference
In public? Right to say whatever he wants? You need to acknowledge something that may be a civil right can differ to your responsibility to behaving in an "appropriate manner". Obscene swearing in public, saying racist remarks..making threatening comments can get you a law suit.. Say whatever you want about bombs in an airport and see how far you get. Look at Mel Gibson's anti sementic rants. Though not a legal issue at that point in time [ class action was being considered by the groups he 'offended'] did he get away with it without some sort of social persecution?
Conducting yourself in public in an appropriate manner is also personal responsibility
Saying something you should have half the brain cell to know is inflammatory is also personal responsbility
In this case the guy was just insulting, so yeh he can do that if wants but dont be surprised that people are going to label him obnoxious arrogant and that one day he just may get his head smacked in one day when you do it to the person who ah.....REACTS to it at a touch more aggressively than some
If you wanna run that risk go for it. But it is a complete LACK of responsibility to make such a crack at somoene in the first place | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 6:10:35 PM | Wow, that says so much about his character. I know that had to hurt but brush it off if you can. You should only care about how you see yourself. Different guys are attracted to different things in a woman and no matter size or shape self confidence is what I think alot of guys go for . I really don't understand why men or woman have to be hurtful like that. His words were uncalled for and that may have been his opinion but it was just that. His opinion and one that should have stayed in his thoughts. There is likely a hundred other guys out there that think you are absolutely gorgeous and perfect the way you are and its those guys are the ones you should be talking to. Everyone one has felt the sting of someones elses insecurity. Perhaps it made him feel more superior by singling you out. Twisted..but some people do it. In the end, I hope your friend that was talking to these guys walked away with you.  | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 6:47:43 PM | | If that happens again, reply, "And if you learned to think with your whole brain, your IQ still wouldn't rise about 85." | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 7:00:46 PM | | Guys speak their mind but in his mind he is trying to help you if he was not nasty about it. You can take it as a positive thing or a negative thing. Your body is suppose to be a temple. Its up to yu. If you lost 20 pounds you can tell him to take a hike or thank him its up to you. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2007 8:03:44 PM | With all due respect spedshift......if and when I decide to lose 20 pounds it won't be because of what he said to me and I certainly would not be thanking him for that. It will be because I made that choice. Besides if he doesnt like the way I look then he shouldnt look at me. Furthermore, I am not lacking in men being attracted to me or wanting to date me department. Amazingly enough there are plenty of men who would rather have a girl with alittle meat on her bones.
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Posted: 3/20/2007 8:11:45 PM | | "People like that don't think" They flap open their big mouths without caring about what they say. And he's sounds so much like someone I wouldn't loose a wink of sleep over. I wonder was he a good looking guy. Becaue what all the really good looking people don't seem to get is usually when they open their mouths, they become so freaking unattractive. And any halfway and decent person would be turned off... | |
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